Butches who don't bind

princessbelle · 09-11-2012, 01:35 PM

I don't feel fooled or duped or anything of the kind.

I tried to hold out for the positive as many others did. Trying to help young-ens in the community isn't a bad thing even when there are red flags, and trying to see the best in people is definitely not a bad trait. I have no regrets.

However, being a sucker isn't a good thing either, especially if it it harms you in some way.

I did not give money, extra energy, love, attention to the point it hurt my family, away.

All i gave was the benefit of the doubt. We live, we learn, we make choices. Such is life in a nutshell.

And i do thank goodness for the admin and mods of this site for watching out for us and watching out for the site. It has to be done.

It takes a lot of different views, perspectives, visions, minds and personalities to make a village and even more to make a planet.

...and....

we move on.

Medusa · 09-11-2012, 01:43 PM

I think it is really healthy to let this be a reminder of several things:

1. There are going to be newbies here who do have a lot of questions and we don't always need to treat them with suspicion. Sometimes they just really want to know what they are asking.

2. Other times, we are going to have really unhealthy individuals in our midst who get off on toying with people and we should be aware of this possibility when devoting time to responding to them.

3. We'll do the best we can at the upper level safety-wise but your personal safety level is up to you. Some folks want to know who they're talking to when posting and some folks don't care as long as they are heard. Either scenario is ok! But please consider that you aren't any more "unsafe" posting on this community than you are on Facebook or a random AOL wall. (meaning, there are strange fuckers everywhere!)

4. It is not healthy to hyper focus on paranoid scenarios of someone here to slurp up our knowledge but it is *very* healthy to decide as an adult what you are comfortable sharing.

In short, your ability to create your own experience is very empowering if you let it be so! Create a positive experience by focusing on the idea that you might be saying something that will help someone who is really sincere out there rather than the possible troll who asked. Or don't respond. It's your choice where you put your energy!

Again, we do appreciate the folks who stepped up to offer their thoughts on this scenario!

Appreciate you all, good people!

09-11-2012, 01:35 PM	#1
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I don't feel fooled or duped or anything of the kind. I tried to hold out for the positive as many others did. Trying to help young-ens in the community isn't a bad thing even when there are red flags, and trying to see the best in people is definitely not a bad trait. I have no regrets. However, being a sucker isn't a good thing either, especially if it it harms you in some way. I did not give money, extra energy, love, attention to the point it hurt my family, away. All i gave was the benefit of the doubt. We live, we learn, we make choices. Such is life in a nutshell. And i do thank goodness for the admin and mods of this site for watching out for us and watching out for the site. It has to be done. It takes a lot of different views, perspectives, visions, minds and personalities to make a village and even more to make a planet. ...and.... we move on. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

09-11-2012, 01:43 PM	#2
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,692 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 10000026	I think it is really healthy to let this be a reminder of several things: 1. There are going to be newbies here who do have a lot of questions and we don't always need to treat them with suspicion. Sometimes they just really want to know what they are asking. 2. Other times, we are going to have really unhealthy individuals in our midst who get off on toying with people and we should be aware of this possibility when devoting time to responding to them. 3. We'll do the best we can at the upper level safety-wise but your personal safety level is up to you. Some folks want to know who they're talking to when posting and some folks don't care as long as they are heard. Either scenario is ok! But please consider that you aren't any more "unsafe" posting on this community than you are on Facebook or a random AOL wall. (meaning, there are strange fuckers everywhere!) 4. It is not healthy to hyper focus on paranoid scenarios of someone here to slurp up our knowledge but it is very healthy to decide as an adult what you are comfortable sharing. In short, your ability to create your own experience is very empowering if you let it be so! Create a positive experience by focusing on the idea that you might be saying something that will help someone who is really sincere out there rather than the possible troll who asked. Or don't respond. It's your choice where you put your energy! Again, we do appreciate the folks who stepped up to offer their thoughts on this scenario! Appreciate you all, good people! __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch