Singles

[Zimmeh]

Good Evening Everyone,

I thought I would start a thread for us singles to get to know each other and become friends or anything else.

Zimmy

[Zimmeh]

I will start things off.

I grew up in Daytona Beach, FL and I currently live in Orlando, FL. I love meeting new people from all over the country and world. I have a Bachelor's Degree in the Business Information Systems from DeVry University.

I love to read and I am a music junkie and I love to make people smile. Someone told me that I am to happy in the morning, which I am.

Thanks!

Zimmy

[chrisbutch]

Hi Zimmy!! Thanks for starting this thread for all the singles to get to know each other.........Oh what can i say about my self?? Ok, well i am cute, handsome and very sexy!! And i am also a bit delusional cos its late here and i really should be in my bed>>>>>>>>>>lol.......::seeingstars:

[atomiczombie]

Hey Zimmy, nice to meet you!

I am Drew, a 39y/o transmasculine guy in pre-transition mode atm. I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, and only moved away (one hour away lol) last year. I hope to return to the Bay Area again soon. It is my home. I have a bachelor's Degree in Philosophy and Religion from San Francisco State University which I completed in January 1999. I did a year and a half of graduate work at the Graduate Theological Union, but left the Master's program after my professor and academic counselor died.

I met my ex-wife about that time and got a job at a Harley-Davidson dealership in 2002 as a parts-to-service coordinator. I worked there 5 1/2 years. I separated from my wife in 2005 after she became verbally abusive, and we officially dissolved our domestic partnership in 2006. I have a wonderful step-daughter from that marriage who is in my life today. She is 16 and lives with her grandmother.

I have had a bumpy road work-wise in the last few years, and am on disability now, hopefully not too much longer.

I love to read classic literature and poetry, along with non-fictional books about timely issues. I am a jazz fanatic, but I listen to some rock and pop music too. I am not a morning person, lol. I am respectful and a good listener, and femmes make my heart go pitter-patter. :cheesy:

[Zimmeh]

Dear Delusional,

I do believe the bed is where you need to take yourself....Can you toss me a blanket? My roommate's cat took mine...

Night!

Zimmy

:nothingtoadd:

Hi Zimmy!! Thanks for starting this thread for all the singles to get to know each other.........Oh what can i say about my self?? Ok, well i am cute, handsome and very sexy!! And i am also a bit delusional cos its late here and i really should be in my bed>>>>>>>>>>lol.......::seeingstars:

[chrisbutch]

Dear Delusional,

I do believe the bed is where you need to take yourself....Can you toss me a blanket? My roommate's cat took mine...

Night!

Zimmy

:nothingtoadd:

Omg, arent some femmes so bossy!!! Hey but i always do as i am told, its makes for a quiet life lol.......:beddybye:nite nite......... and no get your own blanket...........:cold:

[Zimmeh]

Hehe,

I have a couple of blankets on my bed! I am only bossy when I am tired..Hehe...

Night my friend!

Zimmy

Omg, arent some femmes so bossy!!! Hey but i always do as i am told, its makes for a quiet life lol.......:beddybye:nite nite......... and no get your own blanket...........:cold:

[Zimmeh]

Well Hello Atomic!

Nice to meet you, I miss living near the beach. My dad was a country music fan and that is what I grew up listening to until I was 13 and met my best friend, who turned me onto rock music. I love reading also, and one of my fave books is Night by Eli Weisel. Have you read, "Things Fall Apart", by Achebe? That book will make you cry. I am a big Poe fan and I also like Stephen King. I am sorry to hear about your counselor passing. Butches make my heart flitter and I have more butch friends than I do femme friends. I am not sure why, maybe it's because I have three brothers?

My roommate listen's to the Rat Pack and quite a bit of Jazz music and it has a nice beat to it..

Have a good night,

Zimmy

Hey Zimmy, nice to meet you!

I am Drew, a 39y/o transmasculine guy in pre-transition mode atm. I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, and only moved away (one hour away lol) last year. I hope to return to the Bay Area again soon. It is my home. I have a bachelor's Degree in Philosophy and Religion from San Francisco State University which I completed in January 1999. I did a year and a half of graduate work at the Graduate Theological Union, but left the Master's program after my professor and academic counselor died.

I met my ex-wife about that time and got a job at a Harley-Davidson dealership in 2002 as a parts-to-service coordinator. I worked there 5 1/2 years. I separated from my wife in 2005 after she became verbally abusive, and we officially dissolved our domestic partnership in 2006. I have a wonderful step-daughter from that marriage who is in my life today. She is 16 and lives with her grandmother.

I have had a bumpy road work-wise in the last few years, and am on disability now, hopefully not too much longer.

I love to read classic literature and poetry, along with non-fictional books about timely issues. I am a jazz fanatic, but I listen to some rock and pop music too. I am not a morning person, lol. I am respectful and a good listener, and femmes make my heart go pitter-patter. :cheesy:

[bigbutchmistie]

Hello everyone :) BBM saying hello and checking in :) Have a great evening everyone

[FeminineAllure]

Hello to everyone!
I am also single. I went to nursing school for one semester. I did well but the sciences were not for me. I am a cosmetologist and speacialized in mens hair replacement for many years. I was creative director and traveled all over the US and Canada where the franchises were located to train the staff technicians.
My father is 83 and is going blind so I moved from N.J. to PA over a year ago to look after him. He lives right next door to me so we both still have our own space.
I also love cats! I have done volunteer work at shelters attending to the cat population.
I have a feral cat colony out back on my fathers porch consisting of 5 or more cats and three kittens.
I like to write poetry and erotica. I travel when I can. In fact, I am going away this weekend to Atlantic City with my brother, mom and her friend.
I love coffee and bookstores. I love antiques and shabby chic and live in a cottage that fits that theme of decorating perfectly!
I like to make new friends. I am open minded and appreciate others who are as well. I enjoy being around others where it is laid back and I am confortable being myself. I can be shy at first but that does not last long!
I have been very busy lately sending out Holiday cards and this year Christmas with the family is at my house.

[bigbutchmistie]

Uh oh I guess I typed too soon. I am supposed to "place my ad" ok lemme get together what to say and I will be back :)

[Cowboi]

Just stopping by to say hello to all the singles.

[Zimmeh]

Welcome BBM, Feminine and CowBoi.

Hope you all are having a wonderful night and getting ready for Christmas.

I have a few more presents to pick up and I am done.

Have a good night,

Zimmy

:antler: :santa1:

[ctbutch1]

Dropping by to say HI. Ms`Allure always good to see you and when are you coming to decorate... my penthouse is a mess lol. Thank you for starting this thread Zimmy!!

[FeminineAllure]

Good evening ct. :welcome::stillheart:
I would love to come decorate your penthouse.:hammer::cheerleader:

[atomiczombie]

Good evening Singles! :nothingtoadd:

[Zimmeh]

I take it everyone is still out celebrating the New Years?

[Leigh]

Well I see that no one has been in here for awhile, so I figured I would come in and say hi to everyone :)

I will post more later about Me :thumbsup:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

woo hoo A singles thread........am i the only one here

[Blaze]

I just came in here cause Dels was in here and I didn't want her to be lonely...

[Jet]

Single here and subscribing.

[Just_G]

Good afternoon singles! My name is G, 38, I live in Kansas City with my pug Vinnie and my boxer Frankie.
I love meeting new people, especially the funny ones! I work in my family's business, just enrolled in school for the first time in 20 years to get my associates in computer drafting and design. I love to do remodel work, build things, and keep my hands busy. I love KU basketball..go Jayhawks! I am a sports fanatic, and have a new love for mixed martial arts...watching, not doing! :D

I think holding hands when taking moonlit strolls on the beach is WAY over rated (besides, I am nowhere near a beach :winky:). I go to Hooters for the wings, not the women :thumbsup:. I take the homeless man on the corner a breakfast burrito every morning on my way to work. I love being single, but like to date. I am ordained and can marry 'em and bury 'em. Last, but not least, my friends are my life....without them, my life would be very dull.

I'd like to send a shout out to my Nizzle!! Here is a goat...:goat:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

I just came in here cause Dels was in here and I didn't want her to be lonely...

well aren't you just the kindest thing....lol:peacelove:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

:D

I think holding hands when taking moonlit strolls on the beach is WAY over rated



wow i totally disagree...holding hands is good anywhere but especially walking on a beach......:sparklyheart:

[Just_G]

wow i totally disagree...holding hands is good anywhere but especially walking on a beach......:sparklyheart:

I was actually just joking around....you know how people always say in their single's ads "I like moonlit strolls on the beach", etc. :winky:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

I was actually just joking around....you know how people always say in their single's ads "I like moonlit strolls on the beach", etc. :winky:

i know some of them can be pathetic...sickening even...lol

i figure if people are trying to sell themselves that hard something must be

desperatley wrong....i skip over them ads.......

[LeatherBrit]

Hello all ...

Just joined ... wondering if there is any life online other than Facebook these days!

Single, soft butch, living in TN, but not from here. Looking to meet new people and make friends!

Later!
Deb

:computer:

[DELSDAUGHTER]

Hello all ...

Just joined ... wondering if there is any life online other than Facebook these days!

Single, soft butch, living in TN, but not from here. Looking to meet new people and make friends!

Later!
Deb

:computer:

well hello leather brit......did you introduce yourself...in your own thread.....
welcome......:girlonatv:

[Strappie]

Did I hear..... SINGLE???

I can't let G steal all the single ladies so here I am throwing my hat in the mix.....

I'm 44, Live in Minneapolis Minnesooooota with two roommates they live up stairs I live in the Playboy Mansion downstairs. *smirk*

I'm a Professional Cheese cutter from 9-5 well my hours do very, Fridays I have to be there at 5am which means I can leave on a jet plain typically by noon or earlier if need be.

Well thats all I have for you all for now...

G ... congrats on signing up for school!!! I wish I had the guts to go back. Good luck my friend!!

[Strappie]

Can I also just add...

the crazies need not apply.. I just was talking to one and man what a tail spin.. So please check yourself at the door.. haha

[Just_G]

Did I hear..... SINGLE???

I can't let G steal all the single ladies so here I am throwing my hat in the mix.....

