The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[anaisninja]

Anybody here in the Pacific Northwest?

[mythy]

Well wot a nice spot to come in an have a cuppa, hello all, very nice to meet you.

[TruTexan]

bumping the thread for singles in this group.

[pkrpower]

hello single femmes..... :)

[Christina]

Hello... so very quiet in here... is there another venue everyone goes to chat?

[C0LLETTE]

I've decided to stick my name into every singles, meet-up, howdy, thread on BFP..I mean, it can't hurt. Right? And if this weenie post has already got your heart racing, just send me a message here on BFP and I'll respond in kind.

[Christina]

Someone asked me in a private message… “Can I tie you up and punish you”… Allow me to expound on the fact that NOT all Leather Girls are into S/M… I am a Stone Femme who excels off of the energy I derive from a Stone Butch, the commanding presence, self-assurance that is brought to the dance that compliments, blends, encapsulates my submissive aura … my personal dynamic… so where I can fully appreciate a slow tantalizing encounter that may or may not border on the line of pain before pleasure… it is not my personal preference to be roped, racked, gagged, or beat… not that anything is wrong with any of the aforementioned if that is your pleasure… with that said… I wish everyone well in their dance no matter their desires…

[ruthie14]

Hello all, I hope you are having a great day!(f)

[Jet]

Hello all, I hope you are having a great day!(f)

Ruthie, nice to see you. Been a long time. It's rare that I'm in here and I'm not online often, but I wanted to say hello and wish you well.

[ruthie14]

Ruthie, nice to see you. Been a long time. It's rare that I'm in here and I'm not online often, but I wanted to say hello and wish you well.

Hi Jet!!! I've mostly been on facebook, but I am looking around here again. Miss some folks who aren't on facebook. I hope all is well with you!!(f)

[Jet]

Hi Jet!!! I've mostly been on facebook, but I am looking around here again. Miss some folks who aren't on facebook. I hope all is well with you!!(f)

You, too Ruthie. Take care, honey.

[deb0670]

It has been way too long since we have gathered here.* Comes in and sweeps away the cob webs and dusts all the furniture. Opens the windows and doors to let this ol' loft air out. Puts on a fresh pot of coffee and bakes some homemade peanut butter and oatmeal raisin cookies. Fluffs the pillows on the couches and chairs, then goes outside and waters the plants and flowers, and bring some fresh cut roses and irises and puts them in different vases throughout the place.
Takes one solitary white candle and placing it in a candle holder and lights it for our dear sister Cuddly on her Birthday*

[ruthie14]

Well, hiya Deb.... *sniffs roses, sets out tea and coffee, pours 2 cups, hands one to Deb* It has been a while. How are you doing? Would be nice to see some folks on this thread again.

Ruthie

[deb0670]

*takes cup and sips*hmm thank you Ruthie. I Am Doing well. Thanks. A lot has been happening in my life, but it is all good. How have you been?



Well, hiya Deb.... *sniffs roses, sets out tea and coffee, pours 2 cups, hands one to Deb* It has been a while. How are you doing? Would be nice to see some folks on this thread again.

Ruthie

[Chad]

Howdy Loft friends,

I hope that everyone is well and enjoying life. I am living the dream.

Chad

Is it nap time yet?

[Mel C.]

Chello lofters!

[ruthie14]

*takes cup and sips*hmm thank you Ruthie. I Am Doing well. Thanks. A lot has been happening in my life, but it is all good. How have you been?

Been a bit rough lately, but I'm hanging in there. I also got my Reiki 1 certification... THAT was exciting!

[WingsOnFire]

Been a bit rough lately, but I'm hanging in there. I also got my Reiki 1 certification... THAT was exciting!

(((((((Ruthie!!!!))))))))) I have missed you my friend...

[WingsOnFire]

Hope everyone is doing well tonight... I have a headache from the weather change... I am ready for it to go away. I havent been here in so long its great to see new and old friends...

[NYCcatFemme]

Stopping by to say hello -- I am new to the Planet -- I was BklynFem on bf.com SOOO many years ago ;-) I have been hanging out on fb, but wanted to connect on a LBGTQ space.

:paw::cat::paw::cat: NYC Cat rescue / foster Mom

Looking to connect, chat, and maybe even get a cat or two adopted :rrose:

Hope to connect soon!

[girlin2une]

Hey everyone!
I'm over 40 now! Guess I can add my two cents on this thread now! ;)

[Prudence]

It would be nice to have a place to land in the morning and catch up with the news while drinking a cup of coffee.... Most days I dont feel my age at all. Then I have to take a good look around me and go .."yea I remember being in that mess before." Im digging having a lil wisdom about some things now. My 17yrold thinks Im some sorta guru or something. I just remember being 17. That childs just like his mama.. And I rock.

[HoldMeSteady]

Just dropping in to say Hi.

*HI*

[lola]

Hi all!

I'm over 50 and new here! Looking to make some new friends!
Have a great day!

[TruTexan]

Hi all!

I'm over 50 and new here! Looking to make some new friends!
Have a great day!

Welcome to the site lola. There's also a thread for newbies to introduce yourselves. Feel free to post there as well so more know you are a newbie here. Hope you enjoy your time here.

[lola]

Thanks for the welcome, TruTexan! I will be sure and do that! :-)

[Annette]

Hi everyone! I'm over 50 and live in Toledo, Ohio. Looking to make some new friends.

[morningstar55]

afternooners strangers .. :)
its been a long long time.
its nice to see all of you here.
and wow a 2015 get together ?? i wish i could make it to that :(
im in the process of saving $$ for a trip to Dallas texas next april.... working on getting booked into the deep alum art fest. :) for next april.
........
in other news guess i have a lot of catching up to do :) heh

[Chad]

Hi Lofters!

I hope everyone is doing well. It is Friday night my favorite night of the week.
I hope that we have a good group of Lofter's at the Vegas PARTY!

See you there,
Chad

[Daisy Chain]

Helllooooo,,,,,,,??

Anyone still drop by here these days ?

I have chocolate ! :chocolate:

[TruTexan]

Hi Daisy Chain. I rarely ever come post here, and haven't seen much activity here either. Try the singles thread, they seem to post more actively there.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Hi Daisy Chain!

A threads only dead if no one posts...and here we are.

TruTexan, this is for all folks getting up there in age..lol...not a singles thread!

Soooo, anyone have a topic they want to throw out? Hot flashes, retirement here/near?

[Daisy Chain]

Hi Daisy Chain. I rarely ever come post here, and haven't seen much activity here either. Try the singles thread, they seem to post more actively there.

Thank you for the reply, hadnt thought of going there as I`m not on the market as it were !

[Daisy Chain]

Hi Daisy Chain!

A threads only dead if no one posts...and here we are.

TruTexan, this is for all folks getting up there in age..lol...not a singles thread!

Soooo, anyone have a topic they want to throw out? Hot flashes, retirement here/near?

Hello !! I notice a lot of the threads seem quiet other then the fun ones.

