The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[Sachita]

greetings, everyone! i am new to this thread, will be turning 50 in May. while i do not mind getting older, i find myself getting enexpectedly lonely for company, specifically for that of a special butch in my life. i had thought to be perfectly content in the company of my room-mate (a lesbian friend, not B/f), my dog companions, and a newfound Elder Grandfather (not blood-related). lately i have found myself wishing for that someone who found me special, charming, pretty...who would send me good morning emails (for the relationship would probably have to start online,due to my relative geographical isolation), call me just because Hy wanted to hear my voice and knew i would want to hear Hys. Someone, who when we met, would have old-fashioned manners and treat me like a lady. i find myself missing the touch of Hym, even just the brief brush of my back as Hy pulls out my chair. the promise of more intimate contact in our eyes as we gaze at each other during our conversations, getting to know one another...
at this time in my life, i had thought to be concentrated on my inner studies, finding a Taoist or Buddhist community to join. i had not thought to missing...Hym. i had-or thought i had-relinquished romance to the first half of my life. now these feelings are coming unbidden back into my life. i didn't even want them. but here they are now, not to banished or fought against, but accepted. funny as i'm turning 50.
i realize that this is not much of an introduction. i will come back to this thread and do that at another time. thank you, whoever reads this, for joining me briefly in this surprising place of the heart in which i have found myself.
namaste,
DamselFly (though at 50, i really should be DameFly, LoL. i've always liked dragonflies and found the name of the female dragonfly to be lovely, hence my nick.) (w)


welcome and welcome to the threshold of the golden years. Sometimes those 50 numbers don't roll off the tongue so easy. I'm still trying to wrap my head around it all. For a good part of my life I've enjoyed being single and also enjoyed falling in love. I'm ok with being a lone but I find myself wanting a partner yet not settling for just anything.

I wish you much luck on your journey in finding that special connection. I wish it for us all.

[rustedrims]

Damselfly i cant think of 1 more word to add to your post..You said it so perfectly..That is where i am at over here..Ya know i have been changeing many things around my house..Took a second out of my day looked up blinked and here i am going to be 51 in may and 28 years at my job next week..!!!..:seeingstars:..I have had a few bad dates over the years that my friends hooked me up with..One had a wallet bigger than mine and teeth that could chew through a log..I say WHat !! are ya mad at me..???..Not to offend anyone but that is kinda how it was going..Gina told me about this site..I was in another B-F site but after the break up it wasnt comfortable to me anymore..I am looking for my femme and conducts herself in that way and i can take care of the other half of the relationship real well..Just got in here a few days ago and i think i am going to like it..Everything out here is straight,,even the trees..It is hard to meet people in the lifestyle where i live..Ya know it gets a little quiet over here..

Wishing everyone a good day..However i work at night so i need to get to bed but i wont..Probly put that light up in the kitchen that has been in the floor for almost 2 weeks..

[DamselFly]

Many thanks to all who have given me such a warm welcome! (And a special thanks to vabzee for your kind remark about my nick!) i had no idea i'd strike such a chord! i've always been attracted to older butches and realized that now I'M an older femme, though i do have an inner grrl who longs for a Daddy. i watch tv and now the newspeople look so young! so also do many of the tv shows. b/c of my vision problems, i don't watch much tv. shishiTao for the wonderful program offered by the Library of Congress that sends out books on tape and digital format for people with vision difficulties and/or physical disabilities! (if anyone wants more info on the program, PM me and i'll try to help you get hooked up w/the program in your state.)
i'll be dropping in to say hello and read posts as often as my eyes will allow! have a great rest of the week everyone! i wish good weather for everyone-supposed to get in the 70s here today!
DamselFly

[raising2alone]

Rock on PumaJ :)

[PumaJ]

....teeth that could chew through a log.

OMG! Rustedrims, I just about fell out of my chair laughing at the image that description brought to mind!

[DamselFly]

just dropping in to say good afternoon to everyone! i have posted this in a separate threaad elsewhere but will mention this here briefly. i am looking for a good place to live for the second half of my life. needed:
reasonably good accomodations for one on SSD and disabled; good public transportation; access to good healthcare; a gay, preferably b/f, community; and a Buddhist sangha. i'd prefer a big town or a small city. i don't want to be in the middle of no-where,as i am now, nor do i want to be lost in a big city. i have time to look but would like to have someone to show me around a bit. i live simply and only require a studio or one bedroom apt. oh, while i like to have four seasons, i'd also prefer a rather temperate climate, due my MS. thanks for any input!
have a great week!
namaste,
DamselFly:tea:

[rustedrims]

OH YEAH PumaJ..

She had a big bite going on..I excused myself from the fire and went over to chat with the dog..My friend came over and she said hey hummmm what do you think..??..Said a few things and walked away..She was in her late 40's lived with her mom and dad with no job and cant drive..Guess all she needed WAS a wallet bigger than mine..Not to put the girl down,,just not my type..

[DamselFly]

hello again. nice to read all the posts from E/everyone! DominNC, nice to see You again! *smile*
i just got back from the neuro-at 50, i seem to be making the round of dr.s*sigh*. he wants to order more tests and change my drugs-again. but this is one reason i came here, so i shouldn't complain, i suppose.
i'm notcut out for the solitary country life! if i were with a butch, perhaps this would be different. i'd have S/some to look forward to, etc, etc. i don't like the extreme isolation. i have no way to get to friends or the city AND no library at all within the entire county! i couldn't believe that! that is waaay too isolated for me. i need at least a bookmobile, lol! i might not be able to read much now but at least want to go somewhere where people DO read and i could maybe talk about books! is anyone besides me addicted to bookdust? i can't live without the stuff! take me to a bookstore and i'm giddy! sigh....to sit down in a comfy chair w/a book or newpaper (preferably alternative) and read and sip a cup of coffee or tea, with a friend who is also reading...nibana!
oh, well, enough! i'm lucky in that i do have a comfortable place to live, two dogs who love me, and my audio books from L.o.C. to listen to! so thank the Heavens for that!
not to mention this wonderful online community! thank Y/y'all for being here!
namaste,
DamselFly:moonstars:

[blueeyes226_l]

Hey, Hope all is well with you all. I haven't really done any posting for sometime. My Aunt is dieing of lung cancer. The tummer has almost filled the inside of her rt lung. No help for her. I have really been getting junk about me being gay. I know my depresson will pass. With my aunt she has never put me down for being gay. My mother is doing a darn good job of it. Any ways,I guess thats why I haven't posted. A nother thing is being alone. I mean I miss the companonship. Someone to talk to who is like me. Any ways,I hope all is well with all of you.
blueeyes226_l

[PumaJ]

Very sorry to read about your Aunt and her lung cancer. Hard to go through for everyone.

I can understand why you are feeling down in the dumps during this difficult time. Oy vey! So much stress! :sigh:Would be a very hard time for anyone regardless of any other mood issues. Sad that your mom is giving you grief about being gay. Not very nice of her, IMO.

Thank goodness you can come here and feel at home hanging out online with other gay women. You know that we all get it, I'm sure.

So, here's some hugs & flowers comin' at ya'!

:gimmehug::bouquet::gimmehug: :flowers: :gimmehug: :rrose: :gimmehug: :bunchflowers: :gimmehug: (f)

:aslpeacelove:

[rustedrims]

Hey blueeyes226..

sorry to hear about your aunt..we have all sat and stood at friends and familys bedsides..it is hard to watch when ya know you cant help them..

ok blue i have something to say about your mom..my little story and i will try not to make it to long but i got a point to make..

here it goes..i live in ohio and took my mom to indiana to visit family..guess it was getting to me alot cause i wanted to talk to mom about my lifestyle..i was thinking i could tell her in the car during the 4 hour drive..chickened out on the way there and was determined to tell her on the way back..well on the way back we were getting close to the ohio line and still didnt say anything..so told myself i am telling her when we cross the ohio line..ok crossed the line and a few miles i said mom i gotta tell ya something..she just looked at me and said ok..so i told her i was gay and she said I Know..WHAT.!!.Butch woman that looks every bit gay,,thought i was doing a good job of "hiding it"..what a relief..i asked her ,well then why didnt you tell me and she said i was waiting for you to come to me..we talked about things that i didnt realize was being said about me from people in church..fortunately nothing in a negative tone was said..all good things..people know me for my humor..i can make anyone laugh anytime and all the junk i am changing on my house NOT..!!!..Because i am gay..I am a nice person and i let that come through before being gay..

ok with that being said this is for your mom..
as i was talking to my mom about my lifestyle she said she was reading about gay people..guess she was trying to understand why i am like i am..in her readings she said the mother is the one who has "The Gean" [spelling] that determines if the kid is going to be gay or straight..i dont know where she read that from but she is a reader and found it somewhere..might mention it to your mom..maybe do a little reasearch to have something to back ya up..maybe someone in here knows a little about that stuff that can help..
a question i asked my mom....When you were born did you have some kind of form to fill out to choose the lifestyle you wanted to live..??..i told her that i didnt and if i did why would i pick being gay..???.!!!..being made fun of your whole life..maybe if you choose to ask her that question do it where other people can hear it so maybe she will leave you alone about it..dont do it in a mean way..just ask her like you ask could you please pass the mashed potatoes..look her in the eyes and wait for her answer..i asked my mom if she feels different towards me and she said No your my kid and i love you..this kind comes to mind to..a few years ago i had to put my dog to sleep because he got old and warn out..a few days later my mom asked me if i was going to get another dog..kinda threw me a little and i asked her if one of your kids dies are you going to get another kid..??.{there is 4 of us}..she kinda sat back made a mom face and said hummm..same thing..
Blue i am tellin ya when you get the "Gay Card" thrown at ya,ya gotta throw it right back..it takes the wind right out of their sail..i know some days are better than others and you will never stop it but you can slow it down a little..give yourself some time and get your thoughts together..dont pounce on your mom but let her know you are here and you are not going away..
sorry about the length..i get wound up when our lifestyle is questioned and attacked..maybe they are the wrong ones..said that to my mom to..hummm..
let me know how it goes if you question your mom about HER lifestyle..once again sorry about your aunt..my thoughts are with you..

Hey Damselfly..if you find a library some where and get into your reading stuff maybe you can do a little research for Blue..hope you are feeling better..

S..

[blueeyes226_l]

Hey blueeyes226..

sorry to hear about your aunt..we have all sat and stood at friends and familys bedsides..it is hard to watch when ya know you cant help them..

ok blue i have something to say about your mom..my little story and i will try not to make it to long but i got a point to make..

here it goes..i live in ohio and took my mom to indiana to visit family..guess it was getting to me alot cause i wanted to talk to mom about my lifestyle..i was thinking i could tell her in the car during the 4 hour drive..chickened out on the way there and was determined to tell her on the way back..well on the way back we were getting close to the ohio line and still didnt say anything..so told myself i am telling her when we cross the ohio line..ok crossed the line and a few miles i said mom i gotta tell ya something..she just looked at me and said ok..so i told her i was gay and she said I Know..WHAT.!!.Butch woman that looks every bit gay,,thought i was doing a good job of "hiding it"..what a relief..i asked her ,well then why didnt you tell me and she said i was waiting for you to come to me..we talked about things that i didnt realize was being said about me from people in church..fortunately nothing in a negative tone was said..all good things..people know me for my humor..i can make anyone laugh anytime and all the junk i am changing on my house NOT..!!!..Because i am gay..I am a nice person and i let that come through before being gay..

ok with that being said this is for your mom..
as i was talking to my mom about my lifestyle she said she was reading about gay people..guess she was trying to understand why i am like i am..in her readings she said the mother is the one who has "The Gean" [spelling] that determines if the kid is going to be gay or straight..i dont know where she read that from but she is a reader and found it somewhere..might mention it to your mom..maybe do a little reasearch to have something to back ya up..maybe someone in here knows a little about that stuff that can help..
a question i asked my mom....When you were born did you have some kind of form to fill out to choose the lifestyle you wanted to live..??..i told her that i didnt and if i did why would i pick being gay..???.!!!..being made fun of your whole life..maybe if you choose to ask her that question do it where other people can hear it so maybe she will leave you alone about it..dont do it in a mean way..just ask her like you ask could you please pass the mashed potatoes..look her in the eyes and wait for her answer..i asked my mom if she feels different towards me and she said No your my kid and i love you..this kind comes to mind to..a few years ago i had to put my dog to sleep because he got old and warn out..a few days later my mom asked me if i was going to get another dog..kinda threw me a little and i asked her if one of your kids dies are you going to get another kid..??.{there is 4 of us}..she kinda sat back made a mom face and said hummm..same thing..
Blue i am tellin ya when you get the "Gay Card" thrown at ya,ya gotta throw it right back..it takes the wind right out of their sail..i know some days are better than others and you will never stop it but you can slow it down a little..give yourself some time and get your thoughts together..dont pounce on your mom but let her know you are here and you are not going away..
sorry about the length..i get wound up when our lifestyle is questioned and attacked..maybe they are the wrong ones..said that to my mom to..hummm..
let me know how it goes if you question your mom about HER lifestyle..once again sorry about your aunt..my thoughts are with you..

Hey Damselfly..if you find a library some where and get into your reading stuff maybe you can do a little research for Blue..hope you are feeling better..

S..

My mothers health isn't good Thats one reson I moved in with her. My sister all she thinks of is going out of town with her drunk hubbie. I'm here at the house alot. My mother made her Will out and left my daughter some stuff and My sister had the nerve to ask me to go in with her so see My daughter didn't get any thing then she would give me something. I was apalled! I said 1. She is my daughter and 2. that is moms last wishes. No I will not. She blew up at my mom about it. Told her my daughter was a bi_ c_ and she will just sit on it and no one will get any thing. I told her she can't do that. Her replay was oh yes,I can I'm the boss over it. I told her there was 2 other names on it to and there would be 2 agance 1.To say the lest I was pis_ed what she did to mom. When ever Mom is around my sister she gets real snotty, snippy and trys to boss me. I hate that..... My sister is a pice of work to say the less... If my daughters name comes up my sister gets really mad...She has to have that god oh mighty doller. I can't really live Mom u know move away from here because,with her health we could find her gone. It's one heck of a mess here. Any ways Thanks for the hugs and flowers and advice. Hey if I may ask where in Ohio are you around? Where I live is about 2 1/2 hrs from Ohio state line.
Love u all...

[DamselFly]

{{{blueeyes}}} a big strong femme hug! you sound like you need it! you are really being put through the wringer w/family right now! is there any way you could move into your own place nearby? being put down day after day is definitely NOT good for your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physcial health. that will wear you down quickly! if you can't move, then i suggest you find a gay or gay friendly counselor. just having someone to talk to would help. is there a chapter of PFLAG near you? that would help you and perhaps even your mom with the gay bashing from your family. and remember, WE are always here for you! (if you want a femme to talk with, feel free to pm me.)
S (rustedrims), you are lucky with your mom and her reaction to your being butch/gay. a lot of mothers really have a difficult time with butch children, moreso than femmes. i suppose it's the masculine butch persona that scares them. i'm so glad that your mom accepts you and loves you just the way you are. that's a boon for any child, regardless of orientation! cheers for your mom!!!
i didn't have such luck with my birth mother. my dad was fine w/me being anything and anyone i wanted, as long as i was happy. when he died, heart attack at 55, the rest of the family threw me out. lock, stock, and barrel! i wasn't even invited to my dad's funeral! my mother and brother refused to talk to me, and my brother didn't even tell his family he HAD a sister. too bad-i would make one very cool aunt! they were in the hit zone of katrina, so now i have no family, even one who doesn't accept me! luckily, i've had several families who have adopted me, so i'm not alone anymore! that's how i came to be chinese, btw. i was adopted into a chinese kwoon (family), given a new name and everything! when i get enough money, i'm having my name changed to theirs!
well, enough from me right now! S, i haven't heard from you in awhile. fenshen (please) write me and let me know how you are doing!
and for all the lofters, qingduo guan zhao!
i'm glad to be here!
namaste,
DamselFly :tea:

[blueeyes226_l]

{{{blueeyes}}} a big strong femme hug! you sound like you need it! you are really being put through the wringer w/family right now! is there any way you could move into your own place nearby? being put down day after day is definitely NOT good for your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physcial health. that will wear you down quickly! if you can't move, then i suggest you find a gay or gay friendly counselor. just having someone to talk to would help. is there a chapter of PFLAG near you? that would help you and perhaps even your mom with the gay bashing from your family. and remember, WE are always here for you! (if you want a femme to talk with, feel free to pm me.)
S (rustedrims), you are lucky with your mom and her reaction to your being butch/gay. a lot of mothers really have a difficult time with butch children, moreso than femmes. i suppose it's the masculine butch persona that scares them. i'm so glad that your mom accepts you and loves you just the way you are. that's a boon for any child, regardless of orientation! cheers for your mom!!!
i didn't have such luck with my birth mother. my dad was fine w/me being anything and anyone i wanted, as long as i was happy. when he died, heart attack at 55, the rest of the family threw me out. lock, stock, and barrel! i wasn't even invited to my dad's funeral! my mother and brother refused to talk to me, and my brother didn't even tell his family he HAD a sister. too bad-i would make one very cool aunt! they were in the hit zone of katrina, so now i have no family, even one who doesn't accept me! luckily, i've had several families who have adopted me, so i'm not alone anymore! that's how i came to be chinese, btw. i was adopted into a chinese kwoon (family), given a new name and everything! when i get enough money, i'm having my name changed to theirs!
well, enough from me right now! S, i haven't heard from you in awhile. fenshen (please) write me and let me know how you are doing!
and for all the lofters, qingduo guan zhao!
i'm glad to be here!
namaste,
DamselFly :tea:

There is a PFLAGE 100 miles from me. I have a Lesbian mentore but,about 4 weeks ago she told me its wrong being with same sex person. said,someday she will talk to me about it. Her Aunt got to her with Religon. I am a Rev. but I do not belive her way. I always say to each there oun. Its even hard on us Rev's. I'm very lib about things.Her and her spouce are split big time. It blew me right out of the water. I couldn't belive it. I always looked up to her. No there is no way I can aford a place to rent. I'm still paying bills my ex "life time" partner ran up in my name and will not pay them. Hey,I will adopt you. I don't have any one,even my daughter only respects me because,i'm older then her but its very little. Any ways here on the frount lines of the war,
blueeyes226_l

[rustedrims]

Hey blueeyes..FREAKING CEDAR POINT..!!!!!.. {excuse me ladies}

I will be back later to chat..Gotta get some running around done then get a load of horse and cow p--p and take it to my brothers for the garden..Yeah i get to drive my busted rusted truck..if gas gets anymore expensive i am going to take my truck out in the woods and shoot it in the radiator and let it finish rusting..

Hey D didnt go anywhere..guess the email didnt work..

[PumaJ]

Hang in there blueeyes. We are rootin' for ya' :flowers::cheer:

[rustedrims]

Hey blueeyes..

feel kinda stupid..here i am blasting your mom and she is sick to..real sorry about that..i guess going out and getting drunk with the "hubby" is a more respecful life than being gay..i guess i dont have it so bad..the family i dont get along with i stay away from..that would be my evil sister and hateful angry father..neither one of them speak to me..i texed my evil sister and put some horrible things in there and i still dont feel bad about it..it was all the truth..the father is horrible to even to look at..i feel bad for you to Damselfly..

took some $$$ and a credit card to help pay for gas over to my mom so she can go to florida on thursday with her sister....the horrible father doesnt like to see my mom happy..my brother and nice sister gave her some spending money to..my aunts husband died in january and they have a house down there..guess they are going down to clean it up and probly sell..anybody need a place in Spring Hill..??..their other sister cant go because the guy she is dating waited to long to go to the doctor and now he has cancer..might only be around a few more months..gotta get things fixed when they dont work right..he didnt and now look where he is at..

hey blueeyes when i take my mom to indiana maybe we can meet at one of those exits..it will get ya out of the house for a little bit..i get off Chesterton Valpo exit..where are you at from there..??.might be a few months from now..let me know..

better get off here..waiting to get blasted with a storm and high winds..gotta get to bed..better sleep with my shoes on..

i hope everyone has a good day..

s..

[morningstar55]

alrighty ..... a lil humor here.... in you maybe a old fart thread.... lol
afternooners...... Loft dwellers and peekers.. :)

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2983

[blueeyes226_l]

Hey blueeyes..

feel kinda stupid..here i am blasting your mom and she is sick to..real sorry about that..i guess going out and getting drunk with the "hubby" is a more respecful life than being gay..i guess i dont have it so bad..the family i dont get along with i stay away from..that would be my evil sister and hateful angry father..neither one of them speak to me..i texed my evil sister and put some horrible things in there and i still dont feel bad about it..it was all the truth..the father is horrible to even to look at..i feel bad for you to Damselfly..

took some $$$ and a credit card to help pay for gas over to my mom so she can go to florida on thursday with her sister....the horrible father doesnt like to see my mom happy..my brother and nice sister gave her some spending money to..my aunts husband died in january and they have a house down there..guess they are going down to clean it up and probly sell..anybody need a place in Spring Hill..??..their other sister cant go because the guy she is dating waited to long to go to the doctor and now he has cancer..might only be around a few more months..gotta get things fixed when they dont work right..he didnt and now look where he is at..

hey blueeyes when i take my mom to indiana maybe we can meet at one of those exits..it will get ya out of the house for a little bit..i get off Chesterton Valpo exit..where are you at from there..??.might be a few months from now..let me know..

better get off here..waiting to get blasted with a storm and high winds..gotta get to bed..better sleep with my shoes on..

i hope everyone has a good day..

s.. Hey rustedrims,(f)

Its ok don't keep hiting your self in the head about what you said. I could end up finding my Mom gone to. I moved in to be here to help her and because,I lost every thing when,my "life time partner left. I have been paying her bills she ran up in my name. Time I pay all bills I don't have much left after my money from SSI and food was cut back.

[morningstar55]

There is a PFLAGE 100 miles from me. I have a Lesbian mentore but,about 4 weeks ago she told me its wrong being with same sex person. said,someday she will talk to me about it. Her Aunt got to her with Religon. I am a Rev. but I do not belive her way. I always say to each there oun. Its even hard on us Rev's. I'm very lib about things.Her and her spouce are split big time. It blew me right out of the water. I couldn't belive it. I always looked up to her. No there is no way I can aford a place to rent. I'm still paying bills my ex "life time" partner ran up in my name and will not pay them. Hey,I will adopt you. I don't have any one,even my daughter only respects me because,i'm older then her but its very little. Any ways here on the frount lines of the war,
blueeyes226_l

hey ya Blue.... sorry to see your going thru such hoopla over there....... hope ya'll have a lawyer to back u up with your mom's will ......... just a thought. :)

[blueeyes226_l]

hey ya Blue.... sorry to see your going thru such hoopla over there....... hope ya'll have a lawyer to back u up with your mom's will ......... just a thought. :)

My thing I don't know if I should talk to my daughters hubbie about my sister or not. I know my daughter has a lot on her with doing surgerys in the hospitals. Hey,with it being spring maybe I can make it up to your place or met 1/2 way when you have a day or 2 off work. I have a road finder but,don't know how to program places I want to go. LOL
Let me know.

[DamselFly]

zhaoshanghao (good morning), lofters! Blueeyes, i hope you are doing better!
can anyone recommend a good small city/big town for anyone, me specifically, who is on SSD and very low-income, now severely vision-impaired? i'd even not be amiss to living in one of those senior/disabled communities, as long i have access to public transportation, reasonable medical care, and some opportunities to volunteer. i am no longer very picky, just tired of being isolated and need to be around people! i'm going to take my time investigating where to move this time!
morning cha :tea:for everyone!
namaste,
DamselFly

[Sachita]

zhaoshanghao (good morning), lofters! Blueeyes, i hope you are doing better!
can anyone recommend a good small city/big town for anyone, me specifically, who is on SSD and very low-income, now severely vision-impaired? i'd even not be amiss to living in one of those senior/disabled communities, as long i have access to public transportation, reasonable medical care, and some opportunities to volunteer. i am no longer very picky, just tired of being isolated and need to be around people! i'm going to take my time investigating where to move this time!
morning cha :tea:for everyone!
namaste,
DamselFly


I would check the mid-atlantic region- NC, VA, maybe even SC. Areas like Winston-salem has public transportation and affordable rentals. You just need to be careful because some of those areas means high crime. I personally love VA. The cost of living is low here. But if you want transportation you'll need to be in town. My son rents an apt for 350.00 a month which i think is super low and it's actually pretty nice. that does not include electric. Throughout NC there are some over 55 parks but I think you'll find them to be out of your price range. I would check to see if you qualify for any housing. I know VA, you might need to be a resident, has programs.

Good luck!

[morningstar55]

morning Lofters

is it spring yet????

[DamselFly]

it is here! the temp is climbing into the 90s today! we are under a severe burn warning/risk throughout most of the state and no rain in sight!
ai,ai, ai!
namaste
DamselFly

[lipstixgal]

Good Afternoon lofters its a great day here today we are having a barbecue so that is fun. Well I'm not doing the cooking the g/f is, she likes to do these things and I'm too femme to do them. I stay inside and play on BFP!! I hope everyone has a great weekend!!

[blueeyes226_l]

zhaoshanghao (good morning), lofters! Blueeyes, i hope you are doing better!
can anyone recommend a good small city/big town for anyone, me specifically, who is on SSD and very low-income, now severely vision-impaired? i'd even not be amiss to living in one of those senior/disabled communities, as long i have access to public transportation, reasonable medical care, and some opportunities to volunteer. i am no longer very picky, just tired of being isolated and need to be around people! i'm going to take my time investigating where to move this time!
morning cha :tea:for everyone!
namaste,
DamselFly


all my friends on here,
We layed my aunts body to rest yesterday. She had a peaceful passing over. Last night my Mom and I had a very bad time. She was going to toss my yeagest cat Molly out side or get read of her. I'm ashamed her and I got in to it. I lost my cool andtold her they go I go. She really p_ ss_ d me off magerly. I went in my bed room and slamed the bedroom door and locked it and went to bed with a high blood presser. Of corce she had to tel.l everyone I got mad at her and will not talk to her. This was befor I even got up. I wasn't talking to her I wasn't even up yet. Its just the same old crap. My mothers broth and his wife and one of his daughters and 1 grant daughter came up from Va. My cuz showed us some pics from Quwait ,(misspelled), where she had to go on a Gov.mission. She is in the very high in the pentagon. Thats all I can say about that. I talked to her about my daughters adatooed and gave me some pointers about her. She only lived about 1 hr from her. They go home tomorrow to Va. I guess thats it for now.
blueeyes226_l

[DamselFly]

dear blueeyes:
i hope your aunt had a peaceful passing! you are going through a rough time, that sounds certain! perhaps someday you will be able to find a more congenial place to live! living w/family,esp. when your family doesn't agree w/ your choices, can be extremely difficult! wish there were something i could do, besides offering to listen!
*burning incense for you and sending healing light*
namaste,
DamselFly:glasses:

[blueeyes226_l]

Gee where is everyone????
blueeyes226

[DamselFly]

dear L/lofters,
i apologize for my prolonged absence. i have been taking care of an orphaned foal, a whippet, not-my-Anatolian Turkish hound, a mama cat, and finally, myself. the foal's mother died in giving birth to Nickers. he had to have a blood transfusion b/c he didn't get any colostrum. he isn't even a week old but is already over 110 lbs (weighing more than i do!), eating like a horse, healthy, sweet, a fighter, and very smart! soon i shall be able to post pics of myself w/Nickers and the rest of the menagerie. the first pics of me on the internet! i guess i'm a farmhand now, lol.
namaste,
DamselFly :seeingstars:

[blueeyes226_l]

dear L/lofters,
i apologize for my prolonged absence. i have been taking care of an orphaned foal, a whippet, not-my-Anatolian Turkish hound, a mama cat, and finally, myself. the foal's mother died in giving birth to Nickers. he had to have a blood transfusion b/c he didn't get any colostrum. he isn't even a week old but is already over 110 lbs (weighing more than i do!), eating like a horse, healthy, sweet, a fighter, and very smart! soon i shall be able to post pics of myself w/Nickers and the rest of the menagerie. the first pics of me on the internet! i guess i'm a farmhand now, lol.
namaste,
DamselFly :seeingstars:


Wishing all a Happy safe Easter or week end if Easter isn't your thing. May be all think of each othere on Easter Day.

[AtLast]

Happy Easter to all!

[morningstar55]

HAPPY KEASTER....... opps i mean Easter.. lol

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[DamselFly]

Happy Easter to all L/lofters who celebrate it! to those who don't, Happy Sunday!
i don't happen to celebrate Easter but surely do love peeps, original yellow only!
my very thoughtful housemate brought home 6 packages of them yesterday!
so peeps for E/everyone!
*passing around a tray of peeps*
namaste and peace,
DamselFly :moonstars:

[rustedrims]

Hello everyone..

Blueeyes you ask where everyone is.????.From watching the weather channel i think they are in the basement..Its been scarey out in the back yard..So sorry to hear about your aunt..I hope things clear up for ya or at least tolerable conversations in the family..

I was able to pick up a few extra hours at work and the sun came out 2 times here in La La Land..Now there is the outside chores to get done..I personally prefer the outside chores..It is raining here again and will continue until friday..Flooding is an issue here now..I have issues with the mud..

Damselfly..Animals take up alot of time..Watch out for the mosquitoes..A friend of mine lost his 3 year old horse last summer because of the westnile [spelling?]..Hard to believe a small little bug like that will put a healthy horse down..

I hope everyone had a good Easter..I did..Went to my brothers and ate alot..

Have a good week everyone

[DamselFly]

Hello everyone..

Blueeyes you ask where everyone is.????.From watching the weather channel i think they are in the basement..Its been scarey out in the back yard..So sorry to hear about your aunt..I hope things clear up for ya or at least tolerable conversations in the family..

I was able to pick up a few extra hours at work and the sun came out 2 times here in La La Land..Now there is the outside chores to get done..I personally prefer the outside chores..It is raining here again and will continue until friday..Flooding is an issue here now..I have issues with the mud..

Damselfly..Animals take up alot of time..Watch out for the mosquitoes..A friend of mine lost his 3 year old horse last summer because of the westnile [spelling?]..Hard to believe a small little bug like that will put a healthy horse down..

I hope everyone had a good Easter..I did..Went to my brothers and ate alot..

Have a good week everyone

i would have been in the basement for the last three days n nights, if we had one! we don't even have a storm cellar. the weather here too has been scary. a town in the same county got hit hard by a tornado about a day ago. plus, every night has been severe thunderstorms with hail, which i can hear hitting the roof. so i know what you mean!
thanks for the info about horses. vickie already sprays both lovey and nickers, and nicker's pen area, with a special fly/mosquito/other bugs spray which is a natural formula. it won't damage horses or other mammals, just insects.
*wishing for more rain but NOT more tornadoes*
namaste,
DamselFly

[blueeyes226_l]

Hello everyone..

Blueeyes you ask where everyone is.????.From watching the weather channel i think they are in the basement..Its been scarey out in the back yard..So sorry to hear about your aunt..I hope things clear up for ya or at least tolerable conversations in the family..

I was able to pick up a few extra hours at work and the sun came out 2 times here in La La Land..Now there is the outside chores to get done..I personally prefer the outside chores..It is raining here again and will continue until friday..Flooding is an issue here now..I have issues with the mud..

Damselfly..Animals take up alot of time..Watch out for the mosquitoes..A friend of mine lost his 3 year old horse last summer because of the westnile [spelling?]..Hard to believe a small little bug like that will put a healthy horse down..

I hope everyone had a good Easter..I did..Went to my brothers and ate alot..

Have a good week everyone

Hey,glad to here from you. We,Mom and I) went to my sisters place for stake grilled out side . Then,we came home. I almost fell a sleep at the table. Any ways when,I got home I took a 2 hr. nap. It was greatly needed. Glad to here you are ok.
blueeyes226_l

[nikebutch110]

2 all the sexy ppl!

[rustedrims]

2 all the sexy ppl!

Not feeling to sexy right now..Waiting on a tornado watch for my county..Texed 2 kids to keep an eye out..My mom is comming back from Florida now..I told her to stop short of Tennesee..They are driving towards it now..

nikebutch110..how is that for a sexy Hello..Welcome to the thread..Good people in here..

Blueeyes..Things always taste better cooked outside..no dishes to wash..Sometimes ya gotta stop to take a nap..

[DamselFly]

welcome, nikebutch! this is a good group of people here in this community. things are a little quiet right now. we go through cycles of talking!
i am DamselFly, a single queer stone femme, who lives on a small farm with my housemate (no romantic involvement-she's a gay friend but not into B/f, and i only date butches.) we have 2 horses, one whippet, one turkish alphonsian hound, and one mamacat. they keep us busy! i will post pics of the animals soon.
i am disabled with ms and vision problems. aside from that, i am very happy about turning 50 in may! i am a Taoist/Buddhist Roshi (Zen Priest) and currently studying Ch'an Buddhism. i am educated, used to be a college prof and librarian. i love to read and to study! i also enjoy nature, though i do not camp or kayak or anything active like that. only walking through the fields and the woods now for me.
that's a little about me. i'm sure others will introduce themselves in time. tell us a little about yourself!
namaste,
DamselFly
2 all the sexy ppl!

[cuddlyfemme]

Just popping in to say good morning to all the Lofters! I haven't been here in awhile. Its good to be back with everyone!

[morningstar55]

mawning lofters
i should of slept a lil longer after being woke up during the night, and was woke again by another car honin outside for someone in a house.. whats up wth that crap,im sure they have a cell phone and can call the person they r there for.. GGRRrrr .. ok count 1 , 2 , 3
Ok.. i am thinking.. will go to Homedepot and get a couple of poster size cuts of ply wood, and paint 2 signs and post them on each end of the street.....

QUIET ZONE MIDNIGHT TO 7AM!!!! NO HONKING OF CAR HORNS!!!

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[blueeyes226_l]

Just popping in to say good morning to all the Lofters! I haven't been here in awhile. Its good to be back with everyone!

Hey,
Welcome back cuddlyfem! A lot of us haven't been on here. By the way welcome back everyone!:hangloose:

[cuddlyfemme]

Hey,
Welcome back cuddlyfem! A lot of us haven't been on here. By the way welcome back everyone!:hangloose:

thanks for the welcome back, its good to see this thread starting to get active again!

[free-to-be]

Hey - nice thread!

I'm 42 but already feel like there's little to discuss with girls in their 20's. If I wanted to raise someone I'd adopt! Trying to talk to someone who looks at their phone every 20 seconds makes me feel like I'm dealing with my ex's 3-yr-old.

I don't do the bar scene, either. After an ugly ending to a LTR in November I'm cautiously dipping my toe into the dating pool. I'm starting to think my goal is too ambitious, though. Is it still possible to find an employed, sane yet slightly adventurous woman to share our lives or did that go out of fashion while I was being a wife and mother?

Anyway - hello to everyone. After lurking about and reading old posts it looks like I can expect some lively discussions here from time to time. Doesn't look like many folks are in my part of the country, though.

[morningstar55]

Hey - nice thread!

I'm 42 but already feel like there's little to discuss with girls in their 20's. If I wanted to raise someone I'd adopt! Trying to talk to someone who looks at their phone every 20 seconds makes me feel like I'm dealing with my ex's 3-yr-old.

I don't do the bar scene, either. After an ugly ending to a LTR in November I'm cautiously dipping my toe into the dating pool. I'm starting to think my goal is too ambitious, though. Is it still possible to find an employed, sane yet slightly adventurous woman to share our lives or did that go out of fashion while I was being a wife and mother?

Anyway - hello to everyone. After lurking about and reading old posts it looks like I can expect some lively discussions here from time to time. Doesn't look like many folks are in my part of the country, though.

lol 3 yrs olds i hear ya about the phone issues..... heh
i been single for a while now..... and well had a few interesting dates here and there..
and it is hard to find the right one..... lately sometimes i feel like im interviewing dates for a job.. and well i dont want that.. lol
like you .... i just want someone im compatable with , I know we cant like all of the same things.. but someone whom has a job, or retired is ok.. just someone who is independant, adventurous is good too, as im always on the go go go .. lol ...
i love my domestic side , and enjoy being the lady of the house. now if i could just find the right man of the house that would be awsome.

[msW8ing]

Stopping in to say hello to all Lofters. Hope ya all had a great weekend

[morningstar55]

mawning loft thread dwellers and peekers

wel my truck wont be ready until tomorrow .. *sigh* ..
i have however applied for a few local jobs .. soo hopfully something will happen soon.

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[morningstar55]

Stopping in to say hello to all Lofters. Hope ya all had a great weekend

good morning MsW8 .. :) ..... love your siggy :)

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

I once read an add that said Lesbians give the U-Haul a lot of business that it was best to own one. Why becuase they are ready to move in within weeks of knowing each other. I am sure it does not apply to us all but we are nesters by nature and unfortunately run fast into what is not right for us.

After rushing in and not looking both ways before crossing over I have learned to take it slow. I beleive in getting to know each other slowly and enjoying the beauty of dating. Though it does not guarantee it will work but it offers us both the opportunity to romance,have fun and our true nature to emerge and show who we really are and if its meant to be.

Taino
I think I went off line but any how I hope it was useful.

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

mawning loft thread dwellers and peekers

wel my truck wont be ready until tomorrow .. *sigh* ..
i have however applied for a few local jobs .. soo hopfully something will happen soon.

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o199/morningstar1955/0827080840a.jpg Good luck and have a nice day !

[morningstar55]

I once read an add that said Lesbians give the U-Haul a lot of business that it was best to own one. Why becuase they are ready to move in within weeks of knowing each other. I am sure it does not apply to us all but we are nesters by nature and unfortunately run fast into what is not right for us.

After rushing in and not looking both ways before crossing over I have learned to take it slow. I beleive in getting to know each other slowly and enjoying the beauty of dating. Though it does not guarantee it will work but it offers us both the opportunity to romance,have fun and our true nature to emerge and show who we really are and if its meant to be.

Taino
I think I went off line but any how I hope it was useful.

soo soo true...... Sir amor :) .. i enjoy some old fashion dating .. i think its a lost part of getting to really know someone these days.

[cuddlyfemme]

I once read an add that said Lesbians give the U-Haul a lot of business that it was best to own one. Why becuase they are ready to move in within weeks of knowing each other. I am sure it does not apply to us all but we are nesters by nature and unfortunately run fast into what is not right for us.

After rushing in and not looking both ways before crossing over I have learned to take it slow. I beleive in getting to know each other slowly and enjoying the beauty of dating. Though it does not guarantee it will work but it offers us both the opportunity to romance,have fun and our true nature to emerge and show who we really are and if its meant to be.

Taino
I think I went off line but any how I hope it was useful.

I totally agree, I think both people should get to know each other and see each's true nature before living together. I've been in several relationships that ended because I wouldn't rush in to live with the Butch

[morningstar55]

I totally agree, I think both people should get to know each other and see each's true nature before living together. I've been in several relationships that ended because I wouldn't rush in to live with the Butch

i was accused of not really being gay cuz i wouldnt jump and move in right away...... and on top of it.. my sister had just pased away .. anyways our relationship ended.

[msW8ing]

Your so right Taino, when people rush they miss cherishing all those wonderfully romantic firsts...the first time you hold hands...that first long kiss so deep you forget to breath...the butterflies when they call you..the excitement of the dates to come..the neckin and sweet stuff...learning about one another. *sigh* I'm such a sap I know lol But I do agree with you. I once read an add that said Lesbians give the U-Haul a lot of business that it was best to own one. Why becuase they are ready to move in within weeks of knowing each other. I am sure it does not apply to us all but we are nesters by nature and unfortunately run fast into what is not right for us.

After rushing in and not looking both ways before crossing over I have learned to take it slow. I beleive in getting to know each other slowly and enjoying the beauty of dating. Though it does not guarantee it will work but it offers us both the opportunity to romance,have fun and our true nature to emerge and show who we really are and if its meant to be.

Taino
I think I went off line but any how I hope it was useful.

[msW8ing]

Why thank you kindly. I appreciate the compilment and good morning back. Hope your having a better day. good morning MsW8 .. :) ..... love your siggy :)

[msW8ing]

Reminds of one of my dear little straight friends when I left the ex..she asked me how long we were together I said only 3 years. She said "only" wow thats like 15 in lesbian years isn't it. roflmao made me laugh til I cried. Then I have a Stone Butch friend in Mo. that is in a band..they had rent a u-haul trailer one weekend for thier equiptment and one of the fans walked over to meet Hym as Hy was loading the equiptment after the set and she said " Wow now they bring the uhaul to the bar?? They don't even wait for the first date anymore. lol Synical yes funny too. i was accused of not really being gay cuz i wouldnt jump and move in right away...... and on top of it.. my sister had just pased away .. anyways our relationship ended.

[blueeyes226_l]

Why thank you kindly. I appreciate the compilment and good morning back. Hope your having a better day.

Hello MsW8ing and welcome to are group.:clap:

[msW8ing]

Well thank you so much blueeyes. And hello back atcha. Hello MsW8ing and welcome to are group.:clap:

[ruthie14]

Morning all!