I'm 44, Live in Minneapolis Minnesooooota with two roommates they live up stairs I live in the Playboy Mansion downstairs. *smirk*

I'm a Professional Cheese cutter from 9-5 well my hours do very, Fridays I have to be there at 5am which means I can leave on a jet plain typically by noon or earlier if need be.

Well thats all I have for you all for now...

G ... congrats on signing up for school!!! I wish I had the guts to go back. Good luck my friend!!

Hey yo buddy, I ain't stealing anything...lol :raspberry:

Dude you might put it out there that you are a Vikings fan...that could make or break it if they don't like the color purple...ha ha ha!

[Strappie]

Hey yo buddy, I ain't stealing anything...lol :raspberry:

Dude you might put it out there that you are a Vikings fan...that could make or break it if they don't like the color purple...ha ha ha!

What girl doesn't like the color Purple??? Dude it's the new pink!

[FR]

Did I hear..... SINGLE???

I can't let G steal all the single ladies so here I am throwing my hat in the mix.....

I'm 44, Live in Minneapolis Minnesooooota with two roommates they live up stairs I live in the Playboy Mansion downstairs. *smirk*

I'm a Professional Cheese cutter from 9-5 well my hours do very, Fridays I have to be there at 5am which means I can leave on a jet plain typically by noon or earlier if need be.

Well thats all I have for you all for now...

G ... congrats on signing up for school!!! I wish I had the guts to go back. Good luck my friend!!

omg strappie cut the cheese..woo.. fans the room..

[Strappie]

omg strappie cut the cheese..woo.. fans the room..

there is always a wise guy! lol

[Just_G]

What girl doesn't like the color Purple??? Dude it's the new pink!

You might contact the Viking's office and let them know they need to change the color of their uniforms...ha ha!

[Strappie]

You might contact the Viking's office and let them know they need to change the color of their uniforms...ha ha!



oh hail no... G Purple is the new pink for breast cancer awareness.. lol

[DELSDAUGHTER]

vikings....oh please ...the only purple i wanna see is on a ravens uniform......lol

[cerys]

Ok, I’m joining in. ☺

I grew up in central Massachusetts, and now I live almost in Boston. Nope, I didn’t go too far. I do love to travel though, and I have been to the other side of the world and many places in between – never south of the equator though.

I’m 27. I’ll be 28 next month, and it’ll be my second international birthday. I turned 21 in China, and I’ll be turning 28 in Turkmenistan.

I have a bachelor’s degree in history with a concentration in Asian Studies and a master’s degree in education with a focus on English as a Second Language.

I love to knit, read, and listen to music. I sing in a very small, very weird church choir, and I love it.

[DELSDAUGHTER]

Ok, I’m joining in. ☺

I grew up in central Massachusetts, and now I live almost in Boston. Nope, I didn’t go too far. I do love to travel though, and I have been to the other side of the world and many places in between – never south of the equator though.

I’m 27. I’ll be 28 next month, and it’ll be my second international birthday. I turned 21 in China, and I’ll be turning 28 in Turkmenistan.

I have a bachelor’s degree in history with a concentration in Asian Studies and a master’s degree in education with a focus on English as a Second Language.

I love to knit, read, and listen to music. I sing in a very small, very weird church choir, and I love it.

i turned 18 in korea does that count ...lol

[friskyfemme]

Hi everyone,
I am single, live in Phoenix, worked for the State in Social Services for last 3yrs. I am a licensed Massage Practitioner and a certified Hypnotherapist. I am in AZ from midwest due to a Vision revealed to me in 1994. I am a low maintenance, easy going femme with high standards on trust, flexibility, and 'living green' (always been my fav color). I am very active and love the 'ARTS'. I enjoy people. I love a good conversation one to one, but can do forums.

[morningstar55]

heyy singles...........
i couldnt help it but this was kinda funny

YouTube- Beyonce's "Single Ladies"?!? Read Description Box

[Zimmeh]

((((Braedon))))),

Hello!

Work has kept me busy and I have been babysitting my one year old nephew for my mom, which is a treat.....

How are you?

Zimmy

Well I see that no one has been in here for awhile, so I figured I would come in and say hi to everyone :)

I will post more later about Me :thumbsup:

[cerys]

i turned 18 in korea does that count ...lol

If you didn't grow up in Korea, yep!

[Zimmeh]

I used to live in Boston nearly eleven years ago in Arlintong Heights, which is a few minutes outside of Cambridge. I miss living up there and I am planning a vacation to Ireland and possibly London this year. Made a wonderful friend in Ireland and cannot believe how gorgeous it is over there.

Have fun celebrating your birthday in Turkmenistan...:birthdaycake: early.

Have a good Sunday,

Zimmy

Ok, I’m joining in. ☺

I grew up in central Massachusetts, and now I live almost in Boston. Nope, I didn’t go too far. I do love to travel though, and I have been to the other side of the world and many places in between – never south of the equator though.

I’m 27. I’ll be 28 next month, and it’ll be my second international birthday. I turned 21 in China, and I’ll be turning 28 in Turkmenistan.

I have a bachelor’s degree in history with a concentration in Asian Studies and a master’s degree in education with a focus on English as a Second Language.

I love to knit, read, and listen to music. I sing in a very small, very weird church choir, and I love it.

[Zimmeh]

I am breaking up with my job...Being salary is crazy and working 60 hours a week is horrible. I am coming back to have fun again..

Who else is celebrating a birthday this month?

Even though I live in Florida, I am a Pats fan...

Have a good Sunday,

Zimmy

[cerys]

I used to live in Boston nearly eleven years ago in Arlintong Heights, which is a few minutes outside of Cambridge. I miss living up there and I am planning a vacation to Ireland and possibly London this year. Made a wonderful friend in Ireland and cannot believe how gorgeous it is over there.

Have fun celebrating your birthday in Turkmenistan...:birthdaycake: early.

Have a good Sunday,

Zimmy

I would love to visit Ireland. I've never been to London, either (except for Heathrow Airport, but I doubt that counts!), but Ireland is definitely higher up on my list.

I'm not sure if I'll actually have a chance to celebrate my birthday. I'm doing an exchange program for secondary educators and my birthday falls on a school day!

[DELSDAUGHTER]

If you didn't grow up in Korea, yep!

cool.....i was an army brat....lets see germany,england, korea, the only foreign places i've lived

[DELSDAUGHTER]

I would love to visit Ireland. I've never been to London, either (except for Heathrow Airport, but I doubt that counts!), but Ireland is definitely higher up on my list.

I'm not sure if I'll actually have a chance to celebrate my birthday. I'm doing an exchange program for secondary educators and my birthday falls on a school day!

my mother is british......so i am very fond of England.....Devon to be exact..gods country is what my mum calls it.

[scentsofautumn]

Stopping by to say hello...

[Blade]

Hello in here I'm single, and not looking. It would take an awfully warm femme to melt this cold cold heart. Staying on topic, I've had birthdays in 4 different states but never out of the states :farmer:

[Zimmeh]

I cannot wait...Going to apply for my Visa here soon and then I am going to start looking at flights. Not sure how long the flight is going to be, but it is well worth it...

Since you cannot celebrate your birthday, maybe we can have a virtual birthday party on the thread for you.

Have a good Sunday,

Zimmy

I would love to visit Ireland. I've never been to London, either (except for Heathrow Airport, but I doubt that counts!), but Ireland is definitely higher up on my list.

I'm not sure if I'll actually have a chance to celebrate my birthday. I'm doing an exchange program for secondary educators and my birthday falls on a school day!

[Zimmeh]

Welcome Scents and Blade!

Hello and hope you two are having a wonderful Sunday...Today is the NFL playoffs!

Have a good day,

Zimmy

Stopping by to say hello...

Hello in here I'm single, and not looking. It would take an awfully warm femme to melt this cold cold heart. Staying on topic, I've had birthdays in 4 different states but never out of the states :farmer:

[cerys]

my mother is british......so i am very fond of England.....Devon to be exact..gods country is what my mum calls it.

There are at least two very hilarious men in Devon. Have you ever listened to the Gay Sci-Fi Nerds Podcast?

They stopped producing it, but you can still get back episodes on iTunes. It was great.

[DELSDAUGHTER]

There are at least two very hilarious men in Devon. Have you ever listened to the Gay Sci-Fi Nerds Podcast?

They stopped producing it, but you can still get back episodes on iTunes. It was great.

no i can't say that i have ...sorry

[The_Lady_Snow]

I am available the 2nd Tuesday of the month and sometimes on Sundays when NASCAR or Football is not on...:loveletter:

[Lusciousblondefemme]

Hi .. i guess i should put my name in the mix ...

:) I hate writing about myself .. but I am a phlebotomist and currently going to school for Criminal Justice.. I have two beautiful children 15 and 13 who are my life ... Live in Pa in Northeastern part .. .. anything else dont be scared to ask .. I only bite if you want me tooo...

Oh yeah btw .. .Del i love the Ravens as well :) ...

[Jet]

I would love to visit Ireland.

I've been there. The people are charming.

[triquetra]

Hello to All :)

I am not single anymore, as my darling babygirl found me and beckoned my heart to be hers with the crook of her little finger. But as she is in this thread and active, and there are some friends here, I figured i would join it....lol.

Have a wonderful night and best of luck to all!

[LieslKate]

I posted this in another thread... being proactive I am posting here as well since I am hoping to meet a nice single Butch of the older variety , 40+ but a younger Butch may be considered too... you just have to be able to keep up !

Single Lesbian, 54... 100% Prime Canadian Femme... educated, well read and travelled, quirky and fun sense of humour, I speak French and American as well as English; my many interests include cooking, walking and hiking, reading mysteries, biographies and trashy novels as well as watching tv, going to the movies, hanging at the beach in the summer, not so crazy about winter... I sail, ride horseback, have been know to camp and am a Lager Lout during World Cup Football (South Africa June 2010)... have predicted the last 8 SuperBowls acurately and not bet on them, dammit! I am employed as an IT Geek/ Tech Writer with a Media Relations Co, planning to retire within the next 5 years, I am willing to relocate ...

