The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[ruthie14]

Hey Ruthie, please keep us informed! I have the same problem with my elbow and just keep putting it off. Got too many things to do to take a few weeks off! Let me know if there is anything I can do, you are only about 3-4 hours away.

awwww Os.... aren't you sweet! I will let you know for sure.

Looks like work is going to give me a hard time. First they said it wouldn't be covered under workmans comp bc it was over a month since it happened. Dr. said I should get a letter from them stating that it was denied and why. After 2 weeks, today I insisted...NOW... after cortizone shots, drs visits and surgery is now scheduled... today they called workmans comp. Claim they said they weren't sure it was covered after a month (REALLY?? I'm 50 not stupid). So now the claim is in, and I have no idea what that means for my surgery. I will have to have another surgery on my wrist. This place has a history of cutting your hours and making things miserable for you if you don't play nice. I played nice and now this is what it is getting me! I need to get out of this job, but I can't before all this is resolved. Not sure what if anything i can do with this injury. I need to get if fixed, it happened here, but I can't afford it on my own. Insurance may not pay for it if workman's comp won't pay for it. Jeeze...

Deep, deep breath.........................................

[WingsOnFire]

awwww Os.... aren't you sweet! I will let you know for sure.

Looks like work is going to give me a hard time. First they said it wouldn't be covered under workmans comp bc it was over a month since it happened. Dr. said I should get a letter from them stating that it was denied and why. After 2 weeks, today I insisted...NOW... after cortizone shots, drs visits and surgery is now scheduled... today they called workmans comp. Claim they said they weren't sure it was covered after a month (REALLY?? I'm 50 not stupid). So now the claim is in, and I have no idea what that means for my surgery. I will have to have another surgery on my wrist. This place has a history of cutting your hours and making things miserable for you if you don't play nice. I played nice and now this is what it is getting me! I need to get out of this job, but I can't before all this is resolved. Not sure what if anything i can do with this injury. I need to get if fixed, it happened here, but I can't afford it on my own. Insurance may not pay for it if workman's comp won't pay for it. Jeeze...

Deep, deep breath.........................................

I believe your insurance has to pay for it if your company deems it not work related.. although I know they like to screw you around forever.. I hate that!! I know companies that have paid claims with no issue at all.. how sad for those who have to deal with the crap you are dealing with.. Hugs...

Sending good vibes that it is covered and they dont treat you badly because of it...

[OS Butch]

Good evening:) I am home early and going to play in the arcade...Hopefully since it is early, it won't keep up up late:)

[LadyRieinAL]

Age. Numbers. Only as young as you feel. I would have shrugged it off a couple of years ago as another "ism"... but today - just a few days past turning 52... I can't seem to shrug it off. There is a perpetual "crease" in my face that is unescapable. Every time I look in the mirror, there it is. No, I'm no longer the "young chippee" on the block. In fact, I crossed that bridge quite a long time ago. And I'm ok with that. But why does time have to be so Cruel? She is, you know. She is cruel - and seemingly, especially, to womyn. *sighs* *shakes head* I never considered a lift of any kind... until this morning....

Ladyhawk, I'm 57 - and I have had issues, as I age, with the person I have seen when I look in the mirror. How did those lines get there?
And the other day I found myself talking to my four year old granddaughter , Nina, why do you have lines on your face and hands......Well Willow, Ninna has lived a very long time, and she has seen and been many places, and these lines tell a story about all those places Nina has been. Nina is very proud of what she has learned in all the places that she has been. And she said, Nina, when I get old will I have those many lines, and I said, yes, sweet one you will. And she said, I hope I don't get as old as you. LOL (out of the mouths of babes) I didn't have the heart to tell her she really doesn't have a choice. LOL
And LadyHawk, I hope the next person that is invited to co-create life with me, understands it took some doing for the lines to appear and they tell a magnificent journey for anyone who wants to share life line stories. :spruceup:

[rustedrims]

Very well said..That little girl sounds like a blast to be around..
Take good care of her..

[starrynitesfemme]

Hi there, I'm happy to see this space, at 43, i'm still trying to sort out being this age... I wrote this, and thought perhaps I would share:

Growing older is an odd thing, to feel 15.. but in this 43 year old body.. to be growing older at all, considering my history is.. a miracle. A miracle I say many prayerful thanks for each day, as much as I may grumble and fuss about the aches and pains. But growing older gives us something else, this powerful space of.. THIS is who I am, take it or leave it, like it, love it.. or walk away. I truly love growing into that space, feeling myself stretch and grow, knowing myself better every single day. There are very few things I can say with confidence about myself, but one very important one I can: I love well. I love wholly, unconditionally, without boundaries and with no apologies. I find some folks are very uncomfortable in that space, but now, older, perhaps wiser, I no longer apologize for it or me in any fashion. I am grateful to be here, now, my feet on the earth, my hands doing their very best to type the words my mind feeds them and love in my heart. I am grateful for each connection, each moment, each breath.. and each step, because the next step, is all I have to worry about.

I hope each of you has a wonderful eve.. ♥

[rustedrims]

Verrry well said..
I like it..All of it..

[Viola]

Hi Morningstar55,

I don't understand your sister thinking for others. Does anyone ever think for your sister, what does your sister do when others think for her...

Why do people do that think for others, like as they know and so push their thinking - thinking all must think like them... Why do they do that?

I know I have flaws where I need to work on myself and if anyone brings it to my attention what I'm doing that's hurting others or offending, I want to change the way how I treat others.

So my next question is: if people don't want to hear how they're offending so then they can take a closer look at themselves to change, why is it that they don't want to know in order to change?

For me, I want to be pleasant to be around and I'd found there's times I'm not pleasant at all, and so I figure it out after wards what am I doing that's make me not be enjoyable to be around, and I seek to learn at least one thing so I can try something different in order to change.

But then again, I've been told I work so hard on myself and why is that., and also I've been told I'm so hard on my self., so maybe there's needs to be balance in this too...

Your sister so busy thinking for others how others must think, that would drive me crazy to be around her, cause there's no freedom of thought and no freedom to be one self...

However your sister puzzles me too., as is it her pride, but what is pride then that she has?

Why can't she learn, if she doesn't understand, can't there be a way where she can learn as she accepts, cause maybe she's confused, but a person can be confused while accepting, I mean, there's times I'm confused, and there's even times I'm confused about myself...

So the thought of completely understanding everything, no that I can't even do all the time, sometimes I don't understand however I can accept the person and learn a new perspective through the persons eyes...

I am only me and see only through my eyes, oh what a gift when I can see through other eyes as I learn through their teaching me their perspective.


Ok i need a lil vent... and maybe some helpful advice....... seems lately, few times i been around my sister in law.. she has brought up my x co drives name and make.comments nd quesa, why he looks and seems to b like a man... ..i say.. he ah was born that way. Then she wil try 2 disbute that , then i get defensive , i then just leave the room. Ya knw , even though it did not work out driving with my co driver nd i.. i Will, defend his gender and rights.

[AtLast]

OK, i like this thread, but have always been kind of put off by the title. The "over" bothers me. Why not just call it the "elders?" LOL, yes, I am an over and have to say that my 60's are most certainly of the finest vintage.... Yes, I might be being too sensitive, or politically correct. So, what do others that are 60 plus, think?

[OS Butch]

OK, i like this thread, but have always been kind of put off by the title. The "over" bothers me. Why not just call it the "elders?" LOL, yes, I am an over and have to say that my 60's are most certainly of the finest vintage.... Yes, I might be being too sensitive, or politically correct. So, what do others that are 60 plus, think?


Ummmm, I am not 60 plus, so I guess I will save my 2 cents.

[Gráinne]

OK, i like this thread, but have always been kind of put off by the title. The "over" bothers me. Why not just call it the "elders?" LOL, yes, I am an over and have to say that my 60's are most certainly of the finest vintage.... Yes, I might be being too sensitive, or politically correct. So, what do others that are 60 plus, think?

I'm not 60+ either, turning 50 in six months. If my cents still counts, I am not, nor ever will be, an elder. Much less, a "crone". That's not here; it's from a book I read about women of a certain age who become "crones". Yikes, not me!

[morningstar55]

Wow tanx for the post...... my sister IN Law. Ha....im not gonna give into hr ignorance and annoying repeating statments or repeating questions

[clay]

I am over 60 but the use of the word "over"...meh...makes me no never mind.,..doesn't offend me..doesn't bother me.....age is just a number to me...and I tend to not sweat small stuff as a rule anyway...so there is my .02 for what it is worth...and I understand that everyone has their own opinions...which I am respectful of...smiles...

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers...... think its about coffee time.

[morningstar55]

Hey lofters...... landed in Detroit....buzzed thru Ohio along lake erie.... didn't notice any rusty rims..so gjg kept goin.haha..... anyways am heading bk thru there 2 nite. Migration camp out along the way.. im getting tired anyways have a nicely nite.

[Girl Friday]

Suddenly I'm really glad I'm me. I'm glad I'm not younger than I am and I'm really glad I don't have to do some of that "stuff" again. Finally! The comfort in my own skin I've been struggling to get back!!!

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers ..... i been up and drivin since 3am .... and its been so refreshing with Windows down, feeling the breeze and and the fresh air coming off the lake.....life is great.

[ruthie14]

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Have a great Memorial Day Weekend!

[starrynitesfemme]

Good Morning everyone, it's a beautiful morning, quiet, sun shining, birds singing... enjoying my coffee and hoping each of you has a beautiful day

Love this: Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been. ~Mark Twain

[OS Butch]

Good evening! It was a hot and humid day here...Tomorrow is gonna be a code orange day...Did anyone tell Mother Nature it is only May! I gotta work out in it!

Be safe out there and don't forget the sunscreen!

[OS Butch]

Another hot one here in DC. Thunderstorms are on their way and power outages are being reported. In my neighborhood it has yet to arrive, though there were 3 water main breaks, so I am without water.

I hope everyone has had a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day tomorrow. Thank a Soldier!

[cuddlyfemme]

Hi everyone! I hope you're all enjoying your weekend. I've been nursing one of my kitties who got sick. It was in the 80's today with a breeze and wasn't a good day to go to the pool. Tomorrow and for the next few days we're supposed to be getting storms. I guess its because of tropical storm Beryl. Have a wonderful Memorial Day all!!!

[cuddlyfemme]

Another hot one here in DC. Thunderstorms are on their way and power outages are being reported. In my neighborhood it has yet to arrive, though there were 3 water main breaks, so I am without water.

I hope everyone has had a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day tomorrow. Thank a Soldier!