MMmmm hot flashes ! Here we call them flushes but either way they are hot and take some getting used to !

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

DC

[MsTinkerbelly]

Hello !! I notice a lot of the threads seem quiet other then the fun ones.

MMmmm hot flashes ! Here we call them flushes but either way they are hot and take some getting used to !

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

DC

It seems the threads eb and flow...we have some really thought provoking threads here, but it seems people get busy and just want to have fun most days.

I haven't been able to carry off a "hip" or "younger" look for most of my life...i was born an old soul, and that comes across in my fashion and other choices. I always wished i could carry off the trendy looks, but i only wound up feeling like a clown.:rainbowAfro:

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

[Mel C.]

I'm here for chocolate

[GeorgiaMa'am]

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !


I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial. ;)

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

Amen! Right on.

[MsTinkerbelly]

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial. ;)

When i hit around 45 i realized i didn't give a flyng fig what people thought of me anymore. I still won't leave the house without my hair fixed, and the small amount of make-up i wear every day. Oh and since i moved to the desert, moisterizer is my consant companion; But, those things make ME feel good and keep my confidence level up.

[EnchantedNightDweller]

I'm 46 and I feel old!!! Going shopping for a new dress tomorrow and I hope it makes me look younger and skinnier!

[Daisy Chain]

It seems the threads eb and flow...we have some really thought provoking threads here, but it seems people get busy and just want to have fun most days.

I haven't been able to carry off a "hip" or "younger" look for most of my life...i was born an old soul, and that comes across in my fashion and other choices. I always wished i could carry off the trendy looks, but i only wound up feeling like a clown.:rainbowAfro:

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

Yes I`ve had a few clown moments myself ! Thats a great philosophy, I should ask myself `does it make me feel fabulous?` more often.

I'm here for chocolate

I seem to have chocolate on the brain these days ! I always had a savory tooth but as I`ve gotten older I crave the sweet things !

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial. ;)

I`m 50 too. I dont think its superficial, I think what I wear makes a statement about myself to the world and I too care about what people draw from that. I feel more comfortable in myself now in many ways than ever before but when I buy new stuff and my eye is drawn to more trendy things, colours, patterns....thats when I hesitate. Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !

I'm 46 and I feel old!!! Going shopping for a new dress tomorrow and I hope it makes me look younger and skinnier!

Oh no dont feel old ! Enjoy those `still in my 40`s years` !! Good luck with your shopping.... Ask yourself the MsTinkerbelly question...does it make you feel fabulous?!......Keep us posted !

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. :flowers:

DC

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !


My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

[Gemme]

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

:eyebrow:
:1femme:

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.

[Mel C.]

Happy Birthday Gemme!!! You make 40's FABULOUS!!!

[Daisy Chain]

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

Yes I`m happy to have survived this far of course and my hair shouldn't matter but healing is about trying to get back to normal {maybe a `new` normal}...and short hair for me...well, isnt me.

I know some Femmes rock short hair and are sexy and sassy just as some butches are as butch as butch can be with long hair. But I saw my hair as part of my femininity, Femmeness. I wont feel like me again until it has a little length.....I miss it !!

[Daisy Chain]

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

:eyebrow:
:1femme:

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.
Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

[anotherbutch]

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.:pirate-steer:

Oh, and what is LBD?

[MsTinkerbelly]

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.:pirate-steer:

Oh, and what is LBD?

Little black dress ;)

[anotherbutch]

Little black dress ;)

oh..oh..oh.. good to know! thank you!

[Gemme]

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

I can't wear pencil skirts and feel comfortable, so you have me there. I love a good kitten heel.

:blueheels:

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !


You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.:pirate-steer:


I like it too - I'll sign up for that philosophy!

[Daisy Chain]

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

I bet you looked fantastic !! Such a stylish era....though as ya say, hardwork !

On the plus side my hair is coming back much thicker and better condition, gotta look on the bright side !

DC

[HoldMeSteady]

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

[GeorgiaMa'am]

. . . when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

I'm all in favor of corsets :D

[Daisy Chain]

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

Thank you for sharing.

I`m glad to hear you are healing,

I`m beginning to think part of the healing process is finding new `smaller` stuff to sweat other then the life and death stuff. Its hard to explain unless you`ve fought that kind of fight eh ? You have to get to know and love the new you.

Enjoy the days we are blessed to have is what I remind myself of....though I also allow myself the right to grieve my `before` life once in a while.

Stay strong and beautiful :rrose:

DC

[clay]

Daisy Chain & HoldMeSteady:
Thankful you both ARE still here.
Anyone worth their salt will not even see your battle scars...but the beautiful souls you are inside. That is my own humble opine!
Continue to light the world with your beautiful beings...you both have so much to enjoy and share......grab life....I love both your positive attitudes and forthrightness! Gentle hugs....clay

[Gemme]

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

As someone with a bevy of scars, in varying sizes and noticeability....it's only a story. How dramatic or romantic or silly or scary you make the story is up to you. It can be a conversation starter or you can use it to keep people away.

I don't know you very well, but I'm glad you made it through and are doing much better! Enjoy yourself!

Besides, you never know if a scar will develop sensitivity over time that can be fun or even useful at one of those play parties. ;)

[HoldMeSteady]

Thanks to Daisy Chain, GeorgiaMa'am, and Clay for the sweet support. It's so nice to read! Gemme, you are so right. I will try not to make my story one that keeps people away.

[morningstar55]

hey ya gang :) .. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

[Daisy Chain]

hey ya gang :) .. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

That sounds like you`ve been unfaithful to us !!

Daisy :bouquet:

[MysticOceansFL]

Welcome to all the folks who have aged gracefully!

[HoldMeSteady]

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

[Daisy Chain]

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

Ha Ha I`m hanging in there too honey ! Though its very quite around here.

Daisy :bouquet:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

Hey everyone ...long time no see

[Virago]

Since the name of this group is 40's, 50's and over, I thought I should try to jump in now. 2 years 3 months before I'm an 'over'. I've actually started to celebrate that in my mind about 2 years ago!!

Now, if my back and knees would celebrate with my mind it would be perfect! lol

[MsTinkerbelly]

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

I had a triple bypass in 2007...the scar is so faded now that unless I see it in a picture or it itches, i never notice it. But, until it faded, it was the first thing people saw when they looked at me.

If the site has healed, they have great body make-up that covers scars for times you don't want to be stared at. ;)

[Daisy Chain]

I`m giving this thread a little bump...

Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far.......

I`m ending my Saturday with :eatinghersheybar: and :tea:

Daisy :bouquet:

[FieryRedhead]

Hi everyone,

New here to BFP and enjoying meeting and reading. I don't know many people where I live being new to the area so I am hoping to find like minded women here. This looks like a great place to do that!

[Mel C.]

Hi everyone,

New here to BFP and enjoying meeting and reading. I don't know many people where I live being new to the area so I am hoping to find like minded women here. This looks like a great place to do that!

Welcome!!!

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Hi everyone,

New here to BFP and enjoying meeting and reading. I don't know many people where I live being new to the area so I am hoping to find like minded women here. This looks like a great place to do that!