Conversant in BDSM and Leather I am seeking my equal opposite in a Lesbian Butch (F or M ID'd) aged 40-? of the Domme / Top / Daddy variety with some of the same interests, active, employed or retired, sane, with a sense of humour and perspective who is seeking a real life, monogamous committment.

So... I await replies and I will will update on the outcome, discretely and revealing no names w/out permission of course !

I found an even better descriptive of what catches my attention best in a Butch... "OFOS Top Domme Stone Butch Daddy". The Stone part of this description is optional on my part... I am happy either way !

[Blade]

i just want to make sure you
know just who your
getting under this old hat
cuz girl im not the kind to
two time or play games
behind your back
im a little more country than that

[bigbutchmistie]

Hello everyone! Most of you already know me.... I will say to those that dont HI! Im BBM and Im single and I LOVE IT! :)

[luciddreamer]

Well....I suppose I should join in all the fun :) I am very single ...therefore I am very available :dance2:

Now.....what to do...what to dooooo or..is that...who to do..who to do lmao :nailbitin:

[Strappie]

Yep Yep.. all of the above cause I like being on top! lol

[luciddreamer]

Yep Yep.. all of the above cause I like being on top! lol
hmmmmm...imagine that Strappie...you are under me :rofl:

[bigbutchmistie]

hmmmmm...imagine that Strappie...you are under me :rofl:

LOL :) :trampoline:

[bigbutchmistie]

Well since I am single I am available. But not looking. As I stated I do enjoy being single. But if a femme think she change that. Well she's welcome to try... Got her work cut out LOL

[Strappie]

hmmmmm...imagine that Strappie...you are under me :rofl:

Nice work... way to slip right in! *smirk* now strap yourself in.. cause your in for a ride.. lol

[Gemme]

Hello in here I'm single, and not looking. It would take an awfully warm femme to melt this cold cold heart. Staying on topic, I've had birthdays in 4 different states but never out of the states :farmer:

I had a birthday while being stuck waiting for a load with my partner who was a trucker at the time. It sucked, but it WAS in another state. Is there a prize for out of state birthdays? :blink:

[Jet]

Hey singles, single here too.

[Kenna]

I had a birthday while being stuck waiting for a load with my partner who was a trucker at the time. It sucked, but it WAS in another state. Is there a prize for out of state birthdays? :blink:


LOL!! Poor Gemme. Wish I could make up for your missed birthday.
:present::present::present::present:
Is there a prize for being a Christmas baby?

[DapperButch]

LOL!! Poor Gemme. Wish I could make up for your missed birthday.
:present::present::present::present:
Is there a prize for being a Christmas baby?

No, just a lot of empathy for having to share your special day with a Holiday! :-(

[Kenna]

No, just a lot of empathy for having to share your special day with a Holiday! :-(

Thank you sweetie.. that means more than a prize ;)

[Princess4u]

top of what????????:rofl:Yep Yep.. all of the above cause I like being on top! lol

[Princess4u]

Decided to join in the fun!!!! single here as well....but ummm why else would I be posting here LMAO!!!If you want to know more...ask and I will tell you if you smile sweetly at me!:innocent::toast:

[Gemme]

LOL!! Poor Gemme. Wish I could make up for your missed birthday.
:present::present::present::present:
Is there a prize for being a Christmas baby?

How about we split the difference and celebrate in September, the middle point between our two days?

[AtLast]

We singles that are dating ought to start a Worlds Wierdest Date thread.... maybe its being someone that was in LTR and dating again. Was in one for 21 years, then single for 3 and then with my last partner for 6 years (she passed away). started to date about 3 years later. So, dating just feels way different than before! LOL... must be that I'm old!!!

[Leigh]

Just came in to say hi to everyone, hope you each have a wonderful weekend :)

[Kenna]

How about we split the difference and celebrate in September, the middle point between our two days?

That sounds like a GREAT plan!!! I love September weather!

[AtLast]

Afternoon! It is a fabulous, clear day here and I am taking my pooch to the dog park. Hey, he's quite the babe magnet! need all the help I can get!
:frog:

[Strappie]

Decided to join in the fun!!!! single here as well....but ummm why else would I be posting here LMAO!!!If you want to know more...ask and I will tell you if you smile sweetly at me!:innocent::toast:

You will tell us anything? hmmm dirty minds wanna know.... oh I'll save it for Little Rock! lol

[Strappie]

I started a Thread for SINGLES going to Little Rock... it's called

Single Road to Little Rock (I think) shit I'll have to go look for it again.. lol

You all should start posting in there if you are going to be joining us
for the big party in Little Rock....

Omg I can't tell you how fun these things are if you have never been.

[Kenna]

Afternoon! It is a fabulous, clear day here and I am taking my pooch to the dog park. Hey, he's quite the babe magnet! need all the help I can get!
:frog:

Does your little buddy wear Tshirts??
http://pet.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pPETS-6024870dt.jpg

[Strappie]

Here we go... this is the link... Not sure if it will work.. I'm a dork when it comes to these things.....

SINGLE road to Little Rock 2010...

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=767

[AtLast]

Strappie is right about the Reunion! Good people, good times!

[Gemme]

Strappie is right about the Reunion! Good people, good times!

I can't believe it's been FIVE YEARS since my last get together. :blink:

[AtLast]

I can't believe it's been FIVE YEARS since my last get together. :blink:

Oh, Gemme! You are long overdue!! Jeepssakes!

[Gemme]

Oh, Gemme! You are long overdue!! Jeepssakes!


I KNOW, riiiiight??? lol

[Gentle Tiger]

Stopping by to say hello. So...

Hello Everyone. I hope the weekend is going well for you.

[bigbutchmistie]

Hello everyone :) Hope you all are having a wonderful weekend :)

Hello Gentle Tiger

[ruthie14]

Rejoining the ranks... hello again..:sigh:

[bigbutchmistie]

Rejoining the ranks... hello again..:sigh:

Awww Ruthie Im so sorry :( I truly am...

[key]

So, dating just feels way different than before! LOL... must be that I'm old!!!

yeah, I hear that. I have yet to go on a date since my break up...god how many years ago...

Sometimes I worry that I enjoy being alone too much. Or at least enjoy it enough to not put THAT much energy into changing my status.

...or am I just scared...maybe bit of both.

[Soft*Silver]

My ex and I just ended our LDR...we remain the best of friends and he will always be a part of my life, and I his. There were just a few factors that mattered to change it from a romance to a friendship.


I am in no hurry to date. When I do, it will probably be local because I will not move again for a relationship. And at my age, which is 53, most of the people I would consider dating, have a home, a job, friends, family, etc invested in the area they are currently living in. I have moved three times for a relationship and three times the relationship did not work. I would not want to uproot someone and feel the blame for that if it did not work out. I have been there and its a pain to lose so much AND a relationship ontop of it.

I am wondering how others my age think they can resolve the migration of long distance dating...

[Sunny]

:sailing:

Hi Everyone,

I am currently single. I live in New Jersey in the Southern part of the state. I like meeting new people and listening to their stories. I currently work in retail Management. Been in it for over 25 years. I love to laugh and usually will make myself laugh. I have a great imagination which comes in handy. LOL I wish I was going to the reunion it sounds like great fun. Sunny

[Sunny]

You bring up a very good point about Long Distance Relationships. I really think that as you get older it is more difficult to pick up your life and move. I am amazed that you have done it so many times. Do you regret doing it? Sunny

[ruthie14]

Morning Singles.. Another beautiful day in NJ. Off to church,:praying: brunch :canoworms:and then playing pool with friends. :happyjump:

Have a wonderful Sunday!!:peacelove:

Ruthie

[Cowboi]

Good Morning singles girls and bois! Hope everyone has a fun filled day planned.

[Soft*Silver]

You bring up a very good point about Long Distance Relationships. I really think that as you get older it is more difficult to pick up your life and move. I am amazed that you have done it so many times. Do you regret doing it? Sunny


I dont regret giving love a chance. I dont even regret the choices of partners ... they were all wonderful in their own ways. Unfortunately they were also not a good choice for me, each in their own way. My bad. No one twisted my arm. I stand accountable for my part in the decision to live together. I made my choices they made theirs and I am sorry for the upheaval OUR choices did to each other. I have found that two really good people can end up in really bad relationships if they arent the right people for each other. What complicates things, is when you move everything you own across states and after the break up you have to re-establish yourself somewhere else. I moved back home, to Ohio, and am purchasing a house so I am feeling rooted again, but for awhile, especially with my health issues, I felt like I wasn't really settled and secured.

I have nothing against LDRs. I would do one again with the right person. But there would be no instant Uhaul at either of our doors. The older I get the more I am willing to satisy my needs first. Call me selfish, if you will. But when its over, its me I always have to sleep with and face in the morning. And me who has to comfort myself over a broken heart. I will not settle for less than what I want and I will not give up what should not be asked to be given up.

I am 53. I have had the benefit of dating some remarkable people in my life. I have been loved well, and at times, badly. But to be honest, with those bad ones, I was just at fault and loved badly too. Another reason why I am unwilling to settle. I end up behaving like I dont want to and becoming someone I dont like.

In the midst of this post, I went outside and planted my peas, weeded out the brown stalks leftover from winter and set out new soil for a new spring. This is what I believe in. No matter how many winters I will see, I believe and count on spring to come. And that is about all I have to say about love....for now...lol

[Odarlin]

Single. Love being single. Will stay single.
The idea of not being single anytime for the very extended future gives me a headache.:veggie:

Representing. :cheesy:

Have a beautiful day all you all! :givingarose:
:happyjump:

[Zimmeh]

Good Afternoon Everyone,

Hope you all are having a wonderful day...I finished moving all of my stuff out of my old apartment in Orlando to my mom's second house while I am waiting to move into my new house on April 1st.

Have a good day,

Zimmy

[Ghost Huntin' Daddy]

Hello to all the gorgeous and handsome singles out there! Hope all is well!

[Zimmeh]

Good evening Everyone,

Hope you all had a wonderful day and have a wonderful weekend!

Zimmy
<I am tired after moving the last two days>

[DELSDAUGHTER]

morning all you lovely people..

here is a treat to start your saturday.....

