Are butches really a dying breed?

GeorgiaMa'am · 12-30-2013, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

No they aren't. There is plenty of them around. However, if you are preferable to a specific kind of butch and thus unable to spot any other kind, you may have that idea.
There are far far more than the kind that wear jeans and a tool belt. There are more than just OF or OS US style uniforms of it.
But that would require accepting that those who look like tomboys or "faggits" (the dapper/urban dressed) ones are butches. And no, black eyeliner doesn't make one a soft butch. It might make them goth or rock and roll or glam.

Alternatively I would also suggest there are only seven and the rest is done with mirrors.

Honeybarbara, a friend of mine has been complaining for 10 years about a lack of butches in Vancouver, BC. I have wondered if she means butches of a certain age group, though. She's pretty savvy about spotting butches with varying styles, in other cities. I'm curious, do you notice that the butches, of all styles, are in a particular age group in your area? Or is that a misperception on my part?

imperfect_cupcake · 12-30-2013, 02:40 PM

I see oodles of butches all over the place and there is a huge community of queer here. I see them every day. They dress anywhere from tomboy to hippy to queer fashionista to outdoorsy looking les.

She may not be noticing many because like you may look like a soccar mom, they look like they are about to go for a hike and look tomboy androgenous lezzo in their gear. Some of the butches wear make up (and are stone and tops).

I live in the east end of vancouver, but that said there are tons of sporty butches in the burbs. she is probably mistaking them for chapstick/sporty dykes. just like you might get misjudged as a soccar mom.

tell her to get her ass to queer as funk, queer box fit, the butch choir, or one of the leather events. Plus there is the queer film festival, the the queer arts events (always brings them out in droves), season fling queer dances at the wise hall, Man Up (stuffed full of butches)... and... well to list everything I'd have to go into my fb events. If she needs to see them dressed up and in context

if she is talking about over a certain age (45 or so) yeah, they are thin on the ground. cause like everyone else, they usually have a partner/wife. Or they come from a time when it was really bad to have the ID. they still fuck the same and move the same and treat me the same, they just don't ID because they think it's wrong. But a rose by any other name is still one

GeorgiaMa'am · 12-31-2013, 11:33 PM

@honeybarara - Ah, that must be it, we're in the "over 45 or so" group, just barely. She has mentioned something about everyone already being paired up. I'll give her your list though. Thanks!

imperfect_cupcake · 12-31-2013, 11:38 PM

I'm 44 and I date older and younger. I go because the age range at these things is wide. as soon as one is single they go on POF or head out to the events. but that's like most of my friends, even who are straight. eveyone they like is paired up. its not a shortage of butches, its a shortage of single people when you get past a certain age range... at least thats what I find.

ButchKnight · 01-01-2014, 01:51 AM

I certainly hope not though I do agree connecting can be hard especially depending on were you live I do feel like old school Butchs are a dying breed

The_Lady_Snow · 01-01-2014, 03:18 AM

As of 2014 so far, I can say they're out there!

Cid · 01-05-2014, 08:56 PM

I find it very difficult to find stone butches.
Not sure if there are any left in my area. I was with one, but
not anymore. Think she might have been the only stone in
the county.

12-30-2013, 02:40 PM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I see oodles of butches all over the place and there is a huge community of queer here. I see them every day. They dress anywhere from tomboy to hippy to queer fashionista to outdoorsy looking les. She may not be noticing many because like you may look like a soccar mom, they look like they are about to go for a hike and look tomboy androgenous lezzo in their gear. Some of the butches wear make up (and are stone and tops). I live in the east end of vancouver, but that said there are tons of sporty butches in the burbs. she is probably mistaking them for chapstick/sporty dykes. just like you might get misjudged as a soccar mom. tell her to get her ass to queer as funk, queer box fit, the butch choir, or one of the leather events. Plus there is the queer film festival, the the queer arts events (always brings them out in droves), season fling queer dances at the wise hall, Man Up (stuffed full of butches)... and... well to list everything I'd have to go into my fb events. If she needs to see them dressed up and in context if she is talking about over a certain age (45 or so) yeah, they are thin on the ground. cause like everyone else, they usually have a partner/wife. Or they come from a time when it was really bad to have the ID. they still fuck the same and move the same and treat me the same, they just don't ID because they think it's wrong. But a rose by any other name is still one Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 12-30-2013 at 02:44 PM.

12-31-2013, 11:33 PM	#3
GeorgiaMa'am Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Ma'am Preferred Pronoun?: Ma'am Relationship Status: widowed - involved, poly Join Date: May 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,518 Thanked 28,470 Times in 5,797 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	@honeybarara - Ah, that must be it, we're in the "over 45 or so" group, just barely. She has mentioned something about everyone already being paired up. I'll give her your list though. Thanks! __________________ -GeorgiaMa'am It's true that you are blessed and lucky It's true that you are touched by something that will grow and bloom in you. -10,000 Maniacs

01-01-2014, 01:51 AM	#5
ButchKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Butch/Daddy to the right Woman/girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Midwest Posts: 234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 382 Thanked 240 Times in 95 Posts Rep Power: 3337848	I certainly hope not though I do agree connecting can be hard especially depending on were you live I do feel like old school Butchs are a dying breed __________________ BK GO PACK GO

01-01-2014, 03:18 AM	#6
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Beep Beep As of 2014 so far, I can say they're out there! __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

01-05-2014, 08:56 PM	#7
Cid Member How Do You Identify?: ultra femme princess Preferred Pronoun?: she, lady..whichever Relationship Status: waiting for the right one Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Don't follow me, I'm lost. Posts: 807 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,627 Thanked 2,731 Times in 632 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I find it very difficult to find stone butches. Not sure if there are any left in my area. I was with one, but not anymore. Think she might have been the only stone in the county. __________________ Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.

12-31-2013, 11:38 PM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm 44 and I date older and younger. I go because the age range at these things is wide. as soon as one is single they go on POF or head out to the events. but that's like most of my friends, even who are straight. eveyone they like is paired up. its not a shortage of butches, its a shortage of single people when you get past a certain age range... at least thats what I find.