Wow I miss DC....weather and all. I hope you get your water back soon

[OS Butch]

Hi everyone! I hope you're all enjoying your weekend. I've been nursing one of my kitties who got sick. It was in the 80's today with a breeze and wasn't a good day to go to the pool. Tomorrow and for the next few days we're supposed to be getting storms. I guess its because of tropical storm Beryl. Have a wonderful Memorial Day all!!!

Hey Cuddly. Long time since I have seen you! You have a great day tomorrow too.

[OS Butch]

Wow I miss DC....weather and all. I hope you get your water back soon

Thanks, I hope so. I was working outside all day and I desperately need to shower before I go to bed!

[WingsOnFire]

Another hot one here in DC. Thunderstorms are on their way and power outages are being reported. In my neighborhood it has yet to arrive, though there were 3 water main breaks, so I am without water.

I hope everyone has had a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day tomorrow. Thank a Soldier!

Hope you get your water back soon!! That doesnt help on a hot day I am sure. Its currently 62...

Ok here is a strange one for you... My phone has the weather on it.. It usually gives me the weeks update...Every other city I have programmed has Mon-Friday temps for the week... Oregon City starts on Tuesday... Go figure.. I had to ask what day it was to make sure it was still Sunday... Either that or I am getting senile...

[cuddlyfemme]

Hey Cuddly. Long time since I have seen you! You have a great day tomorrow too.


Hi OS! Its good to see you. I haven't been around much...I think I was in culture shock and missed DC so much that I pretty much disconnected from most things. But I'm trying to connect again

[cuddlyfemme]

Thanks, I hope so. I was working outside all day and I desperately need to shower before I go to bed!


I really hope you can get that shower. I know I go crazy without my bath and I don't even have a yard to work in lol

[OS Butch]

Hope you get your water back soon!! That doesnt help on a hot day I am sure. Its currently 62...

Ok here is a strange one for you... My phone has the weather on it.. It usually gives me the weeks update...Every other city I have programmed has Mon-Friday temps for the week... Oregon City starts on Tuesday... Go figure.. I had to ask what day it was to make sure it was still Sunday... Either that or I am getting senile...

LOL! I bet it is like some buildings don't use the 13 in elevators....Maybe Oregon city has decided ya'll don't need to use Mondays:sunglass:

[WingsOnFire]

Hi OS! Its good to see you. I haven't been around much...I think I was in culture shock and missed DC so much that I pretty much disconnected from most things. But I'm trying to connect again

I hope you are doing well cuddlyfemme.. I have missed you too!!! I miss you in the daddy house too.. I hope that you get over your culture shock really soon!! I know I am just finally settling into Oregon although I do like it here alot.

[WingsOnFire]

LOL! I bet it is like some buildings don't use the 13 in elevators....Maybe Oregon city has decided ya'll don't need to use Mondays:sunglass:

I would happily take Monday's off and consider it the twilight zone...

[ruthie14]

Another hot one here in DC. Thunderstorms are on their way and power outages are being reported. In my neighborhood it has yet to arrive, though there were 3 water main breaks, so I am without water.

I hope everyone has had a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day tomorrow. Thank a Soldier!

lol Friends of mine were at the White house for the memorial day concert. They start evacuating because of thunderstorms that were on their way. Never heard if they actually stopped the concert. We were laughing because they said that the hot dog vendor was still there and selling hot dogs so everything MUST be ok! lol

Hope everyone is having a great holiday weekend.

Ruthie

[ruthie14]

Having a rough day. Too much stress... Friends think that my job is going to force me out somehow because of all the recent events. Workmans comp I have NOT heard from. Surgery is suppose to be june 13... worse case is that workmans comp and ins company refuse to pay which means I will have to pay for all the tests up to this point and cancel the surgery I need. I HATE my job! Aunt is giving my mom a hard time about moving into an assisted living place nearby. She is driving her room mate crazy, falling a lot, yelling etc. My mother has had to take over her finanaces and has been traveling to her place way too often. It's too far for her and I can't help her much. We want to place her closer to us, but she is going to fight it tooth and nail. I feel like I can't talk too much about my job and maybe losing it bc my Mom is under enough stress. Not sure if I can get a different job with my hand and arm the way they are. Going to have to try though. When all is settled with work/arm situation... I am sooooooooooooo out! Sigh... so wishing I had a partner right now. I am usually ok with my single status... but right now, I could use cuddle!!!

Ruthie

[Okiebug61]

Having a rough day. Too much stress... Friends think that my job is going to force me out somehow because of all the recent events. Workmans comp I have NOT heard from. Surgery is suppose to be june 13... worse case is that workmans comp and ins company refuse to pay which means I will have to pay for all the tests up to this point and cancel the surgery I need. I HATE my job! Aunt is giving my mom a hard time about moving into an assisted living place nearby. She is driving her room mate crazy, falling a lot, yelling etc. My mother has had to take over her finanaces and has been traveling to her place way too often. It's too far for her and I can't help her much. We want to place her closer to us, but she is going to fight it tooth and nail. I feel like I can't talk too much about my job and maybe losing it bc my Mom is under enough stress. Not sure if I can get a different job with my hand and arm the way they are. Going to have to try though. When all is settled with work/arm situation... I am sooooooooooooo out! Sigh... so wishing I had a partner right now. I am usually ok with my single status... but right now, I could use cuddle!!!

Ruthie

How about a virtual BFPlanet Hug from us all. ((((((((((((((((((Ruthie)))))))))))))))). Hope things get better soon.

[cuddlyfemme]

I hope you are doing well cuddlyfemme.. I have missed you too!!! I miss you in the daddy house too.. I hope that you get over your culture shock really soon!! I know I am just finally settling into Oregon although I do like it here alot.


Thanks sweetie, I hope I get over my culture shock too but at least I'll try to remain connected even with the shock ((((MBE))))

[cuddlyfemme]

Happy Memorial Day!!!!

[morningstar55]

(((((((((((((((((((((:bunchflowers:Ruthieee poohss:bunchflowers:)))))))))))))))))))))))

[Licious]

Hi Lofters! Happy Memorial Day. *hugs for Ruthie*

Have a good week everyone.

[ruthie14]

Thanks everyone. I will keep you posted. Mom takes aunt home tomorrow and mom will be at her boyfriends tomorrow night. So after I work my second job I will have the house to myself and a little peace and quiet. I need it!!

[OS Butch]

Good evening everyone and sending more hugs to Ruthie!

Ruthie, I thought I had a tough day, I only had to cook for 13! I hope you enjoy your peace and quiet.

It is early to bed for me, back to work after this long weekend, it is gonna be hot work, but hey, I got a really nice farmers tan going...If everyone does a rain dance, I might be off another day:)

[morningstar55]

morning lofters

http://i946.photobucket.com/albums/ad304/SMILESATYA/MORNING%20COFFEE/coffee.jpg

[ruthie14]

Talked to workman's comp today. Had to cancel surgery for now. Have to wait on them to make a decision on whether or not they will cover it before I can move forward. Did I tell you I hate my job? Just want all this done and over with so I can move on! I finally have a couple possibilities and now this! Jeeze!:readfineprint:

[BrownEyedAngel]

Hate to hear that Ruthie.....hope things get better soon...

[ruthie14]

Had 2nd acupuncture treatment. She got a release out of my wrist. Feeling a lot better. The acupuncture is working far better than anything else. She thought at first I would need 10 treatments, but now she thinks just 4! I'm going to have her work on my neck and back next!! This is totally awesome!!

Have a wonderful thursday friends!
Ruthie

[morningstar55]

Had 2nd acupuncture treatment. She got a release out of my wrist. Feeling a lot better. The acupuncture is working far better than anything else. She thought at first I would need 10 treatments, but now she thinks just 4! I'm going to have her work on my neck and back next!! This is totally awesome!!

Have a wonderful thursday friends!
Ruthie

ha, thats good news Ruth .. :)
i thought about acupuncture , for stress , and such... :)

goood morning Loft dwellers and peekers

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o199/morningstar1955/rainbowpancakes.jpg

[OS Butch]

Good morning MS.What are you up to today?

Looks like a grand day here in the Nation's Capitol:)

[morningstar55]

Good morning MS.What are you up to today?

Looks like a grand day here in the Nation's Capitol:)

morning OS ... :) ...... im up to doing some home projects and getting myself set up for some painting, for that womens fest and dyke picnic thingie here at the end of JUne... I need to get to Home depot for some more slate rock tiles , this weekend a friend and I are going rock hunting :)
I can't believe all the sponsers and venders they have already its a 1st annual fest. rent space is only $30 and dead line is june 15th .. soo i need to get busy wish you could join me with some of your glass stuffs.

[morningstar55]

evening Lofters
i made a bunch of these banana splits for the birthday girls and well had some extra ones...

help yours before they melt... heh

http://i479.photobucket.com/albums/rr151/argarcia1/banana-split.jpg

[OS Butch]

morning OS ... :) ...... im up to doing some home projects and getting myself set up for some painting, for that womens fest and dyke picnic thingie here at the end of JUne... I need to get to Home depot for some more slate rock tiles , this weekend a friend and I are going rock hunting :)
I can't believe all the sponsers and venders they have already its a 1st annual fest. rent space is only $30 and dead line is june 15th .. soo i need to get busy wish you could join me with some of your glass stuffs.

It would be fun. Too bad I have to work to pay bills. I would much rather work on my glass art! Good luck!

[OS Butch]

evening Lofters
i made a bunch of these banana splits for the birthday girls and well had some extra ones...

help yours before they melt... heh

http://i479.photobucket.com/albums/rr151/argarcia1/banana-split.jpg



LOL! My favorite is hot apple pie ala mode:)

[morningstar55]

LOL! My favorite is hot apple pie ala mode:)

ok .. well here ya go ..... :)

http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb306/minuteman101/Food/001-25.jpg

next time you go down that Texas way.......... check into El Chico , they have the best apple pie a lamode and serve]d up with sizzling warm mexican brandy on it.. think you have to run a marathon to burn off all them calories.. lol

[morningstar55]

wow , had no idea that pic would be soo ahh big................ ha
oh well .... kinda life size huh??
haha.. dont lick the screen .. lol

[ruthie14]

Took off from work today for another migraine. Ended up in the ER AGAIN!! I was not a happy camper. The dr that helped me 2 weeks ago saw my name pop up and made sure I was his patient again. He is a sweetheart. He had me get a cat scan...everything normal (hahahaha) which is good. I see my back dr this tues and I will have the MRI results. Hopefully we can figure this out. Since the acupuncture is working so well on my elbow and wrist.. I am going to have her work on my neck/back/ migraine issues next. Been getting western medical treatments since 1998.. Time to think outside the box.

Have a good weekend everyone!
Ruthie

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

Took off from work today for another migraine. Ended up in the ER AGAIN!! I was not a happy camper. The dr that helped me 2 weeks ago saw my name pop up and made sure I was his patient again. He is a sweetheart. He had me get a cat scan...everything normal (hahahaha) which is good. I see my back dr this tues and I will have the MRI results. Hopefully we can figure this out. Since the acupuncture is working so well on my elbow and wrist.. I am going to have her work on my neck/back/ migraine issues next. Been getting western medical treatments since 1998.. Time to think outside the box.

Have a good weekend everyone!
Ruthie

Hope you feel better, Ruthie. Migraines suck.

[OS Butch]

Good morning! I hope everyone has a grand weekend. I get to work outside in this beautiful day. Keep smiling:)

[morningstar55]

Good morning! I hope everyone has a grand weekend. I get to work outside in this beautiful day. Keep smiling:)

this weekend would be better if it was a bit more warmer , sunny ... not so windy... and if i could get into better spirits, have a lot on my mind these days.. and been feeling kinda blue.
a friend is taking me out to a dyke parade thingie way later this afternoon.. i really dont feel like going .... in fact im just wanting to stay in. I know she means well ..... tomorrow is the pride fest here.
i think im gonna go soak in the tub.. i am still having some ahhhhhh groin discomfort.. guess im re hurting it , by doing things instead of resting. im just not one to sit still long. and i have things that need to get done... and its not gonna get done by itself.
anyways........................ hope everyone has a good weekend.(f)

[morningstar55]

Took off from work today for another migraine. Ended up in the ER AGAIN!! I was not a happy camper. The dr that helped me 2 weeks ago saw my name pop up and made sure I was his patient again. He is a sweetheart. He had me get a cat scan...everything normal (hahahaha) which is good. I see my back dr this tues and I will have the MRI results. Hopefully we can figure this out. Since the acupuncture is working so well on my elbow and wrist.. I am going to have her work on my neck/back/ migraine issues next. Been getting western medical treatments since 1998.. Time to think outside the box.

Have a good weekend everyone!
Ruthie

aww wow sorry to read this Ruthie......... i seen on DR OZ once.. about migrains... he suggest humming.. heh for how long I dont know. but its suppose to help. think he has this rememdy on his web site.

[ruthie14]

aww wow sorry to read this Ruthie......... i seen on DR OZ once.. about migrains... he suggest humming.. heh for how long I dont know. but its suppose to help. think he has this rememdy on his web site.

I'll check it out.. I like Dr Oz. Thanks!

[ruthie14]

Pssssssssssssssst.... anybody home?

[morningstar55]

yeaaaP im home... lol ....
and waiting for 9pm to hit......... cuzzzzz Masterchef is coming on fox ... the 1st episodes are always the fun ones... heh. ramsey and 2 other chefs judge amature cooks... like house wives, construction workers , teachers .. etc.... non professional cooks. today and tomorrow are kinda like the try outs. its a fun show and yes ramsey is NOT mean on this one. lol
only on hells kitchen ..... in fact thats suppose to start up this week too..... YAYYY!!
anyone else watching ???
https://www.facebook.com/#!/Masterchef

wooHOOOO HELLS KITCHEN IS ON NOW... ha...

https://www.facebook.com/#!/HellsKitchen

[morningstar55]

ha... signature dish ........ this episode is kinda funny .......

[morningstar55]

wowwwwwww this one contestant whom works as a head chef... sliced all the raw scallops in half ... and ramsey is having a fit .. ooYY

[Licious]

Just wandering through to say hi to the Lofters and catch up on reading posts. Have a good week everyone.

[ruthie14]

I was watching Hk for a little while. I don't usually watch, but a local lesbian was on so how could I resist! I forget her name, but she was wearing yellow shorts in the first segment. Brown hair. Cutie.

Morning all.
Ruthie

[morningstar55]

I was watching Hk for a little while. I don't usually watch, but a local lesbian was on so how could I resist! I forget her name, but she was wearing yellow shorts in the first segment. Brown hair. Cutie.

Morning all.
Ruthie

Ah cool.... will have 2 find out which one is hr........ masterchef was um kinda of a tear jerker... was amazed by the blind woman entering

[morningstar55]

Omg.... the last contestantt,on masterchef .....just have me al weepy... sigh

[ruthie14]

Saw the neck Dr and received some bad news. The issues with my neck (migraines etc) are not from the arm injury. In 1998 when I had my first mri after my injury there was a tiny bit of arthritis. Mri now shows much arthritis with Spinal Stenosis (sp?) in my neck. The three bulging cervical disks that I have are becoming much more aggravated and putting pressure on my spinal cord. No cure, No surgical procedure... more meds and absolutely NO LIFTING, EVER! Have to see a migraine specialist in 2 weeks, then back to neck dr. When the acupuncturist is done with my arm, I am going to see about my neck. Dr thinks this is a GREAT idea! I really hate it that I have to take more meds. I really, really do!!!! Boss is thinking about moving me up to 4 or 5 year olds so I don't have to lift. Good idea, except the woman I would be working with is lazy and LOUD! Worked with her before and it was horrible. As soon as my wrist/elbow thing is taken care of I am out of this place!!!

[morningstar55]

((((((((((RuTh)))))))))) hope get sm relief soon ... Mawning loft dwellers nd peekers

[morningstar55]

what a awsome morning, with all my windows open, waking up to a summer morning rain... smells great, and

good morning Loft dwellers and peekers



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[ruthie14]

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Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

Ruthie :rrose:

[OS Butch]

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Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

Ruthie :rrose:

Good morning to you:) Have a great Sunday!

[morningstar55]

morning loft dwellers and peekers

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later this morning i go for a road test and 2nd interview with a local company here in ol Buffalo ny....... im excited and kinda nervous i dont know why im nervous.. anyways wish me luck :)

[ruthie14]

morning loft dwellers and peekers

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later this morning i go for a road test and 2nd interview with a local company here in ol Buffalo ny....... im excited and kinda nervous i dont know why im nervous.. anyways wish me luck :)

I hope everything went well Morningstar!!

[morningstar55]

I hope everything went well Morningstar!!

ahh nahh... need more trailer experience .. *sigh* oh well...... back to square one

[ruthie14]

ahh nahh... need more trailer experience .. *sigh* oh well...... back to square one

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[OS Butch]

ahh nahh... need more trailer experience .. *sigh* oh well...... back to square one

You get them next time. The right job will come along, hopefully quickly:)

[OS Butch]

Good evening:) I hope everyone had a grand Monday. I did, my boss let out us early due to the heat!

[shiagirl]

Just stopping by to give a shout out to all the over 40's

[Tres]

Hello everyone! This is day two here glad to find this thread! Have a good afternoon everyone! I'm hoping to meet some new folks! :mohawk:

[morningstar55]

evening Loft dwellers and peekers

[OS Butch]

Good evening MS> I hope you had a great day!

Hi Tres and welcome to the Planet.

Shouting a howdy to you, shiagirl!

I just was making a quick stop by to say hi. Long day and the sleepy eyes are telling me to go to bed. Have a great evening everyone:)

[Licious]

Hi Lofters,

Have a good evening and a lovely Thursday!

[morningstar55]

morning Loft dwellers and peekerswow i took a nice long hike yesterday to my mom's.. lol
it was ok.. the weather was awsome and stil is.. not use to walking that far, think its about 2 miles. i may go for another walk today but not as far.

i still feel like i have a groin problem, its not super painful just a lil and maybe a lil more when i do to much , like walk 2 miles.. lol I do try to find humor in myself.. think its the jokster in me or hiding my real pain i dont know .. oh well.
anyways..........
sooo last night i was doing some reserach on that area of the body and where im feeling the discomfort and all..... and well ...... it might be something else a female problem , soo as soon as the phone lines open at the doc's office i am making an appointment and check into this further.
gosh i hope its nothing more..... cuz it would put a damper on some things.. *sigh* .. wel at least for a lil while.... i cant stay down for long , im always on the go .. if not trucking , at home , i have to always be doing something or going somewhere. I guess i get bored easliy. maybe thats why i drove the trucks for so long.. even though sitting all the time was not good.
ok im rambling enough here.
so whats for breakfast??

[morningstar55]

morning Loft dwellers and peekers

thanx Ruthie , how are you doing over there??
dont know where everyone else is....... ohhhh well.

today is . High wire day here........ meaning that guy will be walking the wire across the falls tonight..!!! can u believe that starting at 8pm..

in other news here.... few days ago a doctor whom is a skilled in weapons from being in the marines , a well liked surgeon doctor, shot his x .. 4x at the hospital where they worked... and now no one can find him.
yestrday that same hospital had a bomb threat.

its gonna be a awsome sunny day here in buffalo land... hope you all have a great weekend.

[OS Butch]

Good morning MS, I am running out the door to get to work. Have a great day!

[ruthie14]

Happy Friday lofters! *giggles*

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[OS Butch]

Happy Friday lofters! *giggles*

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Happy Friday to you too, Ruthie:)

[ruthie14]

Happy Hump Day tomorrow!

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[morningstar55]

Happy Hump Day tomorrow!

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morning Ruth.... wow this thread has been really died huh?? ..... geeshh
hope things are flowing ok over there..............

GOOD MORNING ........ Loft dwellers and peekers!

i was sitting here , sippin my coffee and having some rye toast with honey on it and a song came to mind........... yep the toast song. haha.

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[ruthie14]

OMG morninstar.. NEVER heard that before!! Too darn funny in a weird kinda way! I vote for

FRENCH TOAST!

lol

[OS Butch]

Yippee! Today was my Friday! I am off to Darlington, SC and the Antiques Roadshow. Have a great weekend:)

[ruthie14]

Have a wonderful Saturday!

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[Licious]

Have a good weekend, Lofters! :)

[OS Butch]

I am back from my weekend trip. I had a wonderful time even if I didn't have any treasures worth thousands of dollars! Time with my friends is priceless!

I am pooped, ran into really bad traffic on the way home. I took the opportunity to stop at a place I use to frequent very often when I lived in Prince William County, Va. The best soft all natural hand dipped ice cream stand call Carl's in Fredricksburg, Va. It was grand!

I hope everyone had a splendid weekend!

[Nadeest]

I'm glad that you had fun. That is the most important thing of all, to my mind, on a trip like that.