YouTube- Everybody Video Contest

[chefhottie25]

I am new to this thread...so be gentle...however it is always more fun if you are not. Have a great weekend

[Sachita]

I am new to this thread...so be gentle...however it is always more fun if you are not. Have a great weekend


ohhhhhh I like the sound of that!

welcome

[Sachita]

You know I have been thinking the last few days....

I spent a good part of my 20's and 30"s single. It wasnt that I couldnt have a relationship...I just really didn't want one. Lately I've been talking, exploring, visiting old friends and feeling really great. A few friends asked me if I was looking or interested in dating. I thought about this long and hard....

I'm in a good place right now. I have a clear perception of what I want and what I don't want. My happiness is not dependent on another human being, although my connections, all of them, even very good friends is important. I just don't need to take it to the next level or at least not now.

I'm really loving my space right now and getting into myself. I'm also loving spending time with good friends without the pressure.

I'm in southern va just outside Danville. I'm not a bar person and I live in the country. I enjoy small cook outs, sipping wine and intelligent conversation. I also love gardening and meeting others that are into this.

[ruthie14]

Good Afternoon singles... Beautiful day here in NJ.:goodscore: Heading to the shore for a birthday party after work. HEHE Should be fun. Have a wonderful day folks!

[Sachita]

opps forgot to subscribe

[waxnrope]

Oops! I thought this thread said "shingles"! I am really tired! :rofl:

[cuddlyfemme]

Another single Femme here! I hope E/everyone has a beautiful day!!

[dixie]

Hopelessly single here, with a few lil crushes...lol ;)

[Delish]

Good afternoon all! I am single and live in Alabama...how sad is that lol. It's not that I don't have people to date here, but after1-2 dates I always find something wrong with them. I think it's just the Alabama butch syndrome...u know...they take u out 1-2 times and think they can just get you in to bed *shrug* This may be an everywhere syndrome.

[Jet]

its not everywhere

[Delish]

its not everywhere

that's very good to know!

[Ebon]

Hi I'm single. 32 or 33 can't remember. I live in Texas. I fix computers for a living. I'm silly, love video games and I love all kinds of music.

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

Hi, everyone.
I just found this thread. I am glad to have found it.

I have been on this site for about 2 months and have found some friends here, and that is a good thing.

I live alone with my little Jack Russell Terrier in the edge of a forest. I am in Show Low, AZ. This is in the North Eastern part of Arizona, not too far from the New Mexico border. I am an artist and have taught art. I have been thinking, recently that perhaps, I should start teaching private art classes. I like to laugh and I try to make it a point to be kind to people because I know what it's like being on the receiving end of unkindness.

I am interested in dating and having fun, but nothing more. I don't believe that lasting true love exists.

[sweetfemme247]

Well lets see, I am 23 going on 24 I am single have been for sometime now, I want to find someone to spend my life with, so I am here to mingle...

[chefhottie25]

Well lets see, I am 23 going on 24 I am single have been for sometime now, I want to find someone to spend my life with, so I am here to mingle...

I have been single for 2 years...it gets lonely. But I have confidence that we will find someone. Someone who will make us happy and challenge us. Some sweet honest boi will come your way i am sure of it.

[sweetfemme247]

I have been single for 2 years...it gets lonely. But I have confidence that we will find someone. Someone who will make us happy and challenge us. Some sweet honest boi will come your way i am sure of it.

I have a interest, someone I want to know more about but for now Im just going to wait and see

[chefhottie25]

I have a interest, someone I want to know more about but for now Im just going to wait and see

playing it safe...that is a good approach. would this someone have to make the first move? you seem a little shy.

[sweetfemme247]

playing it safe...that is a good approach. would this someone have to make the first move? you seem a little shy.

Yeah I am very shy.......... I like to be a risk taker, but I must know they are interested first

[bigbutchmistie]

Hello Singles :) Im single and ready to mingle. I have spent some time the past few years single, and I definitely know what I will accept and wont. I do have to say that there is nothing hotter than a femme who knows what she wants and isnt afraid to go after it. Good luck to all of you :)

[chefhottie25]

you should just assume that he is. why wouldn't he be. you are adorable. I say go for it.



Yeah I am very shy.......... I like to be a risk taker, but I must know they are interested first

[sweetfemme247]

you should just assume that he is. why wouldn't he be. you are adorable. I say go for it.


I am going for it, Im talking to this person right now.

[dixie]

Hmm...am I smelling a bit of flirty romance in the air? :wine::bunchflowers:


(You go, everettdiva! ;) )

[sweetfemme247]

hehe thank you dixie...... I am flirting alittle it feels good to open up and be flirty......

[Leigh]

Just came in to say hi to everyone, figured I'd see whats up with My fellow singles :)

[Jet]

I'm single and stickin' to it. (well, as far as i know)

[cuddlyfemme]

Hi E/everyone, i hope E/everyone is having a wonderful evening

[Sam]

I'm single and stickin' to it.

me too

eating ice cream too :P

[Leigh]

Hi everyone, hope your all having a good evening :)

[Ebon]

Hi everyone, hope your all having a good evening :)

Yep hanging out with a buddy and having a beer. We might go see some blues later.

[Leigh]

Morning singles, just wanted to say hi to everyone while I sit here and listen to some awesome 80's tunes :thumbsup:

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

Good Morning.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day!

[chefhmboyrd]

i am single
and ready to party
headed to Little Rock for the reunion
and i am really looking forward to seeing my BFP friends there
:fastdraq:

[Ebon]

Good morning my single friends. I have a question for you all. Do any of you ladies or gentlemen actually enjoying being single?

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

i am single
and ready to party
headed to Little Rock for the reunion
and i am really looking forward to seeing my BFP friends there
:fastdraq:

I am single & ready to party, too!!
However, I will not be going to the reunion, unfortunately. I joined this website too late to be able to save for it.

Maybe next year? I hope so!! I wouldn't mind meeting a few of you!

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

Good morning my single friends. I have a question for you all. Do any of you ladies or gentlemen actually enjoying being single?

I DO enjoy being single. I like the freedom. I like the solitude, punctuated by times of great conversation, fun, dancing and (hopefully) more.

Just my two pennies.

[lipstixgal]

I'm single and don't enjoy it one bit. Talking to one nice butch women but she is busy with work and on business trips oh well maybe someday we will meet up I don't know but really I would like to be with someone special:moonstars:

[Ebon]

I'm single and don't enjoy it one bit. Talking to one nice butch women but she is busy with work and on business trips oh well maybe someday we will meet up I don't know but really I would like to be with someone special:moonstars:

That's interesting.

[Ebon]

I DO enjoy being single. I like the freedom. I like the solitude, punctuated by times of great conversation, fun, dancing and (hopefully) more.

Just my two pennies.

You hit the nail on the head for me. I like flirting too but I have to do it with someone that is not taken and that doesn't take it too serious.

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

You hit the nail on the head for me. I like flirting too but I have to do it with someone that is not taken and that doesn't take it too serious.

Exactly my thoughts!!

[cuddlyfemme]

I'm single and don't enjoy it one bit. Talking to one nice butch women but she is busy with work and on business trips oh well maybe someday we will meet up I don't know but really I would like to be with someone special:moonstars:

I agree with you, I'm single and don't like it one bit.
I hope you and the nice butch woman get to meet up soon

[chefhmboyrd]

Good morning my single friends. I have a question for you all. Do any of you ladies or gentlemen actually enjoying being single?

i do enjoy being single:hangloose:

i was a serial monogomist for years, and it never seemed to pan out quite the way i hoped

i like having the freedom that being single affords me. the freedom to come and go as i please, see who i please and enjoy life without being judged by my partner for every thing i do.

maybe someday that special lady will come along, but the first thing she needs to accept is, you can't put a leash on me.


@

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

i do enjoy being single:hangloose:

i was a serial monogomist for years, and it never seemed to pan out quite the way i hoped

i like having the freedom that being single affords me. the freedom to come and go as i please, see who i please and enjoy life without being judged by my partner for every thing i do.

maybe someday that special lady will come along, but the first thing she needs to accept is, you can't put a leash on me.


@

I hear that!

[Sachita]

Good morning my single friends. I have a question for you all. Do any of you ladies or gentlemen actually enjoying being single?

I have mixed feelings about it. Whoever I'm with needs to give me space. I really like time a lone. I also have very little free time and enjoy friends and family. I have a few people flirting. I might date, meet, spend time but it would take a very special situation to keep my attention.

[Leigh]

i am single
and ready to party
headed to Little Rock for the reunion
and i am really looking forward to seeing my BFP friends there

I wish I could go to the Reunion this year but I can't afford it ~ I am, however, hoping that if there is one next year I'll be able to go :)

Good morning my single friends. I have a question for you all. Do any of you ladies or gentlemen actually enjoying being single?

Right now I have various feelings about this, all of them are mixed. On one hand I really miss being with someone and having that special bond; yet on the other hand, I have never really been single since I first began dating (which has been since age 18) so I'm still kind of getting used to not having someone in My life ~ so far I'm finding that its ok, its slowly growing on Me :twitch:

I am single & ready to party, too!!
However, I will not be going to the reunion, unfortunately. I joined this website too late to be able to save for it.

Maybe next year? I hope so!! I wouldn't mind meeting a few of you!

I hope to go next year too, so I can meet many of the friends that I have made on this site over the past few months :D

I'm single and don't enjoy it one bit. Talking to one nice butch women but she is busy with work and on business trips oh well maybe someday we will meet up I don't know but really I would like to be with someone special:moonstars:

I know how you feel lips, I don't much enjoy being single either. Sure you have freedom and can do whatever you want whenever you want, but not having someone to share your life with can get pretty lonely :sigh:

i do enjoy being single:hangloose:

i was a serial monogomist for years, and it never seemed to pan out quite the way i hoped

i like having the freedom that being single affords me. the freedom to come and go as i please, see who i please and enjoy life without being judged by my partner for every thing i do.

I was that exact same way for a long time, a serial monogomist. I was always with someone, but of course now with being single its obvious that none of them worked out the way that I wanted them to. In many ways I'm still getting used to being single, but in other ways I can see why its enjoyable!!!!

