Bed Side Preference and Dominance

Sweet Bliss · 09-06-2016, 08:14 PM

I only sleep well on my right side, it makes no difference to me which side of the bed, have slept alone for so long i don't make a good sleeping buddy. It would take all my love and trust to be able to sleep soundly with another person.

Touching me when I'm sleeping sets off my ptsd. I think if the love and trust factor were large enough, it would be a non issue. In the meantime, I live with dogs, they are a great alarm system.

I have been attacked in my home more than once. So for me, yes, it's practical to have a plan when trapped in a bedroom. If I live alone again, I will still have large dogs.

EnderD_503 · 09-06-2016, 08:51 PM

I don't think either one of us is the "dominant" person in our relationship, and I don't really notice any of that with which side of the bed we choose to sleep on. I just have certain particularities with space generally. For example, I don't like to sleep right next to the wall if the bed is right next to the wall like it was in our last apartment, so there I slept on the left.

I sleep on the left now in our current place because I also like to be close to the door. Not for any weird "protective" reasons but more so because I have weird things about space and either being close to/facing an exit (aka escape route, not that I actually need to "escape" anything while in bed, it's just a habit by this point leftover from my childhood) or never having my back to an exit/entrance (both in public or at home). Has more to do with weird anxiety stuff than anything else.

09-06-2016, 08:14 PM	#1
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I only sleep well on my right side, it makes no difference to me which side of the bed, have slept alone for so long i don't make a good sleeping buddy. It would take all my love and trust to be able to sleep soundly with another person. Touching me when I'm sleeping sets off my ptsd. I think if the love and trust factor were large enough, it would be a non issue. In the meantime, I live with dogs, they are a great alarm system. I have been attacked in my home more than once. So for me, yes, it's practical to have a plan when trapped in a bedroom. If I live alone again, I will still have large dogs.

09-06-2016, 08:51 PM	#2
EnderD_503 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?: Male pronouns Relationship Status: Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,329 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,090 Thanked 3,878 Times in 1,022 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I don't think either one of us is the "dominant" person in our relationship, and I don't really notice any of that with which side of the bed we choose to sleep on. I just have certain particularities with space generally. For example, I don't like to sleep right next to the wall if the bed is right next to the wall like it was in our last apartment, so there I slept on the left. I sleep on the left now in our current place because I also like to be close to the door. Not for any weird "protective" reasons but more so because I have weird things about space and either being close to/facing an exit (aka escape route, not that I actually need to "escape" anything while in bed, it's just a habit by this point leftover from my childhood) or never having my back to an exit/entrance (both in public or at home). Has more to do with weird anxiety stuff than anything else.