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[tuffboi29]

I'm finding it amazing how I have barely come out to myself about who I am and find myself getting called out on it by people I hardly know.
Tonight I got a ride home from a guy I've only met a few times and he was asking some very direct questions.By chance he figure me out rather quickly.Alot more quickly than I was comfortable with.
Is it that I am more comfortable with myself now that others are figuring this out?Was he just that good?Or was it always obvious to those around me and I was just so hidden in myself I refused to see it?
I don't know guys...I think I'm just a wee bit lost in my thoughts tonight.
Any comments on these thought would be greatly appreciated.Have any of you been lost in similar thoughts?

[Linus]

Originally Posted by tuffboi29

I'm finding it amazing how I have barely come out to myself about who I am and find myself getting called out on it by people I hardly know.
Tonight I got a ride home from a guy I've only met a few times and he was asking some very direct questions.By chance he figure me out rather quickly.Alot more quickly than I was comfortable with.
Is it that I am more comfortable with myself now that others are figuring this out?Was he just that good?Or was it always obvious to those around me and I was just so hidden in myself I refused to see it?
I don't know guys...I think I'm just a wee bit lost in my thoughts tonight.
Any comments on these thought would be greatly appreciated.Have any of you been lost in similar thoughts?

What do you mean by "getting called out"? Do you mean that he figured out that you were trans? Or that you were a guy?

Sometimes we are oblivous to the obvious. For example, my aunt knew I was more attracted to women than guys well before I did. So it can happen.

[tuffboi29]

Originally Posted by Linus

What do you mean by "getting called out"? Do you mean that he figured out that you were trans? Or that you were a guy?

Sometimes we are oblivous to the obvious. For example, my aunt knew I was more attracted to women than guys well before I did. So it can happen.

Aye, he very much so figured out I am trans. And what amazed me more, was able to do it in just a few short questions, too.
He meant no harm or rudeness. In fact he was quite tactfull in his approach in asking.
I think I was just a wee bit unnervered he was able to pinpoint it so quickly.

[Linus]

Not a question but more of a rant.

I found out what's holding up the Birth Cert. Apparently when my dad re-adopted me, Wife #2 (he's on Wife #3 I believe) was added as my "mother". I didn't remember doing this but it's possible that at the time it made sense. (I think I did it because it'd make my dad happy). The problem is I know nothing about her. They said if I could find out her maiden name, that's all they'd need. If I can't get it, she's going to ask if the info I provided is enough (she said there are unique situations like this). I have asked her if there is a way I could get Wife #2 removed as my mother and get my mom put back in. I did email my dad, his sister and his brother in hopes that one of them can reply with the info. But we'll see.

This explains the brick wall I've been hitting.

[Corkey]

Originally Posted by Linus

Not a question but more of a rant.

I found out what's holding up the Birth Cert. Apparently when my dad re-adopted me, Wife #2 (he's on Wife #3 I believe) was added as my "mother". I didn't remember doing this but it's possible that at the time it made sense. (I think I did it because it'd make my dad happy). The problem is I know nothing about her. They said if I could find out her maiden name, that's all they'd need. If I can't get it, she's going to ask if the info I provided is enough (she said there are unique situations like this). I have asked her if there is a way I could get Wife #2 removed as my mother and get my mom put back in. I did email my dad, his sister and his brother in hopes that one of them can reply with the info. But we'll see.

This explains the brick wall I've been hitting.

Have you thought of looking it up at the registrar's office? Their marriage certificate has to be on file.

[Linus]

The got married out of Province and they are now divorced. It'll take another 4-8 weeks (it's already getting annoying that I've had to wait this long -- nearly a year now). Additionally, its annoying that she's even on the BC.

[Linus]

Welp. Even though my dad won't speak to me, my aunt (my dad's sister) still does. And she looked up my grandfather's ancestry project, finding my step-mom's maiden name (spelling may not be totally accurate but.. ). It's a start!