[Georgialdy]

hello all:rainbowAfro:

[OS Butch]

hello all:rainbowAfro:

Hello Georgialdy, welcome to the loft. Nice to see another Virginian pop in here:)

[OS Butch]

Good morning! We are having a summer heat wave here in Washington DC. Feels like 110* later this afternoon. Stay cool and hydrated!

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[ruthie14]

Just had to share this for all you 50 shades of gray fans!

Gilbert Gottfried Reads Fifty Shades of Grey - YouTube

[ruthie14]

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[Joe Mario]

Subscribing; Turned 50 a wee bit back!

[KayCee]

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[ruthie14]

Subscribing; Turned 50 a wee bit back!

Welcome Joe!! Nice to see ya around!

Kitty... LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!

[morningstar55]

morning Loft dwellers and peekers

and Happy birthday Joe.... ahh you do know you could of come hang with us here sooner.. heh.

hello Kitty4u ... welcome to the Loft as well. :)

[OS Butch]

Subscribing; Turned 50 a wee bit back!

Dude! Glad to see you here!

Jo from Virginia:)

[OS Butch]

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You have a great weekend too!

[OS Butch]

Wow! It was really hot here today and I just just about nothing except to stay inside in the A/C. These kinda days are really hard on me...

I hope everyone had a cool and wonderful Saturday!

[morningstar55]

morning loft dwellers

hows everyones weekend going??
mine is so so .... getting ready to head to ohio soon, for orientation in a day or 2. *sigh* .... i dont want to gk backwards... i been not in good moods about it all... but i cant not just sit here with no job yet.. and gotta do what i gotta do.
anyways......... have a nice sunday.

[OS Butch]

Good morning to you too! I totally understand. I hope everything works out for you. Have a great day:)

morning loft dwellers

hows everyones weekend going??
mine is so so .... getting ready to head to ohio soon, for orientation in a day or 2. *sigh* .... i dont want to gk backwards... i been not in good moods about it all... but i cant not just sit here with no job yet.. and gotta do what i gotta do.
anyways......... have a nice sunday.

[Okiebug61]

morning loft dwellers

hows everyones weekend going??
mine is so so .... getting ready to head to ohio soon, for orientation in a day or 2. *sigh* .... i dont want to gk backwards... i been not in good moods about it all... but i cant not just sit here with no job yet.. and gotta do what i gotta do.
anyways......... have a nice sunday.

Keep your head up Morningstar! There are goods things ahead.

[ruthie14]

morning loft dwellers

hows everyones weekend going??
mine is so so .... getting ready to head to ohio soon, for orientation in a day or 2. *sigh* .... i dont want to gk backwards... i been not in good moods about it all... but i cant not just sit here with no job yet.. and gotta do what i gotta do.
anyways......... have a nice sunday.

I feel ya on that one. Can't leave my current job until I find something better. I hate it here, getting hurt all the time, low pay, increases in cost for insurance 2 years running but no raise in the same time. I was promised one a year! I am exhausted, have to babysit sit and pet sit to make ends meet...not for extras. Plus I work a second job. I worked 2nd job tues, babysat thursday.. and saturday into sunday.. tomorrow work again. Worth it for the extra cash for sure, but it would be nice if it only went to "fun" stuff and not bills. I wish I could take a vacation..the most I will get (and I am thankful for that) is a 3 day weekend in Sept to go camping.

Keep your chin up morning star... I'll send some positive energy your way!!:candle:

Ruthie

[Licious]

Stopping by to say hello to the Lofters, because I adore a thread with older people on it, because I am older people.

Also wishing to extend a good thought and prayer for Morningstar and my dear Ruthie, that their situations improve.

Have a great week, Lofters!

[morningstar55]

Tanx everyone ...... im here in a hotel 4 the nite... will b around Seville until wed. .. i knw i should b thnkful i hav a job. I feel like am going bakwards., and feeling blue as well... anyways thanks u al again 4 the moral support xox

[ruthie14]

Tanx everyone ...... im here in a hotel 4 the nite... will b around Seville until wed. .. i knw i should b thnkful i hav a job. I feel like am going bakwards., and feeling blue as well... anyways thanks u al again 4 the moral support xox

hugs....

Thanks everyone

[befreev]

I haven't been on here in a long time. I just turned 42 and would love to meet one awesome professional butch. If you are in the Baltimore, Md area or know someone in this area that fits this bill, please give me a shout out. Everyone take care and hope everyone had a good 4th of July.

[Okiebug61]

Tanx everyone ...... im here in a hotel 4 the nite... will b around Seville until wed. .. i knw i should b thnkful i hav a job. I feel like am going bakwards., and feeling blue as well... anyways thanks u al again 4 the moral support xox

Don't be so hard on yourself! I learned along time ago that my attitude was my and I owned it, if it sucks that's OK as long as I don't let it suck to long. You are a good person and good things will come to you in time my friend.

[morningstar55]

Don't be so hard on yourself! I learned along time ago that my attitude was my and I owned it, if it sucks that's OK as long as I don't let it suck to long. You are a good person and good things will come to you in time my friend.

Ha,ty. ... i almost started cryng in orientation 2day..... went microwave shopping,been having some discomfort problem in groin area ,on and off.dpends how much physical activity i do... hav a doc appointment. In ten days.....am a mess . anyways am heading 2 bed..

[Okiebug61]

Ha,ty. ... i almost started cryng in orientation 2day..... went microwave shopping,been having some discomfort problem in groin area ,on and off.dpends how much physical activity i do... hav a doc appointment. In ten days.....am a mess . anyways am heading 2 bed..

I wish you the best my friend. I have learned the perks of saying hey I am 50 fuck off also comes with the need to know where every public restroom is..LOL

[morningstar55]

I wish you the best my friend. I have learned the perks of saying hey I am 50 fuck off also comes with the need to know where every public restroom is..LOL

Ha u got that right... :) morning lofters, time 4 another day in the freezer .

[ruthie14]

Welcome Befreev!

Hand in there Morning star!!!!

Went through my current medical bills last night! Stressed out!!!!!!!! Gonna have to set up a payment plan. My insurance sucks...glad I have it, but they keep taking more for it and I get less coverage. I need to stop having migraines and getting hurt.They still haven't moved me to an older classroom. Now my boss is on vacation..will have to wait till she gets back to see what's going on with it.

Opened the windows to save on ac last night bc it got nice out, left ac on. oye!

Hope everyone has a wonderful day! It's a 2 job day for me. I love my 2nd job though!!

Ruthie

[ruthie14]

Happy Humping day my friends!

[morningstar55]

Happy humpers day 2 u 2 ruth.... and afternooners loft dwellers and peekers .... wel have my 1st load .. will b landing in Woodstock Va.. around1700 Thursday.....yay!!

[ferret]

Thought I'd poke my head in and say hello :)

Sue

[morningstar55]

Thought I'd poke my head in and say hello :)

Sue
.....Hello ..........

[morningstar55]

Mawning loft dwellers and peekers hope u al r having a great Saturday morning ..... am off 2 Ohio ... hanging around the northern mid section, 280 to findly , may make a pit stop at bass pro.... wish i knw sm bf folks in these parts, cuz i dont hav 2 pk up my load until Monday morning. So hav al weekend 2 kill...and dont hav my art supplies or fishing stuff... sigh.... hav a doc, appt nex fri. So wil hav 2 make due. Gawd i hate using my phone 2 post...

[morningstar55]

Gawd am bored no lap top ..... no tv ... no art supplies, cant wait til i get home

[ruthie14]

Good morning lofters! Going to try to stay cool .... near 100 today in lovely humid NJ. I love summer...but this current heatwave could be done and I would not mind! lolol

Have a wonderful day!
Ruthie

[morningstar55]

Good morning lofters! Going to try to stay cool .... near 100 today in lovely humid NJ. I love summer...but this current heatwave could be done and I would not mind! lolol

Have a wonderful day!
Ruthie

Afternooners...... wow ruth.... wonder where everyone is?? Ths thread has died. Am hangn in Columbus...... and wil b headlng 2 Rochester later

[ruthie14]

Afternooners...... wow ruth.... wonder where everyone is?? Ths thread has died. Am hangn in Columbus...... and wil b headlng 2 Rochester later

I know what you mean. Keep posting in hopes that others will return. Probly a lot of vacations and such.

My grandparents used to live in Rochester... is it still a nice area?

Have fun and keep cool!
Ruthie

[morningstar55]

I know what you mean. Keep posting in hopes that others will return. Probly a lot of vacations and such.

My grandparents used to live in Rochester... is it still a nice area?

Have fun and keep cool!
Ruthie

Evening.... Rochester i guess i dont get ther as often . But i do knw there's a great bf group ther )

[ferret]

I'm lurking. Plus I have a lot of things going on in my life right now. I just want things to finally settle down.

Sue

[Okiebug61]

I forgot I had turned 50..LOL. OK I have been busy, Red is gone again for another week. We have a new dog Abigail Adams Abby for short! She showed up on the week of the 4th of July. So I have the joy of taking care of a 5 dogs, 1 cat a pool and all the other homeowner things one must do. I'll try to participate more. Sorry!

[RockOn]

I will be 56 in about 3 weeks. It is a number. I feel great.

Best wishes to all the lofters.
:)
Brock

[ruthie14]

I'm lurking. Plus I have a lot of things going on in my life right now. I just want things to finally settle down.

Sue

I know what you mean! I hope it happens soon for ya!

I forgot I had turned 50..LOL. OK I have been busy, Red is gone again for another week. We have a new dog Abigail Adams Abby for short! She showed up on the week of the 4th of July. So I have the joy of taking care of a 5 dogs, 1 cat a pool and all the other homeowner things one must do. I'll try to participate more. Sorry!

Shew.... take it easy there!! Congrats on the new dog!

I will be 56 in about 3 weeks. It is a number. I feel great.

Best wishes to all the lofters.

Brock

Happy birthday early Brock! Hope it's a great one! I turned 50 a few months ago... I totally agree with you that is a number. I usually feel quite young... except on fridays when my back lets me know I'm not 25 anymore!! lol

MORNINGSTAR... hope you have a wonderful and safe day of travel!!

Ruthie

[OS Butch]

Good morning early bird Ruthie, Brock, ferret, Okiebug and Morningstar!

Have a great day and stay cool! Looks to be a hot one here on the East Coast!

