Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

[Candelion]

A sexy butch reaching over to push a strand of hair back from my face.

[Bèsame*]

All things lacy. Even more so with bows

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by GeeGina

I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual.

Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us.

To answer your first question, it's like free speech. Just because you CAN say something doesn't mean you SHOULD say something.

This is a thread for femmes, in the femme zone and it's reasonable to request that it be free of anything that may feel like leering or that our responses are somehow designed to turn someone else on. To me, the thread is just for us and we don't always get to allow ourselves to be sexy or show that we feel sexy because someone can and often will, turn that against us in a 'we said that just for them' kind of way. It's unsettling.

There's a certain vulnerability when you reveal someone personal to oneself and to have someone....even someone whose intention was not unkind....come in and say that what some of what we said turned them on, that feels unfair to me.

As Snowy said, we get this kind of behavior in the world on a regular basis. That doesn't make it right or okay here.

Brock, thank you for apologizing. We all speak before thinking at one time or another. It happens. How one handles it afterwards shows a lot about that person and their intentions and I don't think the intention was malicious. Just that what happened was inconsiderate.

As for your second question which I underlined, this question makes me feel uneasy because it's very close to 'she was wearing a short skirt and deserved it' in my head. I take ownership of that leap but I still feel that it's not unreasonable to expect to post in this thread, in this particular forum, without judgement or someone taking ownership of what is not theirs to take.

[1TruFemme]

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.

[Candelion]

Originally Posted by 1TruFemme

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.

Yes! Yes!! YES!!!

[C0LLETTE]

Originally Posted by 1TruFemme

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.

If that's the case, I think I've made hundreds of women (and men) feel sexy...sometimes two at a time ... who knew that a herding impulse could be sexy lol

[Candelion]

Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

If that's the case, I think I've made hundreds of women (and men) feel sexy...sometimes two at a time ... who knew that a herding impulse could be sexy lol

Lol. I'm sure you have, Collette. But seriously, it's about keeping the physical connection while making your way through a crowd. The raw physical need of your butch to keep some thread of connection. VERY sexy!

[Katniss]

Competency. Mastering a sport or acitivity that was at the start physically or mentally challenging. I've been learning chess for the past year and if the game is well-matched and well played I can feel very hot to trot!

Having and maintaining a strong, healthy body to the best of my ability. Feeding my brain and spiritual side with good books, art and music.


Sailing. The physical demands, sunshine, wind, current, and blue sky all combine to an amazing endorphine rush. (I'll show you a 3 hour tour....)

It's interesting to me what makes me feel sexy has nothing to do with having any input or even interaction with another. I guess it really is true that "self-love is never so great a sin as self-neglect."


Katniss~~

[lamuymuyfem]

Ay que pelao el puro pelao liking the post about the lace bra…..lol