What is on your mind

[VintageFemme]

This horrendous storm and friends in Florida on both coasts who are impacted by it. I've had them on my mind the entire weekend as I watched the coverage almost nonstop. Those who have had their turn on the Irma roller coaster are ok and one more riding it out tonight, in Orlando. We'll all be so glad when this year's hurricane season is over.

[Shystonefem]

I am thinking that it takes a very intelligent person to really understand me. I am complicated in a pretty simple way. I am pretty positive that nobody can follow my thought patterns but, at least one, understands where I am when I am lost to most.

LOL.... I am an adventure, I know that. I probably should come with a warning label.

[clay]

My writings....coming from within again....I love the creative juices when they are stimulated.....

[Greco]

new images...paint, colors, size
of canvases...and words peeking through
figures and pulling on my ears and urging
my hands, fingers to take pen, and
brushes...bookended by my Muse.

Greco

[JDeere]

That I have too much hope and I will be let down again.

[girl_dee]

how much i love our late night chats....

[homoe]

The trip over to Seattle tomorrow :praying:

[easygoingfemme]

How glad I am to have been released from jury duty today :)
Mentally creating my pack list for camping this weekend. :)

[Gayandgray]

A longtime friend who really is just a "sometimes" friend anymore. Unfortunately for me, she only wants to get together or talk or whatever, "sometimes". Like when her other friends are busy......

[girl_dee]

That i realized this morning i have been wearing the same LL Bean winter shoes since 2004. They sure have a LOT of miles on them!

i think i got my money's worth after 13 years, and it could be time to invest in a new pair.

[easygoingfemme]

My work place held a mandatory training today for all employees and interns on GBLTQ and POC language, respect, culture, and community building. It was really great. Our trainer was phenomenal. It was a two hour training first thing this morning and created a lot of good dialogue among staff throughout the day. Funny part was when I said something that "outed" me and someone who I have known and worked for about 15 years with went drop jaw because they assumed I was straight. So we threw "femme invisibility" into the vocab sheet.

I'm packing up my car and getting ready to go off grid for the weekend. Can't wait to be on the riverbank sitting by the fire with friends and chosen family.

[clay]

:seeingstars:......................

[girl_dee]

:dog: .........................

[BullDog]

How life humbles me.

[JDeere]

My procedure in the morning and Thursday when I see her again.

[Kätzchen]

The sound of the rainfall and daydreaming about what comes next in life. . . . . . .

[Mel C.]

How hard it is to watch someone you love suffer and being unable to make it all better.

[Medusa]

I did something magical yesterday and I can't even really talk about it yet but I'm so stoned with joy and wonder that I am having a hard time concentrating today. <3

[girl_dee]

How hard it is to watch someone you love suffer and being unable to make it all better.

What is on my mind is how you DO make it all better. You are amazing and i don't know what i would do without you right now. :stillheart:

[Gemme]

Plans for the future.

[Gayandgray]

A friend............

[Bootsandheels]

My next new/used vehicle search on my own...ugh but so grateful I GET to go shop for a new/used vehicle at all after my accident last Sun.

Writing a new femme blog post about it all, deciding whether or not to call it Femme Crashed...LOL. :blink:

[Esme nha Maire]

My new friend, who transformed into my new date yesterday evening during a loong phonecall! I have no idea of how to select different smilies here, but just imagine the one I've seen some folk use that blushes! :-}

T - 10hr 40 mins and counting..

[girl_dee]

that its 6:30 am and still dark outside. Days are getting shorter.

[Gayandgray]

that its 6:30 am and still dark outside. Days are getting shorter.

I know!!! It sucks......

[Bèsame*]

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/e8/e2/28/e8e228cab397b7dcc75c4a6eae8fadaf--hello-autumn-autumn-fall.jpg

please FALL, take all the 9's out of the temperature asap!

[TL1]

Hummus.... I tried and I just can't. And now I can not get this horrible taste out of my mouth and throat. I think I even "taste" it in my stomach.

[LOQUI]

...this moment

[akiza]

i don't know if i'm autorized to go in the butch zone i feel like i'm walking on the toes of someone

[Gemme]

A whole lot, that's for sure.

[Medusa]

I'm working my ass of today finishing up a bunch of reports and projects so that I can hopefully be stress-free next week before going to Vegas.

On my mind is how to get a week's worth of work done by tomorrow. But it's ok, I've got this. :hangloose:

[Gayandgray]

My sister's suggestion that I go to college...... Have no idea what to study?

[Femmewench]

My sister's suggestion that I go to college...... Have no idea what to study?

I'd start at a community college for your core courses. You'll save a lot of money and 4 year college/universities will accept the credits in transfer. You'll have time to figure out what you may want to major in.

You could also consult a Life Coach to narrow down your interests.

I'd love to be a perpetual student!

[MsTinkerbelly]

My sister's suggestion that I go to college...... Have no idea what to study?

What about becoming a nurse? You seem to have a natural lean towards care taking, and your work experience could transfer into class credits.

[Gayandgray]

What about becoming a nurse? You seem to have a natural lean towards care taking, and your work experience could transfer into class credits.

Nah, I kinda want to do something different? I've been caretaking over twenty years and I'd like a change, just not sure what.

[Tuff Stuff]

Just one thing.. :chasingzombie:

[akiza]

members of my family are really good at lying what a school kami-sama "_" they lie to you without batting an eye lash!

[Gayandgray]

A friend who unfortunately is a compulsive liar, and how she actually believes her own lies! It's very sad......

[girl_dee]

i am thinking of what i need to bring to Vegas!

[easygoingfemme]

i am thinking of what i need to bring to Vegas!

Me. You need to bring me!

[girl_dee]

Me. You need to bring me!

Get in the suitcase !!!!

[CherryWine]

It's very bothersome to me that many Americans are seemingly becoming desensitized to these mass shootings.

[Tuff Stuff]

Just one thing.. :chasingzombie:

The Walking Dead

:D

[FireSignFemme]

How people from my past who live in Las Vegas or travel there frequently are doing. Also what's going on with others I know who, though they are no longer living there, have friends and family members who do.

[MsTinkerbelly]

It's very bothersome to me that many Americans are seemingly becoming desensitized to these mass shootings.

Every 9 out of 10 days there is a mass shooting in the USA. Yes, out of every 10 days there is ONLY 1 day with no mass death. :| The only state where one has not occurred this year is Wyoming.

In order to survive, I personally take out the latest hurricane/shooting/tornado/earthquake/Trumpmonster/on and on and on...and I examine it, and grieve briefly, and move on with life. Otherwise, how could we possibly leave our homes?

[bright_arrow]

i am thinking of what i need to bring to Vegas!

Hella hugs for this girl right here (f)

[girl_dee]

Hella hugs for this girl right here (f)

Oh you are so gonna get it!!!

[Orema]

Her next visit.

[girl_dee]

Def not on work

[Chad]

Those poor people in Vegas that were killed or injured.
My heart goes out to their families.

It is heartbreaking.

[Bèsame*]

https://i.pinimg.com/236x/03/50/34/035034582b88f3a820d5732291b3b784--tom-petty-quotes-tom-petty-lyrics.jpg

[JDeere]

How to get past certain things without letting it anger me.

[Gayandgray]

My spouse's grown ass grandkids and their ridiculous behavior....I love my step-grandkids just like they were my own, I helped raise them, I've seen their kids be born, etc. But I can't understand how they grew up watching their Mother and Father taking drugs and drinking and literally ruining their lives, and yet they turn around and do the same damned thing!!?? Did they not learn a thing from their distinctions childhoods? Now here they are Addicts and having babies they are not capable of raising. Nobody wants to hold down a job, everybody wants to have everything handed to them. I just don't understand them anymore...... My sweet butch spouse cries about it all the time and asks where we went wrong? She wants us to take custody of one of the Great-Grandbabies and raise her but I seriously have my hands full with my spouse and all her health issues. I cut way back on my hours specifically so I could be home to take care of her and still be paid full time, I can't handle a newborn. Life is just so messed up sometimes!:|:|

[Blade]

My OCD brain won't stop running threw my check list of things to pack for my trip for the weekend

[JDeere]

How to go about getting back into the work force, I hate job hunting!

[Gayandgray]

How to go about getting back into the work force, I hate job hunting!

It's not like it used to be! Remember when you put in applications in person? Now everything is online....

[JDeere]

It's not like it used to be! Remember when you put in applications in person? Now everything is online....

Yes and job searching is online as well.

[Bèsame*]

My boss is out of the business for at least 4-6 weeks!!!!!!!!

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[2qt]

There just isn't enough time in a single day these days...... Feeling like a slinky that's totally exhaustipated....

[AmazonDC]

Food... need food... buffet time ..

[akiza]

i want my teddy bear

[clay]

Anticipation...................

[A. Spectre]

For this great country called the United States of America, this photograph is a metaphor. Our need to reflect as a country, where we see ourselves for the next generation is a must.


https://www.sunnyskyz.com/uploads/2016/01/acpj3-eagle-ref.jpg

[RockOn]

Serama chickens are on my mind! When grown, they are only 10 inches tall or less. I am in negotiations right now. I have already committed to one rooster. He is so adorable! I will post his photo in the galleries soon.

[akiza]

it'll take me some times to appreciate that town

[clay]

How beautiful & precious life is......all the beautiful people in my chosen world of family.....I am so very blessed!

[Gayandgray]

How health insurance has changed over the years, and NOT for the better.

[JDeere]

The usual.... Job hunting and other personal matters of the heart.

[Kobi]

I thought settling my Mom's estate was challenging.

I am finding getting the family grave stone redone to be much more of a pita.

[Gayandgray]

My friend/former boss offering to work something out with me after the holidays so I can start learning to groom dogs.

[Deborah*]

For this great country called the United States of America, this photograph is a metaphor. Our need to reflect as a country, where we see ourselves for the next generation is a must.


https://www.sunnyskyz.com/uploads/2016/01/acpj3-eagle-ref.jpg
Thank you for this brilliant post and photo!

Deborah

[girl_dee]

Hy is, always. Such good feeling!

[JDeere]

Deciding whether or not to go back to the clinic or back to the er. Im tired of hurting.

[Gemme]

Getting through the day. I'm tired and have a foot wound so working all day won't be a picnic.

[Bard]

Applied for a new position at work and was given a interview it is a pretty substantial move up and I am very qualified, just that a buddy is also up for it and he is one of my supervisors :| this would make me his boss :praying:

[Gayandgray]

My stepdaughter...........

[girl_dee]

that i really want to stay home today

[Gemme]

I hope DC feels better. He had an allergic reaction last night that made Him miserable. My poor guy. :(

[clay]

That I am at a crossroads....deciding which way to go.....:praying:

[clay]

How is it you are so wise & always manage to help me see the straight & narrow path..and I do really appreciate your friendship over the years. I DO listen and think about all of your sagely advice.
You are almost always right on..and you have such an acuity on life & things & people. Thank YOU for being such an inspiration to me..always...
YES, you were right...AGAIN......:hangloose:

[girl_dee]

How damn cold it is in this building!

[Canela]

Him...te extraño...

[JDeere]

How nice it is outside.

[Kobi]

2016 was a horror show for me and my family.

I spent the year bouncing in and out of the hospital before they figured out what was wrong. The required surgery ended up with everything that could go wrong going wrong.

My Mom fell a year ago today which started a very quick downward spiral that ended in her death in Dec.

My brother who had to take over her care giving when I got sick, ended up having a heart attack.

So we all hoped for a better 2017. Isnt happening.

What we thought would be my last related surgery was completed in Feb and all has gone well since then....except for a hernia which will be fixed on Monday. This should be a simple day surgery....I say with fingers crossed.

My cousins grandson who was born with a congenital anomaly died in June at the age of 7. He was a miracle child who shouldnt have lived more than a month after birth.

My brother and his partner finally decided to get married in May after 34 years together. It was the first gay wedding in their church and was remarkably well received.

Now, my new brother in law, who is almost 80, needs surgery for a growth in his lung. He is spry and healthy but it is still worrisome. Thankfully he has a brother who is an MD and a daughter who is a nurse practioner who are coordinating his care.

My brother, who tends to hold everything inside, seems to be doing okay at the moment. We are going to have to rally as a family to keep him upright thru all this.

Now, we are saying, as a family, maybe 2018 will be better.

[Gemme]

I'm thinking about how fortunate I am, on many levels.

[Tuff Stuff]

Coffee,eggs over easy,bacon,hash browns,russian rye toasted with butter..coffee.:coffee:

[girl_dee]

How incredible this feels.....so much joy. :heartbeat:

[girl_dee]

The Munch... so socially awkward!

Daddi, hoping i can say good night later...

My family and how much they mean to me.

How good my life is. That’s often on my mind.

[akiza]

i'm in love ^-^ yes i'm screwed

[Tuff Stuff]

Time.. how much time is left?

[Chad]

A new smoker/grill.

I recycled all my old grills and smokers so now I get to buy a new rig. So exciting!

:bbq:

[PlatinumPearl]

I am thinking about.....

Whether or not I want to go out in this cold weather and make my way downtown to the University for a lecture. If it wasn't so cold I would be there in heartbeat!

Making a cup of tea to warm up.

Rewriting my paper.

[Chad]

I have been thinking about my long time friends. We have loved, respected, and helped each other for so many years. Some as long as 30 something years. There is a real comfort from people knowing and loving me for so many years.

😊

[Greco]

a strange, but beautiful coincidence...Christ.

Greco

[Blaze]

My Mother. Her passing was a long time ago. Yet today. It’s like she is here in my present. Every detail of her comes to my senses. Her perfume, her smile, laughter, humor, her strength. My father was mainly overseas. So Mom was like a single parent. Yet, never letting us forget he put the roof over our heads and the food on our plates. I miss her. Every single moment of each day. Not only was she my Mother, as I matured. She was my mentor and best friend. I have many traits of her. And proud of having them instilled. Exceptional woman she was. I Love You Mom. Aloha Oi’ Until we meet again.

[easygoingfemme]

Traditions are on my mind.

I built so many traditions with my daughter and it's been sweet to see how she carries them on now that she's living away at college. She had her first away-from-home snow a few days ago. Our tradition has always been that that's the day you have your first cup of hot chocolate for the season. She texted me video of the snow falling and told me she was running out for her hot chocolate :)

I just had my first snow here so I sent her a video and she replied with a reminder to make sure I go get my hot chocolate.

[girl_dee]

On the commute....

*every little thing's gonna be alright*. Bob Marley
*dream on *. Aerosmith
*don't blink* Kenny Chesney
*no shoes, no shirt, no problem * Kenny Chesney

[Gemme]

I'm sooooooooooooooo glad I took today off. Yesterday was a hella wicked busy day and I'm plumb wore out.

[girl_dee]

my day job
my side biz
where is the universe leading me????

[indigo]

*I should finish this chapter*
*I should do my paper work....hate it, really*
*I should go to the gym*

[Mopsie]

https://i.pinimg.com/236x/20/3c/67/203c6786da6d215d16bc7d6e8f0d6eb4--depression-and-anxiety-depression-is-real.jpg

[Shystonefem]

Ok so, I am a very strong woman who needs the person I am with to be stronger than I am.... That is very few and far between.

How do I find that kick ass, incredibly strong Butch????

I mean, they are out there but many are unavailable ( in different ways) How do I find the available, strong, kick ass butches that could actually handle me?

[girl_dee]

that i have GOT to finish that blanket!

[bright_arrow]

The wedding venue we are going to see tomorrow. We have number crunched and while numbers are a little higher, they are still obtainable, so we are excited.

Just waiting to hear back from the photographer, dj and cake baker with some details. It is going to be a very long two year wait!

[MsTinkerbelly]

I am surprised at the unmitigated gall of some people.

All you can do is shake your head and be happy their actions can’t harm you.

THAT, has been on my mind all day!

[JDeere]

Being glad i didnt go to the company holiday party this evening.

[Chad]

I have to go Thanksgiving shopping tomorrow. Ugh.
I hope that I remember everything.

[homoe]

I have to go Thanksgiving shopping tomorrow. Ugh.
I hope that I remember everything.



I find now that I'm older... making a list beforehand helps A L O T :|

[JDeere]

Today is national adoption day. As an adoptee its a bittersweet day. So many unanswered questions but am grateful that i was given the chance to go to a great home.

[Chad]

I find now that I'm older... making a list beforehand helps A L O T :|

Yep, I have the store advertisement and I am making a list.

[homoe]

Yep, I have the store advertisement and I am making a list.

Checking it twice?

[Chad]

Checking it twice?

Trying to figure out how much wine and booze to buy for my relatives. Haha!

:wine:

[~ocean]

Trying to figure out how much wine and booze to buy for my relatives. Haha!

:wine:

chad , check out on food network channel "THE KITCHEN" the past week they have had great drink ideas : holiday inspired.

[homoe]

Trying to figure out how much wine and booze to buy for my relatives. Haha!

:wine:

IF you run out would they tend to bolt?

[Chad]

chad , check out on food network channel "THE KITCHEN" the past week they have had great drink ideas : holiday inspired.

Thanks ocean, I love that show!

[Chad]

IF you run out would they tend to bolt?

I was just thinking that, I can limit the wine and booze to just appetizers and dinner then they would leave in a timely manner. I will serve coffee with dessert.

:cheesy:

[girl_dee]

that my closest loves are all traveling today....

[bright_arrow]

Waist training, where to start and if it's possible to do so affordably

[CherryWine]

My heart feels very full today. I guess I’m getting into Thanksgiving mode.

Also on my mind are people who may be lonely, unwell, missing a loved one, or just dealing with some of life’s unpleasantries this holiday season. Sending warmth and peace into the universe for those people.

[FireSignFemme]

Cleaning this mess up. When I took off my scarf I thought I'd thrown it across the back of my chair. Well one end got there but the other fell in my coffee cup, so there it was acting as a great big wick... :(

[Wrang1er]

Mom's second chemo treatment tomorrow. I hope they can do it and it goes well.

[girl_dee]

Way too much..........

[VintageFemme]

I "met" a lovely kind butch on a dating site not too long ago. Well, we never met in real time but exchanged a few messages and then I kind of dropped off the site altogether for completely different reasons, but the first thing that caught my eye about that profile, was the bowtie this very handsome butch was wearing in a photo. It was kind of nerdy and hipster and cool and I liked it so much. I think more butches should wear a bowtie now and again. It's quite snappy.

[homoe]

I "met" a lovely kind butch on a dating site not too long ago. Well, we never met in real time but exchanged a few messages and then I kind of dropped off the site altogether for completely different reasons, but the first thing that caught my eye about that profile, was the bowtie this very handsome butch was wearing in a photo. It was kind of nerdy and hipster and cool and I liked it so much. I think more butches should wear a bowtie now and again. It's quite snappy.

YES, I so agree!

In my younger day I could pull of the bow tie look rather nicely, however now that I'm older, not so much!

[Femmewench]

I'm not sure how I wasn't aware of this before today. I'm adopted; mine occurred in 1959 so it's very different than it might be today. My birth mother never saw me, my adoption records are sealed, and the only thing I knew about my birth parents was the demographic information the adoption agency was willing to provide. (As an aside, I was adopted through The Cradle, which still operates in Evanston, Illinois.) My brother was also adopted through this agency three years later.

There seems to be two kind of adopted kids. Those who have to know about their birth parents and those who have no curiosity whatsoever. I was the first type and my brother was the second. I have cousins who are adopted and he was the first type and she was the second.

When my birth mother and I finally connected, the only thing I needed from her was to hear her actually say she never wanted to give me up. I didn't need to be a part of her life. I didn't need to meet my two half sisters or my half brother. I didn't want another mother; my mother was more than enough for me. My mother, who had always been supportive of my wanting to get in contact with my birth mother, did a 180 when it became reality. My mother was so threatened by the idea of me having the ability to replace her, she became irrational about something she had previously supported. I guess we all have our innermost fears which may not be exposed unless they become reality.

And for those of you who know adoptees, our mom is the one who took us home. Our birth mom or biological mom is the one who gave us to our mom. I don't feel a need to identify my mom as the woman who raised me; when I say mom that's who I'm talking about. I would venture to say that that is true for 100% of adoptees.

And for those who believe the platitude "your parents chose you," the truthfulness of that is dependent on the time of the adoption. My parents didn't choose me; the adoption agency chose me for them. Somehow people think that "your parents chose you" makes you more special than those kids who joined a family via biological means. There isn't a competition between the two.

I hold women who are able to recognize that they cannot provide what they want their child to have and who are able to give their child to another person/couple to raise in the highest esteem. I cannot imagine doing that. My birth mother's solution to having given away her child was to believe I was a still birth. She thought the adoption agency went through with having her sign the paperwork so she wouldn't have to know her baby was dead. The social worker at The Cradle said this is actually not unusual. It doesn't stop the birth mother from thinking about you on your birth date, but it does prevent constant wonderings about how you are and what you're doing.

Lastly, I could never understand why people thought my mom and I looked alike. She was a brunette with hazel eyes and a tanned complexion. I'm blond with blue eyes and a fair complexion. We did look alike - our facial expressions were identical. I learned to roll my eyes from her. We looked alike and nothing alike. Proof positive people see past the obvious differences to find the similarities.

[RockOn]

Femmewench,

Thank you for sharing this with us.

Best Wishes,
RockOn

[RockOn]

that I need to call an old friend whom I've not communicated with in months ... she shared something deeply personal with me ... I gave her my opinion and that was not to beat herself over the head about it ... and do not take any action yet or if ever - just to be careful because I did not think she would like the consequences if she took action and I knew for a fact it was something terribly out of character for her ... this is a straight femme friend, a good soul, I have known almost 2 decades, not that it matters ... btw, it is recovery related, not that that it matters either

It is about being honest ... I loosely quoted our literature by saying to her "except when to do so would harm others ... " She has admitted it to god, to herself and to another human being (me) ... I think anything more with this particular one would be overkill and bring on significnt undesirable consequences.

This woman has been sober years and years and years ... I have always thought her to be a perfectionist. Sometimes one does not need to be perfect --->>> only employ a little common sense.

I pass.

[Gayandgray]

My spouse going blind from her Macular Degeneration.

[~ocean]

My spouse going blind from her Macular Degeneration.

((((((((((((( you & your spouse )))))))))) I am soo sorry , must be hard to watch.:bunchflowers::bunchflowers:

[Gayandgray]

((((((((((((( you & your spouse )))))))))) I am soo sorry , must be hard to watch.:bunchflowers::bunchflowers:

Thank you. Yes it is so sad to see her lose more of her vision every day. The Retina Specialist had originally told us that she would not go totally blind, that she would still see shadows and stuff. But she is losing it fast. The blind association had given her special magnifying glasses and screen for the tv, “bump” dots for the microwave, etc, and that helped some. She is very depressed but refuses to take the antidepressant our doctor offered because she said she takes enough medicine now.:confused::confused:

[RockOn]

I am sincerely sorry this is happening to your spouse.

[Kobi]

My Mom died a year ago today.

My head keeps replaying the last few months of her life - the fall, the hospitalization, the rehab, the assisted living, and finally the hospice.

My heart says watch the home movies, flip thru the photo albums, remember the good times.

My emotions are all over the place.

[~ocean]

My Mom died a year ago today.

My head keeps replaying the last few months of her life - the fall, the hospitalization, the rehab, the assisted living, and finally the hospice.

My heart says watch the home movies, flip thru the photo albums, remember the good times.

My emotions are all over the place.




(((((((( kobi )))))))))) I wish I could tell you that the emotions all over the place goes away but it doesn't ~ you just learn to cope. Every Sept. 1st I still cry like it was that day ~ I stay to myself and reflect, I was her care giver and all the days, weeks before her demise all plays back in my mind. I know you and your mom were very close . Just think of happy she would be looking at you at Christmas time happy that you have someone new in your life :)

[JDeere]

How my ex is going to react when she sees me for the first time in 3 months, I am going to be wearing a binder. I am kinda looking forward to her reaction but at the same time, kinda stressing over it.

[Gayandgray]

How commercialized Christmas has become over the years.

[Medusa]

On my mind: I spilled 1/3 bottle of lavender essential oil on the arm of my giant chair and it’s putting off some intense fragrance and chill vibes.

I don’t mind :)

[homoe]

How commercialized Christmas has become over the years.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!

[Mopsie]

I am feeling very anxious.

I'm sitting here waiting to have a mammogram done.

My anxiety is completely irrational, I know it is, but I'm still a wreck.

My mom died when I was a kid. She died at age 41 from leukemia. So many people used to tell me how I was "just like her." They were trying to be comforting.

Unfortunately in my little kid head that got a bit twisted. I came to believe I was also going to die in my 40s from cancer.

See what I mean about irrational?

I know intellectually it's not true, and yet every time I have a test done my anxiety sky rockets until I get the results back.

So I'm sitting here focusing on my breathing and waiting my turn.

[JDeere]

Friday and im anxious about getting my binder in today....

[Deborah*]

What the doctor told me yesterday.

Deborah

[Clyde]

Cream puffs.

[Bootsandheels]

Wondering if after 7 years of friendship my best friend is going to let something pretty stupid break our bond.
Hope not...patience is not always easy. :watereyes:

[JDeere]

That i need to stop eating after work.

[FireSignFemme]

That I'd rather watch reruns of I Love Lucy than reruns of the L-Word and what that might say about me.

[kittygrrl]

pnw...........

[homoe]

What an idiot Tucker Carlson is........

[JDeere]

How im going to feel when i put my new binder on.

[Kenna]

A Cob house and Cob pizza oven and a Cob building workshop next April.

[easygoingfemme]

Snow. 6-9 inches today? I wouldn't mind if I had a day home but that's not the case. I really really really do not like driving in the snow.

Also, when I leave work today I will officially be on vacation and operation "finish getting ready to host Christmas" will be in full tilt boogie.

Cheers!

[Mopsie]

I am feeling very anxious.

I'm sitting here waiting to have a mammogram done.

My anxiety is completely irrational, I know it is, but I'm still a wreck.

My mom died when I was a kid. She died at age 41 from leukemia. So many people used to tell me how I was "just like her." They were trying to be comforting.

Unfortunately in my little kid head that got a bit twisted. I came to believe I was also going to die in my 40s from cancer.

See what I mean about irrational?

I know intellectually it's not true, and yet every time I have a test done my anxiety sky rockets until I get the results back.

So I'm sitting here focusing on my breathing and waiting my turn.

Just got the report in saying "no suspicious abnormalities." :) Thanks for the support y'all!

[easygoingfemme]

Just got the report in saying "no suspicious abnormalities." :) Thanks for the support y'all!

Excellent news!

[clay]

Just wondering "why"?

[FireSignFemme]

The snow falling. It's just a light sprinkle/dusting, melting away as soon as it hits the ground. However it's still early, it could pick up.

[Teddybear]

The snow falling. It's just a light sprinkle/dusting, melting away as soon as it hits the ground. However it's still early, it could pick up.


We are under flash floods warnings and it is rainingime it did with Noah and the Arc

[candy_coated_bitch]

Christmas with my family. :)

[Gayandgray]

How many years my spouse has been sick and how hard the blindness is to deal with, how her daughter and granddaughters won’t get off drugs no matter how much help they receive, how the price of groceries, gas, etc is going up but my paycheck isn’t... Oh I’m sure I can think of more but my break at work is about up!!:eatinghersheybar:

[JustLovelyJenn]

too much food...

[JDeere]

How quickly things can turn around.

[Kenna]

A little farmhouse I used to rent on a large tree farm is empty again. I loved that adorable cozy house. I wonder if the owner will agree to deed it off to me?

[girl_dee]

That at some point today, i am really going to feel the effects of waking up SO darn early!

[Bèsame*]

http://lessonslearnedinlife.com/wp-content/uploads/I-have-learned-a-lot-this-year..jpg

[JustLovelyJenn]

My New Years Resolution...

... I just applied to return to college and finish my special education degree!!

[girl_dee]

My New Years Resolution...

... I just applied to return to college and finish my special education degree!!

That’s awesome!!!

[Greco]

a very cold place...

Greco

[BullDog]

I'm looking forward to the new year.

Note to self: Focus!

[~ocean]

A little farmhouse I used to rent on a large tree farm is empty again. I loved that adorable cozy house. I wonder if the owner will agree to deed it off to me?

Kenna never hurts to ask ! Sometimes when u see a person love your property~ it touches the heart more than money !:readfineprint: enclosed is a love the property clause.lolol

[Kenna]

Kenna never hurts to ask ! Sometimes when u see a person love your property~ it touches the heart more than money !:readfineprint: enclosed is a love the property clause.lolol

Thank you, ocean!!
I stopped by his business/main farm today but he wasn't available. I had the nervous jitters while driving up the lane, thinking about how can I convince him to let go of a little house he once said he had no use for (except for the huge farm it sits on)

I drove over to see it yesterday...sad the last renters didn't take good care of it...but everything is fixable. Keeping my fingers crossed.

[~ocean]

Thank you, ocean!!
I stopped by his business/main farm today but he wasn't available. I had the nervous jitters while driving up the lane, thinking about how can I convince him to let go of a little house he once said he had no use for (except for the huge farm it sits on)

I drove over to see it yesterday...sad the last renters didn't take good care of it...but everything is fixable. Keeping my fingers crossed.

maybe u can make a deal ~ you pay for an easement u would need to create if he wanted the farmland GOOD LUCK I hope 2018 develope's into a new home for you !

[girl_dee]

how to balance the entire universe.......

:thinking:

[~ocean]

how to balance the entire universe.......

:thinking:

Gm((( Dee )))) when I read your post I started singing "I got the whole world in my hands " lol

[girl_dee]

Gm((( Dee )))) when I read your post I started singing "I got the whole world in my hands " lol

((((((( oceanlady )))))))). Lol you

[girl_dee]

That I hope M does not find out about these...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2018/01/10/smart-underwear-is-here-and-its-ridiculous/amp/

[clay]

Getting ready for my adventure......:).

[akiza]

how to get back at bullies i can't let all the work at karma

[charley]

how to get back at bullies i can't let all the work at karma
akiza, I don't like bullies either
I wouldn't worry about them, they will get their "reward", I assure you
Vengeance is not right action.
Verbal confrontation with a bully will only feed the beast.
On the other hand, when it is work-related, you may have to document incidents (it's nice that cell phones have record options), and consult a professional (i.e. lawyer) to start building a case. That or find another place to work.
Best regards

[Kenna]

I wanna make a mad dash to get an egg mcmuffin and iced vanilla coffee...but it's raining hard and the neighbors might fuss about my bare nekkid legs as I dash for the truck. (No one at the drive up window minds if I'm wearing pj shorts that aren't long enough to show from under my Tshirt...it's only my neighbors that think I run around half nekkid.)

Cob houses....have become my obsession lately. I've made up my mind I will have one!

Damn rain is turning driveway into a lake!

What kinda trouble can I get into this weekend? Go to the Chinese Lantern Festival or Warm Springs VA? Or Hot Springs NC?

[clay]

Being in a much warmer climate I am used to!

Reflections of the past holiday season...

Thoughts of the people who have passed through my life, of lessons taught, things learned, and memories are the one thing that can not be tainted, taken, or lost.

2018 is a wonderful New Year....and I am certain I have things to learn this year as well. I am open to learning, experiencing, and accepting....and healing within.....I will be good to myself...

New friendships, new beginnings, and a place of my own..all are awaiting me....

[cinnamongrrl]

the ebb and flow of life...

[bright_arrow]

A new job (by choice)
Upcoming school semester and how my degree is almost finished
Expanding the guest list to invite some near and dear folks
Budgeting and all the number crunching that comes along with it

[girl_dee]

my momma, and embracing every moment of that conversation today

[easygoingfemme]

Insomnia. I've had it for a week. Due to a combination of high high crisis week at work- being on call and lots of late night emergencies/middle of the night calls- and general chaos around me. I need to take some time off.

[FireSignFemme]

I'm really stressing about Survival Cat. Getting her into the no kill shelter isn't as easy as I thought it was going to be, and I just can't stand the thought of her stuffed in one of those little cages at the pound.

[Kenna]

A lot...too much... :seeingstars:

[RockOn]

I have been reading about gaslighting. Pretty interesting!

Gaslighting is when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you, causing you to distrust yourself and trust them instead.

[Femmewench]

I have been reading about gaslighting. Pretty interesting!

Gaslighting is when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you, causing you to distrust yourself and trust them instead.

Gaslight was a great movie too. I've seen the 1944 version with Ingrid Bergman, Charles Boyer and Joseph Cotton. (yes, I had to look it up!)

[charley]

I have been reading about gaslighting. Pretty interesting!

Gaslighting is when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you, causing you to distrust yourself and trust them instead.

To discover reality requires a certain sense of skepticism with regards to what others consider to be written in stone, so to speak. Once a person accepts an idea by anyone as how things should be, they block themselves. So whatever you do, don't block yourself! Anything the mind puts together can be undone. So whatever you believe can be put aside.
Best wishes, :byebye:

[JDeere]

To persue another job. I need something different, not 7 days a week.

To pay off some debt, soon, before it ruins my credit.

[cathexis]

I have been reading about gaslighting. Pretty interesting!

Gaslighting is when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you, causing you to distrust yourself and trust them instead.

This sounds intensely interesting and requiring quite a bit of responsibility on the part "the manipulator." Who is actually the Top.

My good friend, who happens to be a psychiatrist, enjoys Topping psych scenes. We have often team Topped a bottom with the express consent that she will experience a period of time she will be uncertain what is and is not reality. She must enter the scene with a full understanding of what may occur.

The point of my post is to make those unknowing aware of the fact that, if gaslighting is done, all participants will be in a scene that requires a good deal of skill to successfully accomplish all elements of this type of scene including reorientation and aftercare. An intense psych scene is no less mind-altering than an equivalent physical one. You may not see any physical marks, trust that there are emotional marks which need to be dealt with.

[Blade]

A camper, I can't find exactly what I want and am not sure they make what I want.

[AmazonDC]

Alot is circling My mind the past 2 days... many things to consider moving forward...

[RockOn]

The reason I have been interested in reading about gas lighting is because years ago at work, I had a guy try and practice his gas lighting talents on me.

I did not have a name for this guy's "condition" until I recently stumbled into the gas lighting topic online. There he was. There he is today.

I shut his noise down.

[girl_dee]

How suddenly my mind is shifting towards the “us" and not the “me"

[~ocean]

How suddenly my mind is shifting towards the “us" and not the “me"

With all that shifting one word comes to mind "EARTHQUAKE " lololol kotc

[clay]

Leo

JUL 23 - AUG 22










You are just as impatient as the other fire signs, but your fixed nature can turn a frustrating situation in your favor now. Once you set your mind to accomplishing a goal, you are relentless in your pursuit until you reach your destination. Although you may run into one stop sign after another today, youre not likely to become discouraged. Youre a pro at taking it all in stride because you understand that setbacks are not permanent; they are merely resting points on your way to success. Persistence is your ally when times are tough.

My daily horoscope.....I LOVE the part about my seeing "setbacks are NOT permanent, they are merely resting points on the way to success"....YES! I do see things this way...:)

Also about once I set my mind on something I am relentless in my pursuit! Stubborn, much? lol

[cinnamongrrl]

We've been looking at real estate down near Asheville...i know it's where my soul belongs and my honey is willing to make the move...but I'm trying to finish school first...

But....

A house that we particularly love just had a significant price reduction... I say I can always finish my degree there...my honey is sensible and says we need to plan and prepare. But this house...it calls to me. As do the mountains. I miss them....we shall see

[girl_dee]

that there is an assumption among some, that all babygirls like to color and play with dolls and glitter...

*sigh*

[girl_dee]

that there is an assumption among some, that all babygirls like to color and play with dolls and glitter...

*sigh*

Or that all Daddies like that sort of thing. :eyebrow:

[charley]

all "becoming" is an illusion, because it is an escape from who you are;
and the word 'illusion' comes from the Latin, il- + ludere, to play falsely, to play with things that aren't real
:byebye:

[girl_dee]

that in one week, i’ll be waking up in paradise with the butch of my dreams

:love1::theisland:

[bright_arrow]

that there is an assumption among some, that all babygirls like to color and play with dolls and glitter...

*sigh*

I like to color but as someone who is always drawing, that's no surprise :) Okay and I really do love glitter eyeshadow... :blush:

[Kelt]

Taxes :blink: :doh:

[akiza]

i feel a little alone "_" i'll want to bring down all my walls but ^^ hn whatever nothing just the blues

[girl_dee]

I like to color but as someone who is always drawing, that's no surprise :) Okay and I really do love glitter eyeshadow... :blush:

Well that is what makes you, you. :waitinggirl:

[Orema]

A coworker who is being bullied by a manager.

[Dominique]

This winter weather that seems relentless. Schools were cancelled again.

[Medusa]

On my mind:

I've been at my job for almost 9 years and there is another round of shit going down today with mergers and realignments. That translates to layoffs and frazzled nerves for my team.
I'm doing what I can to calm people's concerns but hell, *I* don't even know where this is all going to go.
I've been thinking of getting out of the tech industry for a while and maybe teaching or developing my consulting business into more of a full-time thing. We shall see.

[ardentfemme]

I don't know why people launch into political tirades at me.
Maybe it's because my demeanor is gentle and understanding, and people think I will tacitly accept their bullshit...

This woman has been ranting to me about how no one deserves anything and how "someone who doesn't even speak English at McDonald's shouldn't be making the same as someone making a Mercedes." She's upset about minimum wage being raised to $15 here in California. I pointed out that even $15 is a barely livable wage. She said she doesn't care if someone can live on that or not. That not everyone has a right to food and shelter.

Not everyone has a right to basic necessities?!

I don't feel like arguing, but I feel like that meme going around that says I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE.

Interacting with people like this woman really puts a damper on my mood. Moreover, when people talk like this I get really offended because I understand that the struggles of working class folks, people of color, and the LGBT community are all intrinsically linked and I know that my existence is intimately tied to these supposed "ingrates" she's bashing. These systems of oppression are necessarily intertwined.

Overall, I wish we as a society had more empathy.

[Kobi]

I did laundry today.

I have a pile of stuff on the couch waiting to be ironed.

I do not like ironing but I abhor wrinkled clothing.

Yoga pants and tank tops should not wrinkle. We need a law for this.

I could have been done ironing an hour ago but I have been too busy whining about having bought stuff that needs to be ironed.

:thinking:

[Mopsie]

I did laundry today.

I have a pile of stuff on the couch waiting to be ironed.

I do not like ironing but I abhor wrinkled clothing.

Yoga pants and tank tops should not wrinkle. We need a law for this.

I could have been done ironing an hour ago but I have been too busy whining about having bought stuff that needs to be ironed.

:thinking:



Have you thought about trying a steamer?

It works great on things like yoga pants and tank tops.

A lot easier than ironing. :)

[~ocean]

I don't know why people launch into political tirades at me.
Maybe it's because my demeanor is gentle and understanding, and people think I will tacitly accept their bullshit...

This woman has been ranting to me about how no one deserves anything and how "someone who doesn't even speak English at McDonald's shouldn't be making the same as someone making a Mercedes." She's upset about minimum wage being raised to $15 here in California. I pointed out that even $15 is a barely livable wage. She said she doesn't care if someone can live on that or not. That not everyone has a right to food and shelter.

Not everyone has a right to basic necessities?!

I don't feel like arguing, but I feel like that meme going around that says I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE.

Interacting with people like this woman really puts a damper on my mood. Moreover, when people talk like this I get really offended because I understand that the struggles of working class folks, people of color, and the LGBT community are all intrinsically linked and I know that my existence is intimately tied to these supposed "ingrates" she's bashing. These systems of oppression are necessarily intertwined.

Overall, I wish we as a society had more empathy.



this woman doesn't seem she has all her faculties, obviously compassion is missing ~ sorry u had to deal and comprehend her words.:sushi: here lunch lol

[JDeere]

My trip next week. Not knowing what to do with myself since I'm not working.

[Kobi]

Have you thought about trying a steamer?

It works great on things like yoga pants and tank tops.

A lot easier than ironing. :)


Never thought of using a steamer. Must investigate this. Thank you for the suggestion. :)

[JDeere]

I really need to find a hobby before I get back into working again!

[Martina]

My trip next week. Not knowing what to do with myself since I'm not working.

Perhaps you should look into collecting Hello Kitty items. Maybe start out with the rifle or the cowboy boots. ;)

https://tse2.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.dwGibPQmYDr7wDWLO0R1hQEsDg&pid=15.1

[JDeere]

Perhaps you should look into collecting Hello Kitty items. Maybe start out with the rifle or the cowboy boots. ;)

https://tse2.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.dwGibPQmYDr7wDWLO0R1hQEsDg&pid=15.1

BAHAHAHAHA NO!

Nothing HK related. :blink:

[JDeere]

I'm so beyond excited for this trip!

BIG MONEY COME ON BIG MONEY!! lol

[Gemme]

The Universe is not happy with Our tax returns being held up by the government shutdown and has provided, separately, a little bit of unexpected income for each of Us. Happy!

[VintageFemme]

My precious brilliant and beautiful grandson that I got to spend this past weekend with. It's so amazing to be a grandmother aka his Mina; no words to describe it.

Also, I'm always looking for our community on social media sites. I'm no longer on Facebook but I am on Instagram (faireunvoeu_ig) and Twitter (faireunvoeu) and it's really hard to find y'all! So find me ツ and if I don't follow back right away, drop me a message on whatever site it is, to let me know who you are so I will!

And, looking back and all that it implies . . .

[akiza]

it's raining since 12 pm yeah!!! ^-^

[JDeere]

Her words.... I can't get them out of my head.

[charley]

In 2016, Oxford Dictionaries made the adjective "post-truth" the word of the year:
"Relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief."
‘in this era of post-truth politics, it's easy to cherry-pick data and come to whatever conclusion you desire’
‘some commentators have observed that we are living in a post-truth age’

The following excerpt from a Forbes article by Dr. Moore (and co-written by Timmons) explains quite a bit of what is going on out there: click here (https://www.forbes.com/sites/karlmoore/2017/09/07/how-do-we-navigate-a-post-truth-world-follow-the-millennials/#132848ca7072)
How Do We Navigate A 'Post-Truth' World? Follow The Millennials

As a boomer, navigating in the post-truth world surrounded by zombies, I cannot find a good reason to write a thread on meditation (discerning what is true and what is false).

[Kobi]

In 2016, Oxford Dictionaries made the adjective "post-truth" the word of the year:
"Relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief."
‘in this era of post-truth politics, it's easy to cherry-pick data and come to whatever conclusion you desire’
‘some commentators have observed that we are living in a post-truth age’

The following excerpt from a Forbes article by Dr. Moore (and co-written by Timmons) explains quite a bit of what is going on out there: click here (https://www.forbes.com/sites/karlmoore/2017/09/07/how-do-we-navigate-a-post-truth-world-follow-the-millennials/#132848ca7072)
How Do We Navigate A 'Post-Truth' World? Follow The Millennials

As a boomer, navigating in the post-truth world surrounded by zombies, I cannot find a good reason to write a thread on meditation (discerning what is true and what is false).


Interesting post.

