Fierce Femmes, Allies and Gender Expectations...

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Ha, no Lifetime television for Women here either!

When I first joined a B/F site someone asked me why I did not go with a softer name like Snugglybunnyfemme...well first off, I am not a snuggler...I am llergic to rabbits (adorable as they are)...and well, I just don't feel like anyone's baby anything.

My favorite thing is and always will be the horror and offense people take to

the ever so deviant

FEMME COCK





heh

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

My favorite thing is and always will be the horror and offense people take to

the ever so deviant

FEMME COCK





heh

Ohhhhh the humanityyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!



Though some seem to like it. Muahahahaha.

[SuperFemme]

BOINK. Did somebody say Femme Cock?

I love it (unless it has glitterj).

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

BOINK. Did somebody say Femme Cock?

I love it (unless it has glitterj).

But the opalescence is fine, right???

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

But the opalescence is fine, right???

Opal IS my birthstone.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Opal IS my birthstone.

Perfect!

[Selenay]

When I strap on my boots
And I slip on my suit
You see the vixen in me
Becomes an angel for you.

Some days I'm a super bitch
Up to my old tricks
But it won't last forever.
Next day I'm your super girl
Out to save the world
And it keeps getting better.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Selenay

When I strap on my boots
And I slip on my suit
You see the vixen in me
Becomes an angel for you.

Some days I'm a super bitch
Up to my old tricks
But it won't last forever.
Next day I'm your super girl
Out to save the world
And it keeps getting better.

I love it!

[Apocalipstic]

I do not always behave or even sit like a lady....

Do you?

Baby and wedding showers? Can't do it.

and you better remind me when your birthday is if you expect me to remember.

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I do not always behave or even sit like a lady....

Do you?

Baby and wedding showers? Can't do it.

and you better remind me when your birthday is if you expect me to remember.

I just had to put on a baby shower for my MORMON daughter.

It.
Almost.
Killed.
Me.

[The_Lady_Snow]

I hate baby showers, bridal showers, any kind of having to decorate kind of event...

I want nothing to do with it, I will show, bring a gift but I just don't have that gene in me. I get bored.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I hate baby showers, bridal showers, any kind of having to decorate kind of event...

I want nothing to do with it, I will show, bring a gift but I just don't have that gene in me. I get bored.

I do like to decorate if I can go gothic.
I do work for an event company....grin.

But baby and wedding showers? I send a nice gift and call it a day.

[Apocalipstic]

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

[Spirit Dancer]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

Claps hands thank you for starting this thread.

On more than one occasion I've been told why are you an Alpha Femme when you have a Syr. My reply is I was born Alpha I smacked the doc when I came out, grab mom's breast and took control. My gift to Syr is just that a gift and when there comes a time that we are not one, My gift will remain locked to Hym. My energy has always been this way, I tried to change and not going to happen. I'm aggressive and fierce a protector by nature. I can and have worked on cars, fix my own plumbing issues, and I have power tools. Femme Daddy yep that too.

[LaneyDoll]

I tell everyone I am an enigma. So, if any of these sound stereotypical or offensive, I apologize-this is simply what I have encountered in my time...

I CAN take 3 hours to get ready BUT that is start to finish (shower, shave, shampoo etc etc etc).

However, if you tell me that I have 30 mins to get ready, I can-assuming I am already clean or can go with damp hair.

I am a disaster in the kitchen but can bake fairly well.

I know nothing about tools but can repair my costume jewelery when need be. AND, can make my own floggers (which would be in high demand if I would actually sell them.)

I cannot do anything to maintain my car and prefer to pay someone else to change the oil, detail it etc. I love to drive though and I love to drive fast!

I love to get dirty & sweaty when I work outside.

I do not bemoan a broken nail or a bad hair day.

I love to be waited on but do not expect it.

I will pay the check if you let me. I will always offer to, unless I tell you I am broke and cannot afford to go out and you offer to treat.

I do not maintain a manicure. I keep my nails short and neat but polish free. My toes ALWAYS have a pedicure-even in winter.

Do not dare to suggest I cannot do something I want to do. Just let me succeed or fail on my own.

Please do not ask me to be in a wedding-especially if you want me to be a server. If we are related, I will gladly help though. Do not ask me to host a shower. I will maybe attend, I WILL send a gift but I am not comfy chatting about most things discussed at those events.