Hi there! .

[Gemme]

Hi and welcome.

[Chad]

Hi Loft friends,

How is everyone?
I have another birthday coming up and the years just keep flying by.

Chad

[Chad]

Hi Loft friends,

I hope that everyone has a happy Sunday. I am working on getting out more. I have plans with buddy's next weekend and in the coming months. I have read on this site about "meet up" groups and I am going to check that out. I am trying to find balance between a hectic work schedule and social life.

Any thoughts?

Chad

[Mel C.]

Hi Loft friends,

I hope that everyone has a happy Sunday. I am working on getting out more. I have plans with buddy's next weekend and in the coming months. I have read on this site about "meet up" groups and I am going to check that out. I am trying to find balance between a hectic work schedule and social life.

Any thoughts?

Chad

Getting out more is a great goal. I lack interest in socializing, but wish I spent more time fostering relationships with friends....go figure.

Meet-ups can be good. I have met a few people that I like through events. :goodluck:

[Chad]

Thanks Mel C, meet ups would be more comfortable if I had a wingman. :)

Getting out more is a great goal. I lack interest in socializing, but wish I spent more time fostering relationships with friends....go figure.

Meet-ups can be good. I have met a few people that I like through events. :goodluck:

[Mel C.]

Thanks Mel C, meet ups would be more comfortable if I had a wingman. :)

LOL. I know what you mean. We can go to a meet-up when you and the Salty one come visit. I know you meant a meet-up near you, but we all have to start somewhere.

[Chad]

California girls! :)
LOL. I know what you mean. We can go to a meet-up when you and the Salty one come visit. I know you meant a meet-up near you, but we all have to start somewhere.

[RumorHasIt]

Hi. Just joined yesterday and still trying to figure out how to use the site.
Since I'm over 50, thought I'd stop in here and say hello!!

[Gemme]

Hi. Just joined yesterday and still trying to figure out how to use the site.
Since I'm over 50, thought I'd stop in here and say hello!!

Welcome to the site.

[Chad]

I am curious about how things will go from here, single and over 50. How do I date at my age?

[morningstar55]

good morning BFP dwellers .....
ltns
FB sure knows how to occupy your time lol lol
Im still alive and staying warm here in buffalo land.
tending to a local art gallery / pride shop 4 days a week.
im enclosing a couple links for everyone .....
1st .. "Stone Butch Blues"
free copy full story ... an awesome read for anyone. :)
http://www.lesliefeinberg.net

also the link to where i work 4 days a week
http://mybuffalopride.com

I host a breakfast club for the morning crowd
we go to local owned places only
a lot of events are always geared for afternoon/ evenings .....
Im a morning person and i know there are others out there.
Im allowed to get things delivered there. lol
I'm open 1 to 8
Thursday thru Fri.
1 to 7pm
Sat, n Sundays :)
anyways
who has been baking cookies??? I'm up to 4 batch's lol

[GeorgiaMa'am]

who has been baking cookies??? I'm up to 4 batch's lol


I've only made one batch so far, but I've got the sugar cookie dough made, in the refrigerator and ready to go for the next batch. Someone gave me a fresh bag of pecans yesterday, so I'm definitely going to make some pecan shortbread too.

You're way ahead of me!

[trixie]

*peeking in*

I have cookies I need to bake as well. I think I'm too lazy to do it until after Christmas when I'm off for a week.

I need to set up a space to do my yoga before I worry about the baking & eating cookies though. I still have a cute dress I want to fit into by spring!

[Wrang1er]

I'd be happy to volunteer to be a cookie taste tester if any of you need it.

[TruTexan]

I'd be happy to volunteer to be a cookie taste tester if any of you need it.

Right! I hear UPS is delivering fast these days! :)

[Chad]

Hi Loft friends,

I hope that everyone is having a happy holiday season. I am on vacation at home mostly. I can finally work on my own honey due list and it is a very long list.

How is everyone's week going?
Chad

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Hi Loft friends,

I hope that everyone is having a happy holiday season. I am on vacation at home mostly. I can finally work on my own honey due list and it is a very long list.

How is everyone's week going?
Chad

My holiday season is mostly happy so far, but I am getting frustrated with other people's schedules. My schedule is pretty full, so when other people change something I'm like :| . Also, as other people get frustrated and express their opinions, I am trying to hold back on my retorts. But you know, "He knows if you've been bad or good," so I will calm myself and not add to the fray!

[Chad]

Thank you GeorgiaMa'am,

I hope that you stay happy and don't let the negativity get to you.

Chad

My holiday season is mostly happy so far, but I am getting frustrated with other people's schedules. My schedule is pretty full, so when other people change something I'm like :| . Also, as other people get frustrated and express their opinions, I am trying to hold back on my retorts. But you know, "He knows if you've been bad or good," so I will calm myself and not add to the fray!

[morningstar55]

MERRY CHRISTMAS ..... to all my Internet :)
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[Shystonefem]

Think of all the fun I missed. Think of all the butches that I haven't kisses. Santa Baby hurry down the chimney tonight. ..

[morningstar55]

MERRY CHRISTMAS ..... to all my BFP friends :)
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haha sorry .... i had to correct the sentence .. and it was already past the time for editing

[Mel C.]

Happy holidays Lofters

[Gayandgray]

So is anybody still around these parts?

[Chad]

Hi gayandgray,

I am here. Welcome to this thread. How is life in your world?

Chad

So is anybody still around these parts?

[Gayandgray]

Hey there Chad, nice to meet you! Life right now is quite cold and full of snow. I'm anxiously awaiting Spring.......:koolaid:

[Chad]

Hello friend,
It is chilly here in Texas but no snow like in the northeast.

What are you up to this weekend?
I am sitting in my recliner under a kitty.

Chad

Hey there Chad, nice to meet you! Life right now is quite cold and full of snow. I'm anxiously awaiting Spring.......:koolaid:

[Gayandgray]

Just hanging out watching tv with my better half and our four dogs. I'm hoping to venture out tomorrow after shoveling some more. Have to go in town for dog food!

[Unattractive Older Femme]

Nice thread geared specifically to over 40s and 50s.

You know I have a friend from teenage years over and I was telling her that newly on my bucket list is that I think I may want to have one more relationship before I leave this 3 D world. Becoming more of a spiritualist though, I think I will let my spirit guides, angels, ascended masters, etc. choose the who, what, when and where if it is meant to be....just saying.

[TruTexan]

Well hello fellow lofters. I'm just over 50 at 52 yrs young. woohooo, on a downhill run from here on out, but I won't be putting on running shoes. lmao Have a great weekend or what's left of it.