I have mixed feelings about it. Whoever I'm with needs to give me space. I really like time a lone. I also have very little free time and enjoy friends and family. I have a few people flirting. I might date, meet, spend time but it would take a very special situation to keep my attention.

I've been enjoying alot of alone time lately as well, and part of the thing with Me depression is I require alot of alone time but also alot of snuggle/together time. I often need My own space, and will go into My room with My door shut in order to get away from the world and just be alone. I had one time when I honestly thought that I had found My forever, but it just wasn't mean to be, so now its gonna take someone awefully special to get My heart again :stillheart:

[Sachita]

i do enjoy being single:hangloose:

i was a serial monogomist for years, and it never seemed to pan out quite the way i hoped

i like having the freedom that being single affords me. the freedom to come and go as i please, see who i please and enjoy life without being judged by my partner for every thing i do.

maybe someday that special lady will come along, but the first thing she needs to accept is, you can't put a leash on me.


@

I think you can still want to be monogamous and still be your own person. The problem is finding someone like you or some type of symbiotic relationship that each person is fulfilled. Its all about being hot and passionate, whatever floats your boat and when that goes you have little left.

I love putting leashes on and controlling but only in a very romantic context.

[ButchEire]

I've found that the quality of my singlehood is inversely proportionate to the quality of the most recent relationship. :D

[Soft*Silver]

I do like being single. This is a new thing for me. I use to like being in relationships. Alot of things have happened in the last 5 years that have settled me down and wisened me up. About myself. You know a break up was worth it when you learn what you need to know about yourself. I am a good student....

and what I learned is I really dont want to relinquish control over to someone else. I dont want to have to answer to anyone or have to ask anyone
"may I?". I have been told there are people out there who wouldnt take control nor expect me to ask "may I?" but seriously, thats a myth. If you are in a relationship, out of courtesy of the other person, you really should confer with the other person about the actions of your life. And if you are with someone, you do have to relinquish some control. I simply dont want that anymore.

I would love to be in love again someday but I dont know how that would look anymore. I use to want to live with my partner but I cant imagine that at all now! I lost my family farm after one relationship ended and floated to other people's homes, only to lose my sense of "home" all over again when I had to leave when the relationship ended. I own my own home now, free and clear. I wont be leaving it ever.

I would love to date someone forever tho. You know the type of gal I am...in movies, I am the widow down the road who has been keeping company with the old farmer who was never married. I make him dinner a couple nights a week. He tills my garden for me (oh yeah! snickering) and I bake him pies. He shows up in the evening of holidays with a small present. I give him something I made, or a flannel shirt or a carhart hat. People know we see each other but no fuss is made and its kept between him and I.

Thats what I see myself in someday...

[naturlover_52]

[FONT="Century Gothic"][SIZE="5"]Yeah I can totally relate to some of these posts. I am recently single myself. Well since last July. She had relocated to be w/ me. We had been friends for a while and she came back into my life.I am not too sure that I would want to meet someone this soon after my last partner leaving. We had issues and it has been longer since she couldn't tell me what was going on. BUT now I am dealing w/ some things myself. MOSTLY my mom's death last Nov. Also I am helping to take care of my 76 yr old Dad who has moderate Alzheimer's. I live w/ him.I need to deal w/ this on my own terms and I would feel guilty if someone wanted to be w/ me and I couldn't give to them what they were trying to or were wanting to give to me. MEANING love.

I can totally relate to the person dealing w/ depression and needing ALONE time. I deal w/ anxiety....cronic disorder.

I also relate to the person who said that they get lonely at times...I do too very much.

Thanks for letting me share.
:seeingstars:
:hanging:
:shark:
:badger:

[lipstixgal]

I'm single and really don't like it very much. My family doesn't bother with me because I am Jewish and they are catholic I guess they are antisemitic or just don't like gays and lesbians I don't know. I'm moving out of NJ in September so I can have a better life probably to the West Coast somewhere hopefully I will have happier holidays and more friends.

[Ebon]

I'm single and really don't like it very much. My family doesn't bother with me because I am Jewish and they are catholic I guess they are antisemitic or just don't like gays and lesbians I don't know. I'm moving out of NJ in September so I can have a better life probably to the West Coast somewhere hopefully I will have happier holidays and more friends.

Yeah I hope so to for your sake. You will find your heart family. Sometimes the blood family just doesn't cut it. Hugs and good luck!!

[slowlover]

Ok..Where are all the Chicago femmes...Are there any Chicago beauties
on this site...It seems to be Butch is getting harder and harder..
I like the idea of the thread, hope it takes off...:rubberducky:

[nicetgurl_30]

Well at least u guys arent stuck in AR. I havent been able to find anyone and Ive been single for a little bit

[slowlover]

Hi,

Just got off you website, I really enjoyed...I am big in the animals I have and the things I eat these days..We really need to rethink all these things, and take car of ourselves to stay healthy...

By the way both you and your sister are beautiful...

Chris

[lipstixgal]

Yeah I hope so to for your sake. You will find your heart family. Sometimes the blood family just doesn't cut it. Hugs and good luck!!

Thanks Organicbutch I hope so not one family member even called me today and its a holiday,,some family I guess they are antisemitic however Coyote Ugly has some hot girls in it for sure so I'm not really bored right now.

[bigbutchmistie]

I hope you all are having a safe and Happy 4th shared with your loved ones :)

[ruthie14]

OMG.. you wouldn't believe the conversation I just had with "her". I think she just wanted to hurt me. Spent the last 2 hours going back and forth... she REFUSES to understand or even try. I am DONE trying to explain... no matter what I say, what I try to explain... she just doesn't want to understand. She says she is hurt, that SHE feels rejected.. she rejected me!!!! For God's sake... she has a selective memory. I think she just wants me to feel bad. I DO feel bad..unreal. It's like the twilight zone. SHE contacted me and now she is telling me that SHE is done... that all it does is hurt. REALLY? REALLY? WTF I am so upset. If you don't want to be friends and you don't want to date... then why get in touch with me at all? Just to make me bleed? I don't need this sh!t!!!! :seeingstars:

[Berlmeister]

perhaps terminally single. after an explosive end to a 5yr relationship and 100K$ later...I admit I'm a little gunshy. that was almost 3yrs ago and I've only begun to date again in the past 6-7 months. maybe that's where I'll keep it for now, dunno.

sure I would like to have another serious relationship. I miss everything about them. so unless ms right really does exist, I'm just keeping the calendar full, staying busy, concentrating on Me and some goals.

for now, I find Myself another year older and being persued by younger women. it's flattering and I enjoy the dates. but eventually I long for conversations with someone more...life experienced. it's hard for Me to accept that anything meaningfull can develop with a 15-20yr age difference. not a judgement on all younger women of course, just sayin...that's all.:training::heavyweight:

[Sachita]

perhaps terminally single. after an explosive end to a 5yr relationship and 100K$ later...I admit I'm a little gunshy. that was almost 3yrs ago and I've only begun to date again in the past 6-7 months. maybe that's where I'll keep it for now, dunno.

sure I would like to have another serious relationship. I miss everything about them. so unless ms right really does exist, I'm just keeping the calendar full, staying busy, concentrating on Me and some goals.

for now, I find Myself another year older and being persued by younger women. it's flattering and I enjoy the dates. but eventually I long for conversations with someone more...life experienced. it's hard for Me to accept that anything meaningfull can develop with a 15-20yr age difference. not a judgement on all younger women of course, just sayin...that's all.:training::heavyweight:


It took me quite a long time after breaking up to even think about dating. In fact it took me about 3 years. The first year you sit back a bit dumbfounded. You wonder what went wrong, you blame yourself even if it wasnt you fault. The second year you place ads, talk to a few people and that can be a major trip! You step back, re-evaluate and proceed with caution. You decide that maybe a forum of a bit of queer networking is in order and to take it one step at a time. By the third year you meet a few people and encounter some BS and drama. It make you really start to miss even the worse relationship.

Isn't that funny because I too have been approached lately by lots of younger boi's. Cute, playful but was thinking the exactly same thing as you. I'm honestly not sure what I want but I know "something" needs to get my interest to fully engage me. I'm too busy for causal nothingness so if I'm going to take the little free time I do have I want to invest it into at least an awesome life long friendship.

So if you're looking for good conversation then here I am. If you can manage a bit of fishing that might be good too.

[SUV09ST]

:police:I just came in here cause Dels was in here and I didn't want her to be lonely...

Hey ,, this is nice .. been single for awhile...

[Berlmeister]

fishing? figuratively or literally? I'm always up for good conversation with an intelligent woman. Hit Me up in yahoo somtime...

[Zimmeh]

Good Evening Everyone,

Berl, I agree with you. I broke up in early March with my ex. I gave up my job, apartment and my family to be with her. I moved to Seattle and unfortunately, the relationship didn't last. I moved home two and a half weeks later and I won't give up my life unless I know that my partner is in it for the long haul.

Lipstix, your family are missing out on watching you have a life. One day, they will realize this, but by then, it will be to late....When I had to make the decision of talking to my bio dad, it was hard, but one that I don't regret. My life is much better and I know who my true family is...Hugs...

Ruthie, tell that piece of shyt to piss off...You deserve much better than what she has done to you....Hugs


Hope everyone else has had a wonderful day,

Zimmy

[Zimmeh]

Welcome to all of the new people and hope you all are having a wonderful day and are enjoying the BFP site...

Zimmy

[Jet]

I'm going to chime in for a moment and I haven't read through the latest posts so I'm probably off the subject at hand but.....

I'm single and will likely stay that way for awhile longer. I haven't been involved in long term for more than 18 years. I think I would like to meet someone eventually, but the thing is, I don't believe that dating has to carry
that goal. I would date to have fun, not to get into a relationship.

If, in the course of dating, I develop some deep feelings than sure. But I would never ask anyone out because I was searching. I'd ask them out to have a good time; I believe in dating around. I would also make that very clear at the start. I have resent being pinned down. Just my .02

[MysticOceansFL]

I'm going to chime in for a moment and I haven't read through the latest posts so I'm probably off the subject at hand but.....

I'm single and will likely stay that way for awhile longer. I haven't been involved in long term for more than 18 years. I think I would like to meet someone eventually, but the thing is, I don't believe that dating has to carry
that goal. I would date to have fun, not to get into a relationship.

If, in the course of dating, I develop some deep feelings than sure. But I would never ask anyone out because I was searching. I'd ask them out to have a good time; I believe in dating around. I would also make that very clear at the start. I have resent being pinned down. Just my .02



I agree with you Jet I am the same way and I've been single ten years not because I had to but I needed to plus focusing on myself and my goals , I'm not getting any younger and I am finding out that the younger appear to be interested in the older folk which is nice but I perfer someone really close to my age. " No offense to the late 20's and 30's. just my two cent's.:police:

[lipstixgal]

Thanks Zimmy still single in NJ don't like it one bit but there is nothing I can do about it, no gay community in NJ to speak of its all south Jersey!!

[Ebon]

sometimes I get a glimpse of not wanting to be single when I see my friend's girl making dinner for him. I don't want her because I don3 make moves on anyone elses lady but I thought it must be nice. Ok I'm over it. Lol

[Jet]

I agree with you Jet I am the same way and I've been single ten years not because I had to but I needed to plus focusing on myself and my goals , I'm not getting any younger and I am finding out that the younger appear to be interested in the older folk which is nice but I perfer someone really close to my age. " No offense to the late 20's and 30's. just my two cent's.:police:

I don't know why younger people are attracted to older folks. But...I'm with you...I'm flattered. Hey, we're not gettin any younger.

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Lipstix,

You are welcome and hoping your internship goes a lot better this morning...

Have fun~!

Zimmy

Thanks Zimmy still single in NJ don't like it one bit but there is nothing I can do about it, no gay community in NJ to speak of its all south Jersey!!

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all are having a good start to your day. It is in the low 70's here, but the high today is going to be near 100. Thank goodness, I don't have any errands to run.

Have fun,

Zimmy

[FetchingClever]

Hi everybody :)

Just popping into this thread for the first time. I'm single and living in the Cincinnati area.

Hope everybody is bearing the summer heat well!


~Clever

[paposeco]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all are having a good start to your day. It is in the low 70's here, but the high today is going to be near 100. Thank goodness, I don't have any errands to run.

Have fun,

Zimmy

Zimmy thanx for the thread :)
I live in Az. and 103 degrees for today..last night at 10pm it was just 98...lol
anyway, I am single, not doing too much dating, but looking forward to meeting new ladies, who knows where it can lead to, eventually..also to meet some good butches and tmen as friends. My last relationship was about a year ago, we tried the LDR for 2 years, eventually I moved to be with her but, well...it just wasn't meant to be, nuff said. We're friends now, I guess that's all it was meant to be, and that is OK.
So, "I'm back on the market", so to speak.
Anyway...guess that's all for now.
Everybody have a great weekend :)

[Zimmeh]

Welcome FC and Paposeco!

The only way to beat this heat is to go swimming or stay inside if you can. I'm not looking forward to August and September here in Florida.

Leaving cool drinks and have a good day,

Zimmy

[ruthie14]

Had a date with "THAT" one yesterday and a new one today. This is my response: :titantic:

[lipstixgal]

Still single in NJ and have not heard from that women that I met about a month ago...oh well I guess its not meant to be. Zimmy thanks for the good wishes about the internshiop I go back tomorrow and see if they are going to give me anything else to do. It's boring for sure, looking to move after the CMA exam, certified medical assistant probably Arizona, rents are reasonable and its gay friendly..ok gotta take it down for the night I'm tired. Good night all

[Zimmeh]

Good night everyone....

Hope you all sleep well and have a good start to your day tomorrow..I am taking my three year old niece to school tomorrow for my mom and then I am coming back home...

Zimmy

[Ebon]

Good night everyone....

Hope you all sleep well and have a good start to your day tomorrow..I am taking my three year old niece to school tomorrow for my mom and then I am coming back home...

Zimmy

Sweet dreams!

[cuddlyfemme]

Hi Singles, happy Friday! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.

[Liam]

Thank you Zimmy, for starting a thread for singles, of all identities. I hope everyone has a cool weekend. :)

[Zimmeh]

Good Afternoon Liam,

You are welcome...I am a music junkie, some of my fave bands are Motley Cure, The Cure, NIN, Manson and PitBull...My iPhone has almost one gig of music on it and I am going to upgrade to the 16 gig iPhone so I can put more music on it...

Hope you are having a good day,

Zimmy

Thank you Zimmy, for starting a thread for singles, of all identities. I hope everyone has a cool weekend. :)

[Zimmeh]

Hope everyone is having a wonderful end to their Friday nights and their work week...

I am off to La La Land and since my roommate is off this weekend, I get to sleep in..Woohoo...I might make a trip to visit my mom in NSB, FL and go swimming...

Have a wonderful Friday night!!!

Zimmy

[Sachita]

fishing? figuratively or literally? I'm always up for good conversation with an intelligent woman. Hit Me up in yahoo somtime...

as in dropping a line. There are some great trout spots waterfalls up this way.

[lipstixgal]

Single in NJ not much to do but watch some mindless tv with the dogs and the A/C!!

[Liam]

Puttering with wood and tools will be the highlight of this single's day.

[MysticOceansFL]

Have a great week end everyone!

[Lady Pamela]

Good afternoon everyone. Hope your all having a beautiful day today.

Just thought I would stop on by and see who else on here is flying solo..lol

If ya wanna know more then message me...smiles

I am always up to meeting new friends.

[Cowboi]

I am a free agent here in hot humid Louisiana!

Hope that everyone is having a relaxing day!

[Berlmeister]

I love to trout fish! I'm from WV...it's what We do!

[naturlover_52]

Cool

I would love to go fishing here some time I just need to get my gear together..Don't have anything. Since I moved back home and don't feel like asking a friend to send it down from alaska...just 1 pole. I need to get all new tackle.
Bummer.

Yes, flying solo here and it can get rather lonely here.
only been out of my last relationship about less than a yr BUT she was gone all last yr and very little contact other than by phone.
:2butch:
:(

[friskyfemme]

Hello ya'll,

Hope you have a good week. It's hotter than hell right now and no relief in sight. Just about praying for a Monsoon.

[naturlover_52]

This is something that I have been wondering or has been on my mind...
I know that there is the thread Butch/Butch Theory...and that sorta fits there but it kinda fits here too.
OK this is what has been on my mind and would like some in put or advice:
I am a 41 yr old soft butch in SO. Cal NOT too far from Pasadena. I have been out of my last relationship for about a yr, well from the time that she stopped calling me until she wrote me an email and told me that she had found someone else and was moving there to be w/ her and how compatible they were etc. Also I am mostly attracted to androgynous, soft butch and butch women.
I am a lil bit scared about meeting someone new because of the fact that it hasn't been that long since my last relationship, but technically our relationship was dying about 2 1/2 yrs ago.
MOSTLY why I am scared is because of the trust factor here and NOT knowing how to learn how trust again. That is what I was wanting to know...
Thanks.:batman:
:2butch:

[Liam]

This is something that I have been wondering or has been on my mind...
I know that there is the thread Butch/Butch Theory...and that sorta fits there but it kinda fits here too.
OK this is what has been on my mind and would like some in put or advice:
I am a 41 yr old soft butch in SO. Cal NOT too far from Pasadena. I have been out of my last relationship for about a yr, well from the time that she stopped calling me until she wrote me an email and told me that she had found someone else and was moving there to be w/ her and how compatible they were etc. Also I am mostly attracted to androgynous, soft butch and butch women.
I am a lil bit scared about meeting someone new because of the fact that it hasn't been that long since my last relationship, but technically our relationship was dying about 2 1/2 yrs ago.
MOSTLY why I am scared is because of the trust factor here and NOT knowing how to learn how trust again. That is what I was wanting to know...
Thanks.:batman:
:2butch:

I don't have a formula for you to follow, and I think this would be a great reason to find a therapist, if you don't already have one, and discuss it with them. I think that its important to trust yourself, and when setting up that first meeting, be smart—let your friends know where you are going, preferably it is a public space. If its in another city, make sure your friends know the name, address and phone number of the person you are going to see. Have a friend that you can check in with.

[Ebon]

This is something that I have been wondering or has been on my mind...
I know that there is the thread Butch/Butch Theory...and that sorta fits there but it kinda fits here too.
OK this is what has been on my mind and would like some in put or advice:
I am a 41 yr old soft butch in SO. Cal NOT too far from Pasadena. I have been out of my last relationship for about a yr, well from the time that she stopped calling me until she wrote me an email and told me that she had found someone else and was moving there to be w/ her and how compatible they were etc. Also I am mostly attracted to androgynous, soft butch and butch women.
I am a lil bit scared about meeting someone new because of the fact that it hasn't been that long since my last relationship, but technically our relationship was dying about 2 1/2 yrs ago.
MOSTLY why I am scared is because of the trust factor here and NOT knowing how to learn how trust again. That is what I was wanting to know...
Thanks.:batman:
:2butch:

I agree with Liam and also want to add that when I'm interested in someone I watch the little things that they do. Some things may be insignificant to others but you can learn a lot about a persons character by little things that they do. It's also hard because sometimes unexpected circumstances lead to certain situations in life that people never thought they would be a part of. Good luck with your search.

[Zimmeh]

I agree with both Liam and Organicbutch. My ex thread stalked me before we started dating and when she decided to end the relationship, she threw a lot of stuff in my face that I had written on the other site over two years earlier when I first joined. From what I have seen, is that she still goes and looks at my profile page on the other site and has had her friends pm me here on this site to see what I will tell them of the breakup. I learned a hard lesson and one I won't repeat again. I have met some wonderful ppl from this site and the other site, and I haven't let what she did to me affect my trust in ppl.

