Permission to propose

[girl_dee]

in the end we all get to decide what works for us. For me, i don't tend to adopt the traditional ways. Like i haven't and would never take another's name in marriage. It' s lovely that some do but i am not giving up or changing my name for the sake of tradition. i feel like more of a well rounded individual with my own set of beliefs, spirituality and traditions, rather than adopting my partners. Again that's my own stance.

[Corkey]

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

[princessbelle]

Originally Posted by Corkey

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

Absolutely!!!!! Bully and i have our own traditions as well. I find those very fascinating and also what the meanings of those are "way back when". I was just thinking it may be a good thread.

I didn't mean to imply we don't have our own traditions. As couples or singles.

Just thought it was interesting.

[Bard]

Originally Posted by Corkey

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

I am with you on this and really it is what Desd and I did in our wedding it was held in a place that was special to me kind of like my place of peace. The Minister that gave us a blessing he is a dear friend that I have worked with for a long time and he is a man I go to when I am troubled part of his blessing was that we were already married that this was our sharing our comitment with our family and friends blending our family. My daughter was a very important part of the whole ceremony as the pagan minister said to us this in not a union of two but of three my Goose may be young but no less important. My Father was in the front row proud as hell when we were renting the tuxes desd and I had said to the fathers that they could have a vest color that matched our mothers, now I told my dad that Ihad changed his color to match my mom his responce to me was that I was to cahnge it back he was my father and he wanted to be just like me. Our parents were a important part of the wedding not because we expected them to help us oot with expences but becasue they wanted to help to make this day special for us. . There was a chance that our wedding would be protested as it was the first legal same sex wedding at Syracuse University and I can tell you my best man would have defended us to the hilt as would have the rest of my officers. I guess what I am trying to say is that I love and respect my fatehr - in - law I asked him for the privlage to marry into his family for his blessing I asked MY Father also for his blessing and because it was important to me that he be a part of one of his childrens wedding day. Our wedding day was a wonderful beautiful day filled with love and support it was amazing I know Desd and I are very blessed

[Parker]

Originally Posted by BullDog

Yes exactly! I wore a tux last year to the Reunion and will wear one this year. If I get married I will be wearing one as well. I will be a butch groom, not representing the man.

I do not subscribe to butch=male; femme=female. Some do, but I do not.

This. I love this - butch groom. I am tucking that away for the future.

Also, I dont subscribe to butch=male; femme=female either.

[Bard]

My Dad siad it all to us in his speech " I came here today with one wonderful daughter and now I have two" then he welcomed Desd to our family

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Bard

My Dad siad it all to us in his speech " I came here today with one wonderful daughter and now I have two" then he welcomed Desd to our family

Wow. Having just endured two years of a mother-in-law who hated me with a white-hot hate that poisoned every family gathering for me and finally resulted in me withdrawing from my partner's family completely—which means, of course, she won—I can only say, your post made me get a little weepy.

[BullDog]

I think it is awesome that Steph's future father-in-law welcomed her into the family and that Bard & Desd has support from the fathers as well.

[girl_dee]

When i tended bar i was told never to let a woman's shoe touch the bar, that it was bad luck.

i didn't get it.

[girl_dee]

Tying The Knot

The expression "tie the knot" comes from Roman times when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots which the groom had the fun of untying.

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Tying The Knot

The expression "tie the knot" comes from Roman times when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots which the groom had the fun of untying.

Fun! I could that being made contemporary by creative couples, for sure.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Tying The Knot

The expression "tie the knot" comes from Roman times when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots which the groom had the fun of untying.

Or,

Tying the Knot - Calling marriage "tying the knot" stems from ancient times. The Danish used to tie two pieces of cord or ribbon together in the marriage ceremony to signify the couple’s becoming one. Later the custom spread to Holland and England.

http://limarriages.com/customs.html

One could spend hours (and I have cuz it is tickling my curiosity) trying to trace all the parts of traditions from all over the world. God only knows what the truth is tho. LOL.