[Gayandgray]

Hello everyone! I agree, I like a place for the "older" crowd to gather. I will be 47 this June and my spouse will be 73 this week.:koolaid:

[morningstar55]

mawwwning loft dwellers
I have a FB group ..... for over 50, 60's etc..
calling it ..... Fine as wine .. some late 40 yr olds are allowed. Its a nice quiet group. no drama heh .......
anyways ..... i tell others on FB about BFP
so who al got hit with that snow storm???
Im in buffalo ..... we get snow like that all the time.

http://i625.photobucket.com/albums/tt340/honchess/COFFEE/FotoFlexer_Photo-7.jpg (http://media.photobucket.com/user/honchess/media/COFFEE/FotoFlexer_Photo-7.jpg.html)

[Gayandgray]

OH wow, I don't think I could deal with a lot of snow all the time! LOL!!!! I was born and raised in Pennsylvania so you would think I would be used to it, but I've been away so long I just don't like it now. I am heading back to work today after being on a 3 day snow weekend, and I'm really not feeling it! I rather enjoyed lounging about but I guess the bills won't get paid that way? Hope everyone enjoys their day!:koolaid:

[Gayandgray]

Greetings all! Just seeing if anyone is around.........:koolaid:

[FireSignFemme]

Just seeing if anyone is around...

Good Morning. Well at least it's morning here. Wow married 25 years that's a very long time. Some gay friends of mine celebrated their 50 year anniversary last Fall but unfortunately one of them passed away this year and though I’m trying I don’t really know what to say or do to help the other. Just be there I suppose, I mean five decades with another human being what could I know about that when so far as years are concerned I haven’t even been alive but 51.

Anyhow so you’re from PA, my sons have family/friends there - Pittsburgh area. I’ve only been there once. While it wasn’t especially hot I remember it being very humid, that and hilly. In parts the homes were built at such odd angles leaning into the steep. Seattle, where I once lived, has hills like that too but you don’t see homes built at a lean into them like that and wonder why there should be the need to do so in Pittsburgh?

So are you a Steelers fan? I’m not, not unless you count liking the Troy Polamalu hair shampoo commercial. We have a lot of family members here who are huge fans. I like it when they go back East because there they can get their fix far better than they ever could taking in any sports here. However then they come back and instantly begin feeling sorry for themselves what for missing soft pretzels, chipped ham, and sandwiches stuffed full of things like onion rings, hash browns – fries.

Though haven’t posted here before I usually do check this thread every day.

[meridiantoo]

Just checking in here as newcomer to the thread

[Chad]

Hi Lofter's,

Happy Friday night. I hope everyone has a great weekend.

Chad

[Morgan]

Good evening everyone...It has been over 2 years since I have shared on the Planet, but I am back and just wanted to say hi, what a great thread. I will be 55 years young this year.

[Gayandgray]

Hey all! FireSignFemme, nope I'm not much of a Steelers fan.:jester: My stepdad was. And he was a huge Phillies baseball fan. I always preferred the Pirates.

[morningstar55]

Ok ..... its voting time ...... yay .. I hate this part because i don't like begging for all this voting stuff.
BUT ...... i worked my butt off to make this and try and win . heh ..
PLEASE VOTE FOR MY DISH .. LETS KNOCK OUT THAT COMPETITION :)
IF THE LINK does not take you to mine....... type the name of the dish in the search window and it will take you there.
thank you so so much :)
Aunt Theresa's Pollo Estofado

http://www.foodnetwork.com/sponsored/sweepstakes/chopped-at-home-challenge/gallery.html

[FireSignFemme]

Ok ..... its voting time ...... yay .. I hate this part because i don't like begging for all this voting stuff.
BUT ...... i worked my butt off to make this and try and win . heh ..
PLEASE VOTE FOR MY DISH .. LETS KNOCK OUT THAT COMPETITION :)
IF THE LINK does not take you to mine....... type the name of the dish in the search window and it will take you there.
thank you so so much :)
Aunt Theresa's Pollo Estofado

http://www.foodnetwork.com/sponsored/sweepstakes/chopped-at-home-challenge/gallery.html

Link doesn't take me there and typing name of dish you gave into search field isn't working either.vThree attempts yesterday, four today. I couldn't even find your dish to see what it was, decide whether or not to vote for it.

[Zimmeh]

I have found that my priorities in life has changed since I turned 40, over two years ago. I don't take anyone's crap and I like living a quiet life. Looking forward to meeting other people who think like me.

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

[*Anya*]

Ok ..... its voting time ...... yay .. I hate this part because i don't like begging for all this voting stuff.
BUT ...... i worked my butt off to make this and try and win . heh ..
PLEASE VOTE FOR MY DISH .. LETS KNOCK OUT THAT COMPETITION :)
IF THE LINK does not take you to mine....... type the name of the dish in the search window and it will take you there.
thank you so so much :)
Aunt Theresa's Pollo Estofado

http://www.foodnetwork.com/sponsored/sweepstakes/chopped-at-home-challenge/gallery.html

Link doesn't take me there and typing name of dish you gave into search field isn't working either.vThree attempts yesterday, four today. I couldn't even find your dish to see what it was, decide whether or not to vote for it.

It works fine for me. Voted yesterday and today.

Best of luck!

[morningstar55]

ok ..... anyone ever watch Aunt Fee's cooking videos ??
OMG she is so hilarious .... i m not much on the F word ... BUT LOVE watching her ... lol
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[Teaandroses3]

Just wanted to say hi, and I'd love to chat with folks my age!

[Virago]

Just wanted to say hi, and I'd love to chat with folks my age!

Hi Tea! Welcome!

[Chad]

Happy Independence Day Lofter's,

I hope everyone has a happy day.

:usa:

[Electrocell]

Just wanted to say hi, and I'd love to chat with folks my age!

Welcome to BFP and enjoy.

[LOQUI]

Just wanted to say hi, and I'd love to chat with folks my age!


Bienvenida Ms Teaandroses! :byebye:

[TruTexan]

Hello Lofters. I Hope everyone is having a great day for the 4th of July.
I stayed home to just chill out. I will be watching fireworks from home on my tv. I hate crowds. Besides, its much quieter for someone that copes with ptsd.

[OS Butch]

Well, it has been a very long time since I popped in here. Just thought I would say hi and see how everyone is doing.
Next week I will be on my trek to Texas. I'll wave as I drive by!

[Mel C.]

It's good to see some activity in here. I thought the loft was a place to nap.

[Mel C.]

It's good to see some activity in here. I thought the loft was a place to nap.

In case anyone is near the Nashville area, a friend and I will be in Nashville October 6th - 10th, 2016. PM me or message here if you want to meet up!

[Rockinonahigh]

Lasts week I got my mobile scooter so I have been learning how to get around the house with it but there are a place or two I still bump walls and door frames I have problems with. My pups wanted a ride on it so we went for a ride around the house they enjoyed it. No trips out yet as James is still building the ramp. We got a carrier so I can go places but I am not to sure about the ramp yet to load the scooter on....one problem at the time grasshopper.

[Gayandgray]

Anybody around?

[homoe]

Ya, I'm here just sitting around and collecting dust!

[Lyte]

Just found a cozy spot out on porch... chillin.

[Mel C.]

I'm dusty too

[dykeumentary]

I just did a group singalong to Bruce Springsteen at the tavern down the street. Am I old??

[FireSignFemme]

Don't move, don't move... listening, listening... Yep I hear some creaking going on. But it might help you feel better to know - I had to put hearing aides in to amplify sound in order to notice it :)

[Gayandgray]

Good morning all!!

[Glenn]

Good Mornin back to you sis and all from Indy.

I just bought a high tech hearing aid from Germany that immediately shoots me back to a high alert, evolutionary platform of prehistoric existence. It makes the birds sound like pterodactyls, my cats roar like lions and tigers, my car sound like I'm in the Indy 500, and all my body sounds make me feel like I'm a caveman. :|

Good morning all!!

[Gemme]

Happy birthday, Mel!!!!

[cathexis]

Hi y'all, just found this thread as i was lurking around BFP. Glad to know that

us dinosaurs have our own place to be. Looks like there are a few of us over

50 crowd on here on BFP.

[Lyte]

Watching a History Channel special on Columbus. Didn't recall he was such a douch bag after his discovery.

[FireSignFemme]

Watching a History Channel special on Columbus. Didn't recall he was such a douch bag after his discovery.

A candidate for sainthood in the Catholic Church in 1866 -
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Columbus

Iberian Roots of the Transatlantic Slave Trade, 1440-1640 by David Wheat, assistant professor of Latin American and Caribbean History at Michigan State University -
https://www.gilderlehrman.org/history-by-era/origins-slavery/essays/iberian-roots-transatlantic-slave-trade-1440%E2%80%931640

[knight]

Watching a History Channel special on Columbus. Didn't recall he was such a douch bag after his discovery.

good day, one could also argue that a land with people was not discovered it was already inhabited.
enjoy your day

[Lyte]

One could. However, it was still a "discovery" for the Europeans.


good day, one could also argue that a land with people was not discovered it was already inhabited.
enjoy your day

[Lyte]

Thanks! I will check out those links.

The History Channel show has quite good, detailed, didn't candy-coat any of his behavior. I knew CC was a religious fanatic but didn't know he was a tyranny as well. It's been a few years since I heard anything about the subject. It's truly fascinating how history evolves.

A candidate for sainthood in the Catholic Church in 1866 -
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Columbus

Iberian Roots of the Transatlantic Slave Trade, 1440-1640 by David Wheat, assistant professor of Latin American and Caribbean History at Michigan State University -
https://www.gilderlehrman.org/history-by-era/origins-slavery/essays/iberian-roots-transatlantic-slave-trade-1440%E2%80%931640

[introverted1]

I just did a group singalong to Bruce Springsteen at the tavern down the street. Am I old??

"Baby, tie your hair back in a long, white bow...
meet me out in the field behind the dynamo..."

Brings me right back to my senior year art class, with the radio playing on the window sill...yes, I guess we are old. : )

[Mel C.]

So, where are all the Lofters hiding?

[Chad]

So, where are all the Lofters hiding?

I am here buddy, let's find some femme's to dance with.


:cowboy:

[Mel C.]

I am here buddy, let's find some femme's to dance with.


:cowboy:

You and Salty need to visit San Diego again.

[cinnamongrrl]

Howdy y'all. :) I failed to notice this thread til now!

Hope everyone is having a gorgeous fall :)

[Mel C.]

Howdy y'all. :) I failed to notice this thread til now!

Hope everyone is having a gorgeous fall :)

Welcome cinnamon!

[easygoingfemme]

Hi! I remember seeing this thread when I joined the planet but I wasn't old enough to join. Now I am (with a little spare change). Cheers!:wine:

[Mel C.]

Hi! I remember seeing this thread when I joined the planet but I wasn't old enough to join. Now I am (with a little spare change). Cheers!:wine:

Welcome whipper snapper

[easygoingfemme]

Welcome whipper snapper

Thank you!

[Lyte]

Fall is my favy. :)

Howdy y'all. :) I failed to notice this thread til now!

Hope everyone is having a gorgeous fall :)

[Chad]

You and Salty need to visit San Diego again.

That would make me very happy buddy.

[Chad]

What do other lofter's think about dying ones hair to hide the gray?

[Mel C.]

What do other lofter's think about dying ones hair to hide the gray?

I think it's about what makes you feel good. I think your hair looks good.

[Chad]

I think it's about what makes you feel good. I think your hair looks good.

Thank you buddy.

[Gemme]

Hello, all.

[Lyte]

I started getting grays in my 20s. Been coloring my hairs since I was in my 30s. Whatever makes you feel good. :)

What do other lofter's think about dying ones hair to hide the gray?

[Rockinonahigh]

Say, I've been wondering, surely I am not the only one who has had knee surgery hear. How have any of you dealt with the after effects ? At the moment dealing with a still tender scar plus the cold weather is not making me
a happy camper. Any comments are apresheated.

[Chad]

Say, I've been wondering, surely I am not the only one who has had knee surgery hear. How have any of you dealt with the after effects ? At the moment dealing with a still tender scar plus the cold weather is not making me
a happy camper. Any comments are apresheated.

Hi friend, I had total knee replacement two years ago. So far no weather related stuff but a big part of my calf is still numb. Please consult with your doctor if you are having issues.

[deeds]

I think I was 38 the last I sneaked into the loft at another time and another place. It's just not as fun to be here now that I'm actually 46 and qualified..But it's good too see others again..:)

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi friend, I had total knee replacement two years ago. So far no weather related stuff but a big part of my calf is still numb. Please consult with your doctor if you are having issues.

Hello and thanks for the reply. I have and app with the Doc next week to check things out but he was out of town this week. For the most part things are o.k. but I realized that this wasn't going to be a quick recovery or even be as easy to deal with. So far it has been near three months and I am just starting to drive short distances like the Doctors office grocery ect.. My back issues have come to play in my recovery but after a few sessions with pain car it seams to be working out bit by bit how ever slow it may be. I have one spot behind my knee to the inside of the left knee that has muscle cramps . Finely figuring out how to get in the family suv has become less and less of an issue, it is huge but with a few devices I am getting in and out of it fairly well. Only time will tell how it ends up, I am hoping to be back at the pool tables by the first of January so I'm crossing my fingers about that, hear is to hope. I told my Doctor he needs to re wright the booklet he has in the office that says most people are back to work in a month after surgery... no one should ever think that's a reality.

[clay]

Say, I've been wondering, surely I am not the only one who has had knee surgery hear. How have any of you dealt with the after effects ? At the moment dealing with a still tender scar plus the cold weather is not making me
a happy camper. Any comments are apresheated.

Hi Rock. I had my left knee done 2 years ago this past March..I have the Stryker prosthetic in it. I went on a trip to St Croix via San Juan Puerto Rico 7 weeks post op.

I don't have any "issues" with mine other than it IS a prosthetic joint, and as such, it does not/will not ever....bend like the natural knee. With that said, I was pain free the moment I woke up....and have been ever since.

The "cold" doesn't bother it, as it is a prosthetic joint. The scar will take a year or more to feel "normal again". Nerves are cut doing that surgery & is never a guarantee to not feel some numbness. The horrible pain being gone is well worth the benefits of having a total knee done.

Everyone is unique & different, so as such, each one heals a lot differently & rehabs differently.

Try to stay as upbeat as you can & focus on the positive aspects of "I will get better & play pool in January" mindset. It is a different recovery for a total joint as opposed to any other surgeries.

This is all my own experience & opinions...and in no way dismisses anyone else's journey...just offering advice & input you asked for.

BTW I still have the right one to get done BUT I want to finish my weight loss journey, as that is a very important aspect for total knees/hips, etc.

Good luck my friend..hang in there

[introverted1]

How did I miss this place? Happy Thanksgiving!

I'm fifty-five years old and happy to be here. I wouldn't change my age for anything!

[Sweet Bliss]

Happy Thanksgiving!!

:rrose:

[Chad]

Happy Thanksgiving Lofter's I hope you all have a good day.

[Rockinonahigh]

Happy Thanks Giving to every one, may you have a fantastic day.
This year I am doing something I never have done...I ordered out from our local mom and pop grocery. I know they can do a good job as I have eaten there lots of times when I did feel like cooking.

[Sweet Bliss]

How did I miss this place? Happy Thanksgiving!

I'm fifty-five years old and happy to be here. I wouldn't change my age for anything!



Welcome!!
:blueheels:

[Mel C.]

Welcome introverted!

Happy Thanksgiving lofters! I'm thankful for a website that lets me communicate with a diverse group of people. I've met great people on this site.

[Mel C.]

Wake up Lofters!

[Toolio]

hiya mel hope all is well in your world?

Toolie

[Stone-Butch]

Well all I can say is I have been white headed like my mother since I was about 32 so I took to dye till I turned 50 then stopped. To each their own but the ladies kind of like it LOL.
Like my aunt use to say "age is a number and I am not listed". I would like to second that.

[Mel C.]

hiya mel hope all is well in your world?

Toolie

I'm good Toolie, getting together with the family for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. How are things in your world?

[Gemme]

Happy holidays, Lofters!

[Blade]

Don't think I have ever posted in this thread, but thought I would before I age out LOL. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, or if you celebrate nothing this weekend, happy weekend.

[Blade]

Just a thought for those who do celebrate Christmas, or any holiday where there are gatherings of family and friends. How has your roll changed as you have aged say from a 20 yr old to now. I assume that as kids all we do is play and maybe help put ice in the glasses or something like that. So since you became an adult how has your roll in your holiday traditions changed?

[easygoingfemme]

Just a thought for those who do celebrate Christmas, or any holiday where there are gatherings of family and friends. How has your roll changed as you have aged say from a 20 yr old to now. I assume that as kids all we do is play and maybe help put ice in the glasses or something like that. So since you became an adult how has your roll in your holiday traditions changed?

That's a fun question!

I started hosting Christmas when I was about 30, after buying my first home. I didn't know at the time it would be a tradition to last, but it has. I cook a brunch and a massive dinner. For a while I had an open door- home for my family and friends who don't have family. But have downsized back to just my family, especially since my brother and his wife have started having children. ( I have a small house) My parents used to host, and they still like to, but don't want to do it on such a large scale so they host Christmas eve with a more simple meal and my daughter and I go over there for pre-party fun.

A tradition I miss from my younger years celebrating is cooking with my Grandmother. There were certain dishes I always made with her and, while I carry on the tradition of having those dishes, I sure do miss making them with her. However, I live in her house, well, it was her house, and every once in a while when I'm cooking one of her dishes, the light over the oven flickers on and off. It's wild.

[Blade]

As the stages of adult have changed my Christmas traditions have as well, as well as other holidays.

When I became stupid and got married Christmas drastically changed. From my little happy family to a month of going here and there and buying gifts for everyone on earth. Me of course being the events cooridinator, of where we go and what I take. Fixing dishes for 4 different events on my ex's side plus making sure the kids had something to open at each event. Then my family event as well. Finally freedom rang (divorce) and Christmas was at Mom's and I fixed a few of her favorites. About 8 yrs ago we started having Thanksgiving at LTB's house after she got married and started having little ones. I bring 3 items and let whoever wants them take them home so I don't have to eat on it all week.

I spent my early adult years making sure everyone was happy full and content and had all they wanted for Christmas. Now days I still buy for the kids but I'm more into doing things for those who are less fortunate than my family. I love having Christmas for 1 day.

I do miss being an unadult and spending Christmas Eve with my Dad's huge family and all of my 1st and 2nd cousins. My Aunt and Grandma fixed everything none of their adult children were ask to bring anything. Mom was talking about that the other day, saying looking back she felt guilty. I guess she doesn't understand, that is what they loved to do. Take care of and fix these huge meals for their family. Miss going to church Christmas Eve night as well. Was always very moving at the end, everyone carrying a lit candle and walking out to the live nativity scene.

[Toolio]

I'm good Toolie, getting together with the family for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. How are things in your world?


Glad to hear that Mel.I am fighting bad sinus infection and same crap with work.....we didn't get paid Friday which sucks. Other then that I am good

Happy Holidays



Tool

[Chad]

Hi Lofter's,

Does anyone have fun plans for New Year's Eve?

I don't have any plans yet but you never know. Ha!

:cowboy:

[JDeere]

I have a few more months till I can really post in here LOL

[Mel C.]

I don't expect to stay awake until midnight, but maybe I will be wild n crazy by setting my alarm so I can ring in the new year. Any excitement planned by Lofters?

[Blade]

NCAA bowl games is about all the excitement I can stand. Though I'd be game to try out some other types of excitement.

[easygoingfemme]

I'm dropping my daughter off to an all night party at 7 and then rushing home. I'm being courted by several books, all of whom want to be my hot date tonight. I wonder who it will end up being???

I don't like going out on New Years. Mostly I don't like crowds of drunk people and that's what it ends up being when I try it. I have a party with friends next weekend and it will be just us at a hotel so I don't mind that drunk crowd!

Happy New Year!

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm going to bed at my usual time and sleeping peacefully through the New Year. But first, I will probably find and watch a video of New Year's fireworks in Dubai, because they are always awesome. Hopefully I can sleep through the fireworks going on in my own neighborhood.

Happy New Year's, everybody!

[Chad]

Happy New Year Lofter's!

I hope everyone has a safe and happy night.

Chad

:danceparty:

[introverted1]

Happy New Year, lofters!

I worked this weekend, but had a peaceful day off today with my new feline, Miss Kitty.

I'm filled with trepidation for the coming next four years, but hopeful that everything will be okay.

[introverted1]

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[introverted1]

For the life of me, I can't figure out how to get photos posted here....

[Lyte]

If, you're trying to share a photo from a website...

You have to use the lil square icon that when you roll your curser over it says INSERT IMAGE http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif And then you have put the full internet web address where the photo is sitting.


So, like the entire web address for the INSERT IMAGE icon above is this...


http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif (http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif)


I hit the INSERT IMAGE icon... and then I cut/paste that entire line above.




If you're trying to share an image of your own, that's a different process. Tell me and I'll type those directions out. Happy to do so. :)


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[introverted1]

If, you're trying to share a photo from a website...

You have to use the lil square icon that when you roll your curser over it says INSERT IMAGE http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif And then you have put the full internet web address where the photo is sitting.


So, like the entire web address for the INSERT IMAGE icon above is this...


http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif (http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/images/editor/insertimage.gif)


I hit the INSERT IMAGE icon... and then I cut/paste that entire line above.




If you're trying to share an image of your own, that's a different process. Tell me and I'll type those directions out. Happy to do so. :)

Lyte, I'm trying to post an image from my own laptop. I would be happy for any advice that you can give me!

Grazie...

[Lyte]

I'm on my cell phone now so my view is a limites and I can't test the various buttons BUT... lol if I recall correctly, you have to place/host your pic up on the Web somewhere... and then post it like described before... as a link. There are a lot free picture hosting sites out there. I'd recommend the one I use but it's been a while and the name is at work! Back in the day the site.... Shutter... something was popular. I forget the name! Iol

Whatever picture host site you use, be sure to use a junk email address. The site will probably ask you for an email address to confirm your a real person!

I'll be back on my work PC tomorrow and will be happy to provide that link. Lemme know of you have any other questions! :)

[Lyte]

Hidey ho neighbors... :)

Here's the think link of the hosting website I've used...

https://postimage.org (https://postimage.org/)

[introverted1]

Hidey ho neighbors... :)

Here's the think link of the hosting website I've used...

https://postimage.org (https://postimage.org/)

Fantastic, thank you so much!

[Lyte]

Pleasure :)

Fantastic, thank you so much!

[Gayandgray]

Hello??? Anybody home? :seeingstars:

[girl_dee]

ememmemememeemeeeeeee

The loft was the room on Gay. com where i used to be sometimes... interesting that i am here again LOL

[Lyte]

I used to hang out on gay.com too! Waaay back one. Then something happened and it went all male. Such a bummer. :(

ememmemememeemeeeeeee

The loft was the room on Gay. com where i used to be sometimes... interesting that i am here again LOL

[Zimmeh]

"We are currently away from our desks, please leave chocolate god the femmes!" How are you doing?

Zimmeh

Hello??? Anybody home? :seeingstars:

[girl_dee]

I used to hang out on gay.com too! Waaay back one. Then something happened and it went all male. Such a bummer. :(

right??? they take over everything!

well maybe we chatted before, i wasn't there nearly as much as i am here but i was young and *busy* back then......

[Gayandgray]

Enjoying an iced coffee and chillaxing before my 3-11 work shift today. :hangloose: I think Spring is gonna roll right on into a hot Summer and I'm glad!:jester:

[Chad]

I always forget about this thread until it is on the front page.

Easter is this weekend and I will be participating. I think Easter was more important to my mom's generation and an excuse to get the family together. Seems like yet another chore to me.

I have now catoregized Easter and Christmas as children's holidays.

Looking forward to being a hermit in my old age.


:cowboy:

[Chad]

Hi Lofter's,

TGIF!

I hope that everyone is having a happy spring.
I will be on yard work duty this weekend.

I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend,
Chad

[girl_dee]

Happy Weekend!

i need to get out and do something but i am just not feeling it.

Downtown closes the streets and has music and vendors etc, every Friday night.

i rather stay home (can i say introvert???)

i guess that's what happens when you get older!

[Mel C.]

Happy Weekend!

i need to get out and do something but i am just not feeling it.

Downtown closes the streets and has music and vendors etc, every Friday night.

i rather stay home (can i say introvert???)

i guess that's what happens when you get older!

Go out and do something!

[girl_dee]

Go out and do something!

DONE!!.... :blush:

[Gemme]

DONE!!.... :blush:

If you can say, what did you do?

[girl_dee]

If you can say, what did you do?

i went to the weekly concert downtown, sat in a bar and was waiting on by a very nice bartender and had half a burger, coleslaw and a cold one, in honor of my Syr i had a *Devils Backbone*... :blush:

i also stopped and got two calming gemstones at the hairy fairy place that i love.

[Gemme]

i went to the weekly concert downtown, sat in a bar and was waiting on by a very nice bartender and had burger and a cold one, in honor of my Syr i had a *Devils Backbone*... :blush:

i also stopped and got two calming gemstones at the hairy fairy place that i love.

Sounds like a good time!

[easygoingfemme]

I had my book club tonight and it was a good one. We just finished Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler.

Tomorrow I plan, rain or shine, to go for a nice bike ride and I can't wait!

Happy Weekends to all!

[Chad]

I had my book club tonight and it was a good one. We just finished Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler.

Tomorrow I plan, rain or shine, to go for a nice bike ride and I can't wait!

Happy Weekends to all!

Have a great bike ride!
I wish that I could ride my bike but I have to mow instead.

[Gayandgray]

I'm off this weekend and going to take my spouse down to the beach. I push her wheelchair up and down the boardwalk and we window shop, sometimes buy something we see, eat, people watch, and usually end up getting ice cream. They have this crazy place with tons of weird flavors of ice cream, smoothies, shakes, etc. Last time we were there she got Sex on the beach flavor and I got Playdougj flavor!!! Sunday I have yard duty too, Chad!:jester::jester::jester:

[Chad]

I'm off this weekend and going to take my spouse down to the beach. I push her wheelchair up and down the boardwalk and we window shop, sometimes buy something we see, eat, people watch, and usually end up getting ice cream. They have this crazy place with tons of weird flavors of ice cream, smoothies, shakes, etc. Last time we were there she got Sex on the beach flavor and I got Playdougj flavor!!! Sunday I have yard duty too, Chad!:jester::jester::jester:

That sounds like a lovely day out for you and your spouse. I hope that you have good weather. Have a blast.

[easygoingfemme]

Have a great bike ride!
I wish that I could ride my bike but I have to mow instead.

I might mow later too but I'm pretty sure my lawn is mighty small compared to the ranch ...

[dark_crystal]

I had my book club tonight and it was a good one. We just finished Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler.

Tomorrow I plan, rain or shine, to go for a nice bike ride and I can't wait!

Happy Weekends to all!

it is a travesty that i haven't read that book- i am a big sci-fi nerd AND specialize in sci-fi lit crit reviews for Library Journal AND claim to be a feminist AND the Parable of the Sower is my favorite scripture :glasses:

[introverted1]

I'm off this weekend and going to take my spouse down to the beach. I push her wheelchair up and down the boardwalk and we window shop, sometimes buy something we see, eat, people watch, and usually end up getting ice cream. They have this crazy place with tons of weird flavors of ice cream, smoothies, shakes, etc. Last time we were there she got Sex on the beach flavor and I got Playdougj flavor!!! Sunday I have yard duty too, Chad!:jester::jester::jester:


I have been obsessed with the scent of play-doh since my earliest years, but the flavor is salty...what is the ice cream flavor like?