What the dictionary is saying is something new called "post-truth", I refer to as the reality of reality. Jane Wagner summed it up perfectly in Signs of Intelligent Life...."reality is nothing more than a collective hunch".

It is not really new. It has been going on since the beginning of time as humans have tried to make sense of what they see, hear, and experience. Perceptions change over time for many different reasons.

One can rarely be certain about "facts" because "facts" are designed to create a certain reality for a certain purpose or to create conflicting realities for the same reasons.

It is not unusual for one to also seek out "facts" which support what one believes or thinks is true while just presuming what does not coincide with what one believes is automatically false or outdated. "Truth" might (and that's a big might) lie somewhere in between.

It is also not unusual for perceptions to change, over time, due to differing circumstances, experiences and marketing telling us what we should believe and why.

Add to that, that one can often find many different sets of conflicting "facts" which all contribute to the sense of what is reality. They all have validity in their own way. Human judgement on these "facts" influences what we are drawn to, what we discard, and what we save for a rainy day.

Being human, we are easily swayed and governed by our emotions. All marketing (even political marketing) is geared to manipulating our perceptions of reality. It is easier to manipulate perceptions if one focuses on evoking an emotional response and to keep fine tuning it until you achieve the desired result.

Personally, I find it easier to remain mindful of how easy it is to manipulate people, their opinion, and their emotions. I try to take everything with a grain of salt cuz the one thing I am becoming acquainted with is nothing is as it appears and everything I think I might know has an opposite and equally valid side to it.

Life was a heck of a lot easier when I believed things were either right or wrong, black or white. In reality, they are a collective hunch of shades of gray.

Thank you. This gives me something to ponder on my walk today.

[Kobi]

Interesting post.

What the dictionary is saying is something new called "post-truth", I refer to as the reality of reality. Jane Wagner summed it up perfectly in Signs of Intelligent Life...."reality is nothing more than a collective hunch".

It is not really new. It has been going on since the beginning of time as humans have tried to make sense of what they see, hear, and experience. Perceptions change over time for many different reasons.

One can rarely be certain about "facts" because "facts" are designed to create a certain reality for a certain purpose or to create conflicting realities for the same reasons.

It is not unusual for one to also seek out "facts" which support what one believes or thinks is true while just presuming what does not coincide with what one believes is automatically false or outdated. "Truth" might (and that's a big might) lie somewhere in between.

It is also not unusual for perceptions to change, over time, due to differing circumstances, experiences and marketing telling us what we should believe and why.

Add to that, that one can often find many different sets of conflicting "facts" which all contribute to the sense of what is reality. They all have validity in their own way. Human judgement on these "facts" influences what we are drawn to, what we discard, and what we save for a rainy day.

Being human, we are easily swayed and governed by our emotions. All marketing (even political marketing) is geared to manipulating our perceptions of reality. It is easier to manipulate perceptions if one focuses on evoking an emotional response and to keep fine tuning it until you achieve the desired result.

Personally, I find it easier to remain mindful of how easy it is to manipulate people, their opinion, and their emotions. I try to take everything with a grain of salt cuz the one thing I am becoming acquainted with is nothing is as it appears and everything I think I might know has an opposite and equally valid side to it.

Life was a heck of a lot easier when I believed things were either right or wrong, black or white. In reality, they are a collective hunch of shades of gray.

Thank you. This gives me something to ponder on my walk today.





Forgot to add, the 2 emotions that are easiest to evoke and most dangerous are anger and fear - both are manifested in many different ways. Once evoked, manipulating them to a preferred perception is a piece of cake....except, people who are angry and/or afraid can be very unpredictable and hard to control. Scary shit.

[charley]

Interesting post.

What the dictionary is saying is something new called "post-truth", I refer to as the reality of reality. Jane Wagner summed it up perfectly in Signs of Intelligent Life...."reality is nothing more than a collective hunch".

It is not really new. It has been going on since the beginning of time as humans have tried to make sense of what they see, hear, and experience. Perceptions change over time for many different reasons.

One can rarely be certain about "facts" because "facts" are designed to create a certain reality for a certain purpose or to create conflicting realities for the same reasons.

It is not unusual for one to also seek out "facts" which support what one believes or thinks is true while just presuming what does not coincide with what one believes is automatically false or outdated. "Truth" might (and that's a big might) lie somewhere in between.

It is also not unusual for perceptions to change, over time, due to differing circumstances, experiences and marketing telling us what we should believe and why.

Add to that, that one can often find many different sets of conflicting "facts" which all contribute to the sense of what is reality. They all have validity in their own way. Human judgement on these "facts" influences what we are drawn to, what we discard, and what we save for a rainy day.

Being human, we are easily swayed and governed by our emotions. All marketing (even political marketing) is geared to manipulating our perceptions of reality. It is easier to manipulate perceptions if one focuses on evoking an emotional response and to keep fine tuning it until you achieve the desired result.

Personally, I find it easier to remain mindful of how easy it is to manipulate people, their opinion, and their emotions. I try to take everything with a grain of salt cuz the one thing I am becoming acquainted with is nothing is as it appears and everything I think I might know has an opposite and equally valid side to it.

Life was a heck of a lot easier when I believed things were either right or wrong, black or white. In reality, they are a collective hunch of shades of gray.

Thank you. This gives me something to ponder on my walk today.


Now, it is crucial here to distinguish between a "fact" and a "belief".
The fact that the sun rises is a an observable fact, as all facts are. Anyone can verify the truth of a fact. Seeing the truth of something is always freeing, as well as seeing the falseness of something.
A belief is something which is held to be true only by the person who believes it.
And that is the difference between a "fact" and a "belief". People who start off with strong beliefs usually end up in confusion and uncertainty; and, being disillusioned with their beliefs, end up thinking that everything lies on some grey scale - that there is no such thing as "right" or "wrong".
Insofar as I am concerned, it is also a belief that everything is "a collective hunch of shades of gray". Making such an affirmation is in fact just a reaction against all the beliefs that one has been inundated with. And that was not the point I was making in my original post.
I would also add that the entire West has been conditioned to accept without questioning many things as fact. In fact, skepticism has been put on the back burners in the Western culture. But like anything, skepticism without any degree of self-restraint only leads to cynicism.

[Kobi]

Now, it is crucial here to distinguish between a "fact" and a "belief".
The fact that the sun rises is a an observable fact, as all facts are. Anyone can verify the truth of a fact. Seeing the truth of something is always freeing, as well as seeing the falseness of something.
A belief is something which is held to be true only by the person who believes it.
And that is the difference between a "fact" and a "belief". People who start off with strong beliefs usually end up in confusion and uncertainty; and, being disillusioned with their beliefs, end up thinking that everything lies on some grey scale - that there is no such thing as "right" or "wrong".
Insofar as I am concerned, it is also a belief that everything is "a collective hunch of shades of gray". Making such an affirmation is in fact just a reaction against all the beliefs that one has been inundated with. And that was not the point I was making in my original post.
I would also add that the entire West has been conditioned to accept without questioning many things as fact. In fact, skepticism has been put on the back burners in the Western culture. But like anything, skepticism without any degree of self-restraint only leads to cynicism.


Are you sure you dont want to make a thread for this? Might be very interesting and expansive. :)

You say - "Now, it is crucial here to distinguish between a "fact" and a "belief".

The fact that the sun rises is a an observable fact, as all facts are. Anyone can verify the truth of a fact. Seeing the truth of something is always freeing, as well as seeing the falseness of something."