[morningstar55]

morning loft dwellers and peekers

how is your week going so far??
OKie...... you have a full house i see .. heh.. ever make your doggies, dog popsicles?? , if they have a kong .. you plug up 1 hole and find a way to set it up.. and pour chicken or beef broth in it.. then stick it in the freezer... they will love it on hot days. :) or just pour some in a plastic container of some sort, i made my brothers dog some in small containers that salad came in from the super market.

brock , ha your catching up with me.. :)
ruth... hope your staying cool over there..
((((OS))))) ...... ever crave a apple pie a la mode when your traveling around?? ..... you can get one at McDonalds... lol really... get a ice cream in a cup...and one of there hot apple pies.. and well.. u can break it up and put it on ice cream.. lol just a thought... i tried it.. its pretty good. :)

ha ferret , sometimes i lurk too.

im at home right now so am able to type a bit more .. i hate doing a lot of that from my phone. ... hopefully soon, i can get my lap top back up and running.

**making a note here**..
next time down in Okie town, crash Okiebug's pool... hmm better stock up on doggy treats keep em busy.. hehe...
(f)(f)(f)

[LadyRieinAL]

I will be 56 in about 3 weeks. It is a number. I feel great.

Best wishes to all the lofters.
:)
Brock
Whatcha want for your birthday - and I invited to the party? KK's giving one?

[lusciouskiwi]

Good morning blossoms, my first time here. :)

Was checking out different GLBT NZ sites and came across this (I knew about it from when I lived in Auckland, but haven't been following it):

https://www.facebook.com/levnz Lesbian Elders Village, Auckland, NZ.

Hope you're having a great day/evening :)

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers and peekers

And welcome 2 the loft ms kiwi .. :)
The thread seems 2 b kinda dead right now, but it gets perky now n then. Lol

[ruthie14]

Saw 3 different movies the last 2 weekends during Qfest... 1 I saw twice because it was so damn good! So funny!! That one is called Cloudburst and it stars Olympia Decakus (sp?). She is awesome in it!!!! Also saw Molly's Girl and A happy Ending. Both very good and there was a Q & A after each of the last 2 with some of the actors, directors and producers. I am hooked! I will HAVE to go next year! Have a great week lofters!


Welcome Kiwi

Ruthie

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

Good morning to everyone
I guess I will join you all,I am 59. I am ageing gracefully and for that I am grateful. I am enjoying my life more each day and being true to myself and creating beautiful memories with he ones I love.
This is very impost to me.

Enjoy today as it were your last :danceparty:

[ruthie14]

Having a bad day. Started out wrong and just continued. Because of my wrist/elbow and back injuries I need to move to an older classroom. The one that I wanted will not have enough kids in it to function. The only room I could take is working with a woman who is difficult to work with. I'm hoping that somehow she and I will click. I have to leave my current coteacher behind so I am NOT at all happy about that. We are going to try it for a week (next week) to see how it goes. We shall see how it goes. It just makes for more stress and right now, I DO NOT NEED ANY MORE STRESS!

I do, however, need a new job!!!!

Hope everyone has a great weekend! I am going to try my very best to have a relaxing and enjoyable weekend.

:beerbros:

[lusciouskiwi]

Having a bad day. Started out wrong and just continued. Because of my wrist/elbow and back injuries I need to move to an older classroom. The one that I wanted will not have enough kids in it to function. The only room I could take is working with a woman who is difficult to work with. I'm hoping that somehow she and I will click. I have to leave my current coteacher behind so I am NOT at all happy about that. We are going to try it for a week (next week) to see how it goes. We shall see how it goes. It just makes for more stress and right now, I DO NOT NEED ANY MORE STRESS!

I do, however, need a new job!!!!

Hope everyone has a great weekend! I am going to try my very best to have a relaxing and enjoyable weekend.

:beerbros:

What do you mean by an old classroom Ruthie?

There are vacancies in my company if you fancy Malaysia!

Have a great day :)

[ruthie14]

Hey Kiwi.

Older kids.. right now i am teaching 18 month to 2 year olds...they are going to put me in a class of 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 year olds. I actually wanted the 3 1/2 to 4 year olds...but that is the class that they think they will not have enough kids for.

Malyasia huh... I thnk my elderly mother would have a few things to say about that! lololol A little more of a commute than I would like! lololololol

[morningstar55]

Hey lofters.... hows everyone sat.?? Mine is so so... hanging here in Morris IL. Till 2morrow afternoon thn headng 2 ..... West Lake, ohiya :)

[ruthie14]

Hello Lofters!

Morning Morningstar... Hope you are finding something fun to do while you hang out in Ill.

I went to the er yesterday with another migraine. Took a day off work and since mom is away, had to ask a friend to take me. The wonderful Wendy was right there to be my shero! lol Anyway, new migraine med did NOT work so hence the er visit. I am NOT a fan! Love the relief, but not the bills. sigh.. Back to the dr I go to try a new one. I need to stop lifting things ... I hate that I have the muscle to do this stuff and my neck doesn't like it!! Very frustrating. Lifted a box earlier this week (should not have I know), nailed 2 shelves.. also a no no, will have to get someone to finish that for me, and I dared to clean out my bedroom closet... apparently now THAT is a no no.. I am going to have to change how I do some things. Spread them out more and ask for help. I HATE asking for help.. sigh.. but I hate the bills more! I wish I had the cash to pay someone to do some of this stuff. I hate having to ask friends. My mom does things, but she is 72, I don't like asking her either. I need a new body.

Anyway, relaxing and watching some of the beautiful women who are playing in the Olympics. Watched the end of the Columbia vs US womens soccor game.. great game... we won. at 3 I'm watching beach volley ball... love that.

Trying to take care of some stuff around the house SLOWLY! A little laundry... .. ice and relax.. a little put this or that a way.. ice and relax... I have a date tomorrow. Going to the beach with this really wonderful butch I have been dating recently. She doesn't want a commitment so it is sexless fun for now. lolol It is fun getting to know her though. I just can't do the sex without commitment thing. Don't have to be living together or have a ring on my finger... but have to be committed and not dating anyone else. We shall see. Having fun for now... dating other ppl as well. Nice to have some choices.

ttyl,
Ruthie

[morningstar55]

WAA.... i just lost a long post...... HATE ..doing ths frm my phn.
H understand ruth, i hate asking 4 help 2.... always feel guilty or self concious about askng. I thnk they wil thnk am using thm .. or taken advantage .

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers ... another awsome Sunday morning here at the planet ..
later today.... i head up north of Chicago land , and then landing over just West of Cleveland ...
Ruth hope ur feeling better over there.

[morningstar55]

Wow whats it gona take 2 , get ths thread going again?? Heh

Afternooners all u old farts ... lol
am roaming the roads of ohiya lands 2day.... nex stop ... Clyde oh... wher evr that is... heie.. my grandfather's name Clyde :)
Anyways....... have a awsome day.

[ruthie14]

Hello Lofters.. Morning star!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend! I had a relaxing day yesterday and today I am going to a ladies dance... fun! Going to put blond highlights in my hair today for the first time. I enlisted Mom's help and we shall see.. never did it before, but hey, hair is meant to be played with..right!?

Ruthie :blueheels:

[fever]

The landlord is power washing the house. I was awakened at 7am to the sound of big equipment roaring. lol So, having a coffee, watchin a chick flick, and trying to stay cool in 30 degree celsius weather. (I can't open the windows because he is power washing) I think I will go and see the Spiderman movie tonight. What are the rest of you doing this long weekend?

Candice

[morningstar55]

Wow what a awsome lunch and visit with 2 awsome guys . Simpleasdirt nd the ever fabulous Dutch Leonard . A very smiling girl here..
Now bk to work i go.
And good morning loft dwellers nd peekers
Have a awsome day.

[spiritfemme7]

This is really cool that there is a thread for us forty and fifty somethings! i'm 45 and holding! lol! it's not so bad being in the forty something group, even though sometimes i feel like i've been through the war! but i did enjoy my first time skydiving recently! so that makes up for a lot of the bad and sad times in life! so where are the hot single butches in their forties on here? lol! :sunglass:

[ruthie14]

Dance was fun... however on the way to the dance I was at a red light that had just turned green and the car in front of me backed into me.... hard. I pulled over, they took off....ofcourse! Thank goodness I have an honest mechanic who will do the work for 500 that everywhere else would charge me over 1000. Oye On a better note, with the meds change and less lifting at work, I have been almost heachache free for 8 days. I usually get several a day in addition to the migraines so this is a HUGE and WONDERFUL change!!! Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have a great friday and a wonderful weekend! :blueheels:

Ruthie

[ruthie14]

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[morningstar55]

Morning lofty dwellers nd peekers
Its a awsome Sunday morning here near DC .....
IN a little bit here, Will b visitng with ...... chef Jo ( aka chef jo) who Will b whipping upta awsome breakfast...
On another note......... y is ths thread so dead???
Hope everyone is having a awsome weekend
:):rrose:

[ruthie14]

Morning lofters... or should i just say Morning Morning star..... I know what you mean! Where is everyone???

Have a great breakfast with Chef Jo! Pictures please, I have high expectations! lolol

Going on a date today.... lunch then swimming or swimming then dinner... Always a lot of fun with her... too bad she has a commitment issue right now. Oh well, I always seem to find the ones that are out of long term relationships before they are ready for another one. I thought this one would be different... she has been out of that relationship for a while. Oh well, the heart mends when it mends. Gonna have fun while its fun...but after a while.. it starts to affect my self worth. That's when I will have to give it a break. I know I shouldn't let it... but somehow it does. *shrug*

Ruthie

[KayCee]

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[ruthie14]

While date was fun, she was definately pulling away. There was affection, but not as much as before. No making out etc. I know she is dating other people, and one other in particular. We have both been very honest with each other. I will not have sex outside of a relationship, she doesn't want a relationship..but does want sex. She has respected my boundaries and I respect her honesty. However, after today, I think she is leaning towards the other woman. We were seeing each other every other weekend (she has kids). Now she is going away on the weekend we usually see each other and the next time I see her will be at a women's event where we will be in the same cabin for a weekend with a number of other women. I know she is having sex with this other woman... fine. My head knows, and I told her, that she needs to figure this out for herself. She no longer wants to be monogamous because of past hurts. I want her to figure this out, I don't mind that she is doing this.It is something she feels she needs to do for a while and figure out what she wants. What bothers me is that she seems to be pulling away from me. She still seems to like me, played with my hair, kissed me sweetly several times, took me swimming and then out to dinner. But I am getting the feeling that she is wanting to go backwards... more of a friendship. I think I need some time away from her to figure out what I want to do. It's starting to hurt, and I don't like that.

[lusciouskiwi]

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

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[KayCee]

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

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This is so sad. I esp. liked the words: 'In this world we can't worry about what others think...'

Thank you for posting this.