Morning star... good luck on the job search. I am having the devil of a time finding a new job so for now, stuck with the very stressful one. Ended up in the er again on sunday night with a migraine. This job is too damn stressful!

Welcome to all the newcomers! Nice to see some new "faces"!

I love what all of you are talking about. Getting to know someone before you rush in. I am also having trouble with friends here insisting that I just go out and get laid. NOT into that either. I get a lot of offers for that kinda thing, but no one wants to date or have a gf.. just sex. I'm just not built that way. OK for them, not a prude, just not right for me. Don 't get me wrong, love sex, have a high sex drive, but only within a relationship... just me. Glad to see others who share this point of view. I was begining to think I was one of a very few.

Ruthie(f)

[morningstar55]

good morning Loft thread dwellers and peekers
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ha ruthie...... i been told that before too .. about getting laid.. lol
i been in such a slump... with my mood for drawing/painting /creating.. some told me i need love in my life to get my mojo back...... or to just get laid.. ha .. well i dont know about that... there has to be feelings there in the love making dept for me.
just my 2 cents.. ty for the reppies everone.

[msW8ing]

I'm so right there with ya all on the just sex thing. Personally I need an emotional connection to go there with someone. I'm not wired for a "friends with benefits" or just to "get laid" if I wanted just to get laid I'd crawl up a chickens butt and wait. lol It's not just the sex it's the intimacy. So many have no clue that they are NOT the same thing. I'm so glad there are others that think as I do. Thank you!

[msW8ing]

Good Morning everyone. Just stopping in to wish ya all a Happy Thursday!!

[morningstar55]

wow what a eventful day I had ........

just got in from doc's and getting scrips filled......I just went in to get my test results from all that blood they took from me last week.. then got a awsome load to pick up and take to pittsburgs.... but i was feeling like crap all morning, chills, yucky tummy , and my blood pressure was spiked way high.. soooooooooo
took a nap, and ate a few crackers, ginger ale.. now having some freshly made won ton soup.. :) feeling better.... cancelled my load.. was feeling to sick to move , much less running down the road i n the truck..
oh and it seems that .. my test results said i had NO vitamin D in my system.. sooo im on some major strong D's..
anyways....... think im gonna plant myself in front of the tv for a spell ..... bbl
hope everyone had a better day then i did.. heh

[Galahad]

Happy Saturday, hope everyone is over the virus and the terrible weather. Looks like another day in paradise here, except, I need to go shopping and have lazed about watching the garden shows until too late. It will be so crowded out now. Hate that.

[rustedrims]

Hello everyone..

A few new names in here since i was in here last..Great.!!.

The thing about "gettin-laid"..Yeah we can all do that but is it who we really want to be with..Yeah close your eyes and imagine who you want it to be and really get into it BUT,,Ya gotta open your eyes sometime..Now you have possibly given that person false hopes of a relationship and maybe another night with your eyes closed..
There is a guy at work that has made his News Years Resolution on getting me in bed with him..Keep telling him it will never happen..Come on now..I am a butch woman and look every bit of it..Do i need to explain..??..

Hey blueeyes have things quieted down for ya yet..??..

Wishing everyone a good week and happy chatting..

[blueeyes226_l]

Dale Padilla Secor URGENT PRAYER REQUEST!!! KAYLA SCOTT'S 22 MONTH OLD SON SHOT HIMSELF IN THE CHEST WITH A BRAD NAILER~ IT WENT IN HIS HEART~ HE IS NOW IN CRITICAL CONDITION AND NOT DOING WELL ~ NEITHER IS HIS MOM ~PLEASE START A PRAYER CHAIN FOR THIS BABY~ PLEASE COPY & REPOST AS YOU WOULD WANT.
Thanks,
blueeyes226_l

[morningstar55]

mawning Lofters
hope you all have a awsome day :)
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[morningstar55]

on my way to the shower.. ya know them claw skill games with the prizes inside you have to grab with it??? well silly me... thought id throw in a buck , try it out .. as i rarely ever play them things.. and .. WOW.. look what i won!! lol .. a MP3 player... now i guess i have to figure out how to work it.. lol

http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=524244677

[blueeyes226_l]

Dale Padilla Secor URGENT PRAYER REQUEST!!! KAYLA SCOTT'S 22 MONTH OLD SON SHOT HIMSELF IN THE CHEST WITH A BRAD NAILER~ IT WENT IN HIS HEART~ HE IS NOW IN CRITICAL CONDITION AND NOT DOING WELL ~ NEITHER IS HIS MOM ~PLEASE START A PRAYER CHAIN FOR THIS BABY~ PLEASE COPY & REPOST AS YOU WOULD WANT.
Thanks,
blueeyes226_l

Hey All,
I feel like I have egg on my face from this post. I found out this is not true. How I found out was I went to post it on a group I'm on. I cought heck from the admin of that group. I wanted to corect this on here as well. I'm sorry if I inconvenic any one.
Thanks
blueeyes226_l

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters! I hope everyone has a beautiful day!

[Jar]

Good morning! This looks like a place I could hang out :)

[cuddlyfemme]

Good morning! This looks like a place I could hang out :)

Good Morning Jar! Its a nice place here and some interesting topics are discussed although it can be quiet sometimes...time to liven the place up!

[Electrocell]

Ole fart peeking in lol.

[intrigue_in916]

I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

You are not the only 'Not 30 something' :balloon: Although I must admit that turning 50 next year, has me going gray!

[ruthie14]

I turn 50 next year too! I am coming up with a list! 1 thing I have never done or tried for each decade. So far.... 1 or 2 singing lessons, a henna tatto, ..... now I just need 3 more! Suggestions?.. must be inexpensive at this point, but who knows what a year may bring?

Right now I am craving chocolate red wine! Had some on 4th of july, incredible!!!!

Glad to see this thread being bumped!

Ruthie :rrose:

[blueeyes226_l]

Well.in Nov. I'll be 55 years young...LOL I may have found someone for my life. How ever she lives in N.J. and I'm in N.Y. Nether one of us can afor the $$$$$ for her to come up this way to visit. She seems to have a heart of gold. We talk every night after 9pm and email each other alot. I hope this works out. I told her about my family and she is very understanding. Best of all she dosen't hold how my family is agance me.By the way she will be 60 July 30 or 31.
blueeyes226_l

[morningstar55]

good morning Loft dwellers

this thread really needs some serious bumpin.. lol

blue thats awsome... congrads. :)
Electro..... bout time you should up here.. lol
Ruthie...
chocolate red wine?? hmm i heard about that... havnt tried it yet... i do say yet.. lol

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[blueeyes226_l]

good morning Loft dwellers

this thread really needs some serious bumpin.. lol

blue thats awsome... congrads. :)
Electro..... bout time you should up here.. lol
Ruthie...
chocolate red wine?? hmm i heard about that... havnt tried it yet... i do say yet.. lol

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Thank you Morrning Star.
i don't know how we will get together. I can't leave and move there,I have Mom to take care of She has to have oxogen and she has heart spells. I don't mind being here for her but my sister and her worce 1/2 on the road ramming all the timne. I just can't up and leave here. The gal I'm talking about lives in N.J..

[morningstar55]

good morning Loft dwellers

this thread really needs some serious bumpin.. lol

blue thats awsome... congrads. :)
Electro..... bout time you showed up here.. lol
Ruthie...
chocolate red wine?? hmm i heard about that... havnt tried it yet... i do say yet.. lol

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morning ....... Lofters.. :)

ahhh i see Blue .. didnt know moving anywhere was mentioned ... glad your there for your mom.

have a awsome day everyone

[*Anya*]

I wonder why this thread is not visited too often Any guesses?

Regardless, I am *gulp* in my 50's & yes it pains me to write that & I should pop in here more often myself!

Happy Sunday to all!

[Galahad]

Hi Anya/Georgia,
I think it gets slow in here because we all have so many other interests. It's awkward to be grouped together because we're a certain number of years, especially since none of us feel our age often. I forget how old I am and remind myself I'm not a kid only when the body won't function like I know it should.

[Gaige]

Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

[blueeyes226_l]

Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

Hey, Welcome to the group. This is a good place to be.

[blueeyes226_l]

Well.in Nov. I'll be 55 years young...LOL I may have found someone for my life. How ever she lives in N.J. and I'm in N.Y. Nether one of us can afor the $$$$$ for her to come up this way to visit. She seems to have a heart of gold. We talk every night after 9pm and email each other alot. I hope this works out. I told her about my family and she is very understanding. Best of all she dosen't hold how my family is agance me.By the way she will be 60 July 30 or 31.
blueeyes226_l

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

[morningstar55]

morning Lofter dwellers

this thread needs some bumpin......

Blue.. hope your mom is feeling better soon.
having someone move .. in with someone in a short time of knowing each other is not always the best. always take time to get to know each other in person. just my 2 cents.

ok howz everyones summer going so far???

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother.
By Blueeyes 226_1


LDR could be difficult and costly. My last partner lived in California and I lived in Boston and we did the long distance for almost 2 years we visited each other every three months. Finally I moved to California and the relationship had a 7 year run after.

LDR could work out but there has to be trust !! love !! and honest daily communication.


Its important not to rush things, we have responsibilities in our individual lives and we can not expect to pick up and go ASAP. I have heard and seen people pick up and go ASAP and it has been a terrible mistake.

Love grows when you nurture it gently and slowly, developing deep roots that will stand strong when difficult times arise.

[blueeyes226_l]

Thanks,I hope she gets better soon. But,she is 85 now COPD and she never smok in her life its from other people smoking around her. She has worked all her life. I dread when,she passes over.
Thanks to all

[MysticOceansFL]

Life gets better as you age an you aquire more steadier friendships!

[Amber2010]

I will have to agree... As I have gotten older I found my three kids still need me but in a very different more expensive way then they did as kids and now the parents need me to take care of them... The good thing about the age we are now is I am now not letting myself be walked on and not caring about what everyone thinks about me... Family not happy with me oh well...
I need to live my life the way I want it to go and not what everyone expects from me... A very rude awakening for most of my family!

[Licious]

Hello,
Would like to join in. I really like find folks my own age group to chat with and relate to.

*brings flowers* *joins in*


:boquet:

[blueeyes226_l]

Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one.
Take care all
blueeyes226_l

[choochoo-enginerd]

Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all apleasant evening and weekend :)

[Sweet Bliss]

Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one.
Take care all
blueeyes226_l

Between the heat and rain/thunderstorms, I am just wiped OUT.... please Goddess let me dream of snow tonight.......... pretty please???

[OS Butch]

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

Yep, I am in the same spot. I decided since it messed up my relationship with the love of my life, I will just be single and I am ok with that. I have elderly parents and will not leave. It would not be fair to anyone to even date because I can't give a 100 percent.

[Sweet Bliss]

Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all a pleasant evening and weekend :)

Just wondering... why, oh why, would you choose "Biceps" for a username, and then NOT be looking?

It's like you are saying, "Want some 'CANDY' lil' girl?..... darn am all out of candy today, check back tomorrow".

Bad Biceps, Bad Biceps......:tease:

[VintageFemme]

the older the grape, the sweeter the wine ;)

[subscribing]

[choochoo-enginerd]

Just wondering... why, oh why, would you choose "Biceps" for a username, and then NOT be looking?

It's like you are saying, "Want some 'CANDY' lil' girl?..... darn am all out of candy today, check back tomorrow".

Bad Biceps, Bad Biceps......:tease:

Well in actuality, I have had the username for years and that is how others recognize me. My status has changed a bit over the years and my intent of presence on this site includes magnanimous pursuits transcending simplistic skirt chasing endeavors, obliterating any sentiment of the butch-femme bathhouse scene....lol. More cerebral capacity than brawn here.....thanks for the inquiry ;)

[fever]

Hello everyone. It is a warm summer night here in B.C.

Biceps, are you coming up for our Pride next weekend? I haven't been for years and look forward to the rush when the dykes on bikes come blazing by!

cheers,
fever

[Slade]

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....:sigh:


Slade

[msW8ing]

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....:sigh:


Slade

I respond (being an oldie myself) with the old tried but true quote of ..." Butches are like fine wine..they get better with age" :wine:

[luv2luvgirls]

can I come in? I'll be 40 in Sept :D hello everyone

[msW8ing]

can I come in? I'll be 40 in Sept :D hello everyone

I'm sure you can. I've never found any doors locked on this site.lol Cool signature.

[luv2luvgirls]

I'm sure you can. I've never found any doors locked on this site.lol Cool signature.

Thank you :) I like your siggy ;) nice to meet you MsW8ing

[msW8ing]

Thank you :) I like your siggy ;) nice to meet you MsW8ing

Well thank you. Nice to meet you as well.

[ruthie14]

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

[*Anya*]

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

Don't know if this the exact response you are looking for but no, it is not me at all. I had one night stands when I first came out as bi but only with women, I was about 19 or 20. When I accepted I was Lesbian, I did have a few just because it was all so exciting and new, it was a second adolescence for me and a much, much better one than my first adolescence!

By the time I was in my mid-20's I was with my first real GF for a year and then my long-term one for 19.

I have not had casual sex since my break-up. I do not judge anyone for their sex life or choices. For me though, I am older now and looking at the last 20-25 years of my life down the road. I want another relationship, one of substance and committment-not just a fuck (though if I am totally honest, I wish I could do that without any emotional repercussions but I know myself, and that I can not).

I think that in this day and age, one can have whatever type of relationship we want. For some, the friends with benefits or one-night stand is it. I even believe it is also a right-of-passage when we are younger and that it helps us understand who and what we are and what it is we want and need. I know enought about myself now to know that it just would not work for me.

In some ways I am more confident in myself but in others; I feel much more vulnerable than I did when I was younger. When I was young, I felt invincible. I don't feel that way any longer.

