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PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 10:54 AM

Why do most transmen have an issue dating tall women ?
im 5'9 and half and i get no love from the bros

Linus · 10-31-2012, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Why do most transmen have an issue dating tall women ?
im 5'9 and half and i get no love from the bros

My g/f is 5'9" and I'm 5'1". Just a matter of finding one who appreciates a taller, leggier woman.

Greyson · 10-31-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Why do most transmen have an issue dating tall women ?
im 5'9 and half and i get no love from the bros

I noticed the height thing even before I transitioned. Some butches have the same "dilema." For me, the more comfortable I became with myself, the less I was threatened by a woman's height. I love to see a woman in heels and if I wanted to date women I was attracted to, I needed to get over it.

My girlfriend is taller then me by a couple of inches.

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 01:44 PM

Tall + femme = Not good

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Originally Posted by Greyson

I noticed the height thing even before I transitioned. Some butches have the same "dilema." For me, the more comfortable I became with myself, the less I was threatened by a woman's height. I love to see a woman in heels and if I wanted to date women I was attracted to, I needed to get over it.

My girlfriend is taller then me by a couple of inches.

Darbonaire · 10-31-2012, 01:58 PM

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Tall + femme = Not good

<~ 5'10" tall here so....why is that not good for you??

Linus · 10-31-2012, 03:47 PM

Here's some food for thought: http://blogs.montrealgazette.com/201...es-apocalypse/

Oddly enough I was thinking about this when I watched this week's episode: what would I do if there was a zombie apocalypse (or similar)? Would I have to break into every pharmacy, steal all the T I can and lug it around, protecting it (and necessary needles)? A hysto would allow for a stretched out usage and certainly natural methods could help but..

ahk · 11-08-2012, 09:11 PM

Has anyone used the Care Credit card to help pay for their surgery/s? and if so, did you have poor, good, great credit when applying? and if you care to share more information, that would be most excellent. Thanks.

SelfMadeMan · 11-08-2012, 09:17 PM

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Has anyone used the Care Credit card to help pay for their surgery/s? and if so, did you have poor, good, great credit when applying? and if you care to share more information, that would be most excellent. Thanks.

I didn't use Care Credit for surgery, we've mainly used it for dental work, and also once for veterinary care for one of our pups. But we didn't have great credit when we applied for it - we had good credit. I've heard of a lot of people getting approved that had some past credit issues. I'd say give it a try! Good luck!

Linus · 11-08-2012, 10:54 PM

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Has anyone used the Care Credit card to help pay for their surgery/s? and if so, did you have poor, good, great credit when applying? and if you care to share more information, that would be most excellent. Thanks.

I used it. My credit is ok and it covered pretty much all of what I didn't already have in cash. They gave me a $10K LoC but I only needed to use about $5K. I had used $3K at one point for vet bills. It was one of those cards I paid off immediately because after a period of time the interest on it does shoot up but it was good for getting this done. I may consider using it for doing a metio and hysto once I have another $4-5K set aside for that.

DMW · 11-08-2012, 11:27 PM

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Has anyone used the Care Credit card to help pay for their surgery/s? and if so, did you have poor, good, great credit when applying? and if you care to share more information, that would be most excellent. Thanks.

I used part of what was left of my 401k after a damn stock market crash in 2001.
I have never heard of the Care card. But, i must say, i don't think it could hurt
so much to try. If the card can be an avenue to lead you toward the opportunity to have surgery...then Do It.
Lack of coverage is one of the issues that really bugs and digs at me for
trans people...It should be covered by healthcare. Healthcare should be a right for everyone.
I still went to my company to cover all of the bases and apply...knowing i probably wouldn't get covered...because i knew there would be people coming after me. I wanted it logged into the system at BlueCrossBlueSheild..that i existed, applied and was denied. That way...maybe the next one that came along could get it. etc...You know?

I think you should give it a shot. And good luck Ahk

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 03:56 PM

Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

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Originally Posted by Darbonaire

<~ 5'10" tall here so....why is that not good for you??

Ginger · 10-31-2012, 04:42 PM

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Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Well, I'm sure you're saying this from experience—but I find it hard to accept as a generalization.

If it's true, then I'd think that was sad, that such a sexist value was being adopted and applied to pollute a new paradigm—because it denigrates the beauty of tall femmes. My sisters.

Soon · 10-31-2012, 05:08 PM

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Well, I'm sure you're saying this from experience—but I find it hard to accept as a generalization.

If it's true, then I'd think that was sad, that such a sexist value was being adopted and applied to pollute a new paradigm—because it denigrates the beauty of tall femmes. My sisters.

Thank YOU!

5' 9" here and I tell any interested party pretty quickly that I am this tall...my height has never deterred the butches and guys of only the best kind...

People may have a preference and so be it--one cannot force physical attraction be it height, body shape etc. If that's the case, ok, no harm done.

Not to mention, it can work the OTHER way around. There may be taller femmes who just aren't attracted to guys who are under a certain height as well. It's possible.

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 06:04 PM

Correction FTM

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Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Nadeest · 10-31-2012, 08:34 PM

Thanks for the correction. I was wondering about that, though there are some MTF Butches about. I was thinking, though, that you were probably referring to FTMs.

SelfMadeMan · 11-08-2012, 09:19 PM

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Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Nah, I don't think so at all
I've known several FTMs and Butches that weren't the taller in the relationship. And someone who didn't want to be with you based on your height, probably isn't someone you want to be with anyway - that would be pretty shallow IMHO!

DMW · 11-08-2012, 10:46 PM

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Because most FTM/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Considering i am almost legally a midget...well, as one of my exes
would fondly and affectionately remind me that i am short in stature (that i would be a midget
if i were so many inches shorter..forget how many) when i would forget...(i do that often)
i could say that most women would want a taller man... but, i don't
know if that is true. I just don't know.
If a woman doesn't want a short dude....
then it ain't me babe...no, no, no...it ain't me your lookin' for babe....
[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2R2NrV4ve1o"]It ain't me babe - Johnny Cash & June Carter Cash - YouTube[/nomedia]

To each his own PurpleQuestions...and i bet you are just perfect for
someone out there. If the butch or FTM has an issue with your height...
then, that is their issue...not yours. Hopefully, they will just be honest
and upfront with you that they can't deal with your height,
and you will not have to suffer.

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Thank YOU!

5' 9" here and I tell any interested party pretty quickly that I am this tall...my height has never deterred the butches and guys of only the best kind...
People may have a preference and so be it--one cannot force physical attraction be it height, body shape etc. If that's the case, ok, no harm done.

Not to mention, it can work the OTHER way around. There may be taller femmes who just aren't attracted to guys who are under a certain height as well. It's possible.

Totally agree with you Soon. I do the same. I have a similar perspective, sentiment and attitude about it. It is just another way of finding out quicky whether or not two people are compatible. Honesty is the best policy.

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Nah, I don't think so at all
I've known several FTMs and Butches that weren't the taller in the relationship. And someone who didn't want to be with you based on your height, probably isn't someone you want to be with anyway - that would be pretty shallow IMHO!

Yep!

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