[ruthie14]

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[OS Butch]

Good morning Ruthie:) I don't get here very often, but thought I would pop in before I head to work.

Have a great day!

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[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day. :)

[OS Butch]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day. :)

Ummm and ask me if it is ok to post pictures of me:)....Just how many pictures did you take? I only saw the one!

[*Anya*]

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

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Just what I needed.(w)

[LadyRieinAL]

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

[ruthie14]

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

I have had the same thoughts recently in regards to this butch I've been dating (see recent posts). She wants to have sex while dating various people... I wish I could. I think she is hot, she is smart, caring, affectionate. I just can't wrap my head around it and i know from past experience...once we cross that bridge, not matter how hard I try, i will expect more. It will ruin what we do have. Ohhhh but I do wish I could... just enjoy myself. I have the same problem the the ldr too. I won't do that anymore, but that is who I seem to connect with. I live in Jersey and currently am quite attracted to a woman in Cali... sigh. I won't have a ldr with her.. won't move.. sooooooooo it's flirty texts and leaving it at that. .. I feel ya!!

[morningstar55]

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission :)

[ferret]

Thought I could at least poke my head in and say hello. Sad that vacation has come to an end, and that I have to deal with some things I'd rather keep at a distance. Anyway, hope you all are enjoying your weekend.

Sue

[ruthie14]

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission :)

Feel better morningstar!!!!

I am feeling down tonight... my body is stopping me from doing things that I want to do. Keeping me from spending time with my friends. I don't usually whine about it... but 2 days in a row is a bit much.

oh well

Gotta find something else to do with my day tomorrow... WILL NOT stay home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[morningstar55]

Feel better morningstar!!!!

I am feeling down tonight... my body is stopping me from doing things that I want to do. Keeping me from spending time with my friends. I don't usually whine about it... but 2 days in a row is a bit much.

oh well

Gotta find something else to do with my day tomorrow... WILL NOT stay home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

....understandable.....

[OS Butch]

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission :)

LOL! Ok, and it would be okay as long as you ask:) I hope you are feeling better.

[OS Butch]

Dear LadyRieinAL and Ruthie, I do have a bunch to say on your posts, I am in the same boat( since I am the butch, I will row, if you all don't mind;) )

Unfortunately, it is late and I need to think clearly.

But for now, changing the core you and your beliefs in my opinion, may not be the answer.

Jo

[ruthie14]

Dear LadyRieinAL and Ruthie, I do have a bunch to say on your posts, I am in the same boat( since I am the butch, I will row, if you all don't mind;) )

Unfortunately, it is late and I need to think clearly.

But for now, changing the core you and your beliefs in my opinion, may not be the answer.

Jo

Ya, I agree with you. I won't change my core values or what I believe is right for me.... took me a long time to figure myself out and I am not gonna change for ANYONE!! However, sometimes I just wish I could be that way. It would make some things in my life easier.

Have a great Sunday all!

Ruthie

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers and peekers
another day at the office
headng 2 ..... Toledo....
Catch yal on the flip side ... :)

[Glenn]

Good Mornin Folks and All; Been a peepin for years, but then again, I'm a psychological antique:blink:It's always nice to see the ladies up and at em in here. School started in town today. Seems a bit early. It's the coolest August I've ever seen here. Makes me wonder what winter will be like. Well, that's all for now. Take care of yourselves Folks.

[fever]

It sure starts early in the US of A. My little grandson is all excited about grade 3. It has been frightfully hot here in B.C., Glenn, so a little cooler weather would be very nice. The blackberries are now ripe, so that is on my list of todos. I need to get picking and freezing.

I sure don't like that little "Canadian" emicon thing. We don't talk like that. lol:canadian:

Have a super week everyone.

Candice

[morningstar55]

Howdy Glenn nd fever... :)
I have landed in ah .. Byrcus,ohiya..... and pkng up a load here in the morning and headng down to Princeton,Ind.....

[ruthie14]

A friend of mine had to put her 17 year old pit mix down today. I am so sad.... her dog Kelsey and I spent a LOT of time together over the last couple years. Her mommy had to go away for work a lot so she would often spend 3 to 4 days a week at my house. Sometimes a couple of weeks. It breaks my heart. Run swiftly over the rainbow bridge my friend!

[LadyRieinAL]

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission :)

thanks morningstar - If I try to be someone other than me, could you give ma shake and tell me to snap out of it?!

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers and peekers
am hanging near Electrocell territory..... yeha.
dont hav a. Load yet which is fine i need 2 get sm paintings done.

Ruth sorry 4 the loss

[*Anya*]

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

I have had the same thoughts recently in regards to this butch I've been dating (see recent posts). She wants to have sex while dating various people... I wish I could. I think she is hot, she is smart, caring, affectionate. I just can't wrap my head around it and i know from past experience...once we cross that bridge, not matter how hard I try, i will expect more. It will ruin what we do have. Ohhhh but I do wish I could... just enjoy myself. I have the same problem the the ldr too. I won't do that anymore, but that is who I seem to connect with. I live in Jersey and currently am quite attracted to a woman in Cali... sigh. I won't have a ldr with her.. won't move.. sooooooooo it's flirty texts and leaving it at that. .. I feel ya!!

Hi all. I pop in once in a blue moon and this subject caught my eye. Good morning!

There is a thread on the Planet called something like poly and mono. I think the upshot is that you are either wired for poly or you are not.

I have never been able to have sex without deep feelings, on my way to being in love. My wires don't work that way.

Do I think how much more simple my life would be? Yes and no. If it could be done in the right head space, yes. Me? I would not feel good about myself.

I do not judge others that can do it and a matter of fact, I have a little bit of envy because they can.

The age thing? Yes, that is hard for me. My ex-girlfriend was 10-years younger. Just this week I got an email on a lesbian dating site that I had not even looked at in almost 9-months, from a butch 15-years younger than I. That just seems too wide a gap. There has to be a limit, right?! I guess when the age category feels really creepy, that's too young! It is flattering though, I must admit!

We all have to stay true to ourselves and our personal values. Hard to do sometimes.

Have a good day all.

[morningstar55]

Need voters 4 my .... cocoa chips please

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[DMW]

We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube

[morningstar55]

We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6IIkpmw8Ow&feature=related)

we got tonight????
heyyy DMW Sir... hello and welcome to the loft..... :)

[morningstar55]

Morning..loft dwellers nd peekers
. late last nite had a visit from a sort of sparkly Mr Leonard... lol ...
Also had a dream I wad at a hospital.. and a doc was telling me minister was doing better and i could hear her talking..but they had to do some test... everyone I was walking towards hr room , had to go around things that got only way and thru another room , I could hear her, then there was someone sleeping on the couch, thn my brother was sitting there and we had to go to my mom,s ... I wanted to call my mom , and tell Kath was ok and coming home soon .. but never could get hold of My mom....thn woke up.. sigh.
I miss my sister... :(
Anyways. Have a great day ... everyone

[DMW]

Mornin.
The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream.
I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.)
So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

[morningstar55]

Mornin.
The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream.
I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.)
So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

Ah Ty ((((Dmw))))))))
my 1 and only sis passed ....... next month will b 4 yrs.
Time flys ....... and its that time for me to fly. Headng down to Tm.
later gators

[ruthie14]

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[OS Butch]

I have been thinking a lot about a couple of posts here recently. It brought back an event in my life that I had forgotten. It was quite painful at the time and as I look back, I did grow and learn more about myself.

Someone mentioned about being wired, I totally agree. I found that I am not wired that way, poly. I am OFOS and I have to be true to MY own truths. I am not responsible for how anyone else moves and chooses to move in the world.

Years ago I was in a relationship with a Femme ( no one from this site) and we were living together for about 2 years. Now, I can only relate my story how it affected me, I am sure she sees it totally different and that is probably different to how it really happened.
One day she came home and we broke up, just like that it was over. I was devastated. There was someone else that had caught her eye and she wanted to go explore something intriguing with that new person. In order to keep from totally losing her, I offered her a poly/ mono option. The only rule was that she had to come home every night. Fortunately for me, she decided she could not abide by that rule, she wanted total freedom and I could not compromise that one.

This event taught me a very big lesson, I cannot change my inner me, how I am wired. Had she accepted my offer, I truly believe part of me would have died and I would no longer be me.
So, I am an OFOS Butch and I will not change/ I cannot change, even if it would make things easier. I will be true to my wiring.

Be true to yourselves, always, to however you are wired.

Jo

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers and geezers
(((((((( OSButch )))))))))))))

[OS Butch]

Morning loft dwellers and geezers
(((((((( OSButch )))))))))))))

Good morning MS. It was years ago, way before I was a member finding the dash site. Have a great day:)

[morningstar55]

Waking up. From having to camp out at a plastic company in the boonies.....and no coffee (
now hows can I eat my left over cold pizza for breakfast with no coffee??? :(

[OS Butch]

Waking up. From having to camp out at a plastic company in the boonies.....and no coffee (
now hows can I eat my left over cold pizza for breakfast with no coffee??? :(

What?! You don't have a coffee pot in your truck?! You definitely gonna get one! Have a great day and Be safe out there:)

[morningstar55]

No sir I dont ..... and even if I did , the inverter is not installed yet ... sigh ..... im doomd

[OS Butch]

No sir I dont ..... and even if I did , the inverter is not installed yet ... sigh ..... im doomd

Well, a small coffee pot wouldn't need a large inverter, you could use one of the inverters that plug into the lighter outlet. Btw, no "sir" needed, I am female/woman identified:)

[morningstar55]

Well, a small coffee pot wouldn't need a large inverter, you could use one of the inverters that plug into the lighter outlet. Btw, no "sir" needed, I am female/woman identified:)

Yes ms,am ......

[morningstar55]

Ok . Im still in Paris . . Tn, lol
Anyway a story about a dream I had this morning.... I was looking for a bathroom, couldn't find one.... I came to a room open,d the door , not a bathroom, but wow had to go so bad, so I went in .. found a plastic bag with looked like trash inside... well fine tried going in that, but Roberta ( the maid on 2 n half men kept opening the door and id shut it.... like 3 times I think... well thn she and another person came in and was looking for that bag, cuz it had pictures in it..... they noticed it and started to go thru it and wondering y it was wet, then I woke up........
And really had to go .... lol... one y do I have crazy dreams?

[LadyRieinAL]

:tea:Waking up. From having to camp out at a plastic company in the boonies.....and no coffee (
now hows can I eat my left over cold pizza for breakfast with no coffee??? :(

:tea: couldn't find any coffee - hope this helps!