[luv2luvgirls]

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

well for me i dont want a casual hook up i want something we can grow in and last.... hope that helps :)

[claybaby]

Hi Ruthie: I am "over 40" and I want neither a FWB NOR a one night stand. I AM interested in the LTR! Many years ago..when I was a young pup..yes, I did a couple myself. But for the most part, my relationships have been LTR, committed, and monogamous! Now I want another LTR with someone...whom we will live out the rest of our lives with one another...in monogamy! I want that long haul...no matter what.,...we WILL see one another thru better or worse, richer or poorer! Ruthie, you know my story...and I WANT to have a love of my life again. I WANT my soulmate. I believe in fate, destiny, and love happily ever after! I am well on my way to having found that again...I am truly blessed....yea, cupid shot me in the ass....dang that arrow hurts....so good!!! <wink> Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I am over 40 and I DO absolutely believe in LTR's...even at this age...smiling broadly here! Know I wish you the very best, my friend!!! Good luck...hugs...Clay

[jelli]

I will be back on the 14th when I am "officially" able to post here.

[Invictus]

I will be back on the 14th when I am "officially" able to post here.

Please feel free to post now if you like, I doubt anyone here would be unwilling to "spot" you a few weeks

[ruthie14]

Anya, luv and (((clay))) thanks for your answers! It gets very discouraging here. I am not kidding when I tell you that I have given up. I am very tired of defending myself... tired of women looking at me like I'm from some antiquated age... tired of a lot of it, frankly.. I love butch/femme and I believe in ever after love.... if that makes me antiquated then so be it! The women here make me feel like it's just me that feels that way. It's making me a little crazy. I wanted to know if it was just this large circle of lesbians around here or a more global issue... not sure if we are a true representative of the world.... but I wanted to know... ask around, if you will.... I am very curious about this issue.

Thanks, Ruthie(f)

[Invictus]

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.


ruthie, there are many of us here. Single folks looking for the long term
relationships we deserve.

[ruthie14]

thanks... but where are the ones in NJ? lol Thanks Invitcus maybe one day hy/she will come my way.


Until then, I will happily make plans for my 50th birthday in march... yes I am already making plans!!!!! Don't usually waste much time on my birthday.. but heck, 50 is a big one may as well live it up!

Have a great week and I will be very interested in hearing some of the responses from the folks you know if you care to join in the research. lol

Ruthie

[Gaige]

hello everyone. Hope you're all having a good summer. I'm being overworked but not really minding it...yet. I'm on day 9 of a 20 in a row work stint. Planning a vacation in September though. I want to get a place on the beach during Rohoboth Beach pride weekend. I haven't taken a real vacation in years so I'm looking forward to it. have a good night.

[Invictus]

thanks... but where are the ones in NJ? lol Thanks Invitcus maybe one day hy/she will come my way.


Until then, I will happily make plans for my 50th birthday in march... yes I am already making plans!!!!! Don't usually waste much time on my birthday.. but heck, 50 is a big one may as well live it up!

Have a great week and I will be very interested in hearing some of the responses from the folks you know if you care to join in the research. lol

Ruthie


Ruthie, I can find NJ on a map, other than that I may not be much help in your search. There are single butches all over the planet (no pun intended). Its just a matter of finding the special one you are looking for.

Premature birthday wishes for your very special day

[ruthie14]

Have you ever been to Rehoboth Handsome? I have been there once a year ago and friends of mine just stayed at a reasonable b & b in the heart of everything. Let me know and i can pass on the info. They have a great little girl bar there that has some really cool musicians. Really nice place.

Don't work too hard and rest when you can!


hello everyone. Hope you're all having a good summer. I'm being overworked but not really minding it...yet. I'm on day 9 of a 20 in a row work stint. Planning a vacation in September though. I want to get a place on the beach during Rohoboth Beach pride weekend. I haven't taken a real vacation in years so I'm looking forward to it. have a good night.

[Gaige]

Have you ever been to Rehoboth Handsome? I have been there once a year ago and friends of mine just stayed at a reasonable b & b in the heart of everything. Let me know and i can pass on the info. They have a great little girl bar there that has some really cool musicians. Really nice place.

Don't work too hard and rest when you can!

Ruthie, i would love the info, especially any you have on clubs for women. I was there years ago when i was in my early 20's. I was actually staying in Ocean City, MD but drove up the coast to hit a club in Rohoboth called Square One. I'd really like to get an ocean front room so i'm kinda set on staying somewhere on the beach. thanks for the info Ruthie

btw, is the b&b for gays and lesbians?

[claybaby]

((((((((Ruthie)))))))))....know I loves ya!!! Take care....ClayAnya, luv and (((clay))) thanks for your answers! It gets very discouraging here. I am not kidding when I tell you that I have given up. I am very tired of defending myself... tired of women looking at me like I'm from some antiquated age... tired of a lot of it, frankly.. I love butch/femme and I believe in ever after love.... if that makes me antiquated then so be it! The women here make me feel like it's just me that feels that way. It's making me a little crazy. I wanted to know if it was just this large circle of lesbians around here or a more global issue... not sure if we are a true representative of the world.... but I wanted to know... ask around, if you will.... I am very curious about this issue.

Thanks, Ruthie(f)

[morningstar55]

morning loft dwellers

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o199/morningstar1955/thumbnail-2.jpg

[luv2luvgirls]

Morning to you morningstar
hope everyone has a good week,I cant believe its already monday

[*Anya*]

Saw HD post about Ocean City, MD. The summer I was turning 17, was the first time my parents gave me any freedom whatsoever. A group of my HS GF's & I used to drive like bats out of hell as soon as we could get away each Friday to drive to the shore. We lived in Silver Spring and would make it there in just a couple of hours, driving 70+ miles an hour (bad, bad teens). In NJ & MD we called it the shore ( in CA they just call it going to the beach).

We used to pack all 6 of us in a room to keep it cheap. I remember the great big, long boardwalk, those fabulous, soft but a little crispy, French fries that we would drown in malt vinegar (the only fries I have ever done that with), the hours we would spend trying to outdo each other in how tan (now getting a couple of spots lasered because of that!) we would get, oh that was fun! I must go back sometime to see if those fries taste the same!

Sorry for this derailing of thread- just brought up some great beach memories!

Have a great Monday everyone!!

:tanning::beachkids:

[morningstar55]

morning bk at you luv ahh anya .. your not derailing.. lol

im not sure if this can be seen ........ but wanting to share pics of my time spent at the races with Dutch Leonard... had a awsome time.
ty Dutch :) xoxox
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=524244677#!/media/set/?set=a.183886075005218.48138.100001514803763

[luv2luvgirls]

morning bk at you luv ahh anya .. your not derailing.. lol

im not sure if this can be seen ........ but wanting to share pics of my time spent at the races with Dutch Leonard... had a awsome time.
ty Dutch :) xoxox
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=524244677#!/media/set/?set=a.183886075005218.48138.100001514803763
Morningstar,
nope it wont let you see it,says currently unavailable...would like to see the pic

A/G you know I have a song for those kinds of memories....Ziggy Marley, the good old days...that song is such a feel good tune

[Gaige]

Saw HD post about Ocean City, MD. The summer I was turning 17, was the first time my parents gave me any freedom whatsoever. A group of my HS GF's & I used to drive like bats out of hell as soon as we could get away each Friday to drive to the shore. We lived in Silver Spring and would make it there in just a couple of hours, driving 70+ miles an hour (bad, bad teens). In NJ & MD we called it the shore ( in CA they just call it going to the beach).

We used to pack all 6 of us in a room to keep it cheap. I remember the great big, long boardwalk, those fabulous, soft but a little crispy, French fries that we would drown in malt vinegar (the only fries I have ever done that with), the hours we would spend trying to outdo each other in how tan (now getting a couple of spots lasered because of that!) we would get, oh that was fun! I must go back sometime to see if those fries taste the same!

Sorry for this derailing of thread- just brought up some great beach memories!

Have a great Monday everyone!!

:tanning::beachkids:

great memories Anya. My parents started out taking us on day trips to Ocean City, MD. My Mom would pack a cooler full of sandwiches and soda and we would play in the Ocean and eat lunch on the beach. Not long after that my parents started renting rooms on the boardwalk. I guess the 2-3 hour drive got to be a bit much for day trips. In 1976 (i was 10) i won a stuffed Uncle Sam that was almost as big as me. I think it was the ping pong balls in the jars game. On the way back to our room, my Dad had quite a few people asking to buy it. I know i must have had a huge smile as i lugged that thing down the boardwalk. Those were great times. Everytime we hit the Bay Bridge i would ask, "Are we there?". I guess seeing that large body of water meant we were "down the Ocean". :)

[*Anya*]

Great memories HD! I forgot about the sheer joy of making it to the Bay bridge!

The song that reminds me of those days whenever I hear it on the radio is "Hot fun in the Summertime" by Sly & the Family Stone! Love that song, going to put it on my IPhone this morning. It always makes me smile:)

Hugs Lofters:)

[luv2luvgirls]

Morning to all the lofters.... what a great day huh :)

today is so easy...I feel light and hopeful, finally its gone dang it feels good!!!!

funny how what a person says sometimes can just hit ya upside the head and you see it for what it was...

[luv2luvgirls]

good morning lofters :) its the weekend!!! about time too

[jelli]

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

[luv2luvgirls]

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

hmmm good question....I am not sure if its the age or just a certian time in all of our lives that we take stock of where we are and where we want to be and make changes to get there....I find in my walk of life I do this every few yrs. I feel like I need to look inside of me and what I present to others as who I am,to keep being true to me and growing as a member of society and as a human being.
I like having a goal to work towards as well...I always ask a potential asst mgr during thier interview these two questions.....what are your short term goals in life and your long term. If you have no answer it says alot to me.

Jelli do you find that you are reflecting on life right now? I am wondering if its not just that your baby went away to college :) that can be rough you know

[Invictus]

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

Reflection...

Inspection...

Correction...

Life is an ongoing process...

[jelli]

Reflection...

Inspection...

Correction...

Life is an ongoing process...

Definitely.

[jelli]

hmmm good question....I am not sure if its the age or just a certian time in all of our lives that we take stock of where we are and where we want to be and make changes to get there....I find in my walk of life I do this every few yrs. I feel like I need to look inside of me and what I present to others as who I am,to keep being true to me and growing as a member of society and as a human being.
I like having a goal to work towards as well...I always ask a potential asst mgr during thier interview these two questions.....what are your short term goals in life and your long term. If you have no answer it says alot to me.

Jelli do you find that you are reflecting on life right now? I am wondering if its not just that your baby went away to college :) that can be rough you know

I do a lot of self examination in general, but there's definitely been a change with my kids growing up and out. Bittersweet.

BTW I think many potential employers set people up with those questions. I say this because once upon a time I was a manager too. In the industry of companies that require asst. mgrs(especially fast food and convenience stores) it's not like they do much, if anything, to assist an employee in reaching any goals. Many of them are looking for a body to fill a space for as long and as effectively as possible. *shrugs*

[rustedrims]

It has been a long time since i was in here..Welcome to the new people..

My checkbook is the boss in my house..We got in a little disagreement and i started to work to much overtime then it became manditory..Well then the sun came out and so did the lawn mower and the sunny day unfinished projects..Time got away from me..I have been wanting to get back in here and thought now was a good time..

My thoughts go out to all the people on the east coast..Looks like Irene isnt hitting as hard as was predicted..That is a good thing..Thinking about the east coast Planet people and the people that i dont know..Waiting for a sunny day to dry things up..

Gotta make a small comment..In the work place i was refered to "a body"..Did not like that at all..You want a body Go to the morgue..There you can get a body..To me that is a person that can not add to the task at hand that needs to be done..I always do my 110% when people around me dont..But i do also understand that sometimes you gotta put a person there just to fill the position wheather they know the job or not..Therefore "The Body" comes into play..Explained that to my boss then got another boss and had to explain it again..Finding out i am not the only one that feels that way..Just throwing that out there..

Wanted to pop in and throw a hello in and a small comment..Better get outside and get something done,like an unfinished project..

Wishing everyone a good day..

s

[blueeyes226_l]

It has been a long time since i was in here..Welcome to the new people..

My checkbook is the boss in my house..We got in a little disagreement and i started to work to much overtime then it became manditory..Well then the sun came out and so did the lawn mower and the sunny day unfinished projects..Time got away from me..I have been wanting to get back in here and thought now was a good time..

My thoughts go out to all the people on the east coast..Looks like Irene isnt hitting as hard as was predicted..That is a good thing..Thinking about the east coast Planet people and the people that i dont know..Waiting for a sunny day to dry things up..

Gotta make a small comment..In the work place i was refered to "a body"..Did not like that at all..You want a body Go to the morgue..There you can get a body..To me that is a person that can not add to the task at hand that needs to be done..I always do my 110% when people around me dont..But i do also understand that sometimes you gotta put a person there just to fill the position wheather they know the job or not..Therefore "The Body" comes into play..Explained that to my boss then got another boss and had to explain it again..Finding out i am not the only one that feels that way..Just throwing that out there..

Wanted to pop in and throw a hello in and a small comment..Better get outside and get something done,like an unfinished project..

Wishing everyone a good day..

s

Ok,every one move over so I can pull up a chair. Hey,how is everyone? I see some new people in here! I wasn't getting notices from here so I didn't think things was still going on here. I've been sick and in need of a kidney. My kidneys are only working about 24% they have diped down as far as 14 % and at 10% they will not substane life. I need a trans plant. The funny part is every budy seems to think you have to be dead in order to be a doner,but you don't. Only has to have same blood typ I have. I don't know my typ yet. I have a lot of testing to be done,to see if my heart and lungs will take the surgery. Also,if I have a live doner,that might be a plus when,it comes to my health Ins to pay for it. If not then,I can't have the surgery. I have emailed Kidney foundasion and they tell me to email this othere place,I do and they tell me to email this place. I hate getting the run around when it comes to my life.
Any ways I'm glad this room is still open.I wanted to stop by and say hello and wish all well. blueeyes226_l

[Inuus]

blueeyes226_l I hope all goes well for you keep the faith!

[blueeyes226_l]

blueeyes226_l I hope all goes well for you keep the faith!

Thank you.Its very hard and things are very trying.

[Babyangeleyez]

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?


I just turned 41 a couple weeks ago and I find that I am now starting to re-evaluate and re-think some things with my life now. I feel like I'm in an "odd" place or something right now in my life. I don't know if its because I'm single or what, but I feel there is "something" missing. I don't feel whole right now.

[rustedrims]

Hello everyone..

Think we gotta get this thing going again..I like it in here..!.

Blueeyes226..
That really sucks..!!!..I can only imagine what you are going through..It seems like you never get a break..I remember the trouble you mentioned with the family a while ago..Is anyone helping you over there..??..Thinking only good thoughts for you and i do hope things will fall in place and become easier for you..

Babyangeleyes..

Think i know what you mean when you said your not feeling whole and in the wrong place..I am single myself and more now than ever i am pulling myself away from my family..Feeling alot like i dont belong at the "Get-to-Gethers..Tired of hearing the "Gay Jokes" and watching everyone laugh..No one is alowed to say mexican jokes any more because my sister-in-law's sister is dating a mexican..Let the gay jokes fly it is ok..Real tired of it..I feel out of place and want to be where i fit in the most..Already made other plans for Thanksgiving..One can only be kicked in the face so many times then they gotta quit comming around..Even if you kick a dog so many times eventually the dog stops comming around..I feel like the dog lately..

Wishing everyone a good week..

s..

[claybaby]

Stopping by to greet all my fellow lofters...hope everyone has had an incredible weekend. How about these cooler temps. I love it myself. Of course, cool, to me is low 70's as opposed to 90's. smiles.. Hope everyone will have a wonderful week ahead...hugs to all...see you around the loft...Clay

[blueeyes226_l]

Hello everyone..

Think we gotta get this thing going again..I like it in here..!.

Blueeyes226..
That really sucks..!!!..I can only imagine what you are going through..It seems like you never get a break..I remember the trouble you mentioned with the family a while ago..Is anyone helping you over there..??..Thinking only good thoughts for you and i do hope things will fall in place and become easier for you..

Babyangeleyes..

Think i know what you mean when you said your not feeling whole and in the wrong place..I am single myself and more now than ever i am pulling myself away from my family..Feeling alot like i dont belong at the "Get-to-Gethers..Tired of hearing the "Gay Jokes" and watching everyone laugh..No one is alowed to say mexican jokes any more because my sister-in-law's sister is dating a mexican..Let the gay jokes fly it is ok..Real tired of it..I feel out of place and want to be where i fit in the most..Already made other plans for Thanksgiving..One can only be kicked in the face so many times then they gotta quit comming around..Even if you kick a dog so many times eventually the dog stops comming around..I feel like the dog lately..

Wishing everyone a good week..

s..

Yes,"life" really sucks. It seems like I never get a break from any thing. But,maybe thats the cross I have to bear.Right now my sister and her hubbie are on this kick about don't tell don't ask. Someday they will eat ther words. I have emailed my daughter asking her to be tested and if she matches to give me one of her kidneys. I think I already know what her reply will be to me. But,Ill waite to see if I'm right. I'm trying to help my Mom out. She is making too many red blood cells and it in time turns to Lukemia. I feel so sorry for my Mom. I love her dearly. She is 85 and tends to for get things. She goes and has blood taken out,500cc. She is week after having that done.So far she gose about every 4 weeks.
I have lots of love to give but,no gal to share it with. Maybe someday I will. If any one wants to know more about me or has a intrest in me let me know.
I hope all are well with all of you people.

Babyangeleyes.. I know things are hard. I get ticked with my family. Try to remmber they don't understand. How ever what the are doing isn't right. Is your family church people? If I may ask.
Take care...

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters!!! I hope everoyne is having a good day and enjoying the nice Fall weather. Its chilly here in SC, sure beats the hot temps we'd been having. Now I can turn off my AC and keep the windows open . ..good for my electricity bill too . I hope to see this thread active again
Have a beautiful day everyone!

[Rockinonahigh]

It was a really cool night hear as well the temp was 48 when I got up this morning..I am lovin it after the tipple didgit weather we had.
Not much is going one hear ,im just fighting a sinus prob along with vertago wich is worse cause sometimes im ok then im not,the doc said I have calsium crystals loose in my ear...wish they would fall out or go away some how.
Im glad to see folks hear are up and about...take care all.

[Tawse]

and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1.

Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

[cuddlyfemme]

and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1.

Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

When I lived in the DC area, I never really liked winter. In SC, we don't have the winters that I'm used to. I know this sounds crazy but I miss the DC winters

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters! Have a wonderful day doing whatever you are doing

[Rockinonahigh]

and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1.

Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

I dont miss the hot weather just the long days of sun,I have seasonal sun light probs wich make me sort of grumpy,there are a couple of rooms in my house with nature light wich helps.Yes I could easly hibernate for the winter as well.

[ruthie14]

and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1.

Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

I totally hear you! I HATE the winter!!! If I have to put on a jacket, it is tooooooooooo cold! I miss the sun as well... started taking extra D3 to help. I want my summer back! :candle: Never even got to the beach... boooooooooooooo!
Ruthie

[blueeyes226_l]

Yes,"life" really sucks. It seems like I never get a break from any thing. But,maybe thats the cross I have to bear.Right now my sister and her hubbie are on this kick about don't tell don't ask. Someday they will eat ther words. I have emailed my daughter asking her to be tested and if she matches to give me one of her kidneys. I think I already know what her reply will be to me. But,Ill waite to see if I'm right. I'm trying to help my Mom out. She is making too many red blood cells and it in time turns to Lukemia. I feel so sorry for my Mom. I love her dearly. She is 85 and tends to for get things. She goes and has blood taken out,500cc. She is week after having that done.So far she gose about every 4 weeks.
I have lots of love to give but,no gal to share it with. Maybe someday I will. If any one wants to know more about me or has a intrest in me let me know.
I hope all are well with all of you people.

Babyangeleyes.. I know things are hard. I get ticked with my family. Try to remmber they don't understand. How ever what the are doing isn't right. Is your family church people? If I may ask.
Take care...

No,not really church people. I just found out my brothers son is coming up for Thanks Giving and staying here at my Moms. He is the one who wasn't going to let me see my dieing brother because,I was gay. He made a lot of trouble between the rest of the family for me. Thats when,I had my heart atack. I can't stand him. He has stold stuff from my Mother and jiped her and I out of a lot of money. Now he is trying to make trouble with one of his sons about being with a black gal. They wanted me to marry them. I was going to how ever I feel I can't now do to I don't know if I will being doing it just because,his dad dosen't like it. I can't do it with out a clean mottove. I haven't told them yet I can't marry them. I want to tell them in person. I know they need a lot of pre marrital concaling. She has always been very respectful to me. well,I hope all of you are having a good week so far.

[blueeyes226_l]

I totally hear you! I HATE the winter!!! If I have to put on a jacket, it is tooooooooooo cold! I miss the sun as well... started taking extra D3 to help. I want my summer back! :candle: Never even got to the beach... boooooooooooooo!
Ruthie

Hey Ruthie,I was wondering if you still stop by here. How have you been? It was good to see you are still on here!

[blueeyes226_l]

[quote=Rockinonahigh;431839]I dont miss the hot weather just the long days of sun,I have seasonal sun light probs wich make me sort of grumpy,there are a couple of rooms in my house with nature light wich helps.Yes I could easly hibernate for the winter as well.[/quote

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters! Enjoy your day!

[blueeyes226_l]

Good Morning Lofters! Enjoy your day!

Hey, Is everyone ready for a week end? I hope all will enjoy the week. I hope it will not be cold rain or snow. I don't like the winter.

[ruthie14]

Hey Ruthie,I was wondering if you still stop by here. How have you been? It was good to see you are still on here!

I'm hanging in there blue! I am mostly on the singles thread, but I haven't been on much. Working and living... lol How's it going with you?

Ruthie

[blueeyes226_l]

I'm hanging in there blue! I am mostly on the singles thread, but I haven't been on much. Working and living... lol How's it going with you?

Ruthie

Hey Ruthie,
It seems every thing sucks now days.If you get a chance look at my posting on here,then you will know. Any ways glad to see yoiur still here. :-)

[blueeyes226_l]

This morning it was 30F out side. But,there is Ms.sun out today. A good day to BBQ. I need to get my BBQ clean out and sanded then paint it. But,I hope I can cook out one more time. Love my meet and corm on the gril!

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters! Where is everyone?

[Wryly]

at work - - waiting for stuff to happen.

How about you?

[msW8ing]

Getting ready for work. If the pay wasn't so awesome I'd play hookie today. lol Hope ya all have a wonderful day.

[morningstar55]

morning lofter dwellers

wow its been a while since i been in this thread and on the planet ..
been busy driving more then before ever since I have aquired a team driver.
anyways..... will try to visit here more often.
right now we are hangin in Tulsa OKeeeeHoma..
hope everyone has a great day and a awsome weekend.. :)

[cuddlyfemme]

I'm taking a break from cleaning :( But at least its Friday!!!

[Miss_Tia]

hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now?

[cuddlyfemme]

hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now?

I remember my dad would take me and my brother and our friends Trick or Treating through out the neighboorhood. We'd get bummed when we knew someone was home but wouldn't answer the door. When we were done trick or treating, my brother and I would dump the candy out of our bags or plastic pumpkin and my dad would go through all the candy. After that my brother and I would look for candy that we didn't like and try to trade with the other for something we did like lol

[Wryly]

Softness - I remember all the walking! We lived out in the country and sometimes, when our dad took us out, he'd drive along the road and we'd have to walk up the laneway to the house. It seemed that people lived too far away from the roads!
I remember Allan's Hallowe'en candy. I hate it! I think it is a molassas salt-water taffy. It must have been very cheap because it seemed that everyone gave it out.
I remember plastic face masks and the light plastic costumes that ripped when you sat down.
I remember being so wired from all the sugar - man, I must have been bouncing off the walls! my poor mother!

Tonight I'm hanging out - not up to much - just surfing.

[rustedrims]

Just got home from a chili bonfire thing..A guy at work and his Dad have it every year..It is a good time..Didnt go to get drunk just to eat..Saw a few retired guys and visited with the rest..

My Halloween story..
We lived in a small town and we would start going out when it got dark..We were on the other end of town so by the time we were on the farthest end of town everyone would pretty much be out of candy..It was dark and pretty much alone walking back home..Me and my brother would say things to get my 2 sisters scared and we would all start to run..Well of course someone would fall and cry and dump their bag of candy..The rest of us didnt want to help them pick it up so there was always a few hand fulls left on the sidewalk..When we got home we all looked at each others knees to see how bad they were scraped up..As i am writing this i am laughing because to this day i can still say something to my sisters to get them to run scared and my brother would back me up..Now i have their kids to help me out to..Good times..

[Miss_Tia]

I remember falling too when I was out trick or treating! Those plastic face masks made it so hard to see! Make up wasnt like it is nowadays. You used your momma's make up to paint lines and smudge stuff on you!

I remember the glitter on some of my costumes. I thought that was the prettiest site! I was always the witch! LOL. Even witches had glitter, especially on their capes!

Wryly, I lived in the country too but would go "into town" where my cousins lived and ToT with them. I was told never to tell anyone I didnt live there! I felt like I would go to jail if I told!

My most vivid ToT memory isnt of mine, but comes from when I took my little 4 or 5 year old daughter ToTing. She was the good witch from Oz, and was so delicate and sweet looking! I was walking her, with my HUGE collie/St Bernard (named Sister) with me. I would stand at the top of the driveway while Liz would go to the door. I was giving her a sense of independence (who am I kidding? She was demanding it!)

we got to one house and this older guy was sitting on his porch and he was calling to her "come here little girl, come see what I have in my pockets" and jiggled them with his hands in them> I WAS PISSED! I started following her, and didnt that man get up, grab a REAL pick axe and start to chase her! She ran screaming and I ran toward him...I shoved him and the dog started barking and someone grabbed us both and I was yelling at him, then trying to grab my daughter who was scared out of her wits! I admit I wanted to kill him! She was trembling, and I scooped her up and took her hom, about a block and a half away. I called the cops and made a report. Then, wouldnt you know it, the kid looks at me after the cops leave, and asks if we can go back out...lol

kids are so resilient....

yes, we did!

[Julien]

Hello All,
I've been away for a while and thought I would check in and see what's up. It is good to see so many here. So this is my coming back to the Planet and I thought I'd start here first.
Julien

[claybaby]

well WB, Julien! Good to see ya...enjoy!

[Wryly]

Working part time sucks in the pay department - - but so many days off is awesome.
Only 2 days this week - - but I was originally scheduled for only 1. So it works out - - sort of!
Now I'm off until next week - - a full 5 days of work! After that it is going to be lean times until Christmas. Hopefully the expected rain won't be that bad and I'll have some beautiful picture taking weather.

[raising2alone]

I remember when my brother and I would go out in our little neighborhood, I think I was about 5. We had these awesome HUGE masks of Indians. (they would probably be considered offensive now) but, we would always make a huge haul of candy, 3 or 4 grocery bags each. I was too shy to go to some houses so my brother came back, got my mask and my bag and went up to the house again so I could have that candy :), what a good brother.

Now that I have kids of my own, I am afraid to take them into neighborhoods where I don't know anyone, there is always someone trying to hurt kids with tainted candy or razers in apples. Now we have to look for a nursing home or the church trick or treat events. I think it is sad, would love for my kids to experience just running around and going from door to door, it was so much fun!

Thanks for asking the question softness :).

[Rockinonahigh]

I grew up in a multi national neighbor hood,everyone celebrated halloween the way they did in what ever country they were from,all of us kids got to see how much fun it was cause of the diffrences in treats we got as we went to each house.Many familys would be haveing partys that were on going as the kids came and went many staying for while to have some fun.Every parent knew every child in the neighbor hood..u can bet if one of us did sopmething we shouldnt have our parents knew before we got home.Most kids went in groups with an older sibling or some older folks to go with us,we always fely safe,to bad some jerk messed up a fun evening for soman who love the fun and games.

[Stacy]

Hey all~
I thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm over 40, so I guess it's safe to come in here. :)

[cuddlyfemme]

Good morning E/everyone! I hope Y/you all have a beautiful day. Its supposed to be chilly and damp here but its good weather to open the sliding glass door and get some fresh air inside....besides my cats like looking out of the sliding glass door and listening to the noises.
Wryly, I know what you mean about it being a lean Christmas...its going to be that way for me too.

[Wryly]

It is a rainy chilly day here.
Had a quick visit with my brother - - he is working on my house. Lots of work to be done now we just have to come up with the money!
Now at my SIL. Apparently we aren't going to be doing the work that I thought we were so it looks like a couple of lazy days for me, I hope!

cuddlyfemme - I hope things are going well for you, despite everything. I've been offered a couple more days work so that helps. But a lean Christmas is better than nothing at all. Things will get better.

[raising2alone]

Hi Stacy,

Of course it is ok that you come in here :), welcome. I don't get to post often but I will certainly say hi when I am around!

Have a great week!!!!


Hey all~
I thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm over 40, so I guess it's safe to come in here. :)

[cuddlyfemme]

Don't forget to wear purple today for Spirit Day!

[Licious]

Hey all.. just stopping by to enjoy the fine vintage of older folks. Have a good Tuesday evening and Wednesday. :wine:

[Wryly]

*stupid phone! I had a nice post but the my phone went wonky and lost it.*

I'm on the train - heading home after a good day at work. My job went smoothly, lots of joking around with co-workers. Plus I sat in on the training of the cutest little butch. I swear I just want to tuck him into my pocket and pet hys little brushcut whenever I'm feeling blue. I feel very protective of hym even though I'm sure hy can take care of hymself.

tomorrow is an earlier shift - - so I hope I can fall asleep without any problems tonight.

[freckled1]

Good morning. I now qualify to be here so thought I'd pop in to say hello. Hope everyone has a great day today!

[Inuus]

Just thought I would pop in and I hope everyone is having a relaxing peaceful evening

[ruthie14]

I hear you about the lean Christmas folks. I work full time and part time and still don't make enough. Today we were told that there is a "problem" with the checks so we won't be getting paid on friday. meanwhile the new owner is mia in Texas... hmmmm Not looking too good. I am wanting to leave this job NOW! I've been very unhappy here for the last year and a half but this is getting rediculous. I just wish I had went to school for something other than early childhood ed. Now at 49, I am making less than some at the mall. REALLY? Going to try to go back to school and see if there is SOMETHING I am good at besides education. Meantime, I am exhausted from working my 2 jobs, dog sitting, babysitting, etc... just trying to make ends meet. The worst is watching my mother sell some of her jewelry, not getting her nails done anymore, etc. These were suppose to be her golden years. Now she may have to find a job...again... at 72. Makes me sad and I feel helpless. I know I'm not the only one, I am lucky to have any job at all..... but we are still not making it.

sigh.... I need :chocolate: and :wine:!

[Rockinonahigh]

I hear you about the lean Christmas folks. I work full time and part time and still don't make enough. Today we were told that there is a "problem" with the checks so we won't be getting paid on friday. meanwhile the new owner is mia in Texas... hmmmm Not looking too good. I am wanting to leave this job NOW! I've been very unhappy here for the last year and a half but this is getting rediculous. I just wish I had went to school for something other than early childhood ed. Now at 49, I am making less than some at the mall. REALLY? Going to try to go back to school and see if there is SOMETHING I am good at besides education. Meantime, I am exhausted from working my 2 jobs, dog sitting, babysitting, etc... just trying to make ends meet. The worst is watching my mother sell some of her jewelry, not getting her nails done anymore, etc. These were suppose to be her golden years. Now she may have to find a job...again... at 72. Makes me sad and I feel helpless. I know I'm not the only one, I am lucky to have any job at all..... but we are still not making it.

sigh.... I need :chocolate: and :wine:!




Rithie,I went back to school at 52,yes it can be difficuly but very doabl,just make shure u pick something that you can go somewhere with.Dont beleave the school whant theysay thay can help u find a job cause mine did and did nada..check it out your self.

[Rockinonahigh]

About ten years ago I thought the world would always be a big shining place to be in,then the bottom fell out,I wont go into the long story of it but it was one hell of a drop.Because of this situation me and my son ended up near homeless,We did manage to find a cheep place to live,but it was a dump in the first order.Just to make it from day to day was a struggle,either he had a job or I did,it took me going back to school to finaly get a decent job.while I was going back to school he found a job with an Rv dealership that he still has today.Hollidays back then were so hard that I just nearly stoped even acknoedgeing them..it was just one more day to get thrue.For a long time its just been him and me..we get something for each other I send out christmass cards.Its now been five years since we managed to get to where we are now,I still have holliday blues..he thinks they are over rated( he may be right)
But I put up a fue christmass things on the mantle,the tree is 2 ceramic trees my mom and my aunt Jo made...I like to sit in the dark and watch the lights blink and remember the times whan they were hear,I learned that the hollidays are what u make of them no mater how much $$$ u may have.

[ruthie14]

Rithie,I went back to school at 52,yes it can be difficuly but very doabl,just make shure u pick something that you can go somewhere with.Dont beleave the school whant theysay thay can help u find a job cause mine did and did nada..check it out your self.

Ya... already been down that road with university of pheonex and the local county college. Not a job to be had. Half of my problem is finding something I can do that has a market... so far.... nothing... a big giant goose egg!

[Rockinonahigh]

Ya... already been down that road with university of pheonex and the local county college. Not a job to be had. Half of my problem is finding something I can do that has a market... so far.... nothing... a big giant goose egg!


I hear ya,I spent two years getting a culinary degree,I did work as a chef for a long time BUT with the job market the way it is im back to slinging drinks.The colllege degree, I polish off now and then,not shure its worth the papaer its wrote on.

[Wryly]

good evening everyone!

on the train - homeward bound. a good shift at work today - a few things didn't go quite right but I'll chalk it up as a learning experience. a nice dinnertime convo with a co-worker. and a hilarious phone call with someone who has turned out to be a good friend. so nice to know someone has my back despite knowing all my faults! ;-)
dead tired but have a few things to do before I go to bed. same shift tomorrow - it is nice to get home early for a change.

[claybaby]

good evening all you gorgeous lofters! Hope everyone is having a great week. Weather here is still gorgeous...high 70's days and mid to high 60's nights...love, love, love it! Still wearing shorts and tees...my standard issue clothing...lol.....have a wonderful rest of the week..hugs to all...

[Wryly]

ruth and rocking -
I just read your posts (I'm surfing on my phone and your messages didn't appear until my last post went thru).
yeah - the last couple years have been tough. I am sorry to hear how it has been for you both. but I know they will get better eventually.
we just have to tough it out a little longer.

[claybaby]

hey Ruthie:
I hear you on the holidays...being lean..and all...this will be a truly lean one, for me..and this is the third year since my wife passed away..I don't even celebrate them....I still miss her...like it happened yesterday...BUT I know she wouldn't want me to grieve, but to forge ahead and enjoy life...still, it is so very hard. The ladies ,for the most part, seem to be so hardened, so jaded, and so broken, at this age that they are so afraid to love again...but I am ever positive and hopeful she does exist, and we will find one another when it is meant to be...meanwhile, I flirt, I play, and I believe....so....keep the faith..it isn't about what we can spend, it is about how we treat our fellow beings...peace on earth..peace in our heart..and love for one another..THAT is the spirit of the holidays...

[rustedrims]

Kinda a spooky story for Halloween..

First of the year i gutted my kitchen..Time for a new look..As i tore things up i was taking pictures on my progress and of course i took the "before" pic's..Well i got my very expensive throw away camera full so i took it into get the pictures developed..Couldnt wait to get to the car to look at them..As i was looking at them i noticed "Orbes" all over..Scared me and made me nervous to go home and not to mention when it got dark..I was afraid to close my eyes in the shower..I got myself real scared..Then i got to looking at them closer to try to find out when they started..It was when i tore the origional plaster off the ceilling..They literally fell out of the ceilling..They wernt there when i took the before pictures..One pic there were 12 of them floating around..Took a pic of my cat sitting on the ladder and there was one floating around her face..She didnt seem to be bothered by it..Then i got to thinking again that i kept loosing my pencil..I picked things up and put my stuff in piles out of the way and my pencil was right in there..The next day i get busy and needing my pencil hummmmm it is gone..I get a new one sharpen it and get busy and without looking for my lost pencil it showes up out of no where..Then i think why didnt i see it there..??..its because it wasnt there..Spooky Huh..Flashlights are the same way to..I buy the expensive ones to last forever..In about a month they are useless..I cannot keep a useable flashlight in this house..The batteries go dead in a matter of weeks..Maybe those "orbes" are sucking the power out of them..It is just spooky to me..

Anybody else on Spooky House stories..

s..

[claybaby]

Hi Kel:
THANK YOU so very much..for your kind, inspiring words. I believe the same way.....SHE is out here, and we are working our paths to one another...perhaps I just met her, and am yet to know she is THE ONE! My deceased wife will put us in the right place, at the right time.....
I can't agree more with you on the people who met IRL at the Reunion after meeting online, emails, texts, calls, etc. I know of a couple or three of them..and their love & happiness just shows in the many pics online!!! I am a believer of fairy tales...of fate...of destiny....
I appreciate your friendship and enjoy seeing your work. I can't wait to meet you & DJ at the next Reunion..if there is any way possible, I am planning on going!!!
Have an awesome weekend...hugs to you both...Clay

[claybaby]

Hey Kelli...welcome to the Loft. It is an incredible hangout for people here..and some amazing people pass through all the time. I just love having the "loft" where like minded folks meet up, pass by, leave coffee, juice, pastries, and such fabulous "pearls of wisdom". It is a safe place...a cool place, and love abounds here...so pull up a nice bean bag chair..have some coffee, maybe a danish, and enjoy!!!! Clay

[morningstar55]

hey ya lofters...... wow I sure seem to have a lot of reading's to catch up on.
hope everyone has a enjoyable and safe weekend.

alrighty who's going out to any halloween parties??
i know im NOT .. lol ....... but i do have some decorations on my truck
will have to catch up on the topics a bit later... ttfn. :)

[sharonsuburbia]

hey ya lofters...... wow I sure seem to have a lot of reading's to catch up on.
hope everyone has a enjoyable and safe weekend.

alrighty who's going out to any halloween parties??
i know im NOT .. lol ....... but i do have some decorations on my truck
will have to catch up on the topics a bit later... ttfn. :)

same here - i have not been in here in ages:detective:

[claybaby]

Hey fellow Lofters:
Hope everyone is having a great Friday night. I am not going to any H'ween shindigs..lol..haven't done any H'ween fun stuff in years. I don't really celebrate it anyway. Have not lived where there are any kids in several years..sooo..and I sure don't need all the sugar!! smiles...
I do love the candy corn and the circus peanuts...yummy! And a great, old fashioned caramel apple with nuts...bom diggity!! Maybe I will do H'ween sushi..instead....
Have an awesome weekend..hugs to all..Clay

[Rockinonahigh]

Hello and happy holloween to u all,there are no less than 6 places I could go to party away the night aswell as staterday and sunday partys.I would have a ball but im not up to much paryting at the moment.Its not that im a party pooper just not feeling to well,I got some new meds today wich are really quirking me up with tenth degree drunkness,the doc said it would do this but after 5 hours and I was fine..then the little stinker hit,thank goodness I only will be takeing this stuff for 5 days...I hope I never take them again.:seeingstars::seeingstars:

[Vlasta]

Hello All,
I have been away for some time and just found thread where I feel would be good to start again.
My weekend will be quiet. No clubbing for Halloween. I stop doing that while ago. I used to be fanatic to decorate my house, not anymore either. I will hang a wreath on my door and just give out candy.

I hope everyone is having great weekend.:) It’s cold over here, but sunny.

Vlasta

[Rockinonahigh]

Good morning world,how are ya?!??Down hear in the sunny cold south,the temp is a breezy 51 degrees,dont ya just love it when the fur kids come in from going out then plop in your lap with cold wet tootsies...burrrr.Nothing goin g on but the useal today,in still a bit under the weather,the pills im on suck,glad im only takeing them for a shirt time..

[claybaby]

Hope you all have a "Spooktacular" weekend! Not doing anything special here..as I usually don't anyway. It is rather nice here, clear, blue sunny skies..temps in 80's days and low 70's nights! This is my time of year...yumm..sending hugs to everyone! Clay

[morningstar55]

about halloween....
i hit a friggin .. witch ... with my truck. Geezzz


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wil be peeling her off sometime tomorrow. lol

clay.. ...i love the carolina's.. hoping to get my butt moved there soon at some point. My best friend is in yancyville and is hoping i will find a place near her.... but i kinda would like to be a lil closer to charlotte .. like maybe a lil north or north west of it somewhere.
i iuse to live around charlotte before.... bk in 2000/2002 and was voted 3rd place for volunter of the yr for pride fest .. lol
i miss the community there.

[Vlasta]

Just stopping by to say hi. It’s cold down here at least for me. I know up at North is worse, yet I love a warm weather. Enjoy your Sunday everyone :)

[Rockinonahigh]

It was 49* when I drug up outta bed,no I didnt wannna but I smelled the coffee so I got up,the fur kids went out witha a run to the patio door.At the moment im not doing much but pokeing rund on the puter...may take a nap later.