Have fun today,

Zimmy

This is something that I have been wondering or has been on my mind...
I know that there is the thread Butch/Butch Theory...and that sorta fits there but it kinda fits here too.
OK this is what has been on my mind and would like some in put or advice:
I am a 41 yr old soft butch in SO. Cal NOT too far from Pasadena. I have been out of my last relationship for about a yr, well from the time that she stopped calling me until she wrote me an email and told me that she had found someone else and was moving there to be w/ her and how compatible they were etc. Also I am mostly attracted to androgynous, soft butch and butch women.
I am a lil bit scared about meeting someone new because of the fact that it hasn't been that long since my last relationship, but technically our relationship was dying about 2 1/2 yrs ago.
MOSTLY why I am scared is because of the trust factor here and NOT knowing how to learn how trust again. That is what I was wanting to know...
Thanks.:batman:
:2butch:

[Zimmeh]

Good Afternoon Singles,

Hope everyone had a wonderful start to their week. I spent the day watching my oldest niece, nephew and baby nephew for my mom. It was hotter than hell outside today and I am glad to be home in the a/c.

Have fun tonight!!!

Zimmy

[Cowboi]

Hello ya'll,

Hope you have a good week. It's hotter than hell right now and no relief in sight. Just about praying for a Monsoon.


It is hotter as hell here too. We did get some good rains over the pass 2 or 3 days. Now its hot as hell and steamy to boot!!! LoL.

Hurry up Fall!!!

[lipstixgal]

Still single here in NJ it gets lonely too wish I could meet that someone special. Oh and yeah it hot too in NJ!!

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all have a good day and keep cool. They are predicting temps up near 95 degrees here today, so I am going to stay inside as much as I can.

Have fun today,

Zimmy

[Ebon]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all have a good day and keep cool. They are predicting temps up near 95 degrees here today, so I am going to stay inside as much as I can.

Have fun today,

Zimmy

Morning Zimmy, hope you have a great day as well!!

[lipstixgal]

Good Morning singles hope you are all having a wonderful day!!

[bigbutchmistie]

Good Morning You All :) Have a wonderful week!

[Ebon]

Good morning all! I hope you all meet the love of your life today.

[*Magic_and_Silk*]

Good morning to you all.

I am exhausted from being at the local Renaissance Faire all weekend, including Thursday & Friday.
But, life is great.
Sleep is great, too.

Take care, everyone. Have a wonderful day.

[MaggieBluIze]

Good Morning!!!

What a crazy day so far. Wow. :blink:

That's okay ... Nothing but good from here on out!!!

Hope this finds everyone having a Terrific Tuesday!!!!

:rrose::rrose::rrose::rrose:

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Afternoon Singles! I hope everyone is having a wonderful day!!

[Ghost Huntin' Daddy]

Good Morning!!!

What a crazy day so far. Wow. :blink:

That's okay ... Nothing but good from here on out!!!

Hope this finds everyone having a Terrific Tuesday!!!!

:rrose::rrose::rrose::rrose:

Hey There Maggie! :rrose: Have a great time!

[Cowboi]

Howdy everybody!!! Hope that your day has been a good one. I had a crazy day, and had to work late.
Now for some supper!!

[Cowboi]

Good morning to you all.

I am exhausted from being at the local Renaissance Faire all weekend, including Thursday & Friday.
But, life is great.
Sleep is great, too.

Take care, everyone. Have a wonderful day.

That sounds like fun!!!

[Berlmeister]

@naturelover...there are different levels of trust naturally and you don't mention the nature of your trust-shyness now. some have fidelity issues, for some it's financial etc. either way, you have to watch for red flags and not let your attraction or feelings for someone dissuade you from your instincts. ask questions. be wary of redirection from your questions...ie changing the subject/avoiding. ignoring the subtleties will not bring you a healthy relationship. there are books out there that can teach you what the warning sign are and how to recognize them. Wwe all have to learn to wade through the trenches when returning to single status. trick is not to make repeat mistakes by finding the same kind of person on the next go-round. I hope this helps somewhat.

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all are having a good day. I am happy today, I am looking forward to spending the next two days with my oldest niece and nephew before they head home on Saturday. It has been a fun filled five weeks and I am looking forward to them coming back down next summer.

Have fun today and I am leaving some cold beverages,

Zimmy

[Ebon]

Hey Zimmy thanks for the bevies and have fun with the fam!

Good Afternoon all!!

I hope everyone has a wonderful day. I'm going out to the country to help a friend with some yard work. It's nice to have a day off! Hope you enjoy yours!

OB

[Zimmeh]

Good Evening Everyone,

I had fun and went swimming with my oldest niece today. I am taking my two nieces and nephew to the movies tomorrow and then to the Boardwalk in Daytona Beach on Friday. St Augustine ended up being to much for us to go, so I am kind of bummed.

Organic, hope you had fun today with helping your friend.

Have a good night,

Zimmy

[Ebon]

Morning singles!! It's wayyyy too early for me to be up. Hope everyone has a great day!

Peace
OB

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Organic,

I second this!

Have fun today,

Zimmy

Morning singles!! It's wayyyy too early for me to be up. Hope everyone has a great day!

Peace
OB

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Singles! I hope everoyne had a good sleep last night...I only slept 3 hours. Have a beautiful day everyone!

[lipstixgal]

Good Morning Singles! I hope everoyne had a good sleep last night...I only slept 3 hours. Have a beautiful day everyone!

Oh Cuddlyfemme that's too bad try to get some rest if you could.

Singles have a great day too!!

[cuddlyfemme]

Oh Cuddlyfemme that's too bad try to get some rest if you could.

Singles have a great day too!!

I'm going to try to get some more rest but after a certain time I can't because then I won't be able to go to sleep at a "normal" time. Lipstixgal, I hope you're doing good. :bunchflowers:

[dixie]

My last few dates...
http://i82.photobucket.com/albums/j243/LovinOne/Funny%20Kitties%20%20Puppies/cats9.jpg



Sorry, couldn't resist...lol Hope everyone is having a great night... :D

[ruthie14]

Having trouble sleeping. My latest dating failures and my leg keeping me up. I am trying very hard not to take it personally when someone plays games with me or just plain isn't into me. But right now.... it's hard.

Can someone please tell me where my off switch is to my mind so I can sleep! lol

Night singles...

Ruthie

[Ebon]

Night Ruthie!! Just let that fool go. The one for you will find you.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today.

[ruthie14]

Night Ruthie!! Just let that fool go. The one for you will find you.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today.

Thanks honey.. if it were only one... I could.

[Ebon]

Thanks honey.. if it were only one... I could.

Well shit you're doing better than me. More than one. I have none!! Not one prospect and I'm tired of dating people for a few months and wasting my time. I don't want to bother unless we are getting married so everyone is friends first.

[ruthie14]

Well shit you're doing better than me. More than one. I have none!! Not one prospect and I'm tired of dating people for a few months and wasting my time. I don't want to bother unless we are getting married so everyone is friends first.

I hear ya. Sometimes I tell them friends first and they run for the hills. I want a long term relationship.. but I look at it like this... if we start out as friends and it turns into more... great. If we remain friends... nothing lost and less hurt. I am just real tired of people who don't really know what they want and drag me along for the ride. I have no prospects myself at the moment. No one wants a long term relationship. Not like I want to do the uhaul thing or get married in the first 6 months... hell I don't even know if I want to get married. But a committed relationship with one person who loves me and I love... that would be wonderful.

[Ebon]

I hear ya. Sometimes I tell them friends first and they run for the hills. I want a long term relationship.. but I look at it like this... if we start out as friends and it turns into more... great. If we remain friends... nothing lost and less hurt. I am just real tired of people who don't really know what they want and drag me along for the ride. I have no prospects myself at the moment. No one wants a long term relationship. Not like I want to do the uhaul thing or get married in the first 6 months... hell I don't even know if I want to get married. But a committed relationship with one person who loves me and I love... that would be wonderful.

Yeah I try to be optimistic but I don't think that's going to happen for everybody. I know myself and people end up getting in my space and I like my alone time. If I can find a girl that doesn't get in my space like that then I'll be all set but I don't think it's going to happen.

[JustBeingMe]

Hang in there Ruthie. I know there are peeps out there that play mind games, been there too and still in the midst of it for now, have a long story behind that, not for here. I find that dating on the internet is just not for me. I have found too many women online that are nuts or have mental issues that I can't see right away and it's caused me a lot of issues that I won't go into here. So for me, it's all real time now or nothing. And friends first for the first year or so, date them, see how it goes. I don't intend on living with another woman for several years....protection mechanism for me. Anyway, I just wanted to add that there is nothing wrong with being friends and dating for a while and seeing how it goes, without having sex or doing the Uhaul thing. You will be able to weed out the ones that you don't need to have in your life better. Keep strong, your a good woman, Ruthie. Oh and I wanted to say that not all peeps online are like the ones I have had problems with and they are not all players, I don't want anyone that reads this to be offended. There are some really great folks here. I just haven't met any good ones to date, so I am just going to keep it in real time.

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Everyone,

I to like to be friends with my partners first. This way, we both can see each other's true personalities and how we live on a daily basis. I have only lived with two of my partners and I am not ready for that again. I have giving up so much of myself, that I get lost in the relationship and it takes me awhile to find myself again.

Hope you all are having a good day,

Zimmy

[Zimmeh]

Good Morning Everyone,

Hopefully you all are either still sleeping or are enjoying the start of your day. It is a gorgeous day here in Florida so far, the tropical storm rainbands are supposed to start hitting us later today.

Have fun and stay safe if you all are in South Florida, where it is already raining..

Zimmy

[lipstixgal]

Good MOrning everyone. Still single in NJ but would like to meet someone and become friends first and then maybe see where that takes me. I can understand everyones plight as it may be but we just got to be patient that's all!!

Have a great day everyone.

[musicman]

Hi to all the single femmes and butches out there. I'm a 47 year old single butch from Ontario Canada. I have had my share of LDR that for some reason the ladies disappeared (this is a whole different thread in itself lol)

I'm an International Music Publisher, I work looooong hours everyday.This helps me to forget what i'm missing in life which is a femme to share my life with. I write poetry and what I call my writings. I love volunteering with the elderly ( can't get enough of their life stories) and with Hospice.It's an honor to be apart of their life while their on this earth and it is an honor when they allow you to be a apart of their leaving this earth.

I love all animals but heavily lean towards dogs. I have a part Lab part Chow female that is the love of my life.

I love British sitcoms, indie films, foreign films and of course all Genres of Music as I make my living in the music industry.

I'm not actively looking at this time ( if it happens and someone sneaks up from behind me) I wouldn't turn and run away.