I love people watching, too...sounds like you and your spouse had a nice time. : )

[Gayandgray]

I have been obsessed with the scent of play-doh since my earliest years, but the flavor is salty...what is the ice cream flavor like?

I love people watching, too...sounds like you and your spouse had a nice time. : )

It's actually pretty sweet!

[introverted1]

It's actually pretty sweet!

I have to confess...I bought a small container of play-doh three weeks ago so I could sniff it again...:|

[Gayandgray]

I have to confess...I bought a small container of play-doh three weeks ago so I could sniff it again...:|

LOL!!!:jester::jester::jester:

[Gayandgray]

I have to confess...I bought a small container of play-doh three weeks ago so I could sniff it again...:|

LOL!!!:jester::jester:

[introverted1]

LOL!!!:jester::jester:

What can I say, Play-Doh was a big deal for me.

[JDeere]

Okay so I am 40 now, am I allowed to play with the big kids in here? LOL

[Chad]

Okay so I am 40 now, am I allowed to play with the big kids in here? LOL

Welcome to the Loft buddy.

[JDeere]

Welcome to the Loft buddy.

Thank you my friend!

[Gemme]

Okay so I am 40 now, am I allowed to play with the big kids in here? LOL

You can sit at the big kids' table too.

[JDeere]

You can sit at the big kids' table too.


Now that's a plus!

[TempestuousFemme]

The one thing that I've discovered in my 40s is my give a shit button went away lol

[JDeere]

The one thing that I've discovered in my 40s is my give a shit button went away lol

Mine is starting to fade away...

[hopelessromantic69]

You can sit at the big kids' table too.


Is there a bigger table for when I hit 50 in two years? ;)
It has a black table cloth huh? :P

[introverted1]

Gosh, not a lot going on here.

I'm missing my mom so bad, now that the two month mark is out. Her apartment is emptied, her mail is coming to my condo, and I'm just marking time, waiting for her last bills to trickle in.

Now, I have lots of time to think. And feel. Nothing to do but wait. The tying up loose ends of eighty-eight years of existence is my duty to her.

This has been my favorite quote since I was twenty years old, but it's really hitting home today.

"There are places in the heart that do not yet exist...and, so into them enters suffering, in order that they may have existence."

Leon Bloy

[Mel C.]

My condolences introverted.

[introverted1]

Thanks, everybody. I don't have anything to distract me any longer. That's the issue, I'm guessing. But, it's necessary to not have distractions, sometimes.

[Mel C.]

Thanks, everybody. I don't have anything to distract me any longer. That's the issue, I'm guessing. But, it's necessary to not have distractions, sometimes.

Try coming into chat. We can distract you.

[introverted1]

Try coming into chat. We can distract you.

Hey, maybe I'll try that tonight. Thanks, Mel.

[easygoingfemme]

I just popped in to chat and it was so very empty... there goes my distraction :(

[LaDivina]

I just popped in to chat and it was so very empty... there goes my distraction :(

It isn't empty now......

[Mel C.]

Hey, maybe I'll try that tonight. Thanks, Mel.

The best time to go is after 8PM Eastern.

[candy_coated_bitch]

*peeks in* I just turned 40 this year and have always wondered what goes on in here.

[Gemme]

*peeks in* I just turned 40 this year and have always wondered what goes on in here.

Well, first there's the virgin 40 year old sacrifices....

[Mel C.]

*peeks in* I just turned 40 this year and have always wondered what goes on in here.

We'll tell you but first you have to get rid of the photo bucket error message in your signature line.

[TempestuousFemme]

Gosh, not a lot going on here.

I'm missing my mom so bad, now that the two month mark is out. Her apartment is emptied, her mail is coming to my condo, and I'm just marking time, waiting for her last bills to trickle in.

Now, I have lots of time to think. And feel. Nothing to do but wait. The tying up loose ends of eighty-eight years of existence is my duty to her.

This has been my favorite quote since I was twenty years old, but it's really hitting home today.

"There are places in the heart that do not yet exist...and, so into them enters suffering, in order that they may have existence."

Leon Bloy

I totally understand where you're coming from. It's been 5 months since I lost my partner. Every bill, piece of mail, made me cry. I am also trying to make a new life for myself. I wasn't sure what to do with myself after she died. I spent so many years taking care of her. Losing someone you love is never easy. Hang in there, and be patient with yourself. If you ever need a friend I'm on KIK, just drop me a message there. :rrose:

[candy_coated_bitch]

We'll tell you but first you have to get rid of the photo bucket error message in your signature line.

LMAO! I'll get rid of it eventually. Maybe soon.

[candy_coated_bitch]

Well, first there's the virgin 40 year old sacrifices....

If I were at all virginal I might be nervous.

[Gemme]

If I were at all virginal I might be nervous.

Oh, you qualify. This is your first time being 40, no?

:pirate-steer:

[CowboyJ]

Just thought I would drop by and say hi to everyone, I have been gone for a very long time (parent stuff). So long I forgot my password :). I hope everyone is having a blessed and successful summer! Hope to be back more often to contribute :)))). :phonegab:

Ladies, lovely as ever :praying:

[Mel C.]

Just thought I would drop by and say hi to everyone, I have been gone for a very long time (parent stuff). So long I forgot my password :). I hope everyone is having a blessed and successful summer! Hope to be back more often to contribute :)))). :phonegab:

Ladies, lovely as ever :praying:

Welcome back!

[JDeere]

Hey Lofters! What's going on?

I see I miss things. But everyone have a good Friday!

[girl_dee]

Happy Friday the 13th!!!

[Gayandgray]

Happy Friday the 13th!!!

Oh wow I didn't even realize today is Friday the 13th!!!!!!!:jester::jester:

[Mel C.]

I graduated from being in my 40's to my 50's. Good thing I haven't aged out of the loft.

[girl_dee]

:police:I graduated from being in my 40's to my 50's. Good thing I haven't aged out of the loft.

The Loft was a chat room for the over 40's crowd on Gay . Com.

i was there as an illegal minor :) but they let me in anyway.

Next thing yaknow i will be aging out of the Loft!!

PS you totally do not look 50!

[C0LLETTE]

i am now 72. I do miss an environment which recognizes that 55 is not 70 and the slide after 70 is nothing like 60 - 70 .

You have no idea how tiresome it is to hear younger ppl ( even 60 year olds) going on abt age being just a number.

if you are one of those "plagued elders', come contact me directly and i will explain so many things to you....most of which never occurred to you till AARP sent you an email to join up.

Some of it:
There's the first moment when the kid at the grocery counter calls you Ma'am";

the moment when you realise you can't recognise a single song at a community gay dance;

the moment when you realise those 20-somethings on the dance floor might sleep with you, once ( Just to see what it's like or maybe cause they have a tiny social conscience screw loose. ).

Sooooo....Age gracefully my darlings; accept it and the wisdom it brings as it comes and only have sex with women older than you. You'll like it. They'll like it too.

And there are some amazing 80 y/o bodies out there, or so i'm told.