[claybaby]

hey Roaming Star...thanks for the post!!! LOL>.that witch sure is flat...gonna be the debbil prying her off...can ya say "wide, flat paint scraper"...lol actually a "snow shovel"...lol..j/k ya.
I love the Charlotte area...Yanceyville..isn't the race track near there..for some reason that is on my mind it is..anyway, I am in SOUTH Carolina..lol..folks always get the Carolinas mixed up...am near Savannah,GA area.
Now if ya relocate to the Charlotte area...I may be interested in being a "truck boi"..jus' sayin'...smiles.....stay safe my friendabout halloween....
i hit a friggin .. witch ... with my truck. Geezzz


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wil be peeling her off sometime tomorrow. lol

clay.. ...i love the carolina's.. hoping to get my butt moved there soon at some point. My best friend is in yancyville and is hoping i will find a place near her.... but i kinda would like to be a lil closer to charlotte .. like maybe a lil north or north west of it somewhere.
i iuse to live around charlotte before.... bk in 2000/2002 and was voted 3rd place for volunter of the yr for pride fest .. lol
i miss the community there.

[claybaby]

hey there all you lofters...from sunny, warm Hilton Head area..is 75 degrees here...sunny, clear blue skies..and I am in shorts and tank..as usual...smiles..stay warm all you Nor'Easters....I feel for you all....hope power is restored soon for all of you! Clay

[Vlasta]

hey there all you lofters...from sunny, warm Hilton Head area..is 75 degrees here...sunny, clear blue skies..and I am in shorts and tank..as usual...smiles..stay warm all you Nor'Easters....I feel for you all....hope power is restored soon for all of you! Clay

you are in SC? I love SC!! ... I lived there for sometime went to school in Columbia. It was a small community, but social life was awesome there . I still have many friends in Cola even many of us moved away. Now ,we are still friends and talking about good times on FB .

[claybaby]

Yes, I am in SC....it is my state of birth...and I am familiar with Cola...very well...been through it often!!! Yes, it is an awesome state!! I lived in Atlanta for a few years//mid 80's..LOVE Pride there!!!you are in SC? I love SC!! ... I lived there for sometime went to school in Columbia. It was a small community, but social life was awesome there . I still have many friends in Cola even many of us moved away. Now ,we are still friends and talking about good times on FB .

[Vlasta]

Yes, I am in SC....it is my state of birth...and I am familiar with Cola...very well...been through it often!!! Yes, it is an awesome state!! I lived in Atlanta for a few years//mid 80's..LOVE Pride there!!!

SC people are very friendly. My neighbors over there were great believe it or not my lifestyle was not problem to them at all .

I was not living in Atlanta in mid 80's , but ATL pride is great as for southern states . Lately , they are placing a lot of limitations on people at pride . I am not sure why since the pride brings the city a lot of money . I did volunteer at pride for 5 years , because my employer was a sponsor of the pride . Now , they cut off many things including pride .

Well , enjoy my home state and have a great Sunday :)

[Julien]

Hello to one and all,
What will you do this eve before Halloween Eve otherwise known as Hell Night? I hope everyone has a safe evening tonight and tomorrow. I plan on staying in watching horror films, new and old. Yes I know it could be considered a boring evening, but that's ok. Not much going on here and the Saints lost, so in a funk.

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Evening Everyone, I hope you are all doing good. I think I'm getting a cold.
Its nice to see some talk about Colo. I've lived in Colo almost 2 years now.

[morningstar55]

hey Roaming Star...thanks for the post!!! LOL>.that witch sure is flat...gonna be the debbil prying her off...can ya say "wide, flat paint scraper"...lol actually a "snow shovel"...lol..j/k ya.
I love the Charlotte area...Yanceyville..isn't the race track near there..for some reason that is on my mind it is..anyway, I am in SOUTH Carolina..lol..folks always get the Carolinas mixed up...am near Savannah,GA area.
Now if ya relocate to the Charlotte area...I may be interested in being a "truck boi"..jus' sayin'...smiles.....stay safe my friend



a truck boi??? heh. hmmmm ........ funny i just breezed thru your area a week or so ago.. lol ....sorry wish would of known.
and good morning
..... Lofters .....
hope you all had a enjoyable halloween , how ever which .. excuse me .. witch way you spent it. lol


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next stop...... new castle deleware
i m unable to get on line during my drive time's.. BUT . yahoo IM comes to my cell soooooo leave a message if you like :)
have a great day.

[claybaby]

Hey lofters....good morning to all of you from sunny (and still warm) SC (in my neck of the woods anyway)....have a great day..
it is propitous...11/1/11....
catch you all later...hugs everyone!! I see Ms. Star left a huge plate of breakfast for us....yummmm

[freckled1]

Good morning lofters. It's a foggy morning in MN and our high today will be around 58 degrees. But for us, at this time of year, that's not bad at all. I hope.everyone has a splendid day!

[MysticOceansFL]

Good Morning Lofters have a great week!!!!!!!!!!

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Everyone....have a wonderful day and stay warm!

[msW8ing]

Popping to say good morning to A/all the Lofters..wishing E/everyone a happy humpy day!! The work week is half over yessssss..can't wait for the weekend..A/anyone have anything fun or special planned??

[claybaby]

Morning all ya lofters....hope the day is awesome for all of you...a gorgeous day here in SC...altho a lil nippy out this am..62..but with the ocean breezes..is always a lil cooler...so I may have to just break out those damn long jeans this am....:(...as I have to go to an appt. at 100pm...makes me sad when I have to wear pants AND a jacket..albeit lightweight...but alas..the warmer temps will return...smiles....anyway...hugs to all...Clay

[Julien]

Good morning to one and all. I guess we can call it a milestone in my life. I go in to see the gyno to see if I need to have an hysterectomy. It is a good thing except for the actual surgery :sigh: So that is my plan for the afternoon.

[Vlasta]

good evening all :)
just flying by to say hello , I hope all of you are well , I have been little busy for posting . However , I am here and still queer :)

[claybaby]

hey Graph...we can be "roomies" and have our surgery at same time perhaps? I see my oncologist first time next week..she is going to do mine ASAP...wanna wish you luck and you will do great.....hugs..ClayGood morning to one and all. I guess we can call it a milestone in my life. I go in to see the gyno to see if I need to have an hysterectomy. It is a good thing except for the actual surgery :sigh: So that is my plan for the afternoon.

[claybaby]

gud evening all you lofters...fly by....Heeeellllllooooooo...lol...empty loft this evening...hey vlasta, cuddly, morningstar, matt...and others....laterzzz..Clay

[Vlasta]

gud evening all you lofters...fly by....Heeeellllllooooooo...lol...empty loft this evening...hey vlasta, cuddly, morningstar, matt...and others....laterzzz..Clay

Hi Clay ..... I have been so busy I didn't have a time to post .... sorry it's feeling so empty :(

[claybaby]

hey V...no probs...it is rather late..and they are probably asleep..lol...have a great night.Clay

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters!! Clay and Graphite, I had my hysterectomy at 28 due to overanian cancer, the surgery sucked and so did the recovery but the pain meds were great. I think the surgery is much less invasive now than when I got mine done.
Have a wonderful day everyone!

[DJDT]

Ii just found this...my partner Kelli (THE-FOTO-GAL) told me about it. Hows everyone in the loft? Damn, 1 more year and I gotta move to the 50+ pages haha...thats ok, 50s will be the new 30s...I hope my bones feel like that! Anyways wanted to say howdee to all! KEEP IT REAL! :fastdraq:

[claybaby]

howdy there DT! Welcome to the Loft..great peeps up in heah..maybe we can have a rock n roll night...and have you spin the discs...woot! woot! I hear ya are the one to rock the house...enjoy and catch ya on da flip side...^5 DT!Ii just found this...my partner Kelli (THE-FOTO-GAL) told me about it. Hows everyone in the loft? Damn, 1 more year and I gotta move to the 50+ pages haha...thats ok, 50s will be the new 30s...I hope my bones feel like that! Anyways wanted to say howdee to all! KEEP IT REAL! :fastdraq:

[cuddlyfemme]

Hi DT, welcome to the Loft, I'm glad you found us. The people here are great and the topics go from fun to serious. Enjoy!!!!

[morningstar55]

peeking in .......


its been a long day, driving , then oil change... truck wash,.. then laundry... putting things away . geesh im pooped.....
kick back time.....

i dont get on in the planet as much as i use too... but will try to more often.
im still promoting and handing out cards........ to potential members out on the road.. :) to come join us here on the planet. :)

hello Dj .. :)

[Vlasta]

flying through once again just to say hello . I am watching my 7 month old granddaughter right now , she just have a simple cold , but I have her all day until her mom picks her up . Needless to say she keeps me busy , ms little diva is already smart , only 7 months and she already playing granny like violin .

I hope everyone is doing well :)

Vlasta (f)

[sarahwho]

Came thru to lurk.....hey morningstar - I remember you from another forum - hi, how ya doing?

So have a wonderful day y'all! :hangloose:

[Countyfem]

Hello all! Another beautiful day in NC, sitting here on the porch listening to some jazz and thought I'd intro myself to the thread.

So hi! Countyfem here! Hope everyone has a wonderful day..

[morningstar55]

hey ya lofters.........

hi de hooo ,... sara :)
howdy countryfemmmm

im hangin between north western corner of nj and pa at the moment..
had a very stressful morning.... think i need a walk or something.

[Countyfem]

hey ya lofters.........

hi de hooo ,... sara :)
howdy countryfemmmm

im hangin between north western corner of nj and pa at the moment..
had a very stressful morning.... think i need a walk or something.

hey Morning hate to hear you day was ruff did you get your walk-about in?

[Vlasta]

hi ... just stopping by and I see not much of us are in this category :( Life is same , I am getting old and finally appreciate a quiet Saturday evening in my pj's . five years ago I would go crazy to be at home on Saturday evening , now I welcome my time . Where is Clay ? keeper of this thread ?

wishing you all a great weekend :)

[Vlasta]

hi ... just stopping by and I see not much of us are in this category :( Life is same , I am getting old and finally appreciate a quiet Saturday evening in my pj's . five years ago I would go crazy to be at home on Saturday evening , now I welcome my time . Where is Clay ? keeper of this thread ?

wishing you all a great weekend :)



opps I meant Friday night , you see what dementia do to you :(

[tazz]

hello all... new to this thread but not to b/f planet. i'm chillin in Cali right now. enjoying my friday eve.

*hugz* to everyone!

[cuddlyfemme]

hello all... new to this thread but not to b/f planet. i'm chillin in Cali right now. enjoying my friday eve.

*hugz* to everyone!

Hi Tazz, welcome to the Loft! You'll find a bunch of lively good people here! Glad you joined us!

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Lofters! Happy Saturday! I hope everyone is doing well. I've got the start of a head cold but still have to clean and do laundry today. Anyone got anything good going on for the weekend?

[Countyfem]

Hi all! sitting here having a cup'a joe soon off to go house hunting..
hope everyone has a wonderful weekend and remember even if you don't do a damn thing do it well!:sunglass:

[claybaby]

Goooddddddd Morning Lofters.......it's a cool-ish 57 here this AM, but clear, blue sunny skies!!! Have been very busy the last couple weeks...missed seeing everyone! Thanks for the kind words, Vlasta! I am off to the island (Hilton Head) to do some errands....just flew by to say morning & hello! Welcome to the site Countyfem...house hunting..now that sounds like fun! Here's hoping you will find a great one...welcome Tazz...and catch you all later! Clay Glow Worm

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Everyone! I hope you are having a good day. I'm just sitting here with my first cup of coffee of the day. I have another cup waiting for me. Countryfem, I hope you find the perfect house.
No matter what you are doing today, I hope its wonderfull!

[Cowboi]

Good Morning. Im sitting here, just finished brekkie. Waiting to go to the gym. It gonna be a beautiful day. I hope y'all enjoy it!!!

[scentsofautumn]

Good Morning...been awhile...have a great day everyone!

[claybaby]

Morning Countyfem, Cowboi, Scentsofautumn, Vlasta, Cuddly, DT, Morningstar and other Lofters...it is a warm, beautiful clear blue skied day here in SC.....hope everyone has an awesome day! Take care....Clay

[Countyfem]

Morning to all!

Clay thanks for sending some of that lovely weather my way!

[claybaby]

on its way....enjoy it! :sunglass:

[rustedrims]

A good afternoon to all..
House hunting could be fun and agervatiting..I liked looking when i was in the market for a new place..We are having nice weather in northern Ohio but alot of wind..A good thing if you are raking the leaves in the neighbors yard..{kidding}..Thought of that because my neighbor does that to me..
Hope we all have a good sunday relaxing or getting things done like watching a little football..Gotta get my dishes done then make some brownies..

s..

[Countyfem]

A good afternoon to all..
House hunting could be fun and agervatiting..I liked looking when i was in the market for a new place..We are having nice weather in northern Ohio but alot of wind..A good thing if you are raking the leaves in the neighbors yard..{kidding}..Thought of that because my neighbor does that to me..
Hope we all have a good sunday relaxing or getting things done like watching a little football..Gotta get my dishes done then make some brownies..

s..

I find house hunting to be a pain! Thank goodness my realtor is a hoot,
the Cowboys won THAT makes me happy. Was a bit windy here too, but so neat the watch the leaves dancing around, the cats and I were fascinated for a good while

[Countyfem]

on its way....enjoy it! :sunglass:

I did enjoy! send some more!!

[Vlasta]

Hi everyone , I hope y'all have a great weekend . No warm weather here that supposed to be send down here from the South Carolina < ahem > ,

I am ready to start hibernate for winter , but first I have to dress up this house for the holidays . Not so enthusiastic anymore since I have everything organized in boxes and every year it's the same and I don't feel like to re decorate again .

Everyone have a great week , I have my" list to do" ready for the next week , not so happy about it , but it needs to be done .

[claybaby]

hey lofters.....good Monday morning!
Here is hoping everyone's morning is spectacular and your week is pleasant!
Sending warm, sunny weather north to countyfem, and south to Atlanta....was 74 here yesterday....yummmm....I was back in my beloved shorts and tee....