Yes, I am approachable but am rarely approached. But, few people actually make the first move. I have had people tell me I am intimidating but I am really not.

[greeneyedgrrl]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I, for example, have way more in common with a 16 year old guy, than I do Betty Crocker!

I am not even sure what a feeling is.

I am very un-romantic.

I fall alsleep after sex.

I strap on.

I like to "run the show", as it were.

I like to be called Daddy

etc....

YES YES YES!

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

EXACTLY!! ..and tell me i CAN'T do something i want to do..and i'll show u i CAN! what now??

[Soft*Silver]

wow. I am nowhere near your levels of fierceness but I would strap on for Sarah Pallin...yes I would..mmmmm dandy...

also, but more realistic..the one area I have problems with in the fufu femme arena is that I cant tolerate stuffed toys. Yet, people tend to give them to me. I tell them two times. The third time I take off its head and sew its mouth shut and sew its head on backwards and display it without saying a word. I usually dont get stuffies again

yet I also have to admit the one stuffed animal I will accept is a web kinz...and thats because who gives them to me are the children of my best buddy Jean..her nieces and nephews. They save their money to bring me Webkinz when i am hospitalized. How can I say no?

I admire femmes who can strap on. I love femmes who are God Almighty Herself in the mix. I am not attracted to them but I do admire them. I love our diversity ...

and my ex BF, Alex, who is FtM, was living as a femme lesbian before he transitioned. So yes femmes can transition too...

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by softness

wow. I am nowhere near your levels of fierceness but I would strap on for Sarah Pallin...yes I would..mmmmm dandy...

also, but more realistic..the one area I have problems with in the fufu femme arena is that I cant tolerate stuffed toys. Yet, people tend to give them to me. I tell them two times. The third time I take off its head and sew its mouth shut and sew its head on backwards and display it without saying a word. I usually dont get stuffies again

yet I also have to admit the one stuffed animal I will accept is a web kinz...and thats because who gives them to me are the children of my best buddy Jean..her nieces and nephews. They save their money to bring me Webkinz when i am hospitalized. How can I say no?

I admire femmes who can strap on. I love femmes who are God Almighty Herself in the mix. I am not attracted to them but I do admire them. I love our diversity ...

and my ex BF, Alex, who is FtM, was living as a femme lesbian before he transitioned. So yes femmes can transition too...

For Sarah Palin, I vote Permanent Ball Gag!

and yeah, no stuffed animals. I would love to see photos of what you have done to yours though, It sounds wonderfully creepy! Yeayy!

I love it that Femme's are transitioning. I thought about it, but I fear I would look like Truman Capote.

[NJFemmie]

Originally Posted by softness

also, but more realistic..the one area I have problems with in the fufu femme arena is that I cant tolerate stuffed toys. Yet, people tend to give them to me. I tell them two times. The third time I take off its head and sew its mouth shut and sew its head on backwards and display it without saying a word. I usually dont get stuffies again

I want pictures of these.
Seriously.

[PumaJ]

I totally claim/ID as High Femme. I love glam, bling, makeup, nail polish, jewelry & other "girlie" types of things. Not fond of frills, ruffles & lace much at all though. I can cook & sew, though I hate doing either one. I can & do use power tools, do most of my own landscaping, minor electrical & plumbing work. I've regrouted the tile in my kitchen & bathroom, stripped & re-stained my decks at least three times. I've held management positions for at least 2/3 of my professional life, generally in positions that required that I supervise others.

Intellectually, I'm quite the nerd.

I am a very Queer feminist Femme who is only romantically/ sexually attracted to very masculine of center women who bend gender & like to strap it on.

I am very fierce in my protection of those I love & was given the nickname of
Pumawoman by a Native American Butch/Two Spirit with whom I was lovers
for a few years, because of my fierceness.

To look at me, one might not get it because I am so "girl" in my appearance. But girl doesn't mean weak, or passive, or incompetent. Girl means strong and I am one very tough woman who is also very nurturing, very mothering at times.

I define myself as a Femme, no one else defines that for me. I embrace the fiercely powerful energy of the Feminine. IMO, A person who thinks that that energy means being soft & passive is either sadly misinformed or brainwashed by the patriarchal hierarchy.

It is my long held philosophy that we each get to define what Femme is for ourselves.