Bed Side Preference and Dominance

[MasterfulButch]

Firstly, thanks to everyone who has posted in this thread. It’s really thought-provoking to read your answers and see the different things that are important to people.

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Do you know a lot of Dom/Dommes/Tops/Dominants/Masters who prefer a the right side of the bed? I display myself via flagging when out and about sometimes to let people know the dynamic, and left is Dominant, how did the right side get picked as the dominant side? How was it assigned? I am asking because I have never deconstructed my bed before as far as how I identify or am.. So I have been thinking and thinking about it and had the questions above, I may have more because things like this make me think…

No, there’s nothing formal behind my initial theory. It’s purely based on my experiences and the responses of friends I’ve spoken about it with in the past. I had considered the possibility that a right-handed dominant may prefer the right side of the bed so their lead hand was unencumbered for activity to their left. When posting, I was particularly curious as to whether any left-handed dominants may step forward with a preference for the left side of the bed. I didn’t want to skew the results by postulating too much at the start but it’s interesting that more than one contributor has referenced this factor.

What these responses have shown me is that there are many more elements at play and whilst dominance may affect an outcome, there are other considerations which are likely to be of more conscious concern.

Personally, I’m hyper conscious of the space I take up, both in waking life and in bed. I currently sleep alone but have a super king size bed so there is plenty of space for when I do have company. When I’ve been with companions who have small beds I’ve found I tend to keep myself awake so I can consciously minimise my footprint. Once I’ve reached a point of drowsiness where I can’t be sure that I am, then I switch to the floor. At this point my partner will end up with her choice of side of the bed regardless of any dominance on my part.

I suppose it makes sense that the potential vulnerability inherent in sleep means that our environment has particular importance to us. I appreciate this opportunity to hear about what matters to others for future reference.