A sun rise is an observable event in places where the sun does indeed rise. There are places in the arctic where the sun doesnt rise for months on end. Yet, we believe the sun rises somewhere else....even if we cannot observe it. So is it a fact or a belief?

It is along the same line as....if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to observe it, does it still make a noise? Is a glass half full or half empty or both?

Fact? Belief? Perspective? Assumption? Presumption? Interpretation?

Fascinating stuff eh?

It sounds to me like you are saying you believe there are absolute truths and absolute falsehoods or absolute rights and absolute wrongs. If that is the case, how do you explain the concept of diversity or the various shades of navy blue or how different experiences changes what people see as true or false or immaterial?

I respectfully disagree with you on "the entire West has been conditioned to accept without questioning many things as fact." Much of what I see happening in the West for the last decade is the result of people questioning many things that are believed to be fact. Skepticism appears to be front and center not on the back burner. Challenging the status quo in many different ways is skepticism in action.

Overall, I am feeling you are trying to say something but I am missing the point. Can you clarify your point?

[~ocean]

What I see is people who look threw very confused eyes ~ the only truth anyone should be concerned with is the truth within themselves ~ assuming the majority or what is being insinuated as ALL r not truthful. ~ the obvious that the sun will rise and the sun will set is mother nature ~ it's not your truth or mine ~ makes me wonder how much truth do you have ~ I would be skeptic to trust someone who can't see their own self truth.

[Bèsame*]

My Dad. His birthday was this past week. I remember the homemade gifts I would give, to spend time with him. Once, there was, dessert of the month. It gave me chance to explore new recipes and share! There was also an appetizer of the month!

I reflect on his advise when I need it the most. I can hear him say...that it's ok, life lesson learned, you can pull yourself up and move on. ...that's only after he let me whine and cry.

I called my Mom this week, and we both had a boo-hoo moment. Sometimes that is all you need to remember that we carry him in our hearts, forever.

Love you Dad, miss you

[JDeere]

A plethora of subjects from voting to finding a new job.

[akiza]

figure thoughts no? too much right now and yeah an headache

[girl_dee]

Setting up housekeeping!!

[JDeere]

The pain I'm in, I really need pain meds but the doctor wont give me any. Due to the fact that so many people are abusing them and make it so where people like me can't get any.

[Medusa]

That whole thing where you lay in bed with your best girlfriend of over a quarter century and make plans to take over the world <3

[Kobi]

A culture of fear makes for some odd reactions when erring on the side of caution.

Student reactions to square root symbol prompts police investigation (http://www.miamiherald.com/article201604224.html)

[girl_dee]

my mom at this moment

[girl_dee]

the future..... :heartbeat:

[Bèsame*]

when was the last time I did something for the first time.....it's been way to long.

Let yourself go, follow that feeling

[VintageFemme]

Preparing to work from home both in my personal space and head space. Everyone who knows me thinks this may not be the best idea in that they fear I will become even more reclusive and never leave my home, but I think it will be good for me for the same but opposite reason. I think it will force me out into the world to be more social. I really don't have much of a choice as this is the direction the company I work for is moving. The goal being in a year, that our entire staff is working from home full time. It's really the way of most progressive and forward moving companies I think. The value of it is too great to be ignored. We shall see. Very soon. Now, onto moving this desk and chair to the 'office' bedroom! Where is a strong butch when I need one damnit? ;)

[Kobi]

Nesting season for eagles always seems to be a mixture of good and not so good.

The Florida eaglets are thriving. They are now 70+ days old. The older one fledged yesterday and made it back to the nest without a problem. The younger one looked bewildered watching its sibling fly by. They too should be taking to flight in a day or so. How long they hang around after that is up to them. Last years lil ones hung around for over a month. And then one day they never came back.

The Berry College eaglets hatched about 10 days ago. Unfortunately, a couple of nights ago, one of them wandered too close to the edge of the nest and fell out. It didnt survive the fall. Watching it getting too close to the edge before eventually falling was horrid. Watching and listening to the grieving parents the next morning was heartbreaking. Dad has been building up those rails for 2 days now.

https://i.pinimg.com/564x/43/96/de/4396deb9e47a6729d3f440dc209bd5ae.jpg

Rest in peace lil buddy.

[akiza]

i hate it to cry but someone has said that it's not fine to hold everything inside and yup i'm talking too much since last year

[JDeere]

My birth mother and whether to call and try to talk to her. Why my half sisters are too ignorant when it comes to asking tons of questions when it comes to our mothers health and current situation.

I really want back with my ex, but I want to start dating again, I'm stuck!

[Medusa]

On my mind: Big shit going down at work tomorrow. BIG.

Everyone on my team has diarrhea and is so stressed out and I feel awful for them. I have my own level of stress but unfortunately/fortunately I have something even bigger going down this week than what is happening at work tomorrow so my mind is mostly focused on that.

This entire week is made up of one life-altering thing after another. I swear to Goddess if I make it to Friday with all of my hair and no criminal charges (I KID, I KID!), it will be a freaking miracle.

[cathexis]

Anything that's there needs a good bath

with lots of soap and water, believe me!!

[girl_dee]

a friend, my mom and the best box shipping plan

[Deborah*]

my health

Deborah

[VintageFemme]

Why is the packaging on my fruit and grain bar hermetically sealed? Geezus. I had to use scissors to open it!

And, these fickle, fuddled words confuse me like will it rain today?

[AmazonDC]

Off white dirty laundry

[theoddz]

Lots and lots and lots on my mind, recently. Dear Wife and I are just winding things up here in Las Vegas and are preparing for the upcoming BIG move to Texas!!!! :cheer::clap:

We sold our house and made a tidy profit and will be purchasing another home, once we get to Texas!! Housing prices, here in Las Vegas, are very high, compared to what they are in Texas, so we should be able to buy a very nice home there, and one that (we hope) will have an in-ground pool, so I can exercise my bad knees.

I am really looking forward to fresh seafood, gourmet barbecue, home made biscuits and Texas steaks!!! WOOT!!!! :clap:

It is time to close one chapter of my life and begin another. Mother always said, "Life changes. That's the one thing about life that never changes." Now we'll get the chance to enjoy our retirement with our grandchildren and our other extended family members. :winky::heartbeat:

Movin'....movin'....movin'!!!

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[girl_dee]

Lots and lots and lots on my mind, recently. Dear Wife and I are just winding things up here in Las Vegas and are preparing for the upcoming BIG move to Texas!!!! :cheer::clap:

We sold our house and made a tidy profit and will be purchasing another home, once we get to Texas!! Housing prices, here in Las Vegas, are very high, compared to what they are in Texas, so we should be able to buy a very nice home there, and one that (we hope) will have an in-ground pool, so I can exercise my bad knees.

I am really looking forward to fresh seafood, gourmet barbecue, home made biscuits and Texas steaks!!! WOOT!!!! :clap:

It is time to close one chapter of my life and begin another. Mother always said, "Life changes. That's the one thing about life that never changes." Now we'll get the chance to enjoy our retirement with our grandchildren and our other extended family members. :winky::heartbeat:

Movin'....movin'....movin'!!!

~Theo~ :bouquet:


i am SO happy for y’all !!! Love you both!

[Bèsame*]

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than yesterday.

[JDeere]

Hopefully a new job coming next week.