Hope everyone finds what their looking for as we all deserve to be happy and in loving relationships.

Musicman

[little man]

i have a question for anyone who cares to answer.

when dating, what is your expectation/intent? in other words, are you dating with the mindset of finding a life partner? sex? a friend you can share small physical intimacies with (hand holding, kissing, cuddling, etc)? just to go out and have a good time with no expectations at all?

thanks!

[adorable]

i have a question for anyone who cares to answer.

when dating, what is your expectation/intent? in other words, are you dating with the mindset of finding a life partner? sex? a friend you can share small physical intimacies with (hand holding, kissing, cuddling, etc)? just to go out and have a good time with no expectations at all?

thanks!

This would make a good thread!

[little man]

This would make a good thread!

i don't have much luck with thread starting. well, i start them, then bury them. i got a black thumb when it comes to that.

[musicman]

Hi Littleman,

As I said I'm 47 years old, I'm at a point in my life that i'm looking for a life partner. I'm not looking/into one night stands.

The friendship has to be a starting point but i'm going in with the mindset that I hope to find my life partner. I'm not looking to casual date, i want something more substantial.

Musicman

[ruthie14]

I'm with music man... unless you specify to the other person a different intent... My feelings are you shouldn't date unless you are ready for the possibility of a relationship.

Speaking of which, "she" posted on her fb page that she has a date this weekend. It's not me mind you, and she never ONCE mentioned any of our dates on her fb page. Really? Is she just trying to get a rise out of me or is she really that clueless? I hid her for now.... don't need a play by play of what she is doing with other women. Just when I think she can't hurt me... zing! Hate it that it bothers me so much!!!! Going to 2 pool parties this weekend.. one tonight.. THANK GOD for friends.

Have a great weekend folks!
Ruthie

[Ebon]

Hi Littleman,

As I said I'm 47 years old, I'm at a point in my life that i'm looking for a life partner. I'm not looking/into one night stands.

The friendship has to be a starting point but i'm going in with the mindset that I hope to find my life partner. I'm not looking to casual date, i want something more substantial.

Musicman

My friend put it to me this way, he says I'm weeding through garbage until I find someone that will make me take out the trash.

[little man]

My friend put it to me this way, he says I'm weeding through garbage until I find someone that will make me take out the trash.

wow. weeding through the garbage? we're talking about people here, right?

sounds like anyone who doesn't fit for a LTR is garbage?

maybe you want to rephrase this?

[Ebon]

wow. weeding through the garbage? we're talking about people here, right?

sounds like anyone who doesn't fit for a LTR is garbage?

maybe you want to rephrase this?

I'm not the one that said it. I don't think of anyone I've dated as garbage or trash it's just a metaphor.

[little man]

I'm not the one that said it. I don't think of anyone I've dated as garbage or trash it's just a metaphor.

not to belabor the point or be a dick about it, but it's really offensive. even if it's not your metaphor, repeating it would imply some sort of agreement. language matters...to me, anyway.

[Diva]

I sorta see OB's point.....

Ya gotta sort through the stuff to get to the prize.....nothin' wrong with that.


I seem to remember a time when it was ok to 'just date'.....go out, have a nice dinner and a movie...or a picnic and mini~golf....and no expectations.
Of course, I say that, thinking of my younger days.

Right now.....a date would be nice. But a partner would be nicer. <smile> And I am prepared to wait until the right One comes along.

Was that clear as mud? :eyebat:

[little man]

I sorta see OB's point.....

Ya gotta sort through the stuff to get to the prize.....nothin' wrong with that.


I seem to remember a time when it was ok to 'just date'.....go out, have a nice dinner and a movie...or a picnic and mini~golf....and no expectations.
Of course, I say that, thinking of my younger days.

Right now.....a date would be nice. But a partner would be nicer. <smile> And I am prepared to wait until the right One comes along.

Was that clear as mud? :eyebat:






it's not that i don't understand the point. it's the language that bothers me. and, it's just me.

[little man]

I sorta see OB's point.....

Ya gotta sort through the stuff to get to the prize.....nothin' wrong with that.


I seem to remember a time when it was ok to 'just date'.....go out, have a nice dinner and a movie...or a picnic and mini~golf....and no expectations.
Of course, I say that, thinking of my younger days.

Right now.....a date would be nice. But a partner would be nicer. <smile> And I am prepared to wait until the right One comes along.

Was that clear as mud? :eyebat:






it's not that i don't understand the point. it's the language that bothers me. and, it's just me. i suppose i'm just getting old.

i agree on social dating, without an endgame in mind. yes, a partner would be nice. i have difficulty with dating moving so quickly into a relationship. but, that's a whole other thread, isn't it?

[Diva]

it's not that i don't understand the point. it's the language that bothers me. and, it's just me. i suppose i'm just getting old.

i agree on social dating, without an endgame in mind. yes, a partner would be nice. i have difficulty with dating moving so quickly into a relationship. but, that's a whole other thread, isn't it?




If YOU are 'old'....what am I? :eyebat:

That was, of course, a hypothetical question..... ;)

[little man]

If YOU are 'old'....what am I? :eyebat:

That was, of course, a hypothetical question..... ;)




fine wine, of course

[Ashton]

fine wine, of course

Im the guilty party of the metaphor...Dude!

I said "You have to out a lot of garbage to see who'll take out the trash"

Evidently I told this to one of my friends years ago. everyone seems to have a problem witht the language but as I dont remember telling her that I certainly don't know where I came up with it either.

You could look at as "One man's trash is another mans treasure"

It is a bit harsh language but it gets the point across.

[Soft*Silver]

speaking from my point of view and where I am in my own history, I debating if I am capable of dating. Every attempt I have tried since I move back to Ohio has been a LDR. When I get a chance to date local or to meet the LDR, I get very anxious, to the point of misery. Its not that the last real time break up was so awful (it was, for both of us, and I am so sorry that it was that way) but it was a string of bad ones. I dont want to get hurt again and my picker is broke, as Blade once said. (waving at Blade...stealing his words) And yet I have long distance companions who I cherish greatly but I really dont know if I would be able to date them (or anyone) if they were local. So if I were to date locally now, it would be simply to see if I could do so with being anxious.

I miss cooking for someone. I miss reading the newspapers together. I miss having my feet massaged as we watch our fav tv shows. I miss weeding in the garden together. And going to the Drs together when we both get poison ivy. God I miss those everyday kind of things people who are in love and living together do with one another.

I also really miss the simple joy of waiting to be picked up for a date. Of putting on special make up to look good for him. I so want to pick out a movie to watch that will suprise him because he will have thought I wanted to watch The Notebook and I picked Deliverance instead. I want to smell his cologne on him as I hug him hello and I want to smell it on me when he tells me good night and I am alone to think about what could come next...

I miss this...but it also scares me . I am afraid of losing so much again. There was a time when I believed I could get much more if chanced it, than I could ever lose if it didnt work out. I dont believe that anymore....

i have a question for anyone who cares to answer.

when dating, what is your expectation/intent? in other words, are you dating with the mindset of finding a life partner? sex? a friend you can share small physical intimacies with (hand holding, kissing, cuddling, etc)? just to go out and have a good time with no expectations at all?

thanks!

[little man]

Im the guilty party of the metaphor...Dude!

I said "You have to out a lot of garbage to see who'll take out the trash"

Evidently I told this to one of my friends years ago. everyone seems to have a problem witht the language but as I dont remember telling her that I certainly don't know where I came up with it either.

You could look at as "One man's trash is another mans treasure"

It is a bit harsh language but it gets the point across.


hey ash

we've known each other a good while and spent a lot of time talking (while trying to figure out just where the hell we were).

i've been through the dating process and the "not having any luck finding anyone" process for a good number of years. some people are just not a good fit, some are close but not quite right, and sometimes the timing just sucks. i get all that. the issue i'm having is simply with the language. you know i'd say the same damn thing to you...i don't want organic to think i'm just picking on someone here.

i know i've said some things in my life that were either insensitive (at best) and horribly dickish at worst. i work to evolve in my thinking, and by extension, my speaking. i'm simply pointing out a prhase i find offensive. that's me, my thinking, the way things sound to me. i'm not trying to start a war or even skirmish in here. it's becoming apparent to me that others aren't offended, which is fine. i really don't want to be convinced that i shouldn't be feeling the way i do, or that i'm wrong to be offended. i feel what i feel, right?

you know me personally, for reals, for a few years now, ash. you're my friend, my compadre, my amigo. i would hope, that as all those things in my life, you'd let me know if i said something that you thought was fucked up or ill advised. it's what friends do and how we help one another broaden our perspectives. so, maybe you and i can talk about this when i see you in LR. or not.

sorry this is rambly...just got up and no coffee yet.

[Ashton]

hey ash

we've known each other a good while and spent a lot of time talking (while trying to figure out just where the hell we were).

i've been through the dating process and the "not having any luck finding anyone" process for a good number of years. some people are just not a good fit, some are close but not quite right, and sometimes the timing just sucks. i get all that. the issue i'm having is simply with the language. you know i'd say the same damn thing to you...i don't want organic to think i'm just picking on someone here.

i know i've said some things in my life that were either insensitive (at best) and horribly dickish at worst. i work to evolve in my thinking, and by extension, my speaking. i'm simply pointing out a prhase i find offensive. that's me, my thinking, the way things sound to me. i'm not trying to start a war or even skirmish in here. it's becoming apparent to me that others aren't offended, which is fine. i really don't want to be convinced that i shouldn't be feeling the way i do, or that i'm wrong to be offended. i feel what i feel, right?

you know me personally, for reals, for a few years now, ash. you're my friend, my compadre, my amigo. i would hope, that as all those things in my life, you'd let me know if i said something that you thought was fucked up or ill advised. it's what friends do and how we help one another broaden our perspectives. so, maybe you and i can talk about this when i see you in LR. or not.

sorry this is rambly...just got up and no coffee yet.

No I dont think he thinks that, he didnt like the language either when I said it. I was just taking responsibility for the statement. Its all good dude!! I fully understand your point and Im sure Ob does as well.
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[Ebon]

Good afternoon singles!! I hope everyone is having a wonderful Saturday. Anybody have a date this evening?