[LadyRieinAL]

I've had four relationships - one was with my daughter's dad - met him when I was 15 and he was 21, we married when I turned 18 and we were together six years, my second partner was with a handsome butch and we were together for 22 years, third was a person who identified as trans and perferred female pronouns - would not transition because of the fear of being gay five years -they passed away and
my last partner had just started his physical transition when we first met.
I said to him, I'm not sure I can do this, but I care enough about you to try, and we were together almost 9 years.
Now, I'm single - and have been for a while - and I'm wanting to date
So, how DO you date? I mean JUST date? How do you date more than one person?
I've meet some amazing people on Butch femme Planet -I imagine going and meeting them, enjoying their company, finding out all about them -
and I know right now, for the first time in my life, I'm not ready for a steady relationship.
What does "just dating" looks like - I'd really like to know - at what point does it go from just hanging out to dating? And can you date more than one person at a time - and do butches or femmes have a harder time with this concept? or does it just depend on the person -

[WolfyOne]

I haven't posted in here in quite some time, but like others, a few posts caught my eye.

I once thought in my younger years that I could rewire myself to date more than one woman, so I tried and dated two. I failed miserably at it and wouldn't want to try again. I think those that can do it, good for them. I'm at an age where I would just like to settle down and live happily ever after.

After letting myself heal and cleaning out cobwebs these last few years, I almost deem myself relationship ready. The only thing holding me back at this point is finances and my rescues. Someone would have to be able to accept the fact that if I never find forever homes for some of these rescues, they'll stay with me. Also, it bothers me that since I left Chicago over 6 years ago, I can't seem to find FT work and struggle. I never want someone else to pay my way. Work defines a big part of who I am. Being a Sag, I spent my life restless, but as I get older, I realize I just want to make one last move and settle in there. Anyhow, I often wonder if once you've found that BIG love in your life and screwed it up, will I be able to love like that again. Keep in mind, for me, there is a difference between being in love and loving someone enough to live comfy with them. I do know I am taking my time getting to know whomever enters my life this next time around and have no idea if I'd even want to live in the same house as another or better off living alone and each having our own space when needed. So much to think about, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner?

[iamkeri1]

A butch friend of mine experienced a major change in her attitude toward many things in her life following the death of her partner two years ago. One change is she was always a top, and now she is taking great pleasure in giving AND receiving. The other is, prior to and including her relationship with her late partner, she would have descibed herself as a "u-haul lesbian." She moved quickly into relationships and suffered greatly both financially and emotionally when they ended, no matter who called it quits. She also is one who is "wired" for monogamy, but is experiencing it this time in a different way. Her partner lives far enough away (2 1/2 hours) that it is not practical to see her every day, but they spend most week ends together and talk and email frequerntly throughout the day. She is taking things slowly for the first time in her life, and she is both glad of this change in herself, and stressed by the fact that she and her new ladyfriend are not able to spend more time together. What is surprising to me about the whole thing is MY reaction to it.

I was married for 25 years to my deceased darling. I am very monogamous, though like some of you I have some regrets about that proclivity in myself. LOL. Since hubbies death I had one relationship that ended a few months ago. Following the u-haul pattern, we moved in together much too quickly. Anyway, I find my friend's relationship to be an interesting and wonderful way of relating. It is surprising to me because I tend to bond quickly with a partner... (I'm a scorpio - does that explain it?) and to long to be with them when they are away from me. Perhaps the busy-ness of my life, plus the certainty of the week-end time together alleviates that somewhat.

Who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks? Seems like many of us are LOOKING at things in a new way at least.

Hope Hurricane Isaac does not bring bad events in to any of your lives; we seem to have dodged the bullet here in Florida. But now that the storm is heading toward Louisiana, everyone I talk to says they wish it had worn itself out here in Florida where it was only a tropical storm, rather than go and ransack those people who still suffer so much as a result of Catalina seven years ago.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

A butch friend of mine experienced a major change in her attitude toward many things in her life following the death of her partner two years ago. One change is she was always a top, and now she is taking great pleasure in giving AND receiving. The other is, prior to an including her relationship with her late partner, she would have descibed herself as a "u-haul lesbian."She moved quickly into relationships and suffered greatly both financially and emotionally when they ended, no matter who called it quits. She also is on who is "wired" for monogamy, but is experiencing this time in a different way. Her partner lives far enough away (2 1/2 hours) that it is not practical to see her every day, but they spend most week ends together and talk and email frequerntly throughout the day. She is taking things slowly for the first time in her life, and she is both glad of this change in herself, and stressed by the fact that she and her new ladyfriend are not able to spend more time together. What is surprising to me about the whole thing is MY reaction to it.

I was married for 25 years to my deceased darling. I am very monogamous, though like some of you I have some regrets about that proclivity in myself. LOL. Since hubbies death I had one relationship that ended a few months ago. Following the u-haul pattern, we moved in together much too quickly. Anyway, I find my friends relationship to be an interesting and wonderful way of relating, and it is surprising to me because I tend to bond quickly with a partner... (I'm a scorpio - does that explain it?) and to long to be with them when they are away from me. Perhaps the busy-ness of my life, plus the certainty of the week-end time together alleviates that somewhat.

Who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks? Seems like many of us are LOOKING at things in a new way at least.

Hope Hurricane Isaac goes not bring bad events in to any of your lives; we seem to have dodged the bullet here in Florida. But now that the storm is heading toward Louisiana, everyone I talk to says they wish it had worn itself out here in Florida where it was only a tropical storm, rather than go and ransack those people who still suffer so much as a result of Catalina seven years ago.
Smooches,
Keri

[laruss]

Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner?

I spent many years doing what was best for my kids, my family, staying in relationships I shouldn't have and putting others needs before my own. And then I met someone who made me look at things differently. I wasn't completely true to myself, but was learning how to be. They taught me how to be, both with their life and their death.

I was widowed 2 years ago and spent the first year grieving and the next year really being happy about being single. I only started dating again this Summer. I am perfectly happy being single as long as I am not celibate and I don't need a relationship to take care of that so I was very happy in my single life.

However, recently that changed and I am beginning to think that being with another person who has the same life goals, who has the same desires who is connected to me in ways I didn't think were possible is something that I desire. Something that I believe is possible.

So, yes as I get older I am very comfortable alone, but I look forward to a life with the partner that I deserve.

[morningstar55]

Evening loft dwellers n peekers
Am all tucked in my sleepr bunk I need a bedtime story .... :)

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

I have been single for the past 4 years . I met a few ladies whom I share time with but nothing develop, I am alone but not lonely.

I often image how sweet it would be to enjoy my life with a partner. I recently reconnected with a lady whom I have a strong affection for and as we all dream, I dream it is what we both hope for.

As I get older I appreciate the simple things life more but it would be even nicer to share it with a special lady.

[iamkeri1]

That sounds wonderful Taino,
My best wishes for you and your lady, and your wished-for future together.
Smooches,
Keri

[Tommi]

Evening loft dwellers n peekers
Am all tucked in my sleepr bunk I need a bedtime story .... :)

Once upon a time there was this great big truck, driven by a star of the morning, that traveled allllll over the place. It parked long enough to catch some WiFi time and some shut eye. And when she awoke one day, her painting of a t-shirt was on display on BFPlanet in the Raffle Thread. She checked out the post, and said ,,,yep Tommi, that's right. :goodluck:

[morningstar55]

Once upon a time there was this great big truck, driven by a star of the morning, that traveled allllll over the place. It parked long enough to catch some WiFi time and some shut eye. And when she awoke one day, her painting of a t-shirt was on display on BFPlanet in the Raffle Thread. She checked out the post, and said ,,,yep Tommi, that's right. :goodluck:

Aww , lol Ty Tommy , umm I m just waking up.. :)
Morning loft dwellers and peekers
I want to respond to the other postings but have to wait till I can get on a computer... right now have to use my phone .sk

[*Anya*]

Good morning everyone. Some interesting posts in here. I like exploring issues and feelings in more depth.

Wolfy you asked if once you have that big love, does that mean you will never have one like it again? I am paraphrasing your question but that is the essence of it I believe, yes?

I think those of us that have reached "a certain age" have all had one big love. It might have been a healthy, positive good love or an unhealthy one. I believe that when you fall in love in your 20's, as I did with my 19-year relationship; one is still positive, optimistic and unscarred much by life or that love.

For me, I became less positive, less hopeful as the years went by and a bit of that open, trusting heart left and I became more self-protective. When I ended it, I took self-protection to the extreme and did not risk at all (ie, no dating at all for the next 10 years).

When I decided life was too short, came out of my shell and began to date again, it was difficult. I went on a few dates that had no chemistry but met some interesting people and learned that maybe it was not too
late for me.

I did fall madly in love, had a nearly 8-month relationship, which ended a month ago (not my choice) and I have spent some time grieving and healing. I know that I will not stay single again. Time is moving on for me and I do want to meet someone that will be there with me, through thick and thin, hard times as well as good; to spend the rest of my life with.

I love having a partner with a good brain, someone well-read and interesting and I love having frequent sex. I did not realize how much I liked it until I had it again! (Not to say I can't and don't take care of myself very well!)

The butch I mentioned earlier that is 15 years younger than I, sounds like fun for a casual, low-key date. She really wants to meet me so I just might do it. Why not? The age thing is a sticking point with me but I really never have butch dykes close to my age want to date me, it is usually younger ones. I can't figure that one out!

Wolfy, go for it. You never know which one will click for you and you might find a woman that is also a rescuer!

Hang in there everyone! Never give up, I still believe that there is someone for everyone but you have to take the bull by the horn and make a move. They don't knock on your door unless you hsve arranged a date ahead of time!

[morningstar55]

been going over the postings on the age and relationships topic...
im 57....
eveyone in my family have been on a long term relationship ... except me.. why?? what is my problem???
last time I gave my heart away and trust 200% .. i was soo soo content.happy , focusing on a home. a life with my other half ... well that got blown out of the water... some people just sometimes think the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence with no thoughts on how it may affect there partner i guess. *sigh* ....... that was the last time i gave my self to someone soo deeply. Im scared to go thru that again....
I tried having a couple more relationships after that but it has not been the same and it never will ....
im trying to get use to the idea of just dating now and then ... and dont get to serious with anyone anymore. at out age we are all set in our own ways ... although if i could just see someone steady ... would be nice.
I am a 1 person kinda girl... i am loyal , honest. down to earth , love life . can be a jokester.....
i was told by an X ... reason why i am alone is cause i only think of myself... hmmmm i dont get that.
all the friggin sacrafices i have made and still make... renting my bedroom out at home.. to a friend of my daughters cuz he was kickd out of his home ... when he came out to his family he was gay. driving the truck im hardly ever there anyways
whn i go home i sleep in the living room for now.. or my truck.
helping a lady out few yrs bk... that was homeless... living out of her car.
giving paintings away to friends and such... painting special post cards and sending them off... cuz i like giving out smiles.

id like to move... for 5 yrs now ... been planing on NC near Danville VA .. there i can get bk to messing with the horses and have thoughts of having a artist workshop biz as my retirement income...
i have a cousin whom is a professor in albany NY and helps write grant letters all the time...... soo this is going to take a lil time i guess...
mean while....... i will keep on trucking and doing my art when i can.
thats my story and im ahh sticking to it. hehe

:wine:

[Sun]

Hola everyone

Taking a short break at work thought I would stop by and say hi.

Need some coffee. Weird weather here today. Downpour
and now bright sunshine. Life on an Island. Go figure.

[~ocean]

rainning here too ~~ bright skys then down pours ~~ back to bright ~

[Countyfem]

Hello everyone, finally got my laptop re-imaged and now getting back into the swing of things! Is a beautiful day here in NC, feels like fall! Where in the world has this year gone to, my grandmother always said time flys by quicker the older one gets and she was so right.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!!

[morningstar55]

Yay .... leaving TN....headng to ... east liberty, ohiya.....

[morningstar55]

Ty electrocell 4 , letting me park at the Goode ranch.

[Electrocell]

Ty electrocell 4 , letting me park at the Goode ranch.

Take care of yourself out there.

[Scottish MacDaddy]

Hey All...wow what a day...It was my first day of school and I think it's gonna be an interesting semester. Challenging classes and favorite teachers, you can't get much better than that!!! Luck of the Irish keeps on trucking baby! :clover:

[lusciouskiwi]

Hey All...wow what a day...It was my first day of school and I think it's gonna be an interesting semester. Challenging classes and favorite teachers, you can't get much better than that!!! Luck of the Irish keeps on trucking baby! :clover:

Thought you were Scottish? :)

[morningstar55]

Arrived a shipper .... waiting to get truck loaded.
grabbed a small Hawaiin blizzard.... :)
Looks like am gonna b driving late, ....sigh... am not a night owl... hopefully will find someone to chat with via cell . .. help me stay awake.

Ty electrocell...
Ty for the repps everyone...

[morningstar55]

Sometimes I should not b allowed to listen to CW music....
makes me think to much.... then I get weepy moment's .

In other news .... pix in da gallery :).

[morningstar55]

Gloriana - (Kissed You) Good Night (Official Video) - YouTube

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Love this song and video is cute

[cinderella]

How sweet it was...and will be. ;)


I have been single for the past 4 years . I met a few ladies whom I share time with but nothing develop, I am alone but not lonely.

I often image how sweet it would be to enjoy my life with a partner. I recently reconnected with a lady whom I have a strong affection for and as we all dream, I dream it is what we both hope for.

As I get older I appreciate the simple things life more but it would be even nicer to share it with a special lady.

[Glenn]

Mornin Folks and All; How are you? I hope you are all well. There's a senior couple living on an old farm up the road a piece. I see them outside once a year or so, on my way to the store. I always slow down to see how they are doing. Yesterday I saw them, standing close together, holdin on to each other for dear life. Sort of pulled my little pecker string. That's all, and take care Folks.

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
drove all nite... hate that , it Ross's up my Morningstar ..... and morning ritual... heh.
Ty Mr. Leonard for trying to help me stay awake , ... BTW you snore... giggling......
Anyways walked around homedepot.. now thinking of making some guacamole , with unsalted chips and rotisserie chicken:)

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
drove all nite... hate that , it Ross's up my Morningstar ..... and morning ritual... heh.
Ty Mr. Leonard for trying to help me stay awake , ... BTW you snore... giggling......
Anyways walked around homedepot.. now thinking of making some guacamole , with unsalted chips and rotisserie chicken:)

OMG!! i hate doing this from my phone...... Ross's is suppose to be mess's... *sigh* the phone throws words in there when u think u put in the right words... GGRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[morningstar55]

has anyone seen this in the news???
http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5548

[WolfyOne]

FYI all, MS makes really good guacamole
This I remember from a party we both attended some years back
So, if she's ever traveling into your neck of the woods, invite her over asap :)

[morningstar55]

FYI all, MS makes really good guacamole
This I remember from a party we both attended some years back
So, if she's ever traveling into your neck of the woods, invite her over asap :)

Lol ....... wow Ty
u remember that? Haha

[morningstar55]

ok im able to get on the lap top tonight........ sooo wher'd everyone go too???

[OS Butch]

<Snipped>
What does "just dating" looks like - I'd really like to know - at what point does it go from just hanging out to dating? And can you date more than one person at a time - and do butches or femmes have a harder time with this concept? or does it just depend on the person -

This is a tough one. For me, I like going out, hang out with different folks.

I have found myself going for coffee and just socializing, only to discover that it was perceived as a date. Hence, I think there was a book written or maybe I read it some where that was something like " Is just coffee or is it a date?"

Over the years I have learned how I handle these situations. I will state just for coffee or dinner. I will do this kind of hanging out not exclusively with one Femme. It is a toss up as to whether or not it I go dutch on the bill. It is definitely not a date if we go dutch, in my book.

When it comes to dating....and it has been awhile since I have dated, I date monogamously. I will ask about dating exclusively because for me, it is I have found something in that Femme that is attractive to me and I want to tempt the fates as to whether or not this would be the beginning of a romantic match... at which point it would turn into courting.

To me, hanging out is just that, socializing one on one. Dating, to me, is the prelude to finding the happily ever after, the white picket fence, and I can only do that monogamously.

There are those that can date multiple people.... I am one that cannot. You have to decide which fits you best and be open in your communication as to what you want and what is acceptable for you.

As I have gotten older, my needs have changed. At one time I was very open to long distance relationships. That option is no longer one that I can do. So, no matter whom I may be crushing on, unless they are willing to move here, I will not entertain the possibilities of dating. I have circumstances in my life that I cannot move. So, once I do decide to enter in the dating scene, it will be local....which there seems to be very few Femmes in this large metro area!

[LipstickLola]

I suppose I'll jump in here, lol. Id like to know what dating looks like, or, more accurately what A DATE looks like :glasses:

In my most recent (ended) relationship I was introduced by a mutual friend and it progressed quickly from dating to a monogamous r/s. After that, it just felt like hanging out all the time.

Sigh.....I'd like to be courted for a while and actually go on dates, real dates. The kind where you dress nicely, care about how you smell and maybe your palms get a lil sweaty, yanno?

[ruthie14]

Happy Friday! TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[OS Butch]

Happy Friday! TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good morning and Happy Friday to you Ruthie. Have a great 3 day weekend:)

[morningstar55]

Happy Friday! TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Morning loft dwellers
and a gazillion ..... thanx to .. either... for all thm reppies .. lol
hope u and everyone have a awsome Friday.

[LipstickLola]

I hope everyone has a great weekend! I'm preparing for surgery and will have tons of "down time", sigh.....not sure how to do that, but I bet I can learn fast :blush:
This is the part of being a lofter that sucks.....grrrrrrr

[SaltyButch]

Lola I hope your surgery goes well....rest is sometimes a welcome change albeit hard to get used to....been there once for 4 months...did alot of reading..."s".....

[ferret]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who wonders what in the hell a date is. And it would definitely be nice to have someone to court. The last person I was interested in...Things went way too fast, and then crashed and burned in a big way. I think I'd like to go a little bit slower next time and actually get to know the person. No reason why there should be any rush, you know?

Sue

[morningstar55]

morning Loft dwellers and peekers
looks like its a off day for me ... and hangin around this Indianapolisssss town..
tomorrow morning... i pick up a load and head to Olive branch MIsssiSsspppiiii .. lol

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v484/jacksparrowmenintights/coffee.jpg

[WintergreenGem]

It's always been my view point that things that go quickly do not last. Those that take time to build last much longer. How much time is time enough is different for everyone. I know it's hard to wait, especially when the other person melts you, but remember it will all the more worth it. Just my opinion. Okay?

I'm glad I'm not the only one who wonders what in the hell a date is. And it would definitely be nice to have someone to court. The last person I was interested in...Things went way too fast, and then crashed and burned in a big way. I think I'd like to go a little bit slower next time and actually get to know the person. No reason why there should be any rush, you know?

Sue

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers n peekers
Hope you all r having a great weekend....
I have to drive ... all the way to Memphis area.....

Funny thing , I might not make it home to get some items, before its time make my way to little rock.. so electrocell suggestd just to wear some jeans to the event's :|
Ahhh ...... I dont think so.
May hit a mall or 2 in my travels... ha

Time roll here.

[Jaques]

Im a bit old fashioned, i like to do the asking out but if i were asked out and wasnt sure it was a date I would definately make sure I was clear on what basis it was - on the other hand if you went out with someone and didnt want to see them again, it would be quite handy to be able to say "hey, I didnt know it was a date, i thought we were just hanging out" I like options............lol!:cigar2:

[morningstar55]

wow what a long day.......... im pooped.
landed in .. west memphis ... and its been well... stormy sort of .

unwinding here....

just a note.. i am allowed passangers... but only room for 1 .. and have to be able to stay out a couple weeks or so.

[Glenn]

Good Mornin Folks;Ms morningstar; I hope you make it to the reunion ok and your wagon don't need fixin. My furbabies would worry themselves sick if Daddi did'nt come home for two weeks. Well that's all and take it easy Folks.

[morningstar55]

Good Mornin Folks;Ms morningstar; I hope you make it to the reunion ok and your wagon don't need fixin. My furbabies would worry themselves sick if Daddi did'nt come home for two weeks. Well that's all and take it easy Folks.

morning to u too Glenn and Loft dwellers and peekers
they would worry huh?? ......... ha ,.. k

my wagon is fine..... i just need to get a air filter..
hope i get to reunion ok too. :)

oh and the lil note on passanger thing..... a small dog is welcome'd on such road trips. :)

[morningstar55]

wondering why there seems to always be more guest peeking in here then members... like now...
4 guest and 1 member... me

[ruthie14]

Morning all

Been sick since friday... doing nothing but resting... well today doing laundry, have to do laundry... anyway... I need to get better for this weekend coming up!!! Urg... I hate being sick. I need to go to work tomorrow as well. Crossing my fingers and taking zicam!!

Time for a cuppa tea. :tea:

Have a fun Labor